WITH CAYTIE LANGFORD AND AMANDA CAHILL
“Opportunities presented themselves to me but I never stopped to ask myself...is this what I actually want?”
About This Episode:
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself what you really want out of life? On this episode of The Couragecast, we are going to talk to two amazing women who asked that very same question for themselves, and how they learned that they have the power to ask for what they want for their lives.
Caytie Langford went from being entry-level to executive in less than 12 years. She used to sit in her corner office every single day crying because she knew she wasn’t in the right career anymore. She kept asking herself, “Is this it?”
Amanda Cahill was a rockstar who not only became the first woman in her family to go to college but also get an MBA. Her career was taking off fast and she had all the boxes checked, but she kept asking herself “isn’t there more?”
Together, they created Bold Women Society to build a community and platform for ambitious, mid-career women who are searching for more!
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Transcript
Andrea Crisp 0:00
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself what you truly want out of life? As women, we tend to follow the norms when it comes to our lives, but then find ourselves in a job or a relationship that is not truly what we want. In this episode of The Couragecast, I'm chatting with co founders, Caytie Langford and Amanda Cahill, of Bold Women Society about why it's so important that women realize they have the power to ask for what they want, build extraordinary wealth, and position themselves in seats of power.
Andrea Crisp 0:31
Hey, friend, are you ready to take courageous steps to create a life and business you love? Welcome to The Couragecast. I'm Andrea Crisp, mindset coach, author, and a multi passionate entrepreneur. For years, I was afraid to allow myself to shine that was until I discovered that I could step into my own power, shift my mindset and take ownership of my own destiny. Now I coach women across the globe who are ready to own their life and make a massive impact. Each week I'll share conversations with amazing humans who've been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose. I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice to help you take brave steps in your own life and business.
Andrea Crisp 1:11
Hello, friend, welcome to The Couragecast. My name is Andrea, and I'm so glad that you're joining me today, we have such a great episode lined up for you today. And I almost can't believe that we're two episodes away from airing the 200th episode, if you have not already gotten in on the giveaway that we're doing, you still have time to jump in and tag an episode, and rate and review the podcast and screenshot it. And make sure to tag @the.couragecast to be entered into our 200th giveaway.
Andrea Crisp 1:46
You know, I don't know that my mind is completely registered that we're here at this point. But when I look back four years ago, to the beginning of the podcast, it was a moment in my life when I got serious about what I really wanted my life to look like. And it kind of like honestly, like the journey of starting the podcast, you know, really opened up something for my life. But even then I had no idea how to do that. I just know that it needed to change, I knew that something needed to happen. And maybe you've been in that place in your own life where you know, there's a change that needs to take place, but you don't have any clue what you want, or whether or not you can ask the question of what you want. And maybe you're secretly wondering if it's kind of selfish to ask the question and up end your life.
Andrea Crisp 2:38
Well, today on the podcast, we're talking exactly about that. You know, I talk with many, many women all the time. And one thing always stands out to me. There are so many of us that grew up in this culture where we were given opportunities, and we could make a choice about what we wanted in our lives. But once we made that choice, it was almost kind of like we had to follow through with that, and there was never any deviating from that plan. And when you really think about it, the choices were quite limited. But then maybe you got to a stage where you were like, "You know what, this is not exactly what I want, like this is not fulfilling this is not making me happy. I'm you know, bit miserable. I feel a bit stuck." But then it's like, "Okay, can I ask the question like, What do I want, or I'm too afraid to change things to up, end my life and make a big, you know, shift?"
Andrea Crisp 3:34
At the beginning of 2021. I joined this Mastermind called Fast Foundations, have talked about it quite a bit on the podcast. And it was so pivotal for me, because I have grown so much this year because of the amazing connections I made within the Mastermind. And every one of those incredible people were getting uncomfortable. They were asking those hard questions. And there were two women that I met at the very beginning, and I connected with them right away. And today I'm having them on the podcast because I want them to share their story and I believe that they have something really important to share with us.
Andrea Crisp 4:15
So I'm gonna tell you a little bit about them. Caytie Langford went from being an entry level executive in less than 12 years. She used to sit in her corner office every single day and cry because she knew she was not in the right career anymore. She kept asking yourself, "Is this it?" And her friend, Amanda Cahill, was a rock star who not only became the first in her family to go to college, and also get an MBA, but her career was taking off fast, and even though she checked all the boxes, she asked herself, "Isn't there more?" Together they created Bold Women Society, a community and platform for ambitious mid career women who are searching for more. And I adore these women. They are so incredible. They are really I'm making a huge shift in the lives of so many women. And we were recording the episode I honestly got chills because I had to stop and think about, you know, even at this point, "What do I truly want out of my life? What do I want out of my relationships? And what do I want out of my business?" And at the end of the episode, I'm going to leave you with some questions for you to take those steps in your life as well. Some of the same questions I'm asking myself, I'm going to leave with you. But it all starts with asking, What do you truly want? So I'm thrilled to share my conversation with Caytie Langford.
Andrea Crisp 5:38
Hey, guys, I'm so excited to have you both on The Couragecast is so fun, because I'm actually looking at you guys right now. Both Amanda and Caytie, and you guys are side by side. And it's fun, I'm not sure who to look at, because you both are these beautiful, bold colors, and showing up as your amazing selves. And I'm so thrilled to have you both on The Couragecast. So welcome.
Caytie Langford 6:02
Thank you, we are so excited to be here. And so excited to get you ready for your big 200th episode that's coming up in a few weeks.
Andrea Crisp 6:12
Yeah, I'm excited to have you both, you know, we have been for those who don't know, we have been in a Mastermind for a good part of a year together. And we all got connected back in spring of 2021. When you guys were launching something brand new, which we're going to hear all about, Bold Women Society and how that all came into being. But before we get there, because there's three of us on the conversation today, you know, just to make a little bit easier, I'd love to know just a little bit about you, personally, your background. And, you know, why is it that you wanted to step into this space in your life right now? So I'm gonna go ahead and I'm going to start with Caytie. Just tell us a little about yourself, and why is it that you stepped in?
Caytie Langford 6:59
Yeah. So I'm Caytie Langford. I am the founder of Bold Women's Society, and I get to partner with a super badass, Amanda Cahill, which you'll meet in just a second. So my story is, maybe like some of your audiences. I found myself about 14 years deep into a career and I had gone from entry level to the C suite in about 12 years. I was literally sitting in my corner office every single day crying. I was at the place where I woke up, I was 35 years old. And I thought, "Is this what my life is supposed to be?" And I was that woman who had consistently been promoted, promoted, promoted, and recruited to different organizations. And I remember I was sitting in a meeting, and I was talking with a couple of women, we were in the middle of a capital campaign, so you're talking about raising money. And there was a moment within me that said, "This is not it, is not it." And I came home and I had several conversations. My mother was one of them. And she said, "Listen, I'm very worried about you, you're so stressed." My husband said, "There's something going on."
Caytie Langford 8:13
So two weeks later, I quit that job. And I walked away from absolutely everything. I had walked away from the career that had completely defined me. And I had no idea what I was going to do. So I, I took six months to really find myself. And Amanda and I teach a lot about getting clarity in Bold Women Society, and that's really what I was trying to do was get some clarity. I decided to become an executive coach, and fast forward a couple years, I'm coaching all these amazing women. And I'm burnt out. And I'm like, "This isn't it either!" And yet, there's something inside of me that wants to impact the lives of women. So I started Bold Women's Society. And I got a text from my friend Amanda, who I had coached several years earlier. And she said, "What is this? I need to know about this?" We jumped on a call. I told her, I was recruiting advisory board members, and she asked me, "Can I do that? Let me-let me be on your advisory board!"
Andrea Crisp 9:12
I love I love how she just like took charge. She's like, "So, put me in!"
Caytie Langford 9:17
Absolutely it. She'll tell you about that. And so a couple weeks later, she called and said, "I have this really crazy idea. I want to be your business partner, and I want to do this with you." And so we became business partners. And the reason why I personally do this work, is because I believe that we as women have big, bold, gigantic things to do in this world. And specifically, I believe that we need to have positions of power and leadership and we need to be in control of money, making money so that we can have influence and so that for me is why I do what I do. And I'm super pumped that I have the most amazing partners, because doing it alone was lonely. So doing it with somebody is incredible.
Andrea Crisp 10:07
I have chills from what you just said honestly. That that's amazing. That's amazing. And then so here you were, Caytie, you were, you know, it was so funny. Like, I was like, I didn't even know what a C suite is like, "Okay, I don't come from corporate." So I come from more of the creative world. I'm like, "What is the C suite?" I had to figure out what that was when we first talked. But I know now. And it really was interesting to me, because I thought, wow, you'd really risen. And you probably had accomplished what so many women wanted to accomplish in their in their lives and in their careers. And then you're like, there is still more.
Caytie Langford 10:45
Yeah. I mean, Andrea, I was my goal, where I was headed, was the CEO of a nonprofit. And I had worked for some of the best nonprofits, not only in Dallas and in Texas, but that in the world. I mean, I worked for top notch people. And, and that's where I was going to be. That's what I thought I was going to do. And the goal was to get there by the time I was 40. And there's when when you get to the place where you go, "This just isn't it," it's a scary place. It's a lonely place. And this is one of the ways that Amanda and I connect, is that when you start to tell people, maybe this isn't it, they think you're crazy. Because from the outside, they're like your life is freaking amazing. Like, what are you talking about?
Andrea Crisp 11:42
And so insert here, Amanda jumps into the equation, and she asks you to be part of this amazing organization. So Amanda, tell us like what prompted you to make that call?
Amanda Cahill 11:58
Well, it's such a crazy story. And, you know, I'm a little bit different from Caytie, and that I'm still working a more corporate career, it's still accelerating, accelerating very quickly, I'm still in a very much a growth phase. And I found myself in my career, you know, eight or 10 years ago, moving up very quickly, expanding my network, building a lot of clout in my industry. But I found that I was doing a lot because people tapped me on the shoulder and said, "I think you would be good at this." Opportunities presented themselves to me, but I never stopped to ask, "Is this what I actually want? Do I actually want this? Or am I doing it because somebody thinks I should do it?" So I started to question a lot. And because I had grown so quickly, so fast, everybody was like, I don't even understand where you're questioning things. You have a great career ever. You're checking off all the boxes from the outside looking in, everything looks perfect. We are crazy. What are you? What are you even thinking that you want to you want, you want more for your life?
Amanda Cahill 12:52
And that's when I started investing in coaching. And funny, funny story, Caytie was actually the very first executive coach that I ever hired.
Andrea Crisp 13:00
Really?
Amanda Cahill 13:00
And when Katie and I started working together, people who know me now probably don't even believe this. I was at such a low place, my confidence was so low. My belief in my abilities and what I brought to the world, I remember, there were calls where I was on Caytie, and she would ask me something, and I would almost be in tears, because I couldn't say what I liked about myself, I couldn't say what value I brought to an organization or to the world. And so it, it really prompted a lot of digging in a lot of personal development. And a lot of asking, "What do I want? What does Amanda want? Who is the woman that I want to be?" And in doing that work, I kept coming back to, you know, I, I have found so much joy over the course of that personal development journey, and so much happiness and fulfillment, but I knew that there was something else and I kept coming back to I want to help other people feel what I'm feeling right now. I want other people to realize they can take control of their life, they can ask themselves, "What the hell do I want? What do I want to do with my life," and they can actually start rewriting the script. If you don't like something, you can change it.
Amanda Cahill 14:05
And so it's so funny. I never knew what the outlet was going to look like. And then as Katie said, when I saw her pop up with Bold Women's Society, I reached out and I'm like, "What, what are you doing here? Let's let's talk about this." And my life motto is the answer is always no, until you ask. So I conveniently asked if I could be on her board of advisors, as she said, and then, you know, five or six weeks in I just I resonated so much with what we were doing with Bold Women society. And I said, "This is it. This is what I should be doing with my life." So probably one of the scariest things I ever did was reach out to Caytie and say, "Hey, I have this crazy, bold, audacious thing that I want to ask you. I don't even know if you'll entertain it. But can we can we chat about it?" And of course, she said yes. And we're here today. But moving through that and getting to this place. I can honestly say, I am so thankful every day that I didn't let that fear stop me from saying, "Who am I to reach out to somebody who's already a founded this this wonderful, you know, company, and think that I'm going to partner with her after she's already established it." And I'm so thankful that I pushed past that because we impact women every single day. And I'm getting to fulfill that void of bringing joy and happiness and fulfillment other people's lives as I was able to do.
Andrea Crisp 15:18
You know, I love what you said about, you know, really recognizing that you were asking what you wanted in life. And I think that so many women sit back and they they say to themselves, "Oh, I'm just going to do this, because I should do this, or I feel like, my, my family or my spouse, or my job is dictating something. And this should be the course of my career in my life", and they just let it happen. And you are asking this question, "What do I want?" And whether or not you are in corporate, whether you're a creative, whether you're an entrepreneur, you get to ask the question, "What do I want?" So I want to ask both of you, because I think this is a really big thing. When you think about what is it that you still want? That that's kind of on the horizon for you? Like, is there something that you're like you're looking you're like, "Yeah, like there's, there's still this risk that I want?" Who wants to jump in with that one first?
Caytie Langford 16:24
Go for it, Amanda. I'm getting teary eyed.
Amanda Cahill 16:28
I know, I'm like it always it always it always. It always creates this pause when we get to tell our stories like this, just a reflection that we have on that. But what's the next big, you know, scary thing that's on the horizon? And honestly, Katie, and I had a conversation yesterday about this and was thinking about it all last night, and it's what's next level for what we're doing at Bold Women Society? How do we truly take Bold Women Society and make it a household name, where generations upon generations can come back to the Bold Women Society Foundation and our mission and what we envision for the world where just every woman is unapologetic in the pursuit of her dreams, because she's confident, you know, she has confidence in her ability to be bold, she has that courage to be authentic. And she has that power that comes from being supported by a community of like minded women. How do we make that happen on a real world scale? And those are conversations that Caytie and I have all of the time, and we obviously don't know the answer to those questions. But that's why, you know, we get involved with groups like the Mastermind, where we met you, Andrea, so we can start to open our mind to the possibility, see what avenues can we even can we even consider? And so I think, for me, that's the biggest thing that that's been on my mind and continues to be on my mind.
Andrea Crisp 17:46
I love that. And what about you, Caytie? What would you say? The answer is for you whether that's both for Bold Women Society for you, personally. What does that look like for you?
Caytie Langford 17:57
Yeah, absolutely. So I think it's interesting to go back just a second. So Amanda said she was really brave and asked me to join my company, right? Well our company now, but I think it's really important to note that Bold Women Society was an idea. At that point, we weren't really anything. I mean, we hadn't even made $1 yet. And so Amanda's fingerprints are completely all over this. And one of the things that we have really pressed upon each other and ourselves is, what is the biggest thing that we can do. And one of the conversations we had yesterday was, we're not just going to be a coaching and training and development company. We think that's important, we know that we need to impact lives, women's lives individually. But for us, there's something greater out there. And we're toying with a couple of ideas, and we're gonna sit down and talk to some mentors and, and some people we really trust. But I will tell you this, going back to what I said earlier, it really for me is about putting more dollars in the hands of women,
Andrea Crisp 19:14
Girl.
Caytie Langford 19:14
Putting more dollars in the hands of women, we need women, we need women to control more wealth, we need women at the seats of tables. And so if we're going to be bold, it can't just be at an individual level. We've got to figure out how do we do that on a bigger stage. And I don't even know we don't know exactly what that looks like. But I will tell you, Andrea, the things that we are talking about and thinking about, I texted Amanda this morning and I said I am really scared. Like I'm real scared, like like some of the things we're talking about are so big. And that is how we know that we have to keep kind of pulling the string, if you will, to see where those thoughts are going to go. So, but at the end of the day, it's about women and money, and info and leadership.
Andrea Crisp 20:05
I love that one of the things, I'm gonna answer the question there to
Caytie Langford 20:09
Do it!
Andrea Crisp 20:09
for myself.
Caytie Langford 20:10
Yes.
Andrea Crisp 20:10
Because I'm like, I want to say what my thing is.
Caytie Langford 20:13
Yes!
Amanda Cahill 20:15
The floor is yours Andrea.
Andrea Crisp 20:17
So here we go. You know, I listened to a podcast, with Lori Harder and Amy Porterfield not very long ago. And I, of course, Lori is one of our mentors in Fast Foundations where we're a Mastermind, in part of the Mastermind. But Amy Porterfield has also been a mentor of mine over the years. And as they were talking, I was listening to Lori talk about her female funded business and how she was getting women ambassadors. And I have been probably sitting on the back seat of thinking, "There's no possible way I could ever be in the driver's seat when it comes to wealth. And if I can't be, then how would I ever inspire other women and invest in other things", but something about listening to them talk about it actually lit a fire under me. And it lit a fire under me to be like, "Okay, so in my sphere of influence, where I am, How do I get wealth in the hands of the women that are in my sphere of influence? How do I get wealth in the hands of interns, and virtual assistants that work with me around the world, and get wealth in their hands, that that impacts their sphere of influence and their communities." And it changes the way we are operating in the world. Because not only is it about wealth, it's about abundance. And it is about holding this space for more...
Caytie Langford 20:17
Yes,
Andrea Crisp 20:21
...expansion. Because when we hold space for more expansion and more wealth, that is just opening the doors for the girls coming after us. And for for women to just be stepping into that place. So I love that you guys are on that train. I'm right behind you in the car behind you. And I'm super, super excited. I didn't know this is what we're gonna talk about, but I love it, so.
Caytie Langford 22:30
You know what, here's the thing, what we're going to create, what we're going to do, you're not going to be in the car behind us, you're going to be on the train with us.
Andrea Crisp 22:39
Girl, okay!
Caytie Langford 22:41
That's what's happening. We, we don't want people, we don't want other badass women to be behind us. We're like, no, no, we're going here together. We're doing this together.
Amanda Cahill 22:54
Absolutely
Andrea Crisp 22:54
Yeah, that's good. That's so good. You know, and I love the fact of thinking about, you know, I was just thinking about one of my interns today. And, and, you know, she was asking me all about, you know, mindset, and how do I shift my life? And how do I create a business and, and I was just really thinking about where she is in the world, and maybe the opportunities presented to her, not presented to her, and thinking, I have this opportunity right now. And it's a small opportunity to, you know, help her shift her mindset about her life to create what it is that she wants. And you are, you know, running this beautiful group right now this this Bold Women Society, and helping women take those steps. So I'd love to chat about that. And how are you, you know, raising up the next generation of women? What is Bold Women Society all about? So I don't know who wants to take that that question, but I'll leave it to one of you.
Amanda Cahill 23:54
I'll kick it off. And then Caytie, I'll send it over to you just just a couple of things, I think it's important to to just lay a framework for who we are and what we even do, right? I know, we haven't really talked about that much either. And so our our idea of Bold Women Society, and what it currently is today is that it is an online community. And we have a spotlight on bold stories, it was very important for us to create an outlet where women could share stories, everyday women, the woman next door, the you know, your friend down the street, your colleague who's always quiet at the office, but you know that every single woman has a bold story inside of them. And we wanted to have a platform and an outlet for them to be able to do that. Now how we facilitated sharing those bold stories has changed and evolved and it will continue to evolve. But that's such a framework for what we do. Because our mission every day is to make sure that we are inspiring confidence in women and we want to help them release any narratives, beliefs, barriers, any lies or anything they've ever told themselves, that limits them from pursuing that life that they want to create, from that dream that they have on their heart, whatever that is, which changes over time too, right? So we want we want women to know that you have permission to you can be going one way and your life could be heading one direction and you have permission to make a turn. You may be going to same destination, but the route doesn't have to be the same, or you could be going in completely different way. But we want to let them know that like, that's okay. And we're going to help them be able to do that. And Caytie, I'm sure that there's something you would want to add there, too.
Caytie Langford 25:31
Yeah. It's just fascinating. Andrea, when we think about you know, you, me, Amanda, our contemporaries, what we were told, right, so we're not the baby boomer generation, we're not older Gen Xers, were younger Gen Xers, and an older millennials and, and glass ceilings were broken for us. And we were taught that you could be anything you wanted to do, that going to college was a good thing, that having a career was a good thing, right? We weren't necessarily told the things that those were bad. But yet at the same time, we were told a lot of should. And you mentioned this earlier, Andrea, you should go to college and get this degree. And then you should go to work and get this promotion and this job. And there are a lot of women that we help and we work with that are stuck in should land, that they just think, well, that's what I'm supposed to do. Well, that's what that's what I was told to do. Right? And so limiting beliefs and mindset. It's funny, I don't think we necessarily set out to work on that as much as what we realized that we have to. It was several years ago, when I was still just one-on-one coaching. I tracked over 100 conversations that I had with women, specifically coaching conversations, asking 100 different women, what is stopping you from going after what you just told me that you want. 100% of them said, I have a lack of confidence, or I don't feel confident enough to do that. So we work on mindset, almost as much as we worked on like actual strategy tactical, like, here's how you lay out the plan and do the work. Because, you know, as women, we not only have the shoulds. But then we also have everything that society has told us, right? Like, you got to wear this, you got to live in this neighborhood, you got to drive this car, you got to be thisyou g thin, you got to be this tan, or this color, or right all of these things that you got to be and so a lot of what we do, for lack of a better term, and we'll have to come up with a better term, we kind of have to deprogram people.
Andrea Crisp 27:56
Oh, 100%.
Caytie Langford 27:56
And we've had to do that on our own. Right. Like, again, I sat in my house for six months crying every single day. And I thought, I can't do this. And before I started Bold Women Society, I thought, "I can't do this." And Amanda shared with you her story of, you know, I remember the day I asked her, "What do you like about yourself?" And she's like, "I can't answer that." And the question actually was, what do you love about yourself, and she said, "I'm not even sure I can tell you what I like about myself." So we have a lot of deprogramming, a lot of rewiring our mindset, and using, you know, the tools and strategies that are out there to help women move past that. So that's how, and hopefully what we're doing. You know, I don't have any kids. Most of our clients have kids, but goodness gracious, we'd love to hope and believe that they're teaching their kids some of the mindset tools, some of the, that they're talking to their daughters about, what do you love about yourself? You know, we hope that's what's happening.
Andrea Crisp 29:06
You know, it's interesting that you bring that up, because, you know, I don't have children either. And there is when I've been thinking about you know, leaving that legacy behind and leaving you know, what it is that I've the imprint that my life has, you know, had on the world, thinking, "Okay, well, what's that going to look like? Right?" And you know, just reading up on some some different things energetically and how we are actually imprinting generations, energy energetically, and whether or not they are through our own bodies, children coming. It's the children of the generation are coming, and are going to be changed because of us. Whether or not we had physical children are not or raised children in a home in some way. And that has been such a beautiful thing for me to to know that I could feel like I'm doing it on my own, in solitude, you know, but at the end of the day, energetically, it's going out. And it's making an impact. And it's changing a generation. And, and that is a beautiful thought. And really brings us all together, right? And that's kind of where I want to lead us next is, you know, for so many people, for so many women the thought of maybe even working together, you know, you're you've both co founded this this beautiful, Bold Women Society be like, okay, to women, you know, like, you know, statistically they'd be like, "Okay, well, is that actually going to work? You know, two women working together?" I personally believe yes. But I want to hear from you guys. What does community mean to you? And how is it? How important is it that you guys are really building something using the two of you, as co-founders?
Amanda Cahill 31:02
I love this question so much, Andrea, we get asked a lot about our partnership and how it works. And I feel this way. And I believe that Caytie does too, so we've talked about it a lot. Our partnership has been for the seamless, for the most part. And we did a lot of due diligence in the beginning to figure out can we actually work well together? What is this going to look like? We did a SWOT analysis on each on each of us, and that's, uh, where you break down your your strengths, your weaknesses, your opportunities, and your threats. And basically, we brought our strengths and our weaknesses together and said, where do we complement each other? You know, when I have a strength here, does that help pull something where Caytie doesn't have a strength and vice versa. And what we found out is that we complemented each other so well, that it became this seamless partnership. And it's kind of it's evolved over time where in the beginning, we're both you know, we're both A Type personalities, we both want to get things done, we're we're both very high achieving individuals. But at the same time, we allowed each other to shine, and what I love the most about our partnership is that we've been able to push each other. During those times, we were just talking about this yesterday, how when maybe I had fallen off a little bit, and I was and I was lacking confidence or I, you know, wasn't clear about what I was doing, where I was afraid or something, you know, whatever, whatever was coming up, Caytie was the strength behind to lift me up.
Amanda Cahill 32:35
And the same thing when Caytie has had those moments, where she was like, "You know what, I just I need a day I'm not feel you know, something is off," then I was there to be the pillar for her. And I think that's what's so beautiful about what we're doing. And what's so fascinating about having a partner who believes in the mission and the vision of what we're doing of Bold Women Society so much, we're in it so much together every single day. And me personally, when I first started in my career, it was very catty, it was woman out for a woman. I remember being thrown under the bus, people stealing credit for things that I had done. So many things that made me think, "Do I even want, what am I even doing? Why am I here? Like, this is awful." I hated feeling like that every single day. And I knew that I never wanted another woman to feel like that. So it's so important to me and my values, that when we link arms, I know that we can do so much together than if we're trying to squash each other. And it's such a big pillar. And what we teach in our community is that we're all winning. There's there's the word we're not competing. It's what do you always say, Caytie, you always say it's collaboration over competition.
Caytie Langford 33:44
Yeah.
Amanda Cahill 33:45
And that's what we believe. And that's what we embody in Bold Women Society. We're always telling each other we're sharing each other's wins. We're lifting each other up. And that's, that's the beautiful thing about having a community, right, is that you have those, those people that you can lean on, when maybe you don't believe in yourself, you have hundreds of women who were like, "We believe in you, we will be your strength until you believe that yourself."
Andrea Crisp 34:10
That's good. Yeah. Do you want to add anything to that, Caytie?
Caytie Langford 34:14
Well, I just think it's interesting because I went to an all girls school in high school. And so I have been asked this question hundreds of times, like, "How can you be around that many women?" And what's funny is I went from high school to a sorority to working specifically in women and girl organizations, with women donors, like women and girls is a theme throughout my life. And I think the thing is, is that I've seen it work so beautifully, so many times. That when people say to me, "It won't work," I'm like, "Wait, wait, wait, wait wait! It will work. You just either haven't been in the right situation, or you have a limiting belief that it won't work." And so, yeah, that's a that's a huge part of it. And, and I think that we as women, having done this work now for so long, we want to be in community. We want to cheer each other on. We want to know, I'm not alone, right? It's why Alex Street always tells us tell your story, because your story makes somebody else go, "Oh, it's not just me."
Caytie Langford 35:29
And so I think that again, going back to all the shoulds of women right now, we need to get together, we need to look at society and be like, "Y'all think we should do that? No, we're not going to. And this is what we're going to do instead." And so it's imperative, you know, that not only collaboration over competition, but we also say, inspiration over comparisonitis. Don't look at what the woman is doing next to you and say, "I can't be her." You're right. You can't be her, you're never going to be her. But what can she inspire you to be for yourself? What best version of her can that inspire you to say, "I can be the best version of myself," and, and I think that's another reason why the partnership with Amanda and I worked so beautifully, because I truly believe at the end of the day, we look at each other, and we're inspired by each other. And we like each other. And we think I told Amanda yesterday, I said, partnering with you is one of the greatest things I've ever done in my life, because I don't want to let her down. I don't want to disappoint my partner. So in doing that, and having that relationship, it forces me to be the best version of myself, to show up for the women that we, I believe have to impact. So it's a non negotiable, you have to figure it out. And it can happen.
Andrea Crisp 37:00
I think the more we are around women who are rising, and who are stepping into the fullness of their own personal power, that we begin to let go of that comparison mindset. And it's it's only in lack, that we are really, you know, looking to others that you know, in comparison, because we're like, "Oh, I don't have that. And I want that." And when we start to step into who we are and have that confidence, then it's easier to be able to cheer somebody else on because it's not going to take away from anything about me. In fact, if anything, your success is going to add to what I'm capable of doing as well and give me gives me permission to be myself and to expand in my own life, and in my own business, whatever that looks like.
Caytie Langford 37:59
Absolutely. And I think that it's a choice that we make. And I will tell you one last thing, if there is a toxic woman in your life, because there are some right? Move away from them.
Andrea Crisp 38:15
Exactly.
Caytie Langford 38:15
Find another tribe, find another community, right? Like we've all there are women in our in Amanda and I's life that aren't in our life anymore, because they're not, they don't need me. And I used to feel so guilty about that being like, "oh, no, I have to pull them along." No, I don't. And you don't either. You don't either. You deserve to be everything you want to be. And if somebody can't get on board with that, it's okay that they were only in your life for a season or a reason. They're just not lifetime people. That's okay.
Andrea Crisp 38:48
No, that's good.
Amanda Cahill 38:49
Absolutely. Absolutely, Katie, because I mean, at the end of the day, I always say life is too short to be anything but happy. And I think when you start comparing yourself to somebody else, or saying I could never be that I could never do that. A lot of times that's stemming from the fact that you haven't gotten clarity on what it is you want for your life. Because I guarantee you once you figure out what you want for your life, the woman that you want to be what you're aspiring towards. Everything else is just, oh, okay, everything starts to align and you realize, "Oh, I'm here to learn from this person, or can you see what she's doing? How amazing is that?" That helps me see that this dream that I have over here that I can absolutely have it because I see her doing that thing right there. Even though it's different from mine, and I don't have to compare myself to her anymore. It's that inspiration piece. But it all comes back to what do you want for your life?
Andrea Crisp 39:43
Yes. That's it that's it. What do you want for your life? You know, I when I think about you know, whoever's listening to this today, you know, they have had the, the opportunity to hear two incredible women who have been super successful in their lives but have also chosen to be risk takers, and to do things differently, and to, you know, step back at times in order to reevaluate where your lives are going and say, "You know what, there can be more for me, if I, you know, redirect." And, you know, it's not just you, Caytie and Amanda, who are taking those bold steps, it's, it's women listening to this podcast today that are, you know, in the middle of maybe something that we talked about, maybe they're in that decision phase, maybe they're in the clarity phase, maybe they're, you know, getting the courage, or the confidence that they need to step out. What's one thing that each of you would say to that woman who is moving in that direction? If you were to tell her something from your heart that, you know, is really true to you? What would you say to her?
Caytie Langford 40:57
Yes, so I'll tell you the exact words that when I didn't think I could keep going, I called my grandmother. And I asked her, and I hear her words every single day, and it is, "You just keep going, you just put one front in front of the other. You just go day by day, just keep going." Because there is something amazing on the other side, there's a lot you're going to learn in between, but just you can do it, just keep going.
Andrea Crisp 41:29
That's awesome. And then what about you, Amanda?
Amanda Cahill 41:31
My, my favorite that's come with me, I actually heard from a professor in grad school. And it was, "Don't let insignificant people make a significant impact on your life." And I think that's so important for women, especially, but just for everybody to keep that in your back pocket. And just remember, "Who are the most important people in your life, if your life was a movie, you're the main character, but who was the supporting cast? Who are those family members, those friends, your mentors, the people whose opinion you really matter that people that you look up to, that you care about?" Those are the people when they say something that matters, but everybody else, they don't, they don't matter. You know, if you're looking at the end of a movie, you know, there's like taxi driver number four, or bouncer number two, like who are those people have no significance on your life. So don't let them make an impact on your life. Don't let somebody that's insignificant crush your dreams, and what you want for your life.
Andrea Crisp 42:32
You guys have been so inspiring today, I'm so grateful that we got to spend this time together. And honestly, to see how Bold Women Society has just really even elevated over the course of just this year. And moving into, you know, your next step in the vision, you know, is is really, really, truly inspiring to watch. And I'm so thankful and grateful that we have been in the same circle together for this time. And, and so I just want to say thank you for being on The Couragecast. And I really am so grateful that you guys are part of this 200th celebration, you know, because being bold women, you know, we're called The Couragecast. And I was thinking about you guys are you know, about bold, and we're about courage. And, you know, it takes a lot of boldness to be courageous in your life, and stepping out and doing those big moves in your life to impact and influence your communities, your homes, and to put you know, wealth into the hands of women and families that will change the world. And you guys are, you know, spearheading that that beautiful movement. And I love that. Caytie, let me ask you, where can they connect with you guys?
Caytie Langford 43:56
Yeah, so where we love for people to connect with this is in our texting community. We send out bold daily tips and tools every single day. So you can text the word BOLDLY or HELLO to 214-949-4715. And Amanda and I will give you a little bit of a little bit of boldness every morning. We love doing that.
Andrea Crisp 44:28
I love that. Yeah. And I will put that phone number in as well as the link in the show notes so that people can connect with you, and if they want to connect with you online, Amanda, how can they do that?
Amanda Cahill 44:40
Yeah, it's pretty easy. All of our handles are at Bold Women Society across all platforms, although we are not on Twitter, but if you want to find us on IG, Facebook, or LinkedIn, Bold Women Society is the handle to go to.
Andrea Crisp 44:54
Guys loved having you here today. Thank you so much for being on The Couragecast today.
Caytie Langford 44:59
Thank you Andrea!
Amanda Cahill 45:00
Thank you so much!
Caytie Langford 45:01
And congratulations on your upcoming 200! We are just we're honored to be a small part of the lead up to that incredible, incredible feat.
Andrea Crisp 45:12
Thank you. Wow, I loved talking to those incredible women. I'm I'm just really honestly, sometimes I feel like it's a bit surreal that I get to have these conversations with people. But I know I'm probably not the only person that's listening to the podcast asking, you know, herself, like, "How do I get on the, the front of the train?" Right? And, you know, I was thinking after Katie said to me, "You know what, you don't sit in the car behind me sit in the car with me." And that is so true, right? You know, it's so easy for us to, you know, put ourselves behind somebody else. And really, we should all be linking arms and going together.
Andrea Crisp 45:54
So I want to leave you with this. Maybe you have a desire in your life, and you really want to, you know, see something happen. Or maybe you're at that point in your life where you, you just want to ask the question, "What do I truly want?" Here's the thing. It's not just for the woman next to you, it's not for the the woman that you admire from afar. Having a life that you want, that is truly fulfilling for you, which includes financial abundance, and also includes stepping into your personal power, and really owning who you are. That's for you. That's for you, my friend. And here's the thing, it's the first step, the very, very first thing that you're going to do is actually believe it's true for you, and give yourself permission to say yes to yourself, and ask yourself, "What is it that I truly want?"
Andrea Crisp 46:48
So maybe you're at that place right now, where you are feeling a bit overwhelmed with the possibilities, like maybe you're an ideas person, a visionary, and you're like, "Whoa, like I have all these things are going through my mind, and I'm not really sure what to do next." Or maybe you feel unfulfilled, and you feel like I have to ask this question first. Clarity is the first step. Wherever you're at, getting clear on what you want is the very, very first step to the catalyst of making those changes and activating the confidence in your life to take bold steps of courage. So right now, the waitlist is open for the conference accelerator, which is like one of my very favorite programs to run. It's a group coaching program. It's a six week container for women who know they're meant for more, but are not sure how to take that next step or how to ask those questions and activate the confidence in their life.
Andrea Crisp 47:43
So if that's you, if you're someone who wants to step into their personal power, who wants to share their story, start a business, you know, really get some momentum and traction in your life personally, to really move forward, then this program is for you and the waitlist is open, I'm going to leave a link in the show notes for you to click on so that you can connect with me, you can either jump on a call with me or you can just leave me your email. And I'll know to connect with you. And if this is something that resonates with you, then I know this is something you're not going to want to miss out on. Friends. Thank you so much for hanging out with me. I want to thank Amanda and Caytie for sharing the 198th episode with me we are two episodes away from the 200th. And I'm just so so excited. So we have an amazing episode next week with an incredible panel of people. And then of course, we're gonna have our 200th coming up. So until next time, remember, you have everything you need.
Andrea Crisp 47:44
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