Andrea Crisp 0:00
Do you ever feel like your messaging just isn't landing with your ideal customer, and you're wondering if only I could figure out what I truly want to say. Today on the podcast, I'm talking with Rachel Weaver who is a genius when it comes to copy, and human design. And this is the episode that we all need to hear. In order for us to truly stand in our authority, and market our words with ease.
Kate 0:32
You're listening to The Couragecast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and confidence coach, author, and your secret weapon.
Andrea Crisp 0:58
Hello, friends, welcome to the courage cast, I am so glad that you are here with me today. And I've got a really incredible episode for you. We're going to be talking with Rachel Weaver today all about how to write copy from our human design. And this is something that I have only recently been introduced to and honestly, totally blowing my mind, totally blowing my mind. And Rachel really helps us to understand the different parts of human design, as well as how we can use it within our marketing, specifically when it comes to what we're writing, and how we're putting our words out into the world. And so you are going to absolutely get so much from this conversation. So without further ado, here's my conversation with Rachel Weaver. Rachel, thank you for joining me on the courage cast. I am so glad to be chatting with you today. Thanks. I can't wait for people to get to know you. Honestly. Thank you for being here.
Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited for conversation.
Hello. I just love talking sowell, then you're in the right.
Yes.I like listening.
You know, it's it's funny. The listeners may not know this, but unless unless they've like watched my stories or even read some of my posts in Instagram. But we tried to record this episode about a week ago. And right in the middle of the episode, we probably like 30 minutes into the conversation. I had this like overwhelming sense to stop the podcast recording. And and I asked you if that would be okay with you. And you graciously said yes. And I was really overwhelmed. It was me. It was all me. Yeah. And I've never done that before. And I just want to thank you for coming back. Even though you're rudely interrupted the first not really at all, um, it was it? Honestly, I could feel that there was a difference in your voice when the first time we had talked the week before that. So I'm glad that you said something. And I will never ever, like go against someone's intuition. If their intuition is telling them something, then oh my gosh, like by all means, listen, let's read. Let's come back to this. revisit it later. Yeah, yeah. And I wanted to bring that up, because I think it's important to our conversation today. Because you are all about human design, you do copy and writing for people, and also just helping them understand a little bit more about how they can communicate through human design, knowing their own human design, and I'm sure we'll get to that.
But a lot of that does revolve around energy. And, you know, the energy that we're in. And I had, previously to our conversation had, you know, launched the 200th episode of the podcast, and then two days later, put out an additional episode, which I never do. I never launched two episodes in a week. And I was really, really exhausted. My energy was very drained. I was coming from a place that felt very depleted. Yeah. And I know when you're working with people, you probably talk a lot about the energy that they're in. Why is it important that people are in the right energy for them, when they are doing things in their business in life? I think the start Yeah, it's a great place to start. I think when you have two people doing the same actions, and they don't get the same results, right? We hear all the time like gurus are telling you do this, this and this and you can copy what they do verbatim but not get the same result as them. Why?
Because your energy isisn't in alignment in that moment, when you're doing those actions, there's like a head and heart coherence that needs to happen. where your head is on board, your heart is on board your desires, and you're actually moving towards something that you truly desire. Not just like ego, one ego, want, desire, but what you truly, truly desire. And I think we get lost in that. But yeah, really understanding.
Rachael Weaver 5:26
I think the hardest part is understanding and knowing what energy you're in, in the moment, because it isn't always blatantly obvious, like, sometimes it is when you're just crabby, right? Or you're just happy and excited, right? Like, those are the easy ones. But there's subtler differences, too, when you're just doing your thing, you're just in your business working on things. And you don't necessarily realize the undertone of your energy, and what you're putting out there. It could be an undertone of frustration that like you're been writing these things, and nobody's really posting, but you got to post anyway, like, you really have to be cognizant and aware of what's going on in your head. Because that'll give you an idea of what your energy is doing.
Andrea Crisp 6:10
So if somebody you know, like, we're talking about that, you know, that, you know, feeling maybe emotion that somebody might feel when they are about to put something out into the world, like, you know, could be social media posts could be a podcast episode.
What What should someone look for when they are about to do that? Yeah. Are there things that they can just even like? Start a starting point? Yeah, I think the starting point is, what is your intention with posting? What is your intention? That's really right. It's really,what is your intention? Or is your intention just to post because you feel like you need to post something? That's not going to be the best energy is your intention? Because you are wanting to share what your offer is? Okay. Are you excited to share it? Or do you feel like, oh, I don't have any clients lined up, I need to go post something, because I need to get some clients booking. Right? Like, what is the intention behind the post? From the get go? Yeah. So there's a lot of, you know, people who are, you know, at the beginning stages of their business who maybe don't, like you said, have a client that's lined up. And I think that they, that's when you get into that spinning cycle of like, you know, I don't have anybody coming. So what do you usually suggest to somebody who's in that position where maybe they're starting out, and they're not seeing people engage right away? And yeah, what would you say to that? Well, it's honestly, it's like anybody that pivots in their business, or they change the message, you kind of, it takes a certain amount of time for people to catch up with you and realize what you're doing. So you can feel like you're talking incessantly about something you are. So in your business, your the energy is intense that you're like, I this is what I'm offering that right, you're, it's feels big to you, but what you're actually putting out there is only like one or two posts here or there. And not everybody sees it, because algorithms and whatever. So what you're actually putting out there doesn't match what you think you're putting out there. Does that make sense? Like, yeah, and so in the beginning, yeah, you got to talk incessantly about what you do. And when you pivot, and you change your message a little bit, I'm famous for this, I changed my message, I pivoted, I think, like three or four times in the last two years.
Rachael Weaver 8:34
And it, you have to take a step back and really lay the foundation again and tell people what you're doing. And it takes them a few weeks to catch up with you incessantly talking about it. And then they're like, oh, okay, then you can back off a little bit, then you have like, what you call, like, you're known for something specific, right? But you have to talk about it all the time in the beginning, the first little bit, right? And in the energy of like, I'm just really excited to share that I can do this for you that I can help you with this. Now, is there ever a time that somebody can share out of maybe a little bit of frustration or angst, and have it be a good thing?
Um, I'm sure there is. But I think ultimately, the, the outcome you want is not in that energy. You write like, you can get people contacting you off of posts that you wrote when you were frustrated. But are those your ideal clients?
Maybe not, maybe they're people that maybe you were stuck in the pain of frustration, right? So you put this post out there, and then the people you get coming to you from that post are second frustration themselves and can't figure out how to get out. And okay, yes, wehelp people through their frustration.
But there's a difference between people that are ready to hear what you have to say and ready to, to work on that frustration and get out of it, right? versus people that are just stuck in a story and can't get out of it no matter what you say. Right. Okay, so So I guess what I, what I'm understanding or hearing you say is like, if you're frustrated with something and you want to talk about that topic, then it's probably a good, like, you know, take, you know, take that topic and kind of put it to the side for a little bit until your frustration eases and then talk about it from a place that you're in a better energy. Yeah, that would bring a better result, a better result that, you know, then just out of frustration, is that yeah, and I think it still comes back to the intention of why do you feel like you need to say this? What is the intent behind saying this? Yeah. And if so, yeah.
Yeah, there's like, for example, I just know, the like, lately, there's one particular person I follow, I will obviously not tell who this person is. She's the coach, she makes a lot of money. And she's been not well, and she talks about that a lot on her Instagram. And, and then she's selling as she's talking about it. You know, I haven't I haven't been well, and I'm selling and selling. And like, for some reason, I at the beginning, when I first started following her, I was finding a lot of value out of what she had to offer. And then the more she was talking to me about not feeling well. I tuned out. Yeah, yeah. And I was like, Oh, I don't know that I really want to work with you. Yeah. Is that kind of what you're talking about? I mean, he had it.
You can't go off of what other people do, because number one, we may not be the best client for them. We may not be what the type of person they're trying to reach, right?
Maybe we are. And but you have to kind of look at what other people are doing and discern like, does this sit well with me? Do I? Do I? Am I attracted to this? Or am I not in my pulled away from it? Right? And just trust your own judgment of the energy in in a way that it's they do whatever they want to do? And that's fine, right? Like there's no judgment or shame on what they do. It's just that doesn't resonate with me. But what does resonate with me? How do I want my people to feel when they're reading my stuff? What is the intent behind me helping them? Right? If there's an intent of like, I need to make money?
Andrea Crisp 12:48
Yeah, so somebody is not necessarily going to write that. But that comes through. Yes, the intent of needing to make money that neediness comes through. Yeah. And how does that come through? Like Wait, like, wait, I'm so curious. I think it's more than just feeling I think people don't give enough credit to how they feel. So somebody may read a post, okay. So say I write a post them like, I really need to make some money. Like, I'm like, things are getting really serious around here, we got some bills to pay, but you know, I'm really worried about him, right? So I'm going to put up these posts, I got it, I, I can sell this program, I know I can, I'm going to put it out there. And if your intention and thought is I need to make money, it gives it a desperate energy in the post. So not you could have it literally could say the exact same thing, but with a different intent and different energy behind it, and it will reveal different results. That's what we're talking about.
Okay, so that's why it's important to do the work the inner work. Yeah, yeah. Because you can, you can literally say the same thing, but it has a different energy behind it, and it will attract different people. And I think when your intent is to truly help people and to truly just give your service, then I feel like the universe lines up behind you and was like, Alright, let's do this. And it'll help you with the algorithm like they're getting it out and in front of the people that need to see it, it the universe will help you and support you in doing that. But if your intent is more scarcity, and I need to make money and I need to make this business work, then the universe is behind that too. But it's going to deliver it to people that are in that same frame of mind, and those are not the best clients to have. Those are the refund seekers. Yeah, I have two two friends that come to mind that are both amazing and both that operate at a very different energy frequencies like in the sense of like, how their personality comes across. And one is very calm and very peaceful and the other one's a little bit more like you know, hard hitting you
You know, doesn't take any, you know, shit off anybody? Yeah. And I'm equally drawn to them. Yeah. For what they do. One does completely different thing than the other person. Yeah.
But it's so interesting because, you know, like, it's not about the personality, right? Like, it's not about your personality, it's about the energy. Exactly. Yeah, you can be soft spoken and introverted. And just softer, right? Like, you're not that bold in your face kind of person with beautiful energy behind you with an intent of just to share your gifts, and you will be just as successful as somebody that is bold in your face doesn't take shit. And if long is their intent is again just to serve what they're what they their gifts are. And yeah, yeah, it doesn't matter what your personality is the
Rachael Weaver 15:52
Your personality is amplified by the energy behind it.
Andrea Crisp 15:56
Oh, that's good. Wow, that's good. Your personality is amplified by the energy behind it. Yeah, that's really good. Yeah. Oh, my gosh, okay, that's really good.
I'm thinking about, you know, just even, you know, the past, how maybe I operated or shared my, my voice or my story. And for many, many years, probably was afraid to be who I truly was. And I think there are these sides of me, that I feel are more approachable. Yeah. So it's like, it's easy to put out the side of you, that feels approachable. And then the side of you that is a little bit like, more intense, I would say.
So the side of me that was more intense. I wanted to kind of like, rein that in, because I was so afraid of that intensity being off putting that I only allowed my, the part of my personality that is going to be like approachable. Yeah. And spent a lot and but now that I'm thinking about that, and it's like, I never really allowed the intense part of me come through with the right intention.
Yes, held it back. Yeah. So I just stopped it completely. So never really being as truly authentic as I could. Because, yeah, I thought, Oh, that is going to put people off me. When really, if my intention is in integrity. I hear you saying, Yeah, then it's going to attract the people who need to hear it anyways, because it's not necessarily how I'm saying it. It's about the intention and the energy that's behind why I'm saying yeah, absolutely. Yeah. We all have like multiple voices within us. I myself, like I played a lot when I had a photography business. I was either like really sassy, and kind of cocky, almost to being very flowery, flowery and poetic. And, like two very different.
And it's so funny, because I can see both out of Yeah. Yeah, it's kind of like, this is what my clients see in this. This is what my friend group sees. Mm hmm. Yeah. And, and, and like, could you marry the two? Yeah, like, can you marry the two in business, you can marry the two. And again, it comes always back to intention for me the sassy, cocky one came out when I was feeling scared. And not in control. That's when the sassy girl came out. The flower girl came in when she was like, Yeah, that's good. It's like peace, love from the 70s. Like, yeah.
Rachael Weaver 18:50
Um, yeah. So it was, it was how I was feeling the mood that I was in depended on the voice that came out. So I had a lot of work to do to figure out like, what?
What was going on there? Um, but mostly, yeah, you can bring the two together, and understand that they're all part of you. And they get to have a voice. But you get to decide like, ultimately, in what energy am I going to deliver this voice? Mm hmm. Today, I was working on launch plan for one of the groups that I'm gonna offer in the spring. And I was trying to make a decision between launching it soon. Or a month later, like 30 days later, it was either going to be now or later.
Andrea Crisp 19:43
And I had a video of kind of a launch strategy that I was going to rewatch and it's really good. But as I was watching it, and I was writing things down, and I was like, thinking to myself, this is really, really but it doesn't feel like it's where I'm at. So I turned the video off, and it turned some music on. And I just started to sit there and I'm like, Okay, I'm going to tune into my own intuition here. Like, what is my intuition telling me? Yeah. You know, do I need to launch it now? Do I need to launch it? Right. I guess the question is right now. Yeah, like not Yeah, you know? And
I was like, No, yeah, I don't. Yeah. I mean, financially, yes. You're like, obviously, like, the sooner the better, you launch something, right? They take messy action. But in the same way, I was like, No, that doesn't feel in integrity with where I'm at. And what what I want to put out, I want to put out something that feels really aligned. And, and so as I was doing that, I was like, I stopped doing the planning process, and I just kind of decided to dial it back and like, go and clean, do some other things. And just allow myself to settle a bit so that I could get the download of what it was that needed to come through. Yeah.
When you're doing, you know, launching or any kind of sales pages or anything, like how, how do you want to be when you're in that process? for myself or for clients? Either or who, um, for myself, and I know, what I've really learned this last year is that there is a dance between taking messy action and listening to your intuition, right? And it comes back to are you willing to step fully into yourself and who you're becoming? Because every time that I've held back, or I felt like no, now's not the good time, is because I wasn't ready to step into fully who I am. And for whatever reason, right, like you.
Rachael Weaver 22:11
And you can unpack that. And now that I see that, when I come to a spot where I'm like, Well, why don't I want to do this? Like, why do I need to hold back? And it's usually because like, No, I'm, I'm holding my own self back. Because I'm not ready to step into who I am. And then then it's asking, Well, what do I need to step into this? What do I need to feel supported? And then I can step into this. And then usually everything kind of the dominoes all fall into place.
For clients, it's really sussing out understanding, where are they at right now? With their message? Where do they want to go? And why are they not stepping into it right now? What's holding them back? What's scaring them, and giving them anxiety, that if they step into that full version that they know is there, right? It's almost like you're on the end of a dock. And life, as usual, is behind you. And you can see a glimmer of what's possible out there in the water, but it's fogged over. And you have you can put one foot in the boat and one foot on the dock and it's super wobbly. You're like wobbling back and forth, back and forth, back and forth, right? And the fog is kind of there. But then it clears and comes back and you're just in this like back and forth, back and forth, back and forth energy. But the second you commit and jump in that boat, the boat settles, and you can sail out and the fog clears. Right.
So it's understanding. Are you on that dock right now? Or you're just Yeah, I can't.I'm scared. Yeah. Oh, are you? Are you legitimately waiting for a download? I think honestly, the universe will give you a download the second you are ready for it. So if the download was not there, then what's missing? Like, what are you not stepping into?
Andrea Crisp 24:10
That's good. That's really good advice. When I was I think that I can I can apply that in my own life even just thinking about I have been putting off launching.
But today I was Today felt like the first day that I'm like, No, I feel I feel like I could do that. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Like, like, like you said, I didn't have words for it, like stepping into that version of myself. That embodied that Yeah. Instead of feeling I think before there was a part of me that was like, knew I wasn't there. I was, you know, and so it was like, Okay, I better not do it because no I better not to but that's just how it felt like yeah, that was the the dialogue in my mind, but
Um, now is this different for different types in human design? Like, we haven't really like chatted about that. But yeah, there are different types. Yes know much about human design. Yes. What does that mean? When you're, you're actually working with human design, and you're messaging, both. So when I'm looking at someone's chart, I can tell what's likely to hold them back and make them not want to commit or be scared to commit.
Rachael Weaver 25:29
And that's the openness, the white part of your chart, right. And when we can step more into the defined areas in our chart, those wobbles become less, they become easier to go, Okay, I see what's happening here. But you have to be in your energy, we're the white parts, you are conditioned by the world around you. So if you have an open head and open agina on the two at the top, like you can overthink things all the time you identify, yeah, in then you identify with those thoughts, you're like, well, if I'm thinking this, then I must not be ready, right. And that's not the case at all, it's just your head doesn't have anything, a way to process that information in a consistent way. So it kind of goes haywire until you see what's happening, and then you can rein it in.
And I've also seen where defined areas defined channels to your throat, can be shut down with conditioning as well. So like, if you have a channel from your, the will center to the throat, it's very much I want, this is what I desire. It's very, it's ego, but it's ego from a higher place. But it comes off in our world being very ego driven, like you are very determined to have what you want, right? If you grow up in a household that doesn't allow you to express that, it's like what you want doesn't matter. And you it gets shut down. And then as an adult, they want to talk about what they want, but they can't they just feel like there's just so much there that it's blocked, right? And so it's clearing that channel and understanding that, no, you are meant to talk about this. And you can do it in a way that is fully in alignment with yourself and everyone around you. So it's, it's looking at a person's chart is more than just your type. This is like looking at the nuances of your chart, and understanding how the energy flows through your chart and up and out your throat.
Andrea Crisp 27:41
Okay, which I find fascinating. I have no idea what any of that means.
Although, like, I know, I've downloaded my chart, I even sent my chart to you, I've had another friend look at my chart, and explain a few things to me.
But I just see a lot of like these little things. And I'm like, I don't know what any of this means. You know, but that's why it's important to have somebody who knows how to read it. Yeah, and understand how it all works together to communicate. Yeah, yeah. How is it? What is what is the premise of human design, it's, um, it's pulling different things together. So it's like astrology eaching, the chakra system is pulling all these different things together and creating a system from that. So it's based off of your birth date and time. It's an imprint of how your energy works, both how it interacts with other people, as well as how you communicate with the universe, and how the universe communicates with you.
How Okay, can you say that, again, how you how you communicate with the universe, and how the universe communicates with you. So you communicate to the universe through respond or through your strategy. So that's for manifests, it's initiating, you're communicating thing, and you initiate and go after something. It's communicating to the universe, that this is what you want for generators and manifesting generators is responding. So you're responding to everything. By the way in the world, you're responding to energy, you're responding to people's words, actions. All of it, you're responding in every single moment. So you're using your gut to go yes or no to things. And with that, you're saying yes to this and no to that, and that's telling universe more of what you want. For projectors, it's invitation so you're waiting for an invitation to give your energy to people.
Rachael Weaver 29:43
You don't have to wait to like write a post or anything like that, but you need to wait to give your energy to another person. So to coach someone to help them they need to say hey, I want your help right the invitation.
The reflectors needs to wait 30 days a lunar cycle because they don't have any definition or any defined centers in their chart, which means they need to kind of work through the energy in a cycle of 28 days to really understand what it is. That's correct for them.
Wow. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. And then, um, theuniverse communicates with you through your authority. So that's the way you make decisions. So the universe can respond or for back to you with like, your intuitive hits. This is where like in splenic, intuitive knowing comes from the sacral gut, yes or no. There's emotional wave, there's G center, and there is head, like, there's multiple ones and different ways for you to tap into that intuition. Depending on who you ask. Okay, so there's ways you're communicating with the universe, which is the first step you talked about ways the universe is communicating with us. That's like the download. Yeah, basically what we're talking about. Yeah. So the universe is communicating with you and how you're receiving that. Yeah, how you're receiving it? Oh, yeah. And how it's going. So every person's a little bit different. Yep. When you say how we are communicating with the universe, Does that just mean?
Andrea Crisp 31:22
Does that mean people to or does that mean? Just like the universe? And I don't know. Does that make sense? Am I I'm late bores people different.
Rachael Weaver 31:37
Like how I would communicate with someone else? Yeah, how I communicate with people? Well, I think I mean, we're all communicating with each other all the time. Right. So like, this is a very sacral conversation. Manifesting generators and generators, respond. So having a conversation back and forth is really helpful because it gives us something to to bounce off of, right? Yeah. Okay. Um, and even projectors, too, because they're looking for an invitation. So somebody that interviews the projector via lots of questions, asking them how they work through things, how do they see things? Right? That is their invitation then to share what they know. I'm a manifester is more, it would be questions like What do you see? And like, what is this?
Allowing them to go where they want to go? And follow their own guidance? Right? Does that make sense? Yes, yes. Okay. That this is very, it can be very complex. Yes, it is complex. But I think when you start to understand how the whole system works together, then you're like, Oh, well, this relates to this. And this relates that, and it's an experiment. Don't take anything that anyone says, especially in social media, in like these little sound bites as gospel. It's not it's your experiment, your experience with this system, right? And how does your intuition talk to you? How do you relate back and forth to it? How does it show up in your life and play with it? That's the whole point. It's an experiment.
Andrea Crisp 33:17
So if there's things that you find are not working for you are ways in which you've been doing things before, and you feel like you're continually coming up against a block, then it's like, okay, well, experiment with a different way. Yeah. Until you sense that that is how what works for you. Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah, I've been finding lately for me. And this is where I think a lot of my where that pressure was coming from, like, just our feeling of overwhelm. Yeah. Was when there were too many voices. And I was listening to too many of them. I would get, I would feel overwhelmed and not confused, maybe, but overwhelmed with the amount of options, even if a lot of the options sounded very similar. Yeah. It was like, Okay, this option, but this way, this option, but this way, I was like, oh, there's too many things. What should I do? And I was neglecting to really tap into my own intuition and go what is right for me? Like I was always externally looking for someone else to have the answer. Yes. Oh my gosh, that's like indicative of being on the end of that dock and having one foot in one foot out, because you're looking for someone to make that decision for you. And say that, okay, it's safe to get in the boat or it's not safe, right? You're in you can't see what's possible or even like where you're need to go because there's, there's so much noise around you. Right.
So, so tapping in and if I if I so what I ended up doing with that, you know, particular scenario is, I was like, Okay, I can't listen to all these voices I have to like, say no, I have to say no, in order to really hear myself. Yeah. Yeah. Because I think I was getting confused, then like, Is this me? Is this them? And then because you know, when we talked having the open head, I would get into the overthinking part of it, which would, then I would do nothing.
So, learning to tap in to myself to my own intuition so that I can take action on that. Or do things in that space? Yeah.
Rachael Weaver 35:45
Even if it seems a bit messy. It does seem a bit messy, to be honest. But yeah, no, there is that. Yeah, like, kind of like, Am I on the right path? Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah, you got to tap in and it's trusting your own intuition will guide you. And I think this is the biggest piece that we're,
I feel like most people are starting to understand that we have intuition that we need to trust it, right. But we're still a little bit in this ground of, I'm not sure I do trust it with everything, like I trust it in this area of my life, but I don't trust it in this area of my life. And it's, it's another experience for you to go in and trust it in that area of your life, right. And the only way you learn to trust it is by listening to it doing the thing and then going, Oh, it worked.Yeah, we're not listening to it and going shit, it didn't work.
Andrea Crisp 36:43
You know, when I think about that, like in just a very practical sense, just to like, bring it down for people who are like, What the hell are these talking about?
I mean, I'm sure there's probably people who could explain this or listening to this. But there may be somebody who's not. But in a very practical sense, I remember when I used to be a pastor at a church, and I did music. And so for me, it was really interesting that when I would do on a Sunday morning, or whenever I would lead a song service, and I would be doing the music. And I was really in tune with when the pastor would come onstage, and knowing and the verbal nonverbal cues of what was happening. And I was in charge of leading the band, and also leading vocally. So I had to watch the nonverbal cues of whoever, and it was always a different person. Yeah. There's always other things happening. I always had to be listening to the music also, and listening to like, what's happening in the moment where we are even spiritually, yeah. And people would be amazed, and they would talk to me later and say, How do you do that? Like, how are you doing so many things at one time? And feel seamless? Like I never second guessed? Am I doing this? Right? Yeah. Yeah. And it was like, I'd be playing the piano or I'd be doing whatever I was doing. And I'm like, I'm just there's the sense of intuition.
And I never second guessed it. When it comes to stuff in business. I'm second guessing things left, right and center.
And And here, I look at this like place in my life where everything felt really natural. Yeah. And very in tune. It's not like I didn't get things wrong. I got things wrong for sure. Yeah, but but in the same way I guy is it a lot of it is is like you said is like like learning, getting it wrong. Tapping in Yeah. And then knowing that feeling, what it feels like when it when you are in alignment. Yeah. No one can tell you what that feels like. We can kind of tell like we can say from our experience, right? But we can't tell you what your experience is. And I can guarantee you that when you were in doing that musical thing. You were present in the moment you were like zeroed in, there was nothing else on your mind you were present 100% right there in the now. That's when we can tap into our intuition. The second we start over what thinking about the future overwhelmed with the past in our emotions, and when we can talk about the emotional wave for those people that have that as their decision making. But when you are in a ton of emotion, you really hard to hear intuition. It's really hard to be in flow because you're just you're human. You're being an a human having a human experience right now.
Okay, so can we talk about that for just a second. So a lot of things going on past couple of years. Obviously, we all know what they are. Yeah. Just more recently, the war. Yes, Russia and Ukraine. Russia invading Ukraine. Yes. Many, many, many emotions. Yeah. So many things energetically happening. If a person feels influenced by a something happening a crisis in the world? Or is that a place where they maybe need to stop and go, okay, like they need to, like, settle their nervous system and their emotions and make their decision outside of that? Yes, absolutely. Like, okay. We can't make the best decisions for us when we are in fight or flight. And when you are reacting to the world, you're in fight or flight. So we need to process don't stuff things away and say that you're not upset about something when you clearly are, right, that's not healthy either. So I mean, processing emotion, get sad, get mad, go through it. And then once you're calm, then go, Okay, what is there for me to do? What can I change in the moment right now. And that's when you get intuitive hits, that's when you're in truly that's the action that is going to have the most impact is your process, you dealt with it, now you're ready to go, now you're like, let's, let's make something happen. Let's make some change happen.
Rachael Weaver 41:27
And I think people that are, we all experience emotions differently, too. So if you're defined in your solar plexus, then you're experiencing a very consistent wave, it happens very much the same every time, where if you're undefined, you're not experiencing emotions the same at all, you're very much influenced by those around you. And you can be easily overwhelmed with those emotions, you're taking them in and you're amplifying them back. Think of, I see it with my kids, all the time, my son is defined emotionally has a very consistent, like, he gets pissed, he holds on to it for a certain amount of time, and then lets it go and everything's fine. And then 30 minutes later, you'll see my undefined daughter lose her shit. And you're like, why? She took all of his crap that he was going through on herself and was like, I don't know what to do with this, but, and freaks out and loses her mind. Okay, am I undefined? Or my defined? Do you remember how she was going to pull yourself? I'm going to do that. Right?
Andrea Crisp 42:32
That I mean, that makes a lot of sense. Because I've often wondered and talk to people about, like, you know, I always say like, I'm empathic. But that makes that really makes a lot more sense. Because I see in my, some of my family members how, like, they can get upset with something and then move on, like they're done. Right? Like, I may not do anything, and seem fine, but then it is I'm internalizing it like crazy, I think, no, you're defining because we talked about this, you die, I think so let me double check that I think you're defined. Um, but that's not to say that you can't be empathic to other people's emotions at all. Like, I think that's there's some misinformation out there. The word misinformation? No.
Rachael Weaver 43:18
No, you are undefined. Okay. Yeah. Okay. You're a sacral. Yes. Okay. I was thinking someone else. Um, so you're undefined. Yeah, you're taking in the emotions of those around you. It can be environmental to like, you can watch the world have the worst thing happening and taking all that in. And I know that if I sit in that for too long, or read too many stories, like I can't function, it's debilitating, defined or undefined.
I have to be really careful. Like, I can read a story or two, I can pull it in and like but immediately have to go okay. This is not my emotion. I can feel it. But it is not mine. It's, I found it easier. I can do that a lot easier now with world events and not as reactive to world events last two years has given me lots of opportunities to work through that and work this out to work it out. But with people around me, like my husband or my kids, it's a lot harder because they're, you're in it right? It's right there in your reality. And two separate is a lot harder. So my husband is a emotional projector. And we were looking for a house last year. And we would get I would get caught up in this like frenzy of like, oh my gosh, we have to find a house and we're being outbid in this like crazy market that I'm in I had to separate that. And then on top of that, then he would have his own emotional response to all of it and I would feel his emotional response. And every time that I am deeply emotional or in it experiencing either the collective his emotion, whatever. I cannot hear my sacral to save my life. Like it's not there. It's dead in the water there is no Yes or No is just, you're out there like flailing around, you're on your own.
Andrea Crisp 45:18
So, so how did you learn to deal with that? And what did you do to? I processed it? And then yeah, um try to only make decisions when I was not in my emotions and try to go is this truly and really asking? I asked so much for guidance, so much guidance when we're in it in it. Because I didn't I I couldn't with the way the market was how many offers we had in I was just like, just give us the house that we need right now. Just give us the house that we need right now. And I trust that this is all going to work out. And we got an amazing yeah, you know, it's so funny with the with this. You know, what's going on right now currently?
I haven't been watching the news, but I did watch the news for a couple of days. Yeah. So I found there was one particular night I woke up around four in the morning, and I had the most anxiety I've had any years I used to someone anxiety well the night. And I haven't, but I had lots of anxiety. Yeah. And I was questioning everything in my life. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Like, I mean, you name it. I was questioning it. Like, I'm we're gonna we're done. I'm, I'm pulling the plug on every day, like I was like, and I remember I got up, went to the bathroom, got a drink. And I said, Andrea, it's the middle of the night. You're hot. I was hot. Also. You're anxious. You're feeling anxious. You watched the news? Go back to sleep. And tomorrow, sort this out? Yeah. And I, you know, because I realize that a lot of the things that you know, the stressors or overwhelm are things that we find ourselves in, when we take something on energetically, then all of a sudden, we think that we're making every decision out of that place. But I had to recognize, yeah, this is really about something very different. Yeah. That I'm emotionally processing. And I don't want to connect my business or what I'm doing. Yeah, with this, I need to like, and I thought, you know, like, as a like, when I think about who I am out of integrity. I know that I'm the type of person that I do need to know what's going on in the world. I am very compassionate. I do want. I am justice oriented, there are things about me. But in the same way, I can't stay in that space. I have to process through so that I can then continue to do the things that light me up. Yeah. And we're no good to anyone. If we're stuck in anxiety, depression and, and chaos. We're no good to anyone. No, that's so true, right? That we can't affect change. We can't because we can't see beyond our own limited mind. And we have to process the emotion and get present. To be able to trust and know what the right next step is. Yeah. This is so so good. Okay, so to kind of bring it back around. Yeah. We've talked about a lot it was very like, wow, that was the conversation I wasn't expecting.
Love it. You talk to me more and you'll realize that happens more than you think.
No, but I think that it's important for for entrepreneurs, for coaches, creators, anybody that is really sharing their gifts their story with the world to to understand because I think there is there can be a lot of frustration in this way of wondering why am I not attracting what I want? Yeah, in my life. Yeah.
You know, I work a lot with, you know, people on their mindset around what they believe to be true and the stories and the narratives and stuff like that. And but understanding Okay, once you are reframing those and you are kind of putting yourself in a position to you know, have those mindsets reframed, and you're in a place to share what it is that you have to offer the world. Then being in alignment with, you know, what you're putting out there with your copy with your messaging. Yep. How you operate out of your human design is I think, really, really important. Yeah.
So I thank you for, for sharing your wisdom and your knowledge. How can people find you and connect with you? Yeah, so you can my website is Rachel weaver.com and it's I have an extra a in my name ich al
Rachael Weaver 50:00
Oh, yeah. alligned copy Posse is the Facebook group that you can come join, and I am Rachel Weaver on Instagram. Okay, awesome. Thank you so much, Rachael, for for being here for just connecting with me and for sharing so much wisdom today. Thank you so much, Andrea. It's been a pleasure.
Andrea Crisp 50:23
Okay, so I hope you totally took notes. If you didn't, you may want to go back and listen to the episode again, just to hear all of the amazing nuggets that Rachel shared. In fact, that's exactly what I did. After I recorded it. I went back, I took some notes, I thought about what is it that I want to start implementing into my own business, and I would totally encourage you to jump on a call with Rachael, she will do a free assessment with you based on your human design, and it is going to completely blow your mind. So thank you, Rachael, for being on the show today. All of her links will be in the show notes that you can connect with her. And friends. I would love to connect with you as well. So make sure you follow me over on Instagram at at Andrea crisp coach. And if you want to receive some amazing journal prompts meditations directly into your inbox every week, then I want to encourage you to join my community tax list. You can do so by texting the word courage to 647-424-2429. Alright friends, I love you so much. Thanks for hanging out with me today. Until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live bravely.
Kate 51:47
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