218 | Are You Ready For Radical Self Acceptance

WITH STEFANIE EDWARDS

 
 
 
The marriage between action and energy is so important, allowing ourselves to believe while also taking action.
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

Do you feel completely disconnected body, soul, and spirit? That is how I felt 75 days ago (right before I started 75 Hard). I was struggling to show up for myself and my business because I lacked the energy. My friend Stefanie suggested we do 75 Hard together and with some quick decision-making, we decided to commit on the spot. Today on the podcast we are sharing this life-changing journey with you.

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

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Has there ever been something that you really wanted to do? But you felt like it was impossible, like there was no way you could ever achieve this outcome? Well, when I heard of 75 hard, that was exactly how I felt. That was until my friend Stephanie, recommended we do it together. Today in the podcast, Stephanie and I chat about our journey through 75 hard, and we're going to tell you all about it, what it is and how it transformed our lives and business.

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You're listening to The Couragecast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose. With a blend of practical and spiritual advice. We'll help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and competence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

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Hey there, welcome to The Couragecast. My name is Andrea Crisp, and I am so excited that you are joining me today. If we are connected on Instagram, you may have noticed that I have been posting over the past few months about a journey that I had been on called 75 Hard. So today on the show, I am going to unpack what I have experienced over the past 75 days. And my friend Stephanie Edwards is also going to be joining me on the show, talking about how it has impacted her life as well. So without further ado, here is my conversation with Stephanie Edwards.

Stephanie Edwards, we are back. I am so excited to have you back on the podcast today. And I think it's been like almost a year. Since you are on the show. And man, we have had quite the journey over the past year, but especially over the past 75 days, which is why I invited you back onto the podcast. And those of the people who have listened to the podcast, or maybe even followed me on Instagram, maybe don't realize that I am actually doing this journey with another person. 75 hard. But here you are. You get to tell part of your journey as well as you know me telling a little bit of mine. But before we get into that, I would love for people to kind of get to know you. And just feel free to share a little bit about yourself. Those of you who have met Stephanie before, I will link to her original podcast on here and you can take a listen. It's a great episode. But I'll I'll let you go with it. Tell us a little bit who you are.

2:48
Hello, everybody. Yes. So I get to hang out with Andrea. Every week, we chat about all kinds of things. And so it's fun just to bring this conversation here and have this conversation now with you guys. It's yeah, when was it? So however long ago that we started 75 hard, I had this idea, it just popped into my social feed about 75 hard and I brought it to Andrea one day on our weekly call. And she was like, let's do it, we can start today.

2:54
We did.

3:23
That's kind of been the energy that we took into this undertaking, I guess it's gonna say project. But it's really been way more than that. And I introducing myself, I started there because so much has changed about me and who I am and what I've embraced and bodied, and all these different things since beginning this journey.

I love how you say that and start start with that because it is definitely has been a transformational 75 days, like we're, we're not to the exact end. But by the time this podcast airs, we will have just concluded the official version of 75 Hard well talk about, you know, where we go from here and how that is going to look for each of us. But, you know, in this journey together and actually walking it out, you know, where we started, where you started? And where I started, is, you know, I don't think I'm showing up as the same person. I don't know if you'd say the same thing.

But we have both shifted, and I felt that big way. Okay, so let's kind of start there. Yeah. Can you remember what you were feeling like how you were showing up? When this started?

4:41
Terrible. I was feeling terrible about myself. I think you know, I was really at a point where I was so low energy. And I think I had said to you on one of our calls. We we do talk once a week and this is something we've been doing doing for a year. So those of you who don't know Stephanie as somebody who is really expanding in my life. And so when we have these conversations, we talk about anything from, you know, business to life to health and fitness to money, to dreams to manifestation.

We talk about, we seriously have all the conversations. Yeah. And so when when I was talking to you that day, I was, you know, just really telling you that I had been on a call in my Unblock Abundance group that I was a part of. And I was sharing with them how I had just really been feeling like, the next step for me was really to take my, my health and fitness seriously. And I was really low energy. And I was finding that it was really hard for me to put into practice the things that I really wanted to put into practice when it came to finances. Because I was always tired. And that's when you said to me, you're like, Well, you know, I've been thinking about, you know, doing 75 hard. Do you want to do it? And I was I literally jumped on it and said, Yes. Let's start today. Yes. And so that's why I love by the way, because you don't have to wait to start till Monday. Yeah, we start literally, we started on the Wednesday. We started on a Wednesday, just like done like let's No, no need to make a plan. No need to have any other decisions made. Like we're just diving in. Okay, love that. So for the person who's never heard of 75 heard, right. So like, Now, tell them to explain. Yeah, you go ahead. You explain what is it exactly.

6:39
So 75 Hard was, oh, I don't even remember his name. I'm sorry. It was created by a guy. And it's just here's your plan that you're going to follow for the next 75 days. No exceptions, no excuses, you're going to do it. So what is it that you're doing, you're going to drink a gallon of water every single day. So to hydrate, you're going to follow a meal plan and you get to choose what that is that you're going to stay committed to it for 75 days, you're going to work out twice a day, one of which must be outside, no exceptions. And it's for 45 minutes apiece, each workout, you're going to read a physical nonfiction book. And I say that because he says no audio books aloud.

And so we were opening up our minds to own different kinds of things by reading all these new books, at least 10 pages a day. And take a picture. And that's the one I always forget. Every single day to track your progress. Yeah. Oh, and no alcohol. Yeah. Yeah, I think. Yeah. And, you know, it's so funny.

7:41
Because at the beginning, I said, Okay, well, what are we going to do to stay accountable? Yeah. And you're like, I don't know. And I said, Well, we're gonna, why don't we send each other our our progress picture every day? And you were like, what?

7:55
That was not something I was excited about. Like, what do you mean?

8:01
And there's something even just starting there, that honestly has shifted for me. And because, you know, it's funny, like, there was like, maybe two or three places locations that I took that picture, every time. Yeah, and but I got to a point where I was able to stand in front of the mirror, full length mirror, and take a picture of myself every single day without

just wanting to berate myself, like wanting to be like, Oh, I hate this or this. And it wasn't about like, How good can I look? Or, you know, it wasn't about that it was about I'm doing this for me. And this is a, you know, this is for me, and this is to document it. And I would take the picture. And I stopped worrying about what I looked like, over the 75 days. Yes, definitely.

8:57
Yeah. I had to going back to because you called me out on it, but I did it feel that, like, I have to send Andrea this picture every day. And the reason I did that, in case for listeners, we live in different countries. So we have yet to meet in person, even though we talk every single week and have for over a year. We live in different countries. And so Andrew has seen me on Zoom and zoom is like you know, chest up, right? And she sees me on Instagram, but once again, I curate those pictures. I don't buy workout pictures on Instagram typically. So Andrea has necessarily no idea of what I look like chest down. And that really got in my head because like oh my goodness, now she's gonna see that I'm overweight. And as if like I was hiding that before because I don't but anyhow, it was just like Like, I had all this mind drama about it. And I remember Do you remember I said, Okay, I'll just send you had pictures. Yeah. Like, I was like,

Okay, I'm just gonna send this image of myself. And that's one of the biggest things that I've shifted, because she's now seeing all of me, I've sent her all kinds of pictures at all different points in the day and like hot, sweaty messes to, you know, makeup done, whatever. But like, I'm not hiding anymore in my pictures. And I feel that because I'm not hiding anymore in who I am. And it's because of the expansion that I had going through this journey.

And the shift that I felt and so I was like, it's okay to be fully present. And that means allowing myself to be fully seen. And so that was a big shift to for me is to be able to release my own stigma. And because that's all it is, it's my own judgment against myself about what I think I look like.

11:00
I totally agree with that. Like, I'm, I'm right there with you. I think there's oftentimes like, where I look back, even just on a picture that I came across the other day, wasn't this year, but it was a couple years ago. And I looked at and I was like wow, Andrea. Like what in the world and, and I think I stopped having compassion for myself, somewhere along the way. And this gave me this compassion, but also acceptance for myself in the change, you know, like, as I was working through,you know, how my body looks and how I feel in my body, right? As we go through the process, there's a lot of the aspects of 75 hard that felt easy to me. Yeah, like no alcohol. I was like, Well, I rarely drink anyways, not a big deal. So I found that was like, super easy. Where I know for some people, they would be like, Oh, that's really hard. And how can you do that for 75 days? And I want to know, from your perspective, like, what was the easy part of it for you? And what was the hard part of it for you?

12:20
Yeah. I'm leaning into that question. That's why I'm pausing for a second because it was still kind of thinking about the shift with taking the picture.

And the releasing the judgment, I think that was the hardest part. And so tying that back in it, because it's when we are seeing ourselves only in one way, and we can't see what others can see in us which, FYI, one of the reasons I've continued to have these amazing conversations with Andrea every week is because Andrea calls out and sees things in me that I limit myself, I don't allow myself to see all the time.And vice versa, like I feel like this is a gift that we give each other.

And so but going through 75 hard, because every day I had to show up, and do something to take care of my body, so that my body could also give that to me, what I was asking of it was I had to make that shift. And that's where the greater self love and the compassion like you were speaking to, started to evolve and started to come in as I was releasing the judgment, because I was like, wow, what are these new things called endorphins.

We don't doing these intense workouts in the morning that now I'm more awake. Now I feel more alive in my body. And my body certainly feel better throughout the day. So now I want to move my body more like and I started to, I talked about my body as if it's a separate entity, sometimes, so hang with me. But like, I get to this place where I'm like, I was not loving my body. I was so miserable with how I felt and how I looked, or the judgment I was putting on myself. So yeah, I felt like you know, just like exhausted and frumpy every day. And now it's like I'm getting up and I'm moving first thing in the morning and I'm having gratitude for how my body is working. And now how it's like lighting up and feeling better. And that's got easier and easier. The further I went that now it's like, I wake up at 5am I'm at the gym at six. I'm working out for an hour. Like that wasn't me that first week. I mean it was but I was dragging myself to do it. Whereas now it's like I want to go. You had a huge transformation when you started going and you shifted from doing your yoga classes in the morning to doing a rowing class and that is like probably I want to say after like, I don't know, four or five days.

As of rowing, I could notice a huge change in you when it came to like, how you were feeling about the journey and yourself. Yes. So tell us a little bit about what happened, then. Yes. And okay, so rowing, if you don't know, because I honestly had no idea what rowing was. It's like, based on the idea of like being in a boat rowing, and taking that sport, and they have these machines called ERGs, or rowing machines, and you're, you're moving your, like, 80% of your body is activated in this class, because it's your legs, your abs, your arms, all these different body parts. And it's like high impact aerobics without the stress in your body. So I say all it is because I was completely fascinated by it. But I was in my first week, my yoga class only met certain days of the week. And I was like, I really would like to have my workout done first thing in the morning, at least one of them. That was my intention. That was what I was wanting. And then I thought about it, I was like, okay, but where else could I go. And I really don't want to lift weights. And like I just had all these things are like, I don't want this. I don't want this. But I don't know what to do want besides an early morning workout class, that's going to be awesome. It's going to feel great. And just setting that intention of what I didn't want. And where I was being clear, even though I yet didn't know about rowing, I completely manifested a rowing class, it's only a 10 minute drive from my house. It's so easy it first thing in the morning, and is this awesome environment, so much energy in the class, I build off of that I have an amazing workout in the rest of the day, my tone is totally different. I manifested that out of nowhere, like, I didn't even know it existed is the point of what I'm trying to stress here. And it came into my world and I just trusted I was like, okay, and I just bought it immediately. And it has been the biggest transformation. I've been doing it for two months now. I go five times a week. It is it's life giving to me. And because it's activating my body in a different way that I had honestly gotten to a point where I was like, Okay, this isn't possible for me. I'm not a runner. I'm not a this guy was just like saying, I'm not all these things. And it taught me No, I am. I just had to find what lights me up that is jamming with my energy and it's it's brought out more energy from me. That's awesome. You know, it's funny, I did not go to the gym, except for once.

17:31
75 days. But what I did in the morning was I started doing a really early morning walk with the dog. And, you know, it's funny because you're like, Okay, well, big deal. But my dog at that point, when we started 75 hard, was not walking very well on the leash at all. So for me, you know, my my walks consisted of going out into the woods every day, and I had to drive out there and there was like a whole thing. It was just a whole thing. And I had made a an intention towards at a certain time in the summer, which we haven't even like reached technical summer yet that I would walk to a certain point in my work from my house with my dog and back. Well, within, I don't know, three days of me getting up early. I had already hit that marker. And it was the first time because there was no dogs out on the street. She was you know, easy to walk on the leash. And we did it every morning. And our ears just flickered as I said that.

And eventually what we were doing is we were taking walks. You know, in the morning, we were taking a walk in the afternoon, we were taking a walk in the evening. And it was you know, it was good for her. It was good for me. And I started to really see like the very thing that I I guess I was really struggling with which is you know, like, how am I gonna get this dog to do this was really honestly, Stephanie. My energy that had to shift? Yes, because I was showing up frustrated trying to do it with her all the time. And in the morning, you know, I was halfway be like crawling out of bed. And again, I'm in Canada, you're in Tennessee. So it was a little cooler when we first started here. Yeah, I you know, there was still like, you know, starting Oh, yeah, like I mean, we were not it wasn't like summertime here. And I was getting up and doing this walk and I noticed how I was showing up differently with her. Yeah, and that was my first indication to me that there was something happening, that this wasn't just about, you know, my fitness. It was about what am I capable of and what do I believe to be true for my life and for myself? Yes. And so, yeah, I like it.

20:00
It was the release of some resistance.

20:02
Absolutely. Because I have felt, yeah, I've had a lot of resistance around, you know, the way I did things, things had to be a certain way. And if I'm just really honest about it, like, there have been times in my life where I did better cardio than the past 75 days. Yeah, I have not been great to do the cardio I, I can run I do run. I didn't run except for once. I really just didn't do that. I think for me, this was a journey about expansion for me, and really leaning into the possibility and staying in things. When it when I didn't feel like I wanted to, or it didn't feel hard, or I was like, Oh, is this over yet? You know?

And for me, that's kind of where I felt like it was like, no, just keep going, just keep going. Because I think so often, we think all of the things that we have to do in life are going to be this Picture Perfect journey. And we don't really share like, oh, no, it actually wasn't that picture. Perfect. It you know, there were there were times where it was difficult.

So I wanted to ask you a couple questions. And I kind of divided them into little like, snippets, but how has your life changed? And I'm gonna go into different things. I'm gonna also go into your outlook, or start with a huge question, your outlook, your health and your business. Okay, so I want like, but just how would you say in general, like, and you don't have to, like say like, you know, all of your like, you know, gory secrets or anything, but your life in general has now changed? What changed? For sure. For sure. Yeah.

21:48
And yeah, like picking up what you were just talking about, like, it's the release of so much resistance. And for me, resistance shows up a lot of times it's judgment.

And so I resist moving into do things because I'm judging, like, for example, with the higher energy aerobics like, I didn't even know that rowing existed, but I didn't even think I could do that anymore, because of the knee pain that I had. So I resisted even trying, and moving my body in that way, because I was judging myself that I was too old, I was too fat, I was too all these things to be able to do that. And this 75 hard, I have been doing subconscious work as well throughout this process, which is something extra. But all of this has shifted my perspective to be like, Okay, there's my thought I found it. But is that really what is only possible for me? Or am I in resistance? Am I judging myself somehow? And that's huge, because I'm working on judging myself a lot less, judging others a lot less, like I catch it in random ways. judging somebody just for what they're wearing. I'm like, Why, why, why that's none of my business. Like, why am I doing and just being aware of this s come out of this process? So same thing, like putting that back at you like, how has this like, outside of just the activity of moving our bodies and taking care of our bodies? How has it opened up?

23:23
So much more for you, you know, I have always had this like thought in my mind where I had to compartmentalize what I was doing. So if I was going to focus on one thing it was, could only be the one thing, but it just so happened that I was working on my finances and my abundance mindset. Yeah, it was, you know, just so happened to coincide of the fact that we were doing 75 hard at the same time, you and I, we were talking about the expansion we are experiencing. And then you and I also, you know, kind of really got, you know, dialed into some teachings on the subconscious, you know, more from Bob Proctor, Proctor Gallagher. And we talked about that at some serious length. And then, you know, just crazy things started opening up for me, like, for example, a friend of mine was posting about a coach that needed to get some hours for her

ICF credentials. And she's doing coaching, so I jumped in on it. And now she's coaching me in relationships. And that was something I was like thinking there's no way that I could focus on abundance, relationships, health, and also do the subconscious work at the same time. Not a chance. And I think I've started to see how much more capacity I have. Huh? Because 75 Hard was like, you know, did you do the two walks was one outside. Did you drink all the water? I mean, those things seem a lot easier now.

And then they did at the beginning. But it was like, there was a list of things I had to do besides the fact of working besides the fact of like actually being present in life, and doing all, you know, working with clients, all those things, you know, I started to realize, yes, I have capacity, greater capacity for these things in my life. And I don't have to, like, defer them continue to defer what it is that I desire for another time in my life. So that, to me was the biggest, the biggest one. Now. How about your outlook? Like, your outlook on? What, what you want moving forward? Now, like, how is that shifted?

25:44
A lot, the shift is remarkable, because my outlook is much more positive. Because my energy is much more positive. I'm carrying with me. So and like, it's, it's like a charge is the best way to describe it, because I was so negatively charged before. And you didn't even think I was a negative person. It was once again, the judgments and the own doubt that I had in myself, and I was carrying the shame about my body, to lighting myself up with this energy, both naturally, that's coming from the endorphins I'm releasing every day. And also from the mental work that I'm doing. And it's, I feel so much better.

Because I've activated, cleaner,more conscious, more empowering energy every single day.

26:38
Do you find like, you know, talking about vibrational frequency that that shifted for you. And your outlook was able to change because, like, I even found as I was, like, starting to eat more healthy and less sugar, I was, you know, like, Oh, I feel so much better. And all the sudden you're just even there, it's like your outlook is better, because it's like, I felt less foggy, I felt clearer.

And that was a huge thing for me was thinking like, wow, like, it's amazing how we want so many things in life. And yet when it comes to, you know, the vibrational frequency or physical body is on that we're clogging it up and jumping.

And, you know, it hasn't been a perfect go for me, you know, like I've had, you know, ebbs and flows in it. But for the most part, I have really done pretty well. And so I'm very end even like this morning getting up and I again, I feel clearer, I feel, you know, capable of making decisions.

Your health, How's your health changed

27:54
a lot. Like bringing it back to what you were just saying about the food. It didn't realize, I thought it was a pretty healthy eater.

But I chose my meal plan to eliminate two ingredients out of my diet. And that was it. That was my only change name as I was going to remove these two ingredients. And just by doing that, I've been able to regulate my blood sugar. And

at least that's what I call it. But it's like, because I'm not having these ups and downs in these crashes and not having them like you said the brain fog. I also already drank a lot of water. But now I'm drinking a gallon of water, which does make a difference. Yep. And it's that has like cleared up

my brain as well. And I can't even until you are there in your experience it you can't fully understand how much better you are going to feel on the other side of it. Because it's not just one thing. It's your whole body opening up. And to give you an example of this, like I've been on a couple I was just on a call last week.

Nobody on that group had seen me since I started 75 hard in hearing I'm now at the end of it. So I've had plenty of time for my body to be fully hydrated and nourished and all the ways like a and people were like 70 You look like you're glowing about me on zoom.

No makeup is different. No anything is different. Like it's just I am different yet and I'm literally glowing from the inside out. Yeah. Because my body feels better. And my energy is that Yeah.

29:37
Same thing. I would I 100% agree with that. I would say like people have noticed it and they said stuff like you just showing up differently. Yeah, and I'm like I am and it's funny because I'm like I don't you know I don't know I'm not doing anything different. You know, I'm just but I do feel a difference. There has been times where

I've had, you know, some frustrations around like, oh, things are still not fitting the way I want to fit, you know. And that kind of went into my old mindset of like, you know, this is just about weight. And this is just about how I look.

But really, for me, one of the things that just like, like recently shifted for me was, I really started to understand that when it comes to love, when it comes to self love, that if I can't love myself as I am, then how can I expect that someone would love me and accept me the way I am? And I don't necessarily think that I want to stay the same. You know, I think that, you know, as we're talking about this, there's so many areas of our lives that are expanding, and shifting right. And I will continue to do that in every way. But in the same way, I was starting to see that okay, well, you know, full disclosure, at this point, I only lost five pounds. Okay. I wanted it to be 20. That did not happen. So, you know, they're the old program running is like, well see, you only lost five pounds. And I've started to really see like, No, this was more about learning to love myself, and love my body. And, and be in this place of like, just radical self acceptance. Yes. And, and feel like for me, that that's how I feel about myself. And so when I see myself or show up for things, people are saying, well, you're glowing, or you've shifted like, Wow, I feel like that's what I'm showing. Yes, I'm honoring myself in a way that I haven't. And it's not just by what I'm doing. But how I perceive myself, which I think is a big shift.

32:01
I think that's been a big theme for you throughout this process. We've had that conversation a good bit diving into that is, how are you going to honor yourself?

Yeah, in all different kinds of ways that's come up for you. And yes, because it's de restated, again, for anybody who's interested in trying a journey like this. It is not just about what you are getting up, or what you are doing physically to move your body. Yeah, it is all the other shifts that are going to come out of this. Yes. Because when I tell people about it, they're like, Oh, that's not for me. I could never work out that much. You're gonna do a whole gallon of water a day.

32:42
Let's say like, oh, you lost me. I can't have alcohol. Or you lost me. I have to read. I'm like, I have to read. Yeah. That's why last year, I was like, wow, I was like, you know? Yeah, once again, no judge yet from where you're at. And it's just so interesting how immediately, we are noticing, because to us now, it's become a way of living? Yeah.

33:06
And we're just like, No, it is freed up more time, we have more energy, like, you're gonna just feel so much better. But once again, you have to be in the right space to accept it into your life and be ready to experience a change. Because it's a commitment you've got to buy into. Yeah, and if you're not sold on that, we can, you don't have the accountability. I mean, we were lucky to have each other every single day. And we were encouraging each other to keep going in, you know, now, it's like, we just post our pictures. We don't even have to say anything back and forth. But in the beginning, we were like, how are you doing? It's okay, yeah, this is really hard. Like we were Yeah, we were really encouraging and holding each other in that space as we needed it.

33:47
And I noticed that even like, you know, coming towards the end of like, putting push putting the pictures in, it was more for me. It was It wasn't like, you know, I need her to see this. It's like, no, I need to do it so that I did it. You know, and that was what it became because like, there was never any point in time where I was like, seeing your pictures that I even was like, okay, like, you know, I didn't it was like there was if it was there or not there. It didn't matter when it was there or not there. The point wasn't, it was whether or not we were showing up for ourselves. Yes, that ended up being the biggest thing. Now, I have experienced and I know you have experienced too, but I'd love to hear how has your business transformed because of this? Yes. And this is fun, because I went into this feeling. I think wonky is a good word.

34:47
So I'm down with that. And just like chaotic in my mind about what I was going to do, and once again because there's always I'm I fight the judgment and

See how I wanted to present myself. And I just at the same time that we started this, I also went off social, I cleansed myself from that. I only just came back on last week. Because I was like, Oh, I feel like I have all these mixed signals. And I'm putting out mixed signals. And it just wasn't, I wasn't in a good space. And this process of growing through 75 hard, going through this journey experience has brought me to a better once again, belief in myself more energy, more focus, that I can make the commitment, because I could see what I was doing every single day.

Keeping this commitment to myself to do these workouts to eat this way, all these things. And it's like, wow, Stephanie, you're really disciplined. And wow, like, you can really do that like this. There's this kind of conversations, because I was deepening the gratitude that I had for myself, in my blog, you said the capacity for what we could hold. And it was like, I bet I could do this in my business. Like I bet I could, you know, because my business is me. Right? Like, it was like, I bet I could do it like this. And it just like, everything just started to get more clear, because I was shifting the belief I was having for myself. How about you? That's good.

36:21
That that's good. Yeah. Cuz shifting the belief about what's possible, right. And about what you have to offer, I think that stands out to me the most is just this unwavering belief that what I'm putting out into the world is needed and is valuable. And that don't have to second guess it. And there's going to be ebbs and flows within it.

I started a new program while we were doing this, yes, I launched and I'm about to launch another one. And so there were definitely things where I was, you know, showing up differently for myself and for for my clients. And I felt like in the process, like in this whole encompassing process that I elevated, where I'm going, yes, when it comes to my business, so the things that were important to me before or where I perceive I was no longer serving me. Yes. So I feel like I've been able to release a few things to let go and say, No, I don't want to do that anymore. That's not where I want to go. That's not who I want to work with. And I've kind of you know, just put it out into the universe and energetically and been like, okay, and I understand here's the thing. I'm totally get a rabbit trail here. But I'm with somebody who I've heard there's action that has to be taken, like, yes, so we both know that anybody's done. It was like, yes, that is so true. But when it comes to energy work, there, the marriage between action and energy is so important, because it's like allowing ourselves to believe energetically and hold space energetically for what we truly desire. Yes, also requires action. Yes. And I feel like there were times where I would slip back and forth between the two, I would go just in action mode, action, action, action, action, action. And then I would go into like, Oh, I'm just gonna meditate and hold space, and you know, all these lovely fun things. And then I was finding that with just the action, I was exhausted. With just the meditation, I was like, nothing's happening.

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And I didn't realize that there was a part that I needed to marry the two. And realize, as I elevated that I could continue to take these action steps and they didn't have to be huge all the time. Yes. Sometimes there were just little steps. Yeah, yes. You use two very powerful words to describe your energy. And I want to call it out so that the listeners grab this, you said unwavering and elevate it. We elevated our energy. So that means like before, where we were having struggles or disbelief, not holding space, like for what was really possible for us in what we were doing in our lives and our business and for our bodies. Like we've elevated that because our energy has risen. Our belief has shaped gotten stronger. And it's unwavering. Now, like before we would be so do you think about what unwavering is like solid? Yeah, definite firm. Make

And now we are energetic matches for things that we were not at the start of this. And that's what we're both feeling is because new things are coming into our lives. We're attracting different types of clients, because we are now energetic matches for them. Whereas before, we may have had an intention, but we weren't ready for it. No, no, and God's not going to give us what we're not ready for the key is going to match our energy like, and so now we're feeling it, we're stepping into that in a bigger way.That, to me, is the most profound thing I've gotten out of this.

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I totally agree. Like there was, there was something that happened the other day, and I literally just felt this huge, like, moment where it just like clicked, it all fell into place, in the sense of where I was, like, Oh, this is what this means. It just means that I am in a new space to really believe I deserve it, I'm worthy.

That this is a journey that I'm always gonna be shifting and changing. I'm always going to be growing. But I'm not at a deficit. I'm not in lack. i Not at you know, I'm not behind. I'm not you know, and now, you know, you were saying before, we were talking about working out and you're saying I'm not a runner, you know, like those are the things that used to go through your mind. Right? Right. And I remember what I used to identify not being a runner. And now I do even though I don't run all the time, I know I am capable of running, because there were years where I said I wasn't, and I legitimately did not run. And now I feel that I like I can identify as someone who is willing to be in this space to hold this space for myself. When it comes to, you know, eating well working out, growing my spirituality, my emotional bandwidth, my subconscious mind or programming, growing my business, you know, believing for, you know, relational things in my life, abundance, and really being able to say, yeah, like, I'm there.

I believe I'm not perfect. But on there. Yes.

42:27
Yeah. That being like, going back to where we started a conversation open to more possibilities. Yeah, it's, I heard somebody say one time, they're like, Okay, possibility, like, I bet you can believe most things could be possible. But is it really probable, like the odds are in your favor that it could happen? As I Oh, that's an interesting word description. But I, I'm there now, like I see the probability of things actually taking place, because it has shifted for you. And for me, what we are you capable of holding?

Yeah, the energy thing is such a big thing. And we've we've been doing this work. But we've also been studying a lot, like you said, give him credit, like with Bob Proctor.

And just understanding more and more about the energy work. And I've read different books about energy, I've been to see an energy healer a couple of times. Now, I don't even know that I was. First of all, I wasn't even aware any of this existed prior to

like this energy work type stuff. And then to go and be open to seeing somebody to do energy healing on trapped emotions. I didn't know what that was prior to this. But I was in the space that I was ready that when that information came, and then I was like, I would love to have a person like that in my life, I completely out of nowhere and manifest somebody whose lives like 10 minutes away from me that's willing to meet with me to do this work. And I did it for me and my son, like, it was amazing.

How just so many different things have come out of this, that we could just go on and on about all the amazing abundance of things that have happened. Yeah. And it's because we made a commitment to ourselves. And we didn't waver on that we stuck with the commitment and raised our energy that now we can see things differently. Like that's the premise of why this works. Yeah.

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And, you know, if I was to go back and say, because my original goal, would love to lose 20 pounds. I did not last five. But what I trade that what I learned and what I experienced for 20 pounds. Heck now. Like, I can't even imagine now. Like just that being the goal. Like only loss of weight. Yes. You mean like I'm like, really? That's it? Like that's all I wanted, and I'm in the gift that I was given through showing up for myself every single day in this. Yeah. And by the end, I will reiterate again, not perfectly, because I did not do this perfectly was that I kept showing up? Yes. And even though I didn't do it perfectly, I wasn't like, well, you're gonna start over again. You know, it's just like, No, just keep going. Yes, that's it like it, there's no judgment of like, did you do this or not this. And I think that is probably one of the biggest lessons also, for me coming out of this is that, you know, I have judge myself so harshly in so many areas of my life for so long. That, you know, I wouldn't do things because unless it was going to be perfect. Or I could show up and just the exact way I wanted to, I would not do it, and get the exact result I'm looking for. Right, and the results that I have gotten. And I don't know if you'll say the same thing have far exceeded what I would have imagined if I would have just tried to be perfect in this journey.

46:13
So yeah, and there's the big business lesson, right? Like, instead of waiting to think that it's perfect before you can release something, put it out there and like, just keep going, keep putting it, keep moving forward, keep taking that action, just like we were doing here with this challenge. And what we are opening ourselves up to is far exceeds what we think we needed, or what we set that intention for what we were going for. Yeah, yeah. This has been this has been amazing. So what are you?

46:47
What are you going to do? How are you going to approach moving forward from here on out? Yes.

46:55
It has become such an ingrained part of my life that I can't imagine giving it up. My oldest child has been a part of this a lot with me, because he's been homeschooling throughout this journey. So he goes on Xbox and whatnot with me. And he's tried at times, it's really interesting to catch me like doing something wrong, or are you going to make it today? Are you really going to get that extra workout? And like,that's kind of a spirit sometimes. And then sometimes he's like, wow, we're already done with our walk. Like, we've gotten it so fast. And he catches that or like, the other day, he saw me jog with my kid. He's like, wow, you were actually running fast.

It has just changed in so many ways. And when when you hear a kid to give you honest, raw feedback, Oh, yeah. Like it's present. It's there and the model that I've set for him, I wouldn't give that up either. But I cannot imagine going back to being somebody who wakes up and immediately feels achy versus somebody who wakes up and it's like, let's go get this done. Yeah. And I look forward to what, that's what I'm going to feel like because then when I get home, and I've showered, and I dive into my work, my brain is already awake.

And I'm like, I'm not going to give that up. I'm like, I have come to this place where I'm like, because it Andrea had asked me this before, and she's like, What are you gonna do after I give it off? Yeah, it's so ingrained to know who I am, I'm going to keep going. Because why would I release these kinds of results? Now I know people have done it. And they, you know, for whatever reason, they they don't stay with it. Yeah. For me, it feels like the right thing to do. And I'm going to keep going for. Yeah, I love that. You know, for me, the, I think the one adaptation that I'm going to do, which I don't know, we'll see how this works. But is I'm going to implement some rest days.

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I feel like that was maybe one of the hardest things for me was not feeling like on the days where I just my body really was saying like, You need to rest. Like, oh, I got to do these workouts. And I would just keep pushing through.

Because I have a dog. You know, there's a lot of the outside component of this that has to happen no matter what. Yeah. And so there's parts of it that are just going to stay with me, but I think what I've started to realize is like, you know, we had to do one one workout outside that was part of the deal as well. And so for me, I'm like, okay, that's easy. A 45 minute walk every single day with my dog is not a hard ask for me to do.

And also, I think for me, it'll be like, you know, on the days where I'm resting, it'll be just a walk and rest. Yeah, and that I think I will really try and implement I think otherwise I want to keep kind of the same thing going. I am

Not gonna lie looking forward to a nice glass of wine.As you know, a way to celebrate and also, you know, just you know, seeing how, but now it doesn't seem like this is something I do it just as a way I live. Yeah. So it kind of feels like after 75 days like this is very normal. I mean, I even to the amount of water and when I drink it, yeah. Like, I know how much water I need when I need to drink it. And if I drink it too late, I'll be up all night peeing. So yeah, so this is, this has been so amazing. And you know, at the end of the day, you ended up getting a puppy.

This week, you brought home a puppy, and, and so like, lots of lot of things have changed even for you, you know, when it comes to like how things are, are moving. So you're going to be doing some, some outdoor puppy walk, I definitely have more activities in my life. More on the horizon?

This is amazing. So what how can people connect with you what's kind of going on in your world that you can share with people I know, You've been so instrumental in my life helping me when it comes to really understanding who I am when it comes to how I show up, you know, with not only my messaging and marketing, and just really helping me kind of strategize things, but also really how I do it from a place of really understanding me. So what what are you doing right now that people can kind of jump in on?

51:43
Yes, if this conversation is interesting to you, then I encourage you to check out what I'm doing next. Because I am adapting this with manifestation with like getting clear and making that commitment to yourself for what you want. And I'm putting that together into a six week program. Taking the best parts of what we've done in 75, hard like activating your body, getting yourself into movement, I'm going to give you a specific plan on what you're going to eat, what you're going to be reading how you're going to be act, just like taking the things off of your plate. As far as how to make that decision, you just make the one time decision to go in, I'm gonna give you the support. So you stay committed to yourself, you have the accountability and like it is happening for six weeks that you can open yourself up to really see what you're capable of manifesting and bringing into your life. Because everything that we're talking about, has remarkably shaped, shifted, and transformed us into new versions of ourselves. And we're just more powerful women because of it. And I know that this is something I want to continue this work, yes, I dedicated for myself. But now I want to pour this back into other people's lives. And that's what this six week journey is going to be about. And I'm really, really excited about that taking place and showing people what they're capable of amazing. Well, I will link to that in the shownotes for people and I highly, highly encourage people to go and check it out. And get into your world because honestly, I am so grateful that we got to do this together. Like

53:32
I think I look back and go wow, like, you know, I mean, we're not done, we still have the rest of this week that we're we're on this journey together specifically. But I just feel like in this in this container that we held for one another in this space, that what a what a gift to learn and to grow and to manifest and to have expansion. You know, in so many ways, not just when it comes to our physical, you know, outcome, but when it comes to everything, so, thank you. Thank you for for pushing me, thank you for suggesting it. And I look forward to seeing how things kind of work out for you as they move forward. Yes, it's gonna be good for you and for me, amen. Over the past five days, I can honestly say that so much in my life has really shifted, and the one word that I really feel encompasses. My journey is expansion. And I am so grateful to Stephanie for being on this journey with me. It truly was really a catalyst for me to move forward. And that accountability that we all need when it comes to truly unlocking our potential and really moving forward in our lives, whether it's in our health, our business, our finances, really makes a difference in

So I think sometimes we have to get right back to the basics. And it seems simple. But in the same way it is so needed. And I love that Stephanie is stepping out and really offering something that is going to help you start moving forward in your own life with really actually opening up a six week program to do this work to have the same kind of expansion that we experienced when we were doing 75 hard. And so she is going to be launching unlocking your potential bootcamp. And during the six weeks, it's going to be amazing, because you're going to not only really start moving your physical body and release endorphins, but you're going to become more aware and connect with your subconscious programming, you're going to make decisions that are going to help you take action in your life and in your business. And really, you're going to put yourself in a position to manifest through guided meditations and becoming really aware of what you truly desire. And Stephanie is going to be offering some group calls during that time. And I'm also going to be there as well. So you'll have access to me during this process as well. I will leave all of the links in the show notes for you to connect with Stephanie, and jump into her program called unlocking your potential bootcamp. Friend, I'm so glad that I got to share this journey in my own life with you. I hope it inspired you. I hope it encouraged you that you can do so much more in your own life as well. And until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live bravely.

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217 | Make A Committed Decision To Achieve Your Highest Success

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
When it comes to achieving your goals, you are truly in when it comes to growing your business, you are truly in when it comes to cultivating relationships, shifts in your life, you have decided to go all-in on you.
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

Do you find it difficult to make decisions because you are torn between what you desire and what you think is possible for your life?

This week on the podcast we’re talking about how you can start making effective and committed decisions that will help you achieve what you desire in life and business.

If you're ready to elevate your mindset book a FREE 20-minute Strategy Call with Andrea: www.andreacrisp.ca/schedule

Connect with Andrea on IG: @andreacrispcoach + @the.couragecast

 
 
 
 

Listen Here:

 
 
 

Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

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Is there something in your life right now that you need to make a decision about? But you are putting off? Maybe you are procrastinating, weighing your options? Looking at a list of pros and cons.

Today, we're going to talk about what happens when we make a committed decision. And how fast do you really need to make that decision,

0:28
You're listening to the courage cast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose, with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and competence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

0:53
Hey, friends, welcome to The Couragecast. I am so glad that you are joining me today. My name is Andrea, I am your host, I am also a mindset coach and the author of design with purpose, which is something I don't really talk about very often, I wrote a book back in the day.

You know, sometimes I'm thinking about whether or not I should be writing a new book, you know, so often, we are put in a position where we have to make a decision about something. Now it can be a decision on something, you know, regular in our lives, you know, should I go for lunch? Should I meet that person? Should I schedule that meeting for today or tomorrow? But oftentimes, it's a bigger decision, like, should I invest in, you know, something big in my life? Should I, you know, decide to join a mastermind or invest in a new coach, or should I take that trip, even though things have not really been going the way I want them to now, so often, we defer those decisions, we put them off and we say, Oh, I'll make them later. As an example, I have been doing that over the past two weeks, there's something that has come up for me. And it was so interesting, because it was a really, really great opportunity. It seemed so clear cut. And yet every time I went to make a decision about it, I would say oh, I'll make it tomorrow. And I'll make it the next day. So I got an email yesterday. And I actually responded with the fact that I am going to make a decision by noon today. And it is something that I'm committed to, it is something that I want to do. And I'm ready to do. On the other hand, there was opportunity that was presented to me that I went ahead, and I fill out the form, I met with a prospective coach. And within a few minutes, I had secured not only one, but for coaching sessions with an amazing coach and get this for free. Is that not crazy? Here's the thing, friends. So often, we are deferring decisions. I'll fill that form out later, I will decide on that later. And those two instances in my life really showed me something that oftentimes we are waiting for something to happen in order to make the decision. And then we never have the benefit of having made that decision, or the opportunity that's going to unfold because of it. Whereas other times, when we make a quick decision right away, often, we know immediately whether or not that's an opportunity that we should take. So I wanted to talk to you today about what it looks like in our lives, when we're making a committed decision in our lives, in our relationships, in in our business. Because if we are deferring decisions, if we're waiting to make a decision for another day, oh, I've got to think about it. Or I need to see if I have enough money, or I have to see if I have enough time in my schedule to do this. We're never actually going to achieve the success that we desire. So here's the thing.

First of all, we have to get really, really, really clear on what it is that we desire in our lives. What do you desire happening right now in your life? Do you want to have a relationship? Do you want to build more connections within your business? Do you want more Clients, are you looking to collaborate or grow something within your business, get super clear on what it is that you desire to happen. Because the moment you make that decision, and you hold that decision, and you really put a motion towards it, it becomes a desire. And that desire is going to lead you to the outcome, it's going to help you to take that aligned action, it's gonna help you to recognize those opportunities, whether they're a good opportunity or a bad opportunity, or whether or not you should not do something. And over the course of the past couple of weeks, as I've been kind of processing through this for myself, and I've been looking at how I'm making decisions, I'm realizing that the faster I make a decision on something, the better it turns out. And the more I receive from that opportunity, because it was presented to me, and I had an opportunity to take that person up on what they were offering, or what was happening. And immediately, something shifted. And this is what happens in your life, when you make a committed decision to have success in your life and success in your business. The universe conspires to deliver on those decisions. I mean, think about it, do you actually think that you're going to have to do this all by yourself. Like, you're gonna have to figure out the how and the when, and the resources to come up with whatever it is that you need, once a decision is made. It really just takes that committed decision, that desire burning within you to signal the universe to signal, I'm ready for the next thing. And then watch as the universe, God source delivers to you probably even more than what you expect, probably even a better version of the thing that you think you're going to get. Now, I've seen this manifest in my life over the past couple of months, in so many ways. And, you know, as I mentioned, I got four free coaching sessions, but that is not all. Okay, that's from one person. And we're focusing on relationships. But get this not only did I receive from the universe for free coaching sessions, but I also received two free coaching sessions, from an additional coach helping me grow in my sales. Not only did I receive that, but I also was given an opportunity for an entire VIP day to really go through everything I'm offering within my business to uplevel and upgrade what I'm doing. Is that not amazing, right? And that all stemmed from me responding immediately, to an opportunity. But the moment I hesitate, the moment I defer the moment I've been all think about it, those opportunities to just kind of dwindle away, they never really happen. So I want to pose a challenge to you today. Whatever that decision is in your life that you are making right now. It could be a small decision. It could be a medium sized decision, it could be a huge decision. It could be something that you're thinking about that would cost you and would be a huge investment for you. I encourage you to set time aside today. And first of all, make the decision that you're going to make the decision that's number one.

Because when you decide I'm going to make a decision today, then you know it's happening. Then number two, get still get grounded. And listen for that still small voice your intuition that God voice within you to do racked the decision, whether it's a yes or no. And remember, oftentimes, if it's a no, it could be that it's a not now. But still, you know, to tell them, it's a no. And then make that decision. Because when you make that decision, you're committing to yourself, that you are truly in. When it comes to achieving your goals, you are truly in when it comes to growing your business, you are truly in when it comes to cultivating relationships, shifts in your life, you have decided to go all in on you. And it all starts by making a decision. I hope that helps you today friend, you know, it's really helped me. And if you're making a decision, or you're facing a huge decision in your life, I just encourage you take that time today to do that. And I'd also love to just let you know that we are still doing our weekly zoom get togethers called the mindset mentor circle. This is a great opportunity to receive support, and really uplevel and upgrade your mindset when it comes to your life and your business. You are surrounded by incredible entrepreneurs, and coaches that are really taking those steps as well in their lives. And it's an opportunity for you to network to connect, but also to receive that support in a really safe environment. And it's free, so you can join us. And you can come in as you need to. And you can feel free to leave when you need to as well. So those are on Wednesdays at 12pm Eastern Standard Time. So I will go ahead and put the link in the show notes so that you can sign up for those weekly zoom calls. I love to see you there. This is a great way for us to connect and to meet and to really build relationships with one another. So friend, I'm so glad that you join me today. Thank you always for listening to the courage casts I so appreciate the support along the years can you believe, like almost five years into this amazing, amazing podcast? Lisa is amazing to me. All right, friend. Thanks for hanging out. Until next time. Remember you have everything you need to live briefly.

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216 | Waiting For A Dream Fulfilled

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
There is waiting when it comes to a dream fulfilled a promise fulfilled, and an opportunity fulfilled. But it also requires depth. And it also requires healing. And it also requires taking action and moving through moving forward.
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

What happens when you're waiting, but things just don't seem to be coming together quite as you had intended, or quite as you had planned?

Do you often find yourself leaning into self-sabotaging behaviors, maybe even abandoning your dream, abandoning yourself, abandoning your vision? Today, on the podcast, I'm gonna get a little bit vulnerable with you and just share what has come up for me, when I find myself in that position in the waiting.

If you're ready to elevate your mindset book a FREE 20-minute Strategy Call with Andrea: www.andreacrisp.ca/schedule

Connect with Andrea on IG: @andreacrispcoach + @the.couragecast

 
 
 
 

Listen Here:

 
 
 

Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

0:01
What happens when you're waiting, but things just don't seem to be coming together quite as you had intended, or quite as you had planned? Do you often find yourself leaning into self sabotaging behaviors, maybe even abandoning your dream, abandoning yourself, abandoning your vision? Today, on the podcast, I'm gonna get a little bit vulnerable with you and just share what has come up for me, when I find myself in that position in the waiting,

You're listening to the courage cast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and competence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

Well, hello, my friend, welcome to The Couragecast. I am so glad that you are joining me today. You know, it is kind of a cool day here. It's a little bit overcast. And I have been feeling in my feels today, which is not really normal for me these days. You know, I've talked a lot about my struggle with anxiety and depression over the years, and how I have worked through a lot of that. And there are just maybe few moments when my anxiety flares up. Sometimes it's in a stressful situation, or, you know, when things seem a little bit more difficult than normal. But for the most part, I really have made huge, huge strides when it comes to just really being able to manage my emotions, my feelings. And for years, I found myself in this place where I was pretty emotional. I remember crying in, you know, meetings at work, thinking to myself, I wish I could hold it together, I wish I wasn't always, you know, wearing my heart on my sleeve. And I think I tried to, you know, get this tough exterior, and to put this hard shell on in order to protect myself in order to keep myself safe. And then over the years as I would go through things, I would bury those emotions, I would suppress them or push them down. And maybe you can relate to that maybe you've been in a place in your life where you have this really tough exterior, and you're always just wanting to, you know, show a brave face and emotions feel hard for you. And you push them down or you suppress them. But what happens when we do that is that we actually fall into a pattern of self abandonment. And we are not allowing ourselves to fully feel everything that is happening. Everything that is going on, truly allowing ourselves to be vulnerable to ourselves to the Divine to others. And we miss out on some pretty amazing things, including missing out on growth, missing out on opportunity, missing out on intimacy. So over this past week, I've been really processing some things in my own life and going through a releasing process of sorts. And looking back at some of the things that have been taking place over the past year, super grateful for what has taken place, but also knowing that in order for me to move forward, I have to make room for the new things, which means there has to be some releasing in the process. And a lot of that, you know can be tangible things actual, you know, material things in life. It could be ways I'm doing things. It could be how I'm showing up, but it also can be ways that I have been processing ways that I have been abandoning myself in order to make room for a more fulfilling place in my own life. Now there were So I really want to talk to you about this is because I think it's so important, when we are looking to make an impact in the world when we're influencing others when we are on mission, when we are driven to really be the best we can be, be successful in our own right. And I know that a lot of people that listen to this podcast are entrepreneurs, our coaches are creatives, people who are daily taking those brave steps in your life to move forward. And a lot of that probably looks like you know, taking risks and doing bigger things and putting yourself out there. But how often do we self abandon in hopes that we will get what it is that we truly desire?

Now, I want to talk a little bit about that today, because I think it's so important, what does that really even look like? So I actually wrote down in my journal, and I'm just going to read to you some of the things that came to me, as I was journaling through this just this morning. And I want to reference a song that I was listening to actually, and it's called, while we wait by Amanda Cook. And, oh, man, it's just so amazing. I definitely encourage you to go listen to it. So she talks about in the beginning of the song I was holding on with all my might, just praying for a ray of light, someone to hold me through the night, when I thought that I had lost my mind, when I was all alone and it got too quiet. You never let me go never left my side. Because you're with us while we wait. I encourage you to go and listen to this song, it is actually going to be like a healing balm to your soul.

And as I was listening to the song, and as I was processing through this, I just was so compelled to write down all of these things that were just like coming up with me. And it's been a long time since I've done that. As you may know, I used to be in full time church ministry. And a lot of what I did back then was writing and was speaking from the heart and was really sharing from a vulnerable place. Well, over the years, as I transitioned out of full time ministry, and I moved into coaching, you know, that had to shift a bit. But I feel like there is this opportunity for me to return to some of that today. Maybe I'll return to it more, I'm not sure. But I feel like there's an opportunity for me to return to it today. And just really allow myself to share from the heart and share some of the things that are coming up for me in hopes that it will help you and encourage you today. If you find yourself in a place where you are doubting that what you desire is going to take place is going to manifest. Now, when I first started out in my career, I really had a very, very strong faith. And my faith led me to believe that there was a lot of things that I was going to trust God in. But I didn't really have to do anything. And I've learned over the years that that's not exactly how it works. Or it doesn't work that way. For me, let's put it that way. There is a waiting when it comes to a dream fulfilled a promise fulfilled, and opportunity fulfilled. But it also requires depth. And it also requires healing. And it also requires taking action and moving through moving forward. And that can often look like different things in our lives. And that means that we have a part to play in that so when there is a dream or desire that we want to see manifested within our lives, see, see come to fruition. We have an opportunity to really move in that direction, allowing ourselves to move through that process. And when we're in business, often we talk about you know, like using this you know, boss exterior, this CEO being the the leader of our business, but you know what, we're human, we are all you know, made up of feelings of experiences of memories, emotions, things that have happened. And when we are moving through those things and processing through them, it is going to impact our business. It is is going to impact our clients, it is going to impact the people that we are working with constantly. Which is why it's so important that we do this work, that we pay attention, that we make sure that we own our power, and that we're not self abandoning when it comes to truly standing in our power in that divine light in that source. So one of the ways that often we do this is when we're self abandoning is we are allowing fear, and doubt and insecurity to be louder than any other voice. And that can come from, you know, failures in the past or rejection or hurt anything really, it can come from words that we heard spoken to us, it can come from, you know, missed opportunities that can come from, you know, just even our own deep insecurity of who we really are.

And when we allow those voices, those insecurities, those doubts, to become louder than anything else, we abandon ourselves, we abandon the dream, we abandon the promise fulfilled in our lives. And it's always been well, and put it this way, your ability, your capacity, your giftings, they've always been there, right? You're growing in them, you're maturing them, you're working through them, you are developing them, you are growing them right now. But when we allow those insecurities to like smother them, and like muffle them, and make them quiet, you know, we keep them from really being seen by the world and heard by the world, because we're letting our own doubt and insecurity be louder than the guests than the abilities than the capacity for what we have to give, when it comes to really making an impact in the lives of others. And I have found for myself, that, you know, there's often been these times where I want to project a certain image, I want people to see me as a certain person a certain way. And, for me, that looks a lot like trying to be perfect, and that, you know, stemmed back from my childhood, you know, being firstborn, doing things, right, always getting that, that praise and approval in my life and, and realizing, you know, even today I wrote down, it's okay, if you are not perfect, or there yet. And I think that is so important for us to really grab hold of because, you know, we really feel as though in order to show up and to make a difference and to make an impact and to have people hire us that we have to be perfect or something has to be just so in order for us to really call in those clients to call in those opportunities. But at the end of the day, it's going to be this quiet vulnerability to being ourselves. That is really going to be the measure of how we are calling in others, and how we are attracting other people. And here's another thing, your worth is not dependent on your success, or your outside circumstances. And often that's what we're you know, taught to to believe that you know, you're going to be successful when you're going to be worthy. When I was watching this Mel Robbins video today, actually about, you know, this girl said I'm fortunate enough to have two salons and Mel stopped her rate in mid sentence and said, it's really not about being fortunate. It's about knowing that when you say it's an external reason why I'm successful, then you're giving your power away. And here's the thing we have it within us already. So, your worthiness is not dependent upon what you do not dependent upon how successful you are, how much money you make, it really is already innately within you. And and that is when when we are truly connecting with our worthiness and truly connecting with our value and who we are and our identity and what we have to give and, and how we are allowing that to just come out of us. That is when we are in that full expression of love, not only for ourselves, but the divine for others. And when we're doing anything else spot that we're abandoning ourselves.

So, you're thinking, Okay, well, what does this mean? Like? How do I not self abandoned? How do I, you know, take ownership? How do I lean into this, so I have a few things that I want to share with you. First of all, allow yourself to feel and release. You know, we talk a lot about emotions. And I mentioned how, for years, I suppress my emotions, and I pushed them down, especially when it came to like anger, like, I just felt like, I could never be angry, and I could never really tell people how I felt, and that, you know, just shoved the emotion down, down, down, down, down. And I would never have a release for them. So they were like, underneath the surface, always, they're always kind of like, frustrating me and keeping me in this space where I was not able to move forward. So it wasn't until I acknowledged what I was actually feeling, and gave room and space for them to just be there. It's okay, like, it's alright, if you're sad, it's okay. If you, you know, feel down, it's okay that you know, you're frustrated or you're angry. And when you're allowing yourself to really feel that, and your body can feel that it processes it through, and it releases that emotion, and you're able to move through it. And it is really a beautiful experience. Another thing is make space for the tension. If there's this tension in you right now, know that the tension is there to grow you because where you are right now is not where you're going to be. And so you're maybe in this place where you're moving from something to something else. And there's this tension of feeling like I'm in this middle space, I'm in the in between. And like, as a song I mentioned with us while we wait, sometimes in the waiting in the tension, there's so much growth to be found, maturing, developing insights, so many really, really good things that are not only going to impact you better and impact other people in your life, your clients, your family, people you love. Another thing is lean deeper into the fulfillment of your desire. So how do we do that? How do we actually lean into it? Well, I talked about, you know, stepping into that next level, that new version of yourself, that version of you that you know, you are always meant to be. And here's the thing, you are already that person now. But maybe you haven't just seen the fulfillment of it. So lean in press into the fulfillment of who you are becoming of who that version of you is, that is really making an impact that is really being the fulfillment of the dream of the desire that you have for your life. The more you lean into it, the more you're going to see it come forth, the more you're going to, you know, embody it. And just allow yourself to lean more to that than into that old version or that insecurity or that self sabotage or any of those other things. Another thing is trust yourself. This, you know, like seems like pretty okay, trust myself, like what does that mean? When you're trusting yourself, lean into your own intuition. You're being guided every day there is source divine universe, God speaking into you speaking through you, you're a channel for so many beautiful things to come forth. And when you're trusting that you can hear that when you're trusting that you're being divinely inspired or led to move in a certain direction, then trust that that is for you. And so often what we're doing is we want to look for external validation, we want to look for those external voices or opinions or things which keep us you know, holding ourselves back. But when you just listen to that divine voice, your intuition, you are always going to be able to move forward. Be vulnerable, and open. And in this vulnerability, it doesn't mean you have to share like absolutely everything with the world. Like you've got to tell all of the all the nitty gritty of every part of your story. Not every part of your story needs to be shared. Sometimes it's the vulnerability of being in the story and allowing people to be a part of the story that really resonates with other people.

And when I was thinking about, you know, recording this today and actually putting this out, I felt like, you know, is this too vulnerable? Like, is this something I should be sharing? And the reality is, is, uh, yeah, I definitely think because it's, I think it's part of my story, it's part of your story, it's part of our collective story of really allowing ourselves to truly open up and be vulnerable with the people we're doing life with, and allow them to see in to who we are. So that we're moving towards the fulfillment of that dream of that promise of that desire. The next thing is Hold on, it's not always going to be smooth sailing, it's not always going to be you know, clear cut, you're not always going to have to, you know, know the right way to go. You might have twists and turns and ups and downs, but hold on, hold on to yourself, hold on to people you love, hold on to the promise, hold on, keep moving forward. And that's the last thing is keep going. You may be in a place right now, where you have really considered giving up on the dream. And let me tell you, when you give up on the dream you give up on you. Because it's not about one particular thing. It's not about like the dream being exactly the way you envisioned it. The dream, the desire is really about allowing yourself to fully engage in the purpose of why you're on the earth. And that can look like so many different iterations in your life. And in different seasons, it's going to look one way and another season, it's going to look another way, because you're becoming more and more and more of who you were created to be who you were put on the earth to be. And allowing yourself to keep moving through the process, moving through the emotions moving through, you know, the difficulties, the challenges, and allowing yourself to truly be present and in this moment, is going to help you to truly see that desire fulfilled in your life. And you can trust that in a waiting in the middle, in the parts that don't seem as shiny and spectacular. That that is really where all of us are. We only see these glimpses these moments, these snapshots of like, wow, I got to the end of the finish line. That's just like a little like moment, that's just a little snapshot of what we get. It's really always in the waiting in the middle in the tension in the growth, that you are going to allow that purpose to be truly manifested in your life. And see that desire fulfilled in your life. Friend, I just want to say thanks for hanging out with me. I hope this was helpful for you today. Just sharing a little bit from my own experience and from my own heart, I love to connect with you to hear you know what is what is going on in your life that is helping you to move forward and how are you being impacted by even, you know, waiting for this in your own life. So feel free to connect with me on Instagram. You can find me at Andrea crisp coach. You can also find me on Facebook, I'll leave all the links in there for you as well. And I would love to hear what's going on in your life. So please do reach out. Okay, friend. Until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live briefly.

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214 | You Have To Choose Community Over Competition

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
There is waiting when it comes to a dream fulfilled a promise fulfilled, and an opportunity fulfilled. But it also requires depth. And it also requires healing. And it also requires taking action and moving through moving forward.
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

In the online space, it is so easy to get caught up in imposter syndrome, always comparing yourself to others. That’s why it’s so important that we choose to cultivate community over competition. 

This week on the podcast I’ll be talking about the importance of community building and how it can help you up-level every of your life. 

If you're ready to elevate your mindset book a FREE 20-minute Strategy Call with Andrea: www.andreacrisp.ca/schedule

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

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What happens when you're waiting, but things just don't seem to be coming together quite as you had intended, or quite as you had planned? Do you often find yourself leaning into self sabotaging behaviors, maybe even abandoning your dream, abandoning yourself, abandoning your vision? Today, on the podcast, I'm gonna get a little bit vulnerable with you and just share what has come up for me, when I find myself in that position in the waiting,

You're listening to the courage cast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and competence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

Well, hello, my friend, welcome to The Couragecast. I am so glad that you are joining me today. You know, it is kind of a cool day here. It's a little bit overcast. And I have been feeling in my feels today, which is not really normal for me these days. You know, I've talked a lot about my struggle with anxiety and depression over the years, and how I have worked through a lot of that. And there are just maybe few moments when my anxiety flares up. Sometimes it's in a stressful situation, or, you know, when things seem a little bit more difficult than normal. But for the most part, I really have made huge, huge strides when it comes to just really being able to manage my emotions, my feelings. And for years, I found myself in this place where I was pretty emotional. I remember crying in, you know, meetings at work, thinking to myself, I wish I could hold it together, I wish I wasn't always, you know, wearing my heart on my sleeve. And I think I tried to, you know, get this tough exterior, and to put this hard shell on in order to protect myself in order to keep myself safe. And then over the years as I would go through things, I would bury those emotions, I would suppress them or push them down. And maybe you can relate to that maybe you've been in a place in your life where you have this really tough exterior, and you're always just wanting to, you know, show a brave face and emotions feel hard for you. And you push them down or you suppress them. But what happens when we do that is that we actually fall into a pattern of self abandonment. And we are not allowing ourselves to fully feel everything that is happening. Everything that is going on, truly allowing ourselves to be vulnerable to ourselves to the Divine to others. And we miss out on some pretty amazing things, including missing out on growth, missing out on opportunity, missing out on intimacy. So over this past week, I've been really processing some things in my own life and going through a releasing process of sorts. And looking back at some of the things that have been taking place over the past year, super grateful for what has taken place, but also knowing that in order for me to move forward, I have to make room for the new things, which means there has to be some releasing in the process. And a lot of that, you know can be tangible things actual, you know, material things in life. It could be ways I'm doing things. It could be how I'm showing up, but it also can be ways that I have been processing ways that I have been abandoning myself in order to make room for a more fulfilling place in my own life. Now there were So I really want to talk to you about this is because I think it's so important, when we are looking to make an impact in the world when we're influencing others when we are on mission, when we are driven to really be the best we can be, be successful in our own right. And I know that a lot of people that listen to this podcast are entrepreneurs, our coaches are creatives, people who are daily taking those brave steps in your life to move forward. And a lot of that probably looks like you know, taking risks and doing bigger things and putting yourself out there. But how often do we self abandon in hopes that we will get what it is that we truly desire?

Now, I want to talk a little bit about that today, because I think it's so important, what does that really even look like? So I actually wrote down in my journal, and I'm just going to read to you some of the things that came to me, as I was journaling through this just this morning. And I want to reference a song that I was listening to actually, and it's called, while we wait by Amanda Cook. And, oh, man, it's just so amazing. I definitely encourage you to go listen to it. So she talks about in the beginning of the song I was holding on with all my might, just praying for a ray of light, someone to hold me through the night, when I thought that I had lost my mind, when I was all alone and it got too quiet. You never let me go never left my side. Because you're with us while we wait. I encourage you to go and listen to this song, it is actually going to be like a healing balm to your soul.

And as I was listening to the song, and as I was processing through this, I just was so compelled to write down all of these things that were just like coming up with me. And it's been a long time since I've done that. As you may know, I used to be in full time church ministry. And a lot of what I did back then was writing and was speaking from the heart and was really sharing from a vulnerable place. Well, over the years, as I transitioned out of full time ministry, and I moved into coaching, you know, that had to shift a bit. But I feel like there is this opportunity for me to return to some of that today. Maybe I'll return to it more, I'm not sure. But I feel like there's an opportunity for me to return to it today. And just really allow myself to share from the heart and share some of the things that are coming up for me in hopes that it will help you and encourage you today. If you find yourself in a place where you are doubting that what you desire is going to take place is going to manifest. Now, when I first started out in my career, I really had a very, very strong faith. And my faith led me to believe that there was a lot of things that I was going to trust God in. But I didn't really have to do anything. And I've learned over the years that that's not exactly how it works. Or it doesn't work that way. For me, let's put it that way. There is a waiting when it comes to a dream fulfilled a promise fulfilled, and opportunity fulfilled. But it also requires depth. And it also requires healing. And it also requires taking action and moving through moving forward. And that can often look like different things in our lives. And that means that we have a part to play in that so when there is a dream or desire that we want to see manifested within our lives, see, see come to fruition. We have an opportunity to really move in that direction, allowing ourselves to move through that process. And when we're in business, often we talk about you know, like using this you know, boss exterior, this CEO being the the leader of our business, but you know what, we're human, we are all you know, made up of feelings of experiences of memories, emotions, things that have happened. And when we are moving through those things and processing through them, it is going to impact our business. It is is going to impact our clients, it is going to impact the people that we are working with constantly. Which is why it's so important that we do this work, that we pay attention, that we make sure that we own our power, and that we're not self abandoning when it comes to truly standing in our power in that divine light in that source. So one of the ways that often we do this is when we're self abandoning is we are allowing fear, and doubt and insecurity to be louder than any other voice. And that can come from, you know, failures in the past or rejection or hurt anything really, it can come from words that we heard spoken to us, it can come from, you know, missed opportunities that can come from, you know, just even our own deep insecurity of who we really are.

And when we allow those voices, those insecurities, those doubts, to become louder than anything else, we abandon ourselves, we abandon the dream, we abandon the promise fulfilled in our lives. And it's always been well, and put it this way, your ability, your capacity, your giftings, they've always been there, right? You're growing in them, you're maturing them, you're working through them, you are developing them, you are growing them right now. But when we allow those insecurities to like smother them, and like muffle them, and make them quiet, you know, we keep them from really being seen by the world and heard by the world, because we're letting our own doubt and insecurity be louder than the guests than the abilities than the capacity for what we have to give, when it comes to really making an impact in the lives of others. And I have found for myself, that, you know, there's often been these times where I want to project a certain image, I want people to see me as a certain person a certain way. And, for me, that looks a lot like trying to be perfect, and that, you know, stemmed back from my childhood, you know, being firstborn, doing things, right, always getting that, that praise and approval in my life and, and realizing, you know, even today I wrote down, it's okay, if you are not perfect, or there yet. And I think that is so important for us to really grab hold of because, you know, we really feel as though in order to show up and to make a difference and to make an impact and to have people hire us that we have to be perfect or something has to be just so in order for us to really call in those clients to call in those opportunities. But at the end of the day, it's going to be this quiet vulnerability to being ourselves. That is really going to be the measure of how we are calling in others, and how we are attracting other people. And here's another thing, your worth is not dependent on your success, or your outside circumstances. And often that's what we're you know, taught to to believe that you know, you're going to be successful when you're going to be worthy. When I was watching this Mel Robbins video today, actually about, you know, this girl said I'm fortunate enough to have two salons and Mel stopped her rate in mid sentence and said, it's really not about being fortunate. It's about knowing that when you say it's an external reason why I'm successful, then you're giving your power away. And here's the thing we have it within us already. So, your worthiness is not dependent upon what you do not dependent upon how successful you are, how much money you make, it really is already innately within you. And and that is when when we are truly connecting with our worthiness and truly connecting with our value and who we are and our identity and what we have to give and, and how we are allowing that to just come out of us. That is when we are in that full expression of love, not only for ourselves, but the divine for others. And when we're doing anything else spot that we're abandoning ourselves.

So, you're thinking, Okay, well, what does this mean? Like? How do I not self abandoned? How do I, you know, take ownership? How do I lean into this, so I have a few things that I want to share with you. First of all, allow yourself to feel and release. You know, we talk a lot about emotions. And I mentioned how, for years, I suppress my emotions, and I pushed them down, especially when it came to like anger, like, I just felt like, I could never be angry, and I could never really tell people how I felt, and that, you know, just shoved the emotion down, down, down, down, down. And I would never have a release for them. So they were like, underneath the surface, always, they're always kind of like, frustrating me and keeping me in this space where I was not able to move forward. So it wasn't until I acknowledged what I was actually feeling, and gave room and space for them to just be there. It's okay, like, it's alright, if you're sad, it's okay. If you, you know, feel down, it's okay that you know, you're frustrated or you're angry. And when you're allowing yourself to really feel that, and your body can feel that it processes it through, and it releases that emotion, and you're able to move through it. And it is really a beautiful experience. Another thing is make space for the tension. If there's this tension in you right now, know that the tension is there to grow you because where you are right now is not where you're going to be. And so you're maybe in this place where you're moving from something to something else. And there's this tension of feeling like I'm in this middle space, I'm in the in between. And like, as a song I mentioned with us while we wait, sometimes in the waiting in the tension, there's so much growth to be found, maturing, developing insights, so many really, really good things that are not only going to impact you better and impact other people in your life, your clients, your family, people you love. Another thing is lean deeper into the fulfillment of your desire. So how do we do that? How do we actually lean into it? Well, I talked about, you know, stepping into that next level, that new version of yourself, that version of you that you know, you are always meant to be. And here's the thing, you are already that person now. But maybe you haven't just seen the fulfillment of it. So lean in press into the fulfillment of who you are becoming of who that version of you is, that is really making an impact that is really being the fulfillment of the dream of the desire that you have for your life. The more you lean into it, the more you're going to see it come forth, the more you're going to, you know, embody it. And just allow yourself to lean more to that than into that old version or that insecurity or that self sabotage or any of those other things. Another thing is trust yourself. This, you know, like seems like pretty okay, trust myself, like what does that mean? When you're trusting yourself, lean into your own intuition. You're being guided every day there is source divine universe, God speaking into you speaking through you, you're a channel for so many beautiful things to come forth. And when you're trusting that you can hear that when you're trusting that you're being divinely inspired or led to move in a certain direction, then trust that that is for you. And so often what we're doing is we want to look for external validation, we want to look for those external voices or opinions or things which keep us you know, holding ourselves back. But when you just listen to that divine voice, your intuition, you are always going to be able to move forward. Be vulnerable, and open. And in this vulnerability, it doesn't mean you have to share like absolutely everything with the world. Like you've got to tell all of the all the nitty gritty of every part of your story. Not every part of your story needs to be shared. Sometimes it's the vulnerability of being in the story and allowing people to be a part of the story that really resonates with other people.

And when I was thinking about, you know, recording this today and actually putting this out, I felt like, you know, is this too vulnerable? Like, is this something I should be sharing? And the reality is, is, uh, yeah, I definitely think because it's, I think it's part of my story, it's part of your story, it's part of our collective story of really allowing ourselves to truly open up and be vulnerable with the people we're doing life with, and allow them to see in to who we are. So that we're moving towards the fulfillment of that dream of that promise of that desire. The next thing is Hold on, it's not always going to be smooth sailing, it's not always going to be you know, clear cut, you're not always going to have to, you know, know the right way to go. You might have twists and turns and ups and downs, but hold on, hold on to yourself, hold on to people you love, hold on to the promise, hold on, keep moving forward. And that's the last thing is keep going. You may be in a place right now, where you have really considered giving up on the dream. And let me tell you, when you give up on the dream you give up on you. Because it's not about one particular thing. It's not about like the dream being exactly the way you envisioned it. The dream, the desire is really about allowing yourself to fully engage in the purpose of why you're on the earth. And that can look like so many different iterations in your life. And in different seasons, it's going to look one way and another season, it's going to look another way, because you're becoming more and more and more of who you were created to be who you were put on the earth to be. And allowing yourself to keep moving through the process, moving through the emotions moving through, you know, the difficulties, the challenges, and allowing yourself to truly be present and in this moment, is going to help you to truly see that desire fulfilled in your life. And you can trust that in a waiting in the middle, in the parts that don't seem as shiny and spectacular. That that is really where all of us are. We only see these glimpses these moments, these snapshots of like, wow, I got to the end of the finish line. That's just like a little like moment, that's just a little snapshot of what we get. It's really always in the waiting in the middle in the tension in the growth, that you are going to allow that purpose to be truly manifested in your life. And see that desire fulfilled in your life. Friend, I just want to say thanks for hanging out with me. I hope this was helpful for you today. Just sharing a little bit from my own experience and from my own heart, I love to connect with you to hear you know what is what is going on in your life that is helping you to move forward and how are you being impacted by even, you know, waiting for this in your own life. So feel free to connect with me on Instagram. You can find me at Andrea crisp coach. You can also find me on Facebook, I'll leave all the links in there for you as well. And I would love to hear what's going on in your life. So please do reach out. Okay, friend. Until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live briefly.

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215 | Step Into Energetic Alignment

WITH SARA McCREADY

 
 
 
Particularly for coaches, your self-care practice and your healing journey is critical to you being able to show up and clear that last little bit of debris, energetic debris.
— Sara McCready
 

About This Episode:

How important is it for you to be in the right energetic space when you're working with your clients or working in your business?

So often as coaches and entrepreneurs, we tend to bypass how we feel what's going on in our bodies, and really look for the strategy, look at things that we can implement, to help us grow in an area of business. But what are you doing when it comes to growing energetically?

Sara McCready is an Intuitive Toxic Relationship Coach + Reiki Master, Solopreneur, and lover of all things self-care healing and wellness. Her passions are working with energy and intuition, and normalizing spirituality for everyone.

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

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How important is it for you to be in the right energetic space, when you're working with your clients or working in your business? So often as coaches and entrepreneurs, we tend to bypass how we feel what's going on in our bodies, and really look for the strategy, look at things that we can implement, to help us grow in an area of business. But what are you doing when it comes to growing energetically?

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Particularly for coaches, your self care practice, your healing journey is critical to you being able to show up and that's actually how you and I ended up working together because you want it to be able to serve at a higher level. And clear that last little bit of debris, energetic debris that was you can feel it, but you couldn't identify it and you knew that it just needed like a little nudge, a little energetic nudge to be able to fully step into that best version of Andrea. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. And this is the thing about energy work.

You are working at, again, the energetic body, so working with the chakras, but it's my knowingness and my understanding of the chakra system that helps integrate those energies into your physical body. So our chakra system has a direct impact on our physical body and our mental bodies, so more emotional, mental and physical. And when we haven't done the energetic clearing or tuneups, there is stickiness in our real lives our everyday lives either as a coach or in our personal relationship. And it's the best way to move the needle on any situation is to examine the energetic aspect of it, you're listening to the courage cast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely.

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Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose. With a blend of practical and spiritual advice. We'll help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and confidence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

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Hey there, welcome to The Couragecast. My name is Andrea, I am your host. And I'm also a mindset and confidence coach. And I'll tell you friends, over the past few years, I have had huge amounts of growth in my life and in my business. And if it weren't for the healing that I've experienced in my own life, I have to tell you that I would not be in the place that I am today. And so I'm so excited to be able to share with you a conversation that I had in my Facebook group, the confident coach collective with my good friend and also my energy healer, Sara McCready, she goes by @illuminatedjoy, and we were able to chat about energy and how we need to move the energy through our bodies and how that affects our business and how we're showing up, you know, creating boundaries within our lives. And in our business. It's just such a rich, rich conversation. And it was such a good conversation that I wanted to put it here on the podcast as well so that you could hear it. And I just trust that this is really going to help you shift. And if you're having any difficulties in your own life you have, you want to experience more growth. I want you I want to encourage you to take a look at maybe where you're holding energetically things that can be released in your life, through Reiki, through hypnotherapy, through all sorts of modalities, but in this case, we're going to talk about some of the modalities that Sara does, which includes data, data, Reiki, all sorts of stuff. So anyways, without further ado, here is my conversation with Sara.

Hello, Sara, it's so good to chat with you this morning.

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Hello, Andrea, thank you so much for having me. This is going to be an amazing conversation. I can't wait.

4:47
You know, it's so far we're we have to joke all the time about you know, technology. And it's like one of those things where it's taken us a little bit of time to figure out how we're going to do this today, but here we are. I'm excited. to chat with you and for people to get to know you a little bit better. And I love for you this like, I mean, I could introduce you, but you're better to introduce yourself because you know you. So tell us a little bit about who you are and who you serve.

5:18
Thank you. Yeah, so my name is Sara McCready. And my business name is I Illuminated joy. So I have been down a very windy path for the last three to four years. And it has led me into this very beautiful space of coaching, mentorship and energy healing. So I am a 25 years survivor of toxic relationships, I have been in multiple, highly toxic relationships. And it was the fourth relationship that resulted in a marriage and the dissolution of a marriage. That was the pinnacle that prepared me to be able to take this step in the healing direction. So to begin my healing journey, to start to unravel what a toxic relationship is, and what energy healing can do for you when you're in emotional recovery. So I started my own practice in, it'll be two years this September. So in September of 2020, I opened the doors to what was really going to be an in person service. And it has really transformed in the last year as a result of being open and close so many times. And it was through the through lock downs and closures that it became apparent that I was going to be using the online space as my avenue to connect with people. And to bring this work to the masses. And it's been so much more than I ever anticipated it would be it's been a huge learning curve, but at the same time, so expansive, and so rewarding to be able to move my entire practice on line from formerly in person services. So I work in the energy world. So lots of healing modalities that I practice, and the primary one is Reiki, but I also have a modality called Theta Healing. And I combine a lot of energy healing modalities as well, I've kind of cobbled them together to create my own healing modality that helps you go through any grief or trauma that you may have experienced that helps you unpack that and heal those wounds or that trauma that is preventing you from possibly stepping fully into your highest self or just really experiencing life at its fullest version.

8:27
Amazing. It's so amazing. Of course, I have experienced that myself, I've experienced your work. So I know what that that looks like. But I'm sure people, you know, maybe are curious or like, you know, energy yearling? What does that mean? Like how well you know, what is data? How do I how do I do all of these things? What does this even mean? So, when you're working with with people, what are you what are you doing, like what does that mean? Is it magic?

8:56
What? Actually, I have started saying it's magic because at least it's magic is relatable. However, it is it is relatable, but it's not just sleight of hand there is actual physical healing that takes place during an energy healing sessions. So, with the energy healing, you are working on what we call the energetic body or the aura, but there is actual physical healing that takes place as well. So, when I work with my clients, I take them into what they call theta brain wave state, so theta state and that is a hypnosis type of healing modality so you are guided into it In this very relaxed state, and it is through that relaxed state that I am able to connect into your energy. So there is some magic at play. And the magic really is learning to work with other people's energy. So we all have the ability to do this. And this is what I have been called to do through the trauma and the emotional healing that I went through, is to really recognize those aspects of myself that were always there but weren't really necessarily tapped into. So I use the word intuition or intuitive, I use my intuitive abilities. Some people refer to them as psychic abilities, to be able to help guide the conversations that I have with the clients, I'm able to pinpoint an experience that occurred in their lives, that can be what I call capital T trauma, or little T trauma, you know, traumas not always something super dramatic. It can be an experience that you had when you were younger. And it's left its mark. So those are the type of traumas that are little T traumas that can show up later in life as a block of some sort, that you don't really realize is there. And so there is, like I said, this connection between our physical bodies and our energetic bodies, we are all energy, everything is energy. And so it is working at the energetic level, clearing the chakra system, working with those points within your physical body that allow the release, the energy healing really provides this release for the client to process the emotions that went behind the experience the trauma.

12:30
Hmm, yeah. So it's, it's, it's having an opportunity for them to actually work energetically and heal, you know, some trauma that's taking place in their life. And you're kind of the guide.

12:42
Yeah, facilitating, I call it facilitating, I'm just I, I say I'm a channel I am the channel to facilitate this experience for you to help. The energy work really helps you process the emotion because we tap into the nervous system, we're able to relax the nervous system. And the energy work also expedites the healing, healing process. It because it allows your nervous system to relax, it allows more awareness around and experience than you would otherwise have. So it can happen more quickly. Because you're in a relaxed state, you can kind of connect the dots and put the pieces together a little more quickly than you would if you weren't using energy work to help process that experience or those emotions.

13:43
So I'm curious, like, you know, a lot of a lot of, you know, online entrepreneurs and coaches, you know, one of the things that I really stress when I'm talking with them is like, you know, your life is really, you know, your life and your business. Like they're there in tandem, they work together, what affects your life affects your business. If you're, if you're not in a place in your life, where you're feeling like you're worthy, or you're feeling, you know, valued or loved, or you've been, you know, going through different things in your life that outworks within your business, because, you know, at some level, we carry all of those things, you know, we are the business. So there's a lot of coaches, a lot of online entrepreneurs who are struggling with, you know, trying to figure out how do I, you know, get over this, you know, hurt or this, you know, rejection that I have been feeling, how does that work? When, you know, they come to you and they've maybe experienced some sort of rejection or wounding? How can how can you work with them to help them heal so that it actually benefits not only their life, but their business?

14:56
Hmm, that's a really great question. So So it goes back to what you were saying at the beginning of that, which is, it is all connected. So there, there is no separation between the person you are in your everyday life and the person you are in your business we bring to our businesses in our everyday lives, the same emotions and the same energy. Together and individually. So you're, again, it's not a separation between work and life. And so if there is something bothering you in your everyday life, if there's something that you haven't been able to release or process emotionally, if you've had an experience that was not, that was traumatic, like I said, either capital T, or lowercase t trauma, that can impact how we show up, and it shows up subtly. So those experiences that happen in our youth are not always remembered. And so as we go along, we develop ways of being coping mechanisms, the ways that we show up the way that we process information and emotions, without really realizing that we're even doing it in a way that's protective. And at a certain point in our lives, that becomes no longer beneficial for us to operate in that way that we had been. And it's usually around that point in time, when you're struggling with something in your everyday life or your business life, that you start to wonder why isn't this working? It's always worked before, why why doesn't this work for me now, and when I'm saying that I'm talking about either, you know, just ignoring things and sweeping them under the carpet, or just, you know, like, continuing to talk yourself up so that you can get through something that may have worked for you for a number of years, being really driven, just like having yourself scheduled to the hilt and being constantly driven. These are some of the coping mechanisms that we develop in our youth and that continue on, and they help us achieve and succeed. But then they stop. They work until they don't. And so when we arrive at that space in place where what was working before is no longer working, is when we need to start examining what is underneath that experience or that emotion that you're incurring at this stage and place in your life. So we get to with my clients, I get to what I call the bottom belief, we work energetically to understand what that programming was that bottom belief was that you've built your whole life around. And we dismantle it safely and gently. And again, this is all done through energetic healing, through awareness through conversation, and you're able to understand when we arrive in that place and space, you're able to understand how that programming worked for you before and how it's no longer working for you. And and then we build a new program that you begin to operate out of a new belief.

18:50
It's beautiful. Yeah, it's beautiful. And I know that you'd have powerful it Yeah. Powerful. I can say I can testify to that. You also work, you know, directly with relationship issues as well.

19:04
Yes, absolutely. That is the basis for how I've arrived here in this space in time, was as a result of the 25 years of relationships, four separate relationships. Like I said, there's a lot of wisdom and experience that has come from being inside of those relationships. And so I'm able to help the client identify how those patterns keep appearing not just in romantic relationships, but in our familial relationships, our friend relationships, our work relationships, colleagues, peers, that sort of thing. So yeah, I I'm able to help the client identify those patterns as well, and where they're showing up and what they look like because again, we're quite ate, oblivious to what that patterning is? Yeah, until we are in a position, like I said, where things aren't working anymore, and we're ready to address what's happening.

20:13
Yeah, exactly. So is this something that both men and women do like can do or work with you or? Yeah, rarely women are.

20:21
So in my, in my private practice, I typically am seeing women, but I have worked with men as well. This these modalities work for everybody there. They're not gender specific. So, yes. Men and women, the coaching program that I have outside of this is specifically for women who have left toxic relationships. But the Theta Healing program is for everybody.

21:00
Okay, awesome. And what is the the coaching program look like? What is that for, like you're mentioning for women?

21:07
Yeah, so I have a coaching program called the evolution path. And that was a program that was created last year for women who have left a toxic relationship. And I work with them to navigate the trauma and the drama and the chaos that you experience inside a toxic relationship. These relationships are very nuanced and very specific. And so this evolution PATH program was built specifically to help guide women who have left those relationships and want to move into that peace, clarity, calm and joy, it's, it's a very lengthy journey, when you've left a toxic relationship that requires multi layered healing. So the program that I built uses the energy healing, as well as the Theta Healing. And there's like specific components that we address inside of that program. So that's, that's the coaching program for women's specific, and then the theta healing modality is, like I said, it's for everybody, it's an amazing resource to be able to use when you're trying to take your game to the next level. So if you've, like I said, if you've noticed a pattern of behavior that's no longer serving you. And you can't really identify why you keep doing the same thing. Data healing is a fantastic modality to drill down on to what that bottom belief is usually, as a result of something that we've buried or suppressed, and then we're able to pull that and then install the new programming, or the new belief that helps you operate in your highest version, like the best version of yourself is where the theta healing modality will help you go.

23:21
Hmm, and I would like to add to that, because, you know, I've experienced it, so I'm gonna, I'm gonna give my take on it. Yeah, please. You know, it's really interesting. I think a lot of coaches and entrepreneurs are doing personal development work, right, they're doing this work in tandem with what they do, because they know how beneficial it is for their lives and for their business. But even as like a coach and somebody who is, you know, for me, you know, I'm doing all sorts of modalities I'm doing. Also, I'm working with clients doing this type of work. You know, when I think about, you know, when I'm feeling that I'm stuck somewhere, like I've come to you in multiple instances where I have, you know, said, this is where I'm at, I've done the work I've done the mindset work and now I'd like to do some more clearing and like almost like quantum leap to another level. Yeah, and I think we're Yeah, heard a lot of times we we assume that it's like well, I you know, I already do this work I don't need anything besides this, you know, like, but I would say you know, for for coaches for for people who are like have already done the work. This expedites the process, and this actually takes it to another level things that you've said to me before. Are it's easier to clear, and it's easier to do the work with you, Andrea, because you're already doing the work.

24:51
Yes, yes. I love working with people who have already started down the path as I call it. Clearing Being having those awarenesses it? Absolutely. This, like you said just changes. It's a game changer, it changes the game because it allows you to take your processing to another level.

25:13
Yeah, that's yeah, it's the integration piece of it that, you know, because a lot of times when I'm, I've come to you I already have the answer, like, I already know what, but I feel like there's something that needs to be integrated energetically, that is maybe not actually manifested yet. And that's a great place. So I just encourage people who are even doing this work, and have gotten to a place where like, yeah, this resonates with me, but I do this work. This is a great add to the work you're currently doing to what you've already done in your in your own self development, professional development, to actually move you forward, whether it be relationally, you know, for your life personally, whether it be something that you're working on yourself, so that he will help you with your business, because I think no matter how you look at it, it's going to outwork within your business. So it's going to make a big difference. And to that end, when we do that, we are able to really help our clients. And it gives us an avenue to help them and impact them even more. That's right. So

26:29
and as the old adage goes, you can't pour from from an empty cup, and particularly for coaches, your self care practice, your healing journey is critical to you being able to show up and that's actually how you and I ended up working together because you want it to be able to serve at a higher level. And clear that last little bit of debris, energetic debris that was you can feel it, but you couldn't identify it and you knew that it just needed like a little nudge, a little energetic nudge to be able to fully step into that best version of Andrea. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. And this is the thing about energy work. You are working at, again, the energetic body, so working with the chakras, but it's my knowingness and my understanding of the chakra system that helps integrate those energies into your physical body. So our chakra system has a direct impact on our physical body and our mental bodies. So more emotional, mental and physical. And when we haven't done the energetic clearing or tuneups, there is stickiness in our real lives, our everyday lives either as a coach or in our personal relationship. And it's the best way to move the needle on any situation is to examine the energetic aspect of it. That is the end. It's the quickest way if you if you want to move quickly. And yeah, get on to the next level, that the energy healing aspect of it will get you there quicker and faster than if you were to just work at the cognitive level.

28:35
Oh, for sure. Absolutely. That's actually what I started with with mindset was chakra clearing. That's kind of what got me into this field. Like it was it was through my, my natural health practitioner was introducing me to my chakra system, and I was like, what kind of magic is this? Yeah, I was like, I'm like, Are you a witch? She's like, No, she's like, No, I'm not. And I was, you know, but I can't of course came from a different background. But um, you know, I've since started to understand that it's, you know, the the chakras and clearing that really does, you know, give me that leg up when I am. Especially for someone who works in in their intuitive, you know, this is, I think so. I mean, it's important for everybody, but yeah, you know, for me, I can tell if I'm off, if something's off, I'm like, okay, something needs to move through clear. And like, it kind of feels like an upgrade for me. It's like, you know, upgrading my my software system. You know, getting the glitches out.

29:45
Yeah, exactly what it is. Yeah, that's a great way to describe it. Because you physically feel lighter and brighter. So our like I said, our chakra system is directly tied to our physical body. And so for instance, like the root chakra, which is a spot just below your tailbone is tied to your sense of safety and certainty. And when we've been made to feel unsafe for an extended period of time, however, that shows up, whether it's, you know, through financial lack, or literally safety for our physical well being, whatever that may look like that chakra is now out of balance, and you show up in the world physically, in restriction and in protection, and in lack, so when we show up that way, physically, mentally and emotionally, we're not going to be achieving those things that we are looking to achieve, we're not going to be operating at our highest and brightest. And so that's an example of the root and then it's typically the lower three chakras that are impacting our ways that we're showing up in the physical world, and that are possibly blocking our achievements at a certain point in time, through our working world or our personal world. So the sacral chakra is related to our creativity and our expression of self and our connection and relationships. So again, if there's been some sort of experience that has occurred that resulted in the experience of trauma, you know, our physical body experiences trauma as well, even though we might not register it emotionally, we may feel it physically. So again, impacting the chakras. And so there is a clearing and energetic clearing that happens to those chakras that allows your physical body to align itself to be balanced to be able to integrate, like he said, those energies and body those energies, yeah, you're operating at the brightest light.

32:17
Exactly. The highest wattage. Exactly. And that's, I think, I think it's so important for, you know, expediting the process, I think, when I look back on my coaching journey, and all the things that I have done, you know, there there is self development and personal work that that needs to be done, but you get to a certain point, and it really is important to, you know, be operating at a at a higher level. And I just know, for myself that, you know, feeling clear, energetically clear, has, you know, really shifted things for me. And it makes things faster, making things easier, it makes things burdensome,

33:02
yeah, you have a clarity you have, until clarity when you're doing the energy work that you don't necessarily have otherwise. Or you may have it and then it disappears. And then you have it again, and you think you're just tired, or you you know, haven't eaten properly, or, you know, you attribute it to all these things. When really, it's, you know, your energy field needs to be balanced and cleared out. Yeah, yeah.

33:32
And I know, absolutely, energetically, I'm the type of person who, where I'm like, I can feel the energies of other people. And I'm like, Isn't my energy is their energy? Yeah, who's you know, so I think it's so important to kind of have a space where we can. And as coaches as people who are doing this work, I think so often it feels like, well, I can do this, I can do this myself. And and I think there's a real wisdom behind saying, and being coachable. And being able to say, You know what, I can do this myself, I couldn't figure it out myself and I could get there. It's gonna take me longer if I do. Yeah. Or I can, you know, go to someone who's that's their gift, like yourself and say, Help me, help me, help me help me with

34:27
self care as a coach is a really big piece of the puzzle to being able to sustain and maintain a certain level of consistency. So being able to show up for your clients requires you to look after yourself in a way that you wouldn't have necessarily considered and I also just want to touch back on the energetics of being a coach you are you are or you are in other people's energy field. So whether you're doing energy work or not, just by the very virtue of the fact that you are engaging with another person on on a very personal level, you are your energies are getting tangled up into each other. Yeah. So because we are all energy, everything is energy you are your energies are interacting with each other. And so if you're not incorporating some some sort of self care around energy clearing, there is going to be a build up. And that's going to cause physical symptoms. Like I said, you're going to feel tired and not know why even if you've had like a great sleep, or you try to get more sleep, and you still feel tired. These are things that happen over time when you're working with other humans and not clearing yourself. So yeah, I've coaching. And I also say this to like massage therapists, anybody who's working with other humans, you're interacting with their energy. And if there's not an awareness around that, then what tends to happen is like I said, there's this built up, you get this residual or residue that starts to accumulate, and it's not yours. Like you don't know that.

36:38
You know, so funny just brought this up to me, I used to have a student voice student who'd come into a lesson. And she always bringing this crazy energy into the session. Not good. Like, yeah, you should walk in it was chaotic. Oh, yeah. And I told her one day, I was like, you needed to stop bringing that energy in here. And she said, What do you mean? And, and this is before I was doing the work? Mm hmm. So I was, but I would sense it. I was like, I don't want it. Yeah. And so now I understand how important it is to like, after every session to clear that energy myself. And to get in a place where I'm like, I ground by, they're actually doing like a releasing of it. Or I play music or I go outside or I do something that you know, physically release the energy. Yeah, back when I didn't understand. I was like, wondering, why am I getting so worked up over all of these things? never really been able to come down. It almost felt like I was constantly vibrating. Yeah. And now I understand you were. And I was like, and I was like, saying it, you know, it's It's you It's you. But really, I didn't know how to handle it. That's right. So now

37:51
it is always about us. Yeah, I didn't know that. Yeah. Yeah. And so these are the conversations that I have. I talk about how energy impacts our physical world. And one of the things I like to say one of my talking points is I like to normalize the whoo or normalize spirituality, because it does impact our everyday lives. And we when we're not aware of it, it shows up in funky ways.

38:22
Yeah. It really, truly does. And now, now that I have learned how to navigate it myself, it really has made a huge difference. Because I'm showing up differently. I'm holding space differently. I'm not carrying what my clients are going through into my day with me anymore. I'm able to release it. I noticed even like in personal relationships, you know, it's easier for me to release things there. Because I know it's like, oh, this is not necessarily about me. And I now don't have

38:57
to carry it. So well back to that clarity it gives you when you start minding your energy and doing some energy work. It gives you that sense of clarity that you don't otherwise have and you're able to discern what's yours and what other people's and you don't take things so personally and you're able to like you said clear clients energy as well. You're not taking it to bed with you were carrying it throughout the day, you know, when we when we're not aware of the distinction between our energy and other people's energy, we carry things around mentally and emotionally. We think about you know, renew, ruminate on the problem that had been discussed in the coaching session, or we feel like a sense of helplessness, possibly like we should be doing more we want to do more to help them and that all disappears when you start minding your energy and By paying attention to it, working with it, clearing it and supporting yourself energetically, you just show up in all aspects of your life much more fully and completely. And that clarity, that's the biggest piece, I think that I have found two is that peace, ease and clarity has been like, over the last three years since I've been doing this work. It has been the biggest asset and especially given everything we've gone through the last 24 months. Oh, yeah, having that sense of clarity has been huge for me. And that's, that's the piece I love. Being able to share with my clients is giving them that or not, I'm not giving it to them. But I'm helping guide them to get to that space in place where things finally make sense. And they're super crystal clear. And you are able to have answers for yourself. You make decisions choices easier. And you experience other people more easily.

41:07
Yeah, it's beautiful. It's beautiful work. Yeah. So how do people connect with you? Like how do they

41:13
Oh, okay. So illuminated joy is the business name. So I am located on the web at illuminated joy.com. I hang out mostly on Instagram. Ad eliminated joy, all one word, lowercase letters, Facebook as well. Illuminated joy, capital I capital J two separate words. places you can find me

41:44
in the search bar. Yeah, yeah. I'll make sure to link you link you up as well here. But thanks for hanging out with me and having a conversation. For doing this work. It is such an incredible and powerful work and so, so grateful that you're in this space, and that you're helping others with

42:03
it. So thank you. It's my honor. And it's my privilege. And I truly mean that when I say that, I feel blessed. And I feel so grateful that this work came into my world and that I get to share it with others now. And I'm very grateful that my life took the path that it did so that I could arrive in this space in place today.

42:27
Well, thank you, Sara. Thank you, Andrea. Wow, I just love having conversations with people who are going to continually help me in my journey of expansion. And I trust that this also helped you today as well. I really want to encourage you to connect with Sarah, this is something that has really helped me by doing these energetic sessions. And one thing that I want to reiterate is that there are often times where we've done the inner work, we've done the inner healing, we've done the mindset work, we've gone to therapy, but there are just little things energetically that just remain. And being able to go through this and to clear those chakras and that energy. quantum leaps you to the next level. And so if you're ready to go to the next level, I really encourage you to reach out to Sarah, I will put all of her information in the show notes, and you can be able to connect with her there. And I'm just so glad that you joined us today that you are hanging out with us. You know I love connecting with you. So make sure you connect with me over on Instagram, and also jump into my brand new Facebook group all those links are in the show notes. Until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live briefly.

43:49
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213 | You Have Everything You Need Right Now

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
Because as you take one step and embody that step, and that version, it just increases and increases and increases, you don’t have to jump right straight from where you are now to where you’re going. There’s going to be incremental shifts along the way, and you’re going to be able to move forward as you go.
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

Have you ever felt like you were on one of those playground spinning wheels that went round and round for what seemed like an eternity?

There you are holding on for dear life hoping and wishing that the ride will stop and that you'll be able to get off without being worse for the wear. Starting out in business feels a lot like that -- getting on a ride and holding on for dear life. Today on the podcast we're going to talk about getting off that ride once and for all -- because you already have everything you need right now.

If you're ready to elevate your mindset book a FREE 20-minute Discovery Call with Andrea: www.andreacrisp.ca/schedule

Connect with Andrea on IG: @andreacrispcoach + @the.couragecast

 
 
 
 

Listen Here:

 
 
 

Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

Andrea Crisp 0:00
Have you ever been on one of those playground spinning wheels that go round and round for what seemed like an eternity there you are holding on for dear life, hoping and wishing that the rides going to stop and that you're not going to go flying off of the wheel. You know, starting a business feels a lot like that it feels like we're holding on for dear life. And today on the podcast, we're going to talk about what that looks like when we get off that ride once and for all. Because we recognize that what we need is not on the ride. It's what we have on stable ground.

Kate 0:34
You're listening to The Couragecast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and confidence coach, author and your secret weapon.

Andrea Crisp 0:59
Hey, friend, welcome to The Couragecast. My name is Andrea, I am so glad that you are here today. You know, I have been thinking a lot about what it's like when we are living in a mindset of scarcity. And so often we think about that in terms of money. You know, when we talk about abundance, we think about living abundantly We think immediately of our finances. And although I do talk a lot about finances here on the show, I also feel like there is so much more to living in an abundant mindset when it comes to our lives personally when it comes to our lives, professionally, in basically all the ways.

And so today, I want to talk about something that I feel like we don't talk about enough. And that is that you already have everything you need right now. Which means basically, you could turn off the podcast, because you already have everything you need. But unfortunately, what happens to most of us is that we're not accessing that part of ourselves. Instead, we're living in these old programs. And we are rehearsing these old narratives, these old stories, things from our past, maybe from childhood, maybe something that someone has said to us over the course of our lives.

And we're living out of those old stories. And it really stops us from living out of a place of abundance, out of a place where we know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we have everything we need right now. And that you have everything you need right now.

Well, this became really clear to me when I started coaching, and I don't know that I recognize this prior to that, because I think I was just living more out of effect in my life. At that point, I was kind of living in a place where I thought things were happening to me. And you know, I was not in control of my life. I was not in control of my destiny. And even though I felt very purposeful in things that I did, I really felt as though I was kind of a victim to my life. While that has changed. I don't live like that anymore.

But it really took me being in this industry in the coaching space to recognize so much more about how I was living at a place where I was not accessing the best parts of myself, the most authentic parts of myself, the parts of me that were secure and safe and able to empower others. And I think that oftentimes when we start businesses, and when we get into this online industry, we think oh, yeah, like, you know what, it's going to be really easy. I'm going to just be able to make money really quickly. And things are just going to, you know, fly off the charts.

Because a lot of people on social media are actually talking about their lifestyle and how Of course, you know how easy it was for them. Which in reality, it's not, it's really not as easy as people make it seem that's just more of you know, smoke and mirrors for you to buy into the things that they're selling. But when I first started in the coaching space, I thought things were going to be easy. Like I had like rose colored glasses on I was thinking oh my gosh, this is going to be amazing. I've always wanted to be a coach and I got my certification. And I remember planning out how many clients I would see week like this is no joke. I literally wrote it down on a piece of paper.

And I was like if I had this many clients a day and then I'd have this many per week and if I charged some amount, I literally calculated hourly how much I would make. And I thought to myself, Wow, this is going to be amazing because I'm going to make more money doing this than I would at my full time job.

And so when I started coaching, and I just immediately thought, that's how it works like, right, you become a coach, or you get into this online space, and then right things just happen. And that's not what happened at all. So here, I was waiting for all the inquiries, just to like start rolling in emails to start popping into my inbox.

Nothing happened, nada. And here, I was thinking to myself, Oh, like, what have I gotten myself into. And that's kind of what I started this down hill spiral. And I was frustrated, I was frustrated and myself, I was, you know, giving into insecurity and getting into frustration. And there was this like, low level anger that I didn't even acknowledge that just kind of was there all of the time.

Because I thought things were going to be so much different. And I was looking for all of this external validation, I was looking for this external help and support in the process. And really, I didn't realize that everything that I needed, I already had. And I doubted myself. And I see so many coaches in this space, who are super qualified, who have, you know, amazing intentions, and really desire to help other people not really thriving, because they are in this place of insecurity, and doubt, maybe because of things that they've seen on social media, maybe because things didn't pan out the way they had originally anticipated. I mean, there's all sorts of reasons. But you might be in a place right now, in your own life. And in your own business, where you're like, I really was hopeful at the beginning. And I thought that I was ready.

And I thought things were going to happen so much differently. And now here I am, doubting myself very frustrated, feeling really insecure about myself. And, you know, when I was starting out, I didn't feel insecure at all at first, until things weren't going well. And then all of a sudden, I was like, Well, this must be me. And I'm, you know, doing things wrong.

And I started to play that game. And I started to, you know, let my inner critic rule my life and be basically, it really exacerbated what was already happening in my world, it just shone a light on it. And it was not something that you know, was created when I became a coach, it was just something that was magnified when I became a coach. And I think that's not often what we are looking at in our lives. But when you're in this space, in this online space, as a coach, as a mentor, in whatever capacity you are functioning as, really everything that you believe to be true about yourself is being magnified. And it comes to light, and it comes out to play. And if it's not really dealt with, then you're going to be struggling to try and figure out what you're going to be doing. Maybe hiring coaches, buying into programs, doing all sorts of things, to help you figure out how to sell more or be more all the things when really, it's an internal problem. It's an internal thing that needs to be worked out and solved.

So when I was in that place, I hired a lot of coaches, I hired a lot of programs, I didn't hire them, I just I bought into them. I mean, I have a list of a litany of things. I bought into things to help me build an email list to create a funnel to name my niche to create memberships to get better at social media, like you name it, I was buying into it. And I have to say like here, there are so many really, really good programs out there. There are so many fabulous coaches that are doing really good work. But if you're not in the right headspace to actually do the work and to hold space for what they're asking you to do, then it's almost like a futile attempt. And if you've ever done that, and you know what I mean? Then you're like, Yep, I totally get it.

Your mindset has to match up with where you're going. And if you don't hold space for that next version, that next level of yourself and of what you're capable of, then you're not going to be able to build a solid foundation for your business, for your coaching for your clients, in any way at all.

Sowhen I was in this place in my life, that's when I kind of, you know, started to see that debt was mounting, I was losing sight of what I truly wanted out of my business, I started doubting my abilities, my ability to coach even because I thought, well, if I'm failing at business, obviously, I'm a terrible coach, which was not true at all. The problem was, is that I had a lot of old negative programming that was just running in the background. And I did not know that I needed to address those mindsets that I that I needed to address those wounds. And I needed to reframe how I was seeing myself seeing others, seeing the potential in my business, seeing who I could be, and realizing that everything that I needed, I already had inside of me, I was just seeing it in a way that was not being helpful in any way, shape, or form.

So I wanted to share with you a few things, three things that I really believe are going to help you when it comes to just really building your mindset in a way that helps you navigate this industry that helps you move forward, that helps you be more confident in your coaching in your business. Because here's what they're not telling you, you are actually your biggest asset. Like you have everything in you right now you can build any kind of business you want. So doesn't really matter what they're telling you out there.

You can build whatever it is that you desire, you can move through fear while you're building a business. So it's not like you have to just stop and just work through mindset, you can actually do it in tandem, you can work in ease and flow and you don't have to hustle for your worth. And you don't have to hustle for clients. And it's not all about like work, work, work, work work, it's really about truly understanding yourself and understanding that you can call in the right clients, and then you can take aligned action to be able to call them in, and you already have everything you need. Right now. It's just a matter of activating it. So this all starts with your mindset.

So let's let's look at it in terms of like building something. So when you're building like a house or any kind of structure, if you're building it on shaky ground, then it's likely that it's not going to hold up, right, it might implode if there's you know, winds, high winds, it's going to be knocked over if you know there's a earthquake, it's going to crumble, if there is a storm, it's going to be washed away. Like I mean, think of all of the you know how we build structures, we have to build them on something that is concrete on some sort of real concrete foundation. And for you in your business, that means that your foundation is going to be built on you. And that all starts with trusting yourself. Trusting that you know that you can do it that you trust that you are capable, that you trust that you are committed to the process.

And that you know that no matter what you're going to figure out what needs to take place. And a lot of coaches lack that like that trust, they think, you know, I just need to do this or I need to hire this out or you know, maybe this person can help me figure this out because they don't really trust their own intuition, or their own decision making, or their own abilities to actually come through for themselves and for their clients. And so that that piece of trust is so so so, so important. Now, the second thing is that if you're building and you're focused on doing too many things at once, like I don't know if you've ever been on a on a job site where there's like, all these contractors are coming in on the same day. They're trying to do too many things at once.

Well, it creates a lot of chaos, and then things don't get done or they have you know, they get done with you know, shoddy you know, basically like shoddy I can't think of the word it's it's escapes me. workmanship, shoddy workmanship.

And all of a sudden, you know, it's just like chaotic. And when you think about your business in and when you're trying to do too many things at once. Like maybe you're launching a podcast while you're building a Facebook out group while you're starting an Instagram while you're trying to get clients, while you're, you know, doing all of these things, you're focused on too many things at one time, and it becomes overwhelming, it becomes chaotic, and you're not really able to pour or invest into something that is going to be lasting. So it's really, really important that, that you are staying committed and focused on building the right foundation, and building things as you go. And as you go, you can increase on those things you can add to, you can you know, start implementing more? I too, you know, I've been doing this podcast for almost five years. But I don't know that launching a podcast, at the time I did in my business was really the wisest decision.

Because I pivoted in my podcast many times, because I was pivoting in my business. So you know, when I think about, you know, when people ask me, like, should I start a podcast? I'm like, Well, do you really know who it is that you are speaking to, because if you're gonna continue to shift who you're speaking to, then what's the point of actually starting a podcast, you know, it's maybe like five steps ahead of where you want to be. So it's really important that you're focusing on what it is that you need right now. And again, that starts with your mindset. So staying committed to what it is that you are building in your business, trust, right, trusting yourself.

The third thing is, when you are on a job site, and you're seeing a building being built, you want to know that the contractors that are working on the project, that they've done this before, they're not like somebody who's literally just, you know, picked up a hammer and started to try and put something together. And so many people in this industry, tout that they are the experts in certain things. And, you know, that may just be good marketing, they might be making money, and they might even have some sort of lavish luxury, luxury lifestyle that seems like it's really bright and shiny. But at the end of the day, where is, you know, where are their results? Where's the value? What are they truly offering you and are they in integrity in their business. And so it's so important that you're getting support from coaches, from mentors, from industry leaders that really are walking in integrity. And there are a lot of them that are many, many, many I have worked with many of them, I see many of them. But it's so important that you are getting the support you need from those who are in integrity in their business.

So just kind of looking back, it's important that you lay the right foundation, that you stay committed to doing that one thing that's gonna move you forward, and that you get the support you need. And here's the thing, friend, like all kind of going back to mindset. This is so important. Because when you are building your business, when you're building your coaching practice, you really have to have the mindset that you already have everything inside of you that you need, you're going to learn and grow as you go, you're going to build the foundation, you're going to stay committed to the process, and you're going to learn and you're going to keep moving forward, and keep elevating to that next level and that next version of yourself, and you're going to do it with people who are supporting you, and really see how you can move forward and help you do that. So I hope that this has really helped you today. I think that you know, so often we're looking for that external validation from others, you know, pointing us in the right direction.

But what we truly need to remember, in this business is that, really, we have to trust ourselves. You already have everything you need right now. You can listen to your intuition and be guided by that. And trust that you know, exactly what is the next step for you? Well, friend, thanks for hanging out with me today. If we've not connected, I would love to connect with you. I'm hosting a free weekly zoom call for coaches and online entrepreneurs. And this is just a real great place to receive support, to network to build community with one another. And there are so many places where we're, you know, not really free to show up as ourselves and be authentic and kind of share what's truly going on. And this is a space for you to do that to do so it's called the mind. It's kind of easy for me to say it's called the mindset mentor circle. And there's a link in the show notes. I'd love to have you it's Wednesdays at 12pm Eastern Standard Time.

All right friends. Thanks for hanging out with me today. Until next time, remember you have everything you need to live bravely.

Kate 20:06
If you liked this episode of The Couragecast, we'd love to hear from you. Leave us a rating and review and while you're there, hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Original music and production by Steven Crilly.

212 | Embody That Next Level

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
Because as you take one step and embody that step, and that version, it just increases and increases and increases, you don’t have to jump right straight from where you are now to where you’re going. There’s going to be incremental shifts along the way, and you’re going to be able to move forward as you go.
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

Are you ready to make that upgrade in your life and in your business?

Well, what you're doing right now is probably not going to get you to that next level. So it's time to really sit down and evaluate where you want to go. And just how you're going to embody the next version of yourself.

Join me for Elevate Your Mindset - a five-week coaching program that will help you shift your mindset to attract what you desire in your life and business.

If you're ready to elevate your mindset book a FREE 20-minute Strategy Call with Andrea: www.andreacrisp.ca/schedule

Connect with Andrea on IG: @andreacrispcoach + @the.couragecast

 
 
 
 

Listen Here:

 
 
 

Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

Andrea Crisp 0:00
Are you ready to make that upgrade in your life and in your business? Well, what you're doing right now is probably not going to get you to that next level. So it's time to really sit down and evaluate where you want to go. And just how you're going to embody the next version of yourself.

Kate 0:24
You're listening to The Courageccast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and competence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

Andrea 0:48
Hey, friend, welcome to The Corage cast. My name is Andrea, I am your host, I'm also a mindset and confidence coach. And I'm really excited to chat with you today about this topic, because it is something that I have been thinking about. Of course, in my own life, I've been stepping into, I've been working through and as you know, I love to share the things that I have been out working with in my own life. And today talking about embodying the next level. Now, just the other day, I was sitting working, and I got a notification that my Mac air needed to have an upgrade. But here's the thing, it's an older Mac air, it's doesn't have a lot of memory on it. It's full to the brim with stuff. And I can't do any more upgrades, because of the amount of programs that are on my computer. And I can't afford to delete those programs off my computer. But I also can't upgrade those programs either. And I can't upgrade my actual software system, because of the fact that I have too many things running on my computer. And it has been something that I've been thinking about for a while I am constantly like shuffling things around. I'm trying to move things from here to there to hard drives. I just really know that when I'm done with something, I've got to delete it off the computer in order to have more space for something else.

Andrea 2:25
But what it does is it limits me, it limits me from actually producing better content, producing better quality things because I don't have the upgraded software. And I've been thinking about that for some time. What would it look like for me to upgrade and uplevel. And I don't want to just go to like the next version of the Mac air. I'm thinking about going back to a MacBook Pro, and really having the storage and the space and the solutions that I need, which is what I had prior to this computer.

Andrea 3:03
Now the reason why I share this with you is because so often that is where we are living, when it comes to our life and our business, we are running with old programs, we are running without an upgrade, we are running with little space, little capacity for growth. And there is no way to move forward to make traction and create momentum in our lives and in our business because we're running on these old operating systems without the ability to upgrade. Now, there may be an area of your life right now that you can think about that you know, needs an upgrade.

Andrea 3:45
Maybe it's your physical fitness, maybe it is something that comeswith business. It may be it is your relationships, maybe it's community building, perhaps it is creating more wealth, whatever it is, there's probably an area of your life where you're thinking, Oh yeah, that is like the upgrade I need. Well, here's the thing.

Andrea 4:09
We can't upgrade one area without upgrading all of the areas. So think about it. In terms of software. When I lack the ability to upgrade my computer, all of the software on my computer stays the same. Because in order for me to upgrade any one system I have to upgrade the entire system.

Andrea 4:38
And so for you if you want more abundance, or creativity, you want to be able to express yourself your message more confidently. You want to be more impactful or more influential. Be a thought leader. Not only do you have to up grade that area, but you have to to up grade, everything, your entire system has to go to the next level.

Andrea 5:08
Think about that for a moment.

Andrea 5:11
And that may be the reason why you're not taking that step, that you're not actually making the forward movement. Because the price is too high. So I want you to think about that. What would it look like for you to go to the next level, in order for you to take that step,

Andrea 5:36
you have to take a look at where you are right now.

Andrea 5:39
And when I thought about that, for my life, I was taking a look at some of the things in my life, I had, you know, recently felt more overwhelmed with how many things I was doing. And I felt out of alignment in certain areas of my business, I felt like I was, you know, not really fully taking care of my body, I wasn't really getting the sleep I needed, my eating patterns were off. I wasn't building community quite like I wanted to. And so when I started to take a look at everything in my life, I started to realize, Wow, no wonder I'm running at such a low capacity. All of these areas are really suffering. And in order for me to expand, and for me to embody that next version of myself, I really have to become aware of what I want in all those areas of my life. And for me, this expansion really started about a year ago when I joined fast foundations mastermind and I talked a lot about that on the podcast over the past year. Well, I've been out of the mastermind now for a couple of months. And of course, I noticed a huge difference right away as soon as I was done. I mean, I did need a bit of a break. It had been a lot. It was amazing. But I also felt like I kind of, you know, took a little bit of a downward turn when I left fast foundations because I did not have that support system to really up level me the way it had for almost a year.

Andrea 7:08
And so it was time for me to really consider Well, what does that take for me to now shift to that new level that I need in my life and in my business. And one of my friends, and I were talking about doing 75 heart. And if you've not heard of 75 heart, it is a fitness program that is based around doing two workouts a day, which are 45 minutes. Being on a strict eating plan, you have to drink a gallon of water, have no alcohol, read 10 pages of a book. And at the end of it all. You're doing it for 75 days. So I was like okay, yeah, this is something that I can totally commit to. But as I started doing the program, I started realizing that this upgrade that this upper level in my life was not only up leveling, my physical fitness, but it was also my eating, I was getting mental clarity. I was you know, getting more sleep, obviously, because I was more tired from all of the workouts I was doing. And all of a sudden, I started noticing that it was having an impact in all areas of my life, my business, my capacity for, you know, building more community for wanting to build more community. And I started to see that in order for me to really embody that next version of myself that I have to be very aware of where I am now.

Andrea 8:40
So I'm going to ask you a question. Where are you right now when it comes to your life and in your business? Have you been able to identify what comes next for you? Like, do you even know what that gap would be? To go from where you are now to where you want to be? I mean, that's the first step right is to identify what it is that you desire. So when I was first starting 75 hard, I knew that I had an ultimate goal of the amount of weight I wanted to lose. But within the first 75 days, my goal was 20 pounds. And I chose 20 because I felt like that was a safe, healthy amount to lose. But I also felt as though it was a challenge for me to do so. And I had to start to see myself as that person who was 20 pounds less. And what would it take for me to close that gap between where I am now and where I desire to be.

Andrea 9:43
So once you have identified where you're at, then you start to see okay, well what comes next? Where do I want to go? And how am I going to take a step into that next version of myself and then how can I embody that version of myself. And this is where the mindset work came in for me when it came to 75 hard because at first I was doing all the workouts, I was drinking all the water I was eating, you know what I was supposed to be eating, everything was going great. But then I started to plateau. And the reason why I plateaued was because I had not been doing the mindset work required to release the old version of myself, and to really step into that new version of me.

Andrea 10:35
And so I had to start to, you know, see myself as who I was, but also start seeing myself and embodying the version of the woman that I am going to be 20 pounds less, what is she doing? How does she feel about herself? Where is she going, What Is she capable of, at 20 pounds less. And it's not just the the 20 pounds, it's really having achieved the goal, it's having, you know, gotten to that place where she feels more confident, more self assured, and, you know, is excited about buying summer clothes, I mean, all the things, right.

Andrea 11:11
And I think it's really important that we're able to see where we want to go. So let's bring it back to you know, business. Because when I started to shift my business and start to coach coaches, it wasn't a natural transition. At first, I knew that that was something I wanted to do. But I had been coaching women in their purpose, and women who wanted to leave their nine to fives and kind of come into more purposeful career for themselves. But now I was stepping from that into coaching coaches, and I knew that that was where I was supposed to be. But in order for me to actually attract those coaches into my business and into my world, I had to embody that next level version of myself, or else, I would just continue to attract the clients that I had been working with up into that point.

Andrea 12:09
So I had to, first of all, start seeing myself coaching influential coaches, and I had to envision myself, you know, working with them and envision who they were, what kind of characteristics they had I had to start working on myself and up leveling my knowledge base. So for me, that was learning NLP. And it was, you know, really getting a handle on some new coaching certifications, so that I had more tools to be able to help coaches in a better way.

Andrea 12:46
I had to take a look at what I was offering, you know, was that something that they were going to want? Would it resonate with them? Would they want to actually be in those programs, and then I had to start showing up as that influential coach myself. And that is where the mindset piece really, really kicked in for me. So you see that all of this relates to one another, whether it's your physical fitness, whether it is your business, whether it is abundance, wealth, mindset, relationships, that doesn't really matter. But we're always moving forward. And all areas of our lives will move forward as we start to tackle even one. So I have some questions that I want to leave with you today. And I want you to think about Degas, if you're going to step into that next level version of yourself and really, truly embody that version, you have to number one, release, what is holding you back, kind of like the upgrade system, right?

Andrea 13:50
So for me, you know, going through my computer system, like deleting files, deleting pictures, and all sorts of things leaving music, well for you, it's more about, you know, really letting go releasing old thoughts, old ways of being old habits, things that you have been doing, because what you are doing now is not going to get you where you want to go.

Andrea 14:15
And that really requires you to take a look at what is holding you back right now. Are there mindsets holding you back? Are there environmental influences holding you back? What's holding you back, currently keeping you from embodying that next version? Number two, get really, really clear on who you want to become and how you want to make an impact.

Andrea 14:43
Take a look at how would you be thinking, what were you what would you be doing? Who would you be hanging out with? How would you feel about yourself in this new version? Because I would bet money that this new version of or self is more confident and self assured, then the the version of you now, how is the new version of you impacting others in the same way you are now? Or is it at the next level, right. And if we're really clear on what that is, then it's easier for us to get there, then be like, Well, I don't really know, maybe I'll be doing this, maybe I'd be doing that just get super, super clear on what that is. And then of course, number three, take action, you've got to actually do, you've got to do the work, you've got to put action in the embodiment piece. You can't just manifest it into being or think it into being or prayer or hope it or wish it into being. It's so so important that as you get clear on what it is you desire. And as you release those old limiting beliefs and those old patterns that are holding you back, that you start taking action, moving towards where you want to go, and how you can start embodying that next level version.

Unknown Speaker 16:05
Because as you take one step and embody that step, and that version, it just increases and increases and increases, you don't have to jump right straight from where you are now to where you're going. There's going to be incremental shifts along the way, and you're going to be able to move forward as you go. But it is so important that if you really truly want to make an impact, and if you want to start moving forward, as a coach, as an entrepreneur, in your business and in your life, because they both go hand in hand, you're going to have to start embodying that next level version of yourself now.

Andrea Crisp 16:45
Alright, friend, thanks for hanging out with me. I love to connect with you. If you haven't already joined the mindset mentor circle, which is our free weekly call, I'd love to have you. The link is in the bio. We meet on Wednesdays at 12pm and is a great place for you to get the support that you need for you to just really troubleshoot anything that's going on in your life and in your business. And really to network with like minded entrepreneurs and coaches in this space. I just love creating this community and so I'd love for you to take part in it. And make sure of course that we connect over on the Graham at at Andrea crisp coach. Okay friends, until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live briefly.

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211 | The Beauty of Rejection

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
Rejection is an opportunity for you to grow and change as a person and as an entrepreneur.
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

Have you ever faced hurt or rejection in your business? Or better yet have you been the person to hurt others?

In this podcast we are talking about the hurt and rejection we face in the coaching and online industry.

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

Andrea Crisp 0:00
At one time or another, we face hurt or rejection of some sort. And oftentimes, we take a look at what that looks like within our friendships or our intimate relationships, we don't often look at what that looks like in our peer relationships or our coaching relationships. So today on the podcast, I am talking about how to move through hurt and rejection in our life. And the beauty and growth that comes when we do.

Kate 0:31
You're listening to The Couragecast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and competence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

Andrea Crisp 0:56
Hey there, welcome to The Couragecast, my name is Andrea Crisp, I'm thrilled that you have joined me today, we're gonna be talking about something that can sometimes feel pretty heavy. But I hope that through the course of this conversation today, that it really helps encourage you, if you have been through something in your life, a hurt or rejection, whether it's in real life, or in the online space.

You know, I started coaching over 10 years ago, and I had my first real hurt as a coach early on, probably within the first year. And I talked about this on a live that I did on Instagram just this week, actually. And if you want to go ahead and listen back to that you can you can find me on Instagram at @andreacrispcoach. But I will give you a little bit of the story. One of my friends was also really interested in coaching. And so she asked me where I had gotten my certification. So I told her where it was because I was raving about my trainer and my coach. And you know, I was super excited to be, you know, starting my coaching career. And this particular friend of mine was like, she was like one of those people who's a boss, like she had been an entrepreneur for years. And she just I don't know how this charisma about her.

Well, anyway, she ended up getting certified. And towards the end of her certification process, she asked if I wanted to be involved in something that she was doing. And I gotta tell you, when she asked me, it really triggered me. And I was like, What do you mean, you want me to be a part of something you're doing? I think because I had gotten certified first. And, you know, I really wanted to be successful first. Let's just real talk, right? And so I ended up, you know, thinking to myself, like no, like, Absolutely not. And I'd ever really told her that. Instead, what I did is I just ghosted her. And for years, I never really talked about what had happened, or why I did what I did. And it wasn't until many, many years later that the situation kind of came to a head. And I'll get to that a little later.

But today, I wanted to talk about what happens when we encounter something in the online space as an entrepreneur or as a coach, that feels really wounding. And I know that we've probably all have been there, whether we've been on one side or another. And so I want to speak a little bit to both, because I think that's, you know, the case for many of us, you know, there are times in our career or times in our lives where we do something, whether unintentionally or inadvertently, that hurts somebody else. Or we're on the receiving end of somebody else being triggered by something that is going on in their own life. And so whether you have been on either side, I think it's really important to take away some really big lessons from these opportunities, because I think these are always opportunities for us to take a look inward to see what's really stopping us what's holding us back from moving forward. Is there an area that we can be growing in? Is there something that you know, is going to help us be a better entrepreneur, a better coach, a better human? Right?

So the very first thing that I want to talk about today is what happens when you are feeling like you have been hurt by somebody else in the coaching industry or, you know, maybe you've hired somebody and they weren't exactly what you hoped they would be and you've spent a lot of money in the process and you're feeling a little bit down and let down by the whole situation. Maybe You are, you know, feeling as though you are duped, you know, you bought into something and they just did not deliver on what they said they were going to deliver, perhaps you bought a course or a program or just you know, something that somebody didn't show up as their best. And you got the brunt of that, and then you felt really hurt? Well, the first thing I want to say is, when stuff like that happens, it really is an invitation to really take a look at what it is that we need to learn about ourselves. Now, oftentimes, we want to make it about that other person, we want to say, well, they were just a bad coach, or they, you know, weren't trustworthy, or they didn't have integrity in the business, or, you know, they were this or that.

And the next thing, and when we do that, what we're actually doing is we are taking away our power and giving it to them. And really just like letting it go saying, I care, go ahead have my power, you know, and trust me what I say, I have been in the position because I have been in the position many times where I felt like I didn't get what I paid for. And I felt really hurt. And some of these people were people who I really, you know, had close relationships with prior to even hiring them.

And for a long time, what I did was I kind of sat in this victim mentality of, you know, this happened to me, and look at how terrible that person is, or, you know, they are out of integrity, or they lack values, or they lack character, whatever, whatever you're, you're going to think about that person. And I did not take the time to look inward at myself, and go, Well, what was really stopping me from getting what I needed out of that time, what was stopping me from reaching a little deeper digging a little deeper into myself to, you know, find out what it is that I need out of this relationship out of this program out of this course.

Why was I not, you know, upfront and forthcoming about what I was feeling or what I needed, or what I felt was lacking. And I'll and oftentimes, when we do that, it really opens up the opportunity for that other person to speak into that, you know, maybe they need to learn something, maybe it's about the growth of both people. But whatever it is, there's always something to learn about ourselves.

Now, I want to tell you another little story about a coach that I had not that long ago. Now, I was getting over some of this hurt that I'm talking about. Gosh, it was taking me for years, like I really, really avoided I pushed it away to the side, and I'm not gonna lie. But I hired a friend of mine who was a confidence coach. And I remember at a certain point, she did something in one of our groups that really triggered me. And I say she did something. But at the end of the day, it's her business and what she did, you know, she was totally entitled to do. But what I did in response to that was I kind of, you know, sent her an email that I really didn't think too much about, and I just kind of shared how I was feeling and blurted it all out there. And she was so gracious and so kind. So she responded back to me. And she said, How about we get on a conversation, a call. And so we ended up talking through what had happened. And I was able to tell her, you know what, hey, listen, I guess there's some wounding in me still, that I haven't really addressed. And, you know, this is really bringing it up, it triggered me and now I have been forced to actually face this hurt that I've already been facing, just wasn't willing to deal with.

And so through the conversation with my coach at that time, she was able to be the person who helped me to move through that. And she didn't do it intentionally to hurt me. It was just something that had happened. And I was triggered by what it was. And it was an opportunity for me to learn more about what I needed in my life, the healing that still needed to be addressed, and to really start to reframe those old stories that I had been playing about the hurt. And I'm so grateful for that opportunity and that she took that time to do that. And to this day, I think it was such an important lesson for me. And I believe even for her because, you know, she told me that there were things that were happening in her own world that it was helpful that I spoke up even if I didn't speak up, probably the best way that I could have You know, there's always a good way in a bad way.

I think I chose Bioware for this one. But anyways, I digress. So number two, when hurt happens in relationships, it makes room for the people in our lives who really, truly need to be there. Like I mentioned in the previous point, this particular coach that was in my life, you know, obviously, she was somebody who I needed. And it helped me to really move through that particular issue. But what else it did for me was it pointed out that I had outgrown our relationship. And so it was time for me to move on.

So when it came time for me to renew that particular coaching relationship, I knew that I needed to go elsewhere, because I had outgrown what we were doing. And it was time for me to move on. And I think so often, we want to be so loyal to people that were willing to, you know, just stay in the relationship or willing to put up with whatever it is that's going on. Because we don't want to cause any waves, we we don't want to hurt them. We don't want to be hurt, we don't want to face any kind of you know, uncomfortability in any kind of the situations. So we just don't say anything, we stay in the relationship. But what hurt does, when it happens, what rejection does is it opens us up to being able to evaluate who needs to be in our lives, and who has, you know, moved on or needs to move on in our lives. And here's the thing about that.

Oftentimes, we want to feel like, okay, I just want to push them to the side. And you know, like, thanks for being here. But you know, I don't need you anymore. And that's not always the case. I think that sometimes when we outgrow people, it's a good thing. We've worked with them for a reason. And now we have grown to maturity, and we're able to move on. And that's okay. And so when we get to that place, you know, when we're working with someone, and we've outgrown them, we have to realize that, you know, we can say thank you so much, this has been amazing. You're amazing. I'm gonna keep referring you to other people that I know, need you. But I feel like I need something different within my life and within my business right now. And similarly, there are times when we're working with clients, that the same thing is happening, like someone is outgrowing us. And, you know, we might be you know, like, well, I'll take it personally, like, does that person, you know, did I do enough for them, you know, was I showing up the way I needed to show up as a coach for them. And so often we take things way, way, way too, personally, we have to realize that yeah, it's okay when people outgrow us, and it's okay, when we outgrow others, it just makes room for the people who need to be in our lives. And the universe always delivers that next person. And point number three, it shines a light on areas of growth that we need to be focused on within our lives. And that is the biggest thing, you know, you could be in any kind of relationship and when things go south, and things are really not working out the way you had hoped they would work out. That is an opportunity for you to take a look at how you can grow in your own life. Is there an area that you've been neglecting? Is there something that you have kind of been pushing to the side that you can start seeing as a potential area for you to move through and mature in and start to gain traction and momentum in your life through growth. And that happened to me not that long ago, when I was in a pure relationship with somebody. And I realized that, you know, through, you know, some conversations that we had, like things just weren't gelling anymore. And, you know, I was like, Oh, I don't know how to handle this. And I was like, you know, what, what do I do next. But what it revealed to me was that there was an area of growth that I needed to grow in, in my life, and she could not hold space for me in that area. And I needed somebody who could hold space for me in that area. So I was able to get the attention and get the help and support that I needed from somebody who had already been through that. And who had already achieved the things that I wanted to achieve in my own life. So sometimes those you know, uncomfortable situations really give us an opportunity to see where we can grow in our lives and in our business. So, okay, those three things, teaches you more about yourself. makes room for who needs to be there and shines a light on an area of growth that you might need to work on. So what do we do? Once this has happened, right?

Well, here's two things that I want to suggest to you that will help you as you're moving through periods of hurt or rejection within your life, especially when it comes to peer relationships within your business. So the very first thing is you want to release them graciously. And one of the things that I have started to doing and I absolutely love this, I do this now, with my client calls, I do this so many times in my week, and it's just really become a practice for me that it feels so good. And it's an energy clearing. So we want to release them energetically, because we want to allow them to be able to move on as well. So what I do is I use the whole upon upon a prayer, and that's a Hawaiian prayer of forgiveness. And it is just such a beautiful practice. There's meditations that you can find on this, but it's really very simple.

So the first thing is, is you just say, I love you. And you allow yourself to truly, truly get those feelings of love towards that person and project that towards that individual. And then the second thing is, you say, I forgive you. And oftentimes, like, it's not something you're bringing up that, you know, you particularly want to forgive them about, but just like forgiving them for maybe you know, what it's caused in your life. And then the third is, I'm sorry, so you're kind of turning that back around on you and saying, all right now I'm sorry, for what I might have done, that would have, you know, wounded you or cause you to not be in, in full alignment with who you're created to be.

And then the fourth thing is, I release you. And this is something that I do with my students with my clients. And it really, really helps me to release energetically, anything that is lingering, so that I can make space for what it is that I do desire, my life, those people that I want to be in that space. And then following that, I would say, it is so important that you focus on what it is that you do desire within your life. Because when you're focused on the hurt, when you're focused on you know, how wounded you feel about a particular situation, or the loss of a friend, what you're doing is you're energetically attracting more of that into your life. So it's so important that you go through this releasing process that you go through, you know, asking yourself these questions, you know, how am I being taught about this? How, what is there for me to learn out of this particular situation? Who needs to be in my life? And how can I grow. And those questions will really help you to start moving through some of the hurt and rejection or even just really uncomfortable relationships that you might have found yourself in. And then when you really do know what it is that you desire, you can start focusing on that, on creating those relationships on attracting them into your life. And here's the beauty of this, we're talking about hurt. But in so many ways we can be talking about anything else in our lives. When we focus on what we desire, we attract more of that into our lives. So at the beginning of the podcast, I told you about this, you know, a situation that I had been in with a friend years and years ago. Well, as it turns out, we had both been invited to be on a radio show for a mutual friend. And so we showed up at the radio station. And we were sitting in the waiting room, just the two of us waiting to go in to the show. I was going to be interviewed first and she was second. And it was so funny, because here we were, hadn't really, really spoken in years. But we had been brought together by a group of mutual friends. And I just had the conversation with her. I brought it up and I just said, Hey, listen, I need to apologize. And I need to really just tell you, I'm sorry. Like at that time of my life. I was insecure. I wasn't sure what I was doing. And you know, I didn't handle the situation well at all. I should have handled it much better. And through that conversation again. She was super gracious and we were able to you know, have resolved in the relationship. And to this day, we are friends. And that's the beauty of being able to really work through hurt and rejection and uncomfortable situations, in peer relationships in our lives.

Oftentimes, it takes a little bit of humility in order For us to do the right thing. But at the end of the day, there is so much that can be learned. And generally speaking, it's about us. Alrighty, I hope this is helping you if you're going through something in your own life that you can start to move through that. I love to chat with you, if you are having difficulty doing that, or you're just really feeling really triggered. There's things in your past that are still holding you back. And you're just really wanting to release those things. I'd love to, you know, book a session with you and walk you through some time techniques and really get you in a position where you can release those limiting beliefs, those things that have been holding you back. So reach out to Andrea crisp.ca forward slash schedule and we can book a time together. Friend, I'd love to hanging out with you today. And until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live briefly.

Kate 20:52
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