Confidence

222 | Showing Up In Your Business With Human Design

WITH EMILEE ROSE

 
 
 
I think sometimes we’re overthinking everything, making it way too complex and way too difficult for people to actually get into our world
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

Have you ever felt the frustration of trying to be in your business? It could be that you are out of alignment when it comes to your human design.

Today on the podcast I am chatting with Emilee Tucker a Transformation Coach and Human Design Expert about how we can start showing up energetically with our human design in life and in business.

Emilee Rose is a Transformational Coach and Spiritual Guide. Her mission is to guide people through life-changing transformations, awaken their souls, support their becoming of their most authentic, aligned self, and empower them to embody who they are truly designed to be in this lifetime.

Connect with Emille on IG: @emileeroseco

If you're ready to elevate your mindset book a FREE 20-minute Strategy Call with Andrea: www.andreacrisp.ca/schedule

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

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Have you ever felt the frustration of trying too hard when it comes to being in your business, it could be that you're out of alignment when it comes to your human design. Now, human design is something that I have more recently started learning about. And so today on the podcast, I am chatting with Emily Tucker, a transformation coach and human design expert, how we can start showing up energetically when it comes to our human design, in life and in business.

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You're listening to The Couragecast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and competence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

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Hey there, welcome to the courage cast. My name is Andrea Crisp, and I am your host, and I am so excited to share this week's episode with you, which is coincidentally, episode number 222. And today, we're talking all things Human Design. Back a few months ago, I had Rachel Weaver on the show. And she was also someone who does human design, she does it from a perspective of a copywriter. And Emily is a transformation coach. And she's going to be sharing how we can show up more energetically in our life in our business. So if you've ever felt frustrated, feeling like you're swimming upstream, when it comes to doing things in your business, then you want to listen up, because I know that she's gonna have some things that are really going to help you.

So I am so excited to share this episode with you with Emilee Tucker. Emilee, thank you so much for hanging out with me this morning. appreciate a good reading. Yes, thank you for having me. I'm excited to be here. Yeah, we'redoing double duty. Today we're doing both a recording for the podcast, which I'm super excited about. But we're also going live into the mindset mentor circle, which is my private Facebook group. And so I wanted to bring you into this space, because I just think that you're doing amazing things. And I think it'd be a great place for the people in the mindset mentor circle to really get an opportunity to get to know you. So welcome.

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Thank you, I'm excited to be here to share my wisdom and to connect with your community.

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Awesome. So you know, one of the things that I always ask people at the very beginning is I just say, tell us a little bit about yourself, and also who you serve. And just it's open to, to whatever you want to say, however you want to describe yourself.

2:59
Alright, so I see myself as a transformation coach, I use spirituality and leadership as part of my pillars. I come from a background in corporate health, health care, and really has have dug into personal leadership, I have earned my Master's in organizational organizational effectiveness, effectiveness and leadership. It's a very long title, right. And with that background and my spiritual journey, I've been able to blend this concept of that we're spiritual beings having a human experience. And that's the take that I take on my clients is we are this being that encompasses both those spheres. And I use primarily what is called Human Design. And we'll dig into that and what that means. And what brought me to it is I was constantly looking to fix and to understand myself and to learn more, and what can I do to become better and I was on this journey and human is out. Like I said, Human Design designed found me where it had this underlying piece that any other assessment personality tool, what have you, and it brought it back to the soul. And it's this awareness tool that I find that's unlike anything else. And it's one of those tools that you can have in your toolbox. And in that saying one is better than the other, right? They can all be complimentary. And so it's just this insight of who are you designed to be energetically so I serve professionals that are spiritually curious. They want to understand themselves they want to and they desire to have transformation and not just information that they go great. What do I do with this now so we can actually implement parts of who you are to this becoming?

4:42
I love that I was mentioning to you in a phone call that we had probably several weeks ago that I have just started to you know, do research around human design and my human design and, and how enlightening has really been for me like I've just really He started to see how open or closed I can be depending upon the circumstance and depending upon, you know what's going on in my world, but not everybody does things the certain a certain way. And it's like anything else, right? It's like, we automatically assume oftentimes, like, well, everybody should do it the way I do it. And everybody should process things the way I process things. And that's not always the case. So can you just for somebody maybe listening to this, and it's like, what is human design? And maybe they're like, I'm not really even into the Whoo. Yeah, yeah. Okay, so can you like, kind of, like, bring it home for us? Like, what is? What is human design? Exactly?

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Yeah. So we're gonna demystify, yeah, get back to the human. So, you know, we think about Whoo, and there's so many different things that we like we want to lean in, and we're not really sure. And we're like, is this Whoo, is this not? Whoa. So I'm going to demystify that, if not entirely, whoo. It's definitely this modern and ancient science blend, it's a system that brings that in together. Quantum physics, biochemistry, astronomy, so you have all these different pieces, the puzzle is mathematically based, as well. So yeah, so there's four components to human design. And that's astrology, that is the I changed. When you think about giant genetics, you think about your purpose, you also have the Kabbalah tree of life. And that gives you these gates and channels, this energetic flow. And then you also have the Hindu Brahmin chakra system. So when we think about chakra system, we traditionally think of the seven energy centers, you know, the colors of the rainbow route all the way up to crown. And we've evolved. And from the Uranian age, we've evolved from a seven to a nine. And I'm just going to get a little technical for just a minute. So we have the solar plexus, but we also have the splenic. And those split into two. And because we've evolved to be emotional beings, we don't just need to run away from an animal, but we now are using and processing information. So that has split into have those two centers. And then the heart center has split into what's called the G center, and also our ego. So when you think about ego, we're not thinking of it in the context, you typically think of like the ego gets in the way, what have you ego is around your willpower and your material world when it comes to human design. So we are in this nine energy center being. So we have this energetic blueprint, so think of it have a map, okay, and we have these nine energy centers, they can be colored, or they can be non colored, and what that means there's definitions for their undefined. So do you have a stability in your chart of this energy center or not? And there's no right or wrong, there's no good or bad. It's simply how you're designed. And when you understand this energetic flow, and these components, you can show up authentically yourself, you give yourself permission to show up as you and like you said, Andrea, like, we're not meant to have this cookie cutter approach. You're supposed to have this system or this structure or process this way, or, or do this and do that. And you know, as entrepreneurs, we hear how many different systems and processes they're on. They're all wondering, are they are they right? For you? Yeah. Are they right for you, and it gives you this permission slip to be you authentically. So it's just really it's a wonderful gift to be able to do that for people.

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One of the things that has been coming up with me, you know, a lot, I just was talking to someone on an Instagram live about this and about expansion and the expansiveness that we can experience and I would love to, like, ask you, when you understand or when you are starting to kind of dive into human design for yourself and the transformation. What, what is available for you in expansiveness when you start to go into that?

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Yeah, so I think there's no limit. There's no limit because human design is this experience. It's this experiment, and it's this ongoing journey. There's never a destination is it's just onion, you're continually unfolding. more layers of it. And there's depth of human design, there's environment, there's health, there's relationship dynamics, family dynamics, like there is this depth of information of how you can interpret and play with them. Right. And one of the examples how it's showing up for me, is I'm a manifester. There's five different energy types, and one of them is manifest errs, and they're about 8% of the population. And they were typically the leader. So you think about they can just initiate and go and do so like think of the slogan just do it right. Not everyone's meant to just go do it. These are typically the manifest errs and because historically, manifest errs were the leaders that That's what we heard. That's what we were conditioned to think. And that's not everyone's energy type. Okay? Yeah. So for me understanding that I'm to be this this big energy, this impactful energy to go do and run and say, and also one of the strategy parts of strategies to foreign people, because you as me as a manifester, I can just go and do. Yeah. But you can lose the crowd that way, right? So you just gotta go, Hey, I'm going to New York City. Does anyone want to come with me? If you're like, let's go, if not, not a big deal. So understanding that I'm meant to blaze this trail and do unapologetically, it gives me permission to show up that way. And understand I'm not meant for everyone. So that's just one way of leaning into mind design is, am I creating impact? Am I initiating? Am I seeing an opportunity and leaning into it, versus there's other energy types there? That's not how they're meant to show up. So there's just this level of permission that you continue to give yourself with every day.

11:03
Okay, so with the theme of showing up, because I do love that? How are the other types showing up?

11:11
Yeah, so we can dig into that for just a minute. So there are five different energy types. Like I said, manifest errs, we also have projectors. So those are the people that can see through the trees, they are the guides, they are here to do things much more efficiently. And they see things and they can go gosh, like why are these other people not seeing it? Do they not understand what why it's right in front of them? Well, they're not seeing it the way that a projector seeing it. So they have this magical view that others may not, and they're about 20% of the population.

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So they're even more so than the manifester.

11:45
Yeah, so the Okay, the smallest group are reflectors, and they're about 1%. And they are literally the mirror to communities to the world, they are completely open and undefined, which means they're going to take on other people's energy, and they're going to look back. So if you want to a health check, or a pulse on what's going on in the community, these reflectors literally give you back then information. So they're 1%. So they're very rare. And again, as we're evolving, that's where these, this reflector group has come in and evolve and has been created. So we have manufacturers, we have projectors, we have reflectors, and we also have generators, so they're about a third of the population, then they're here to generate energy. And they have what's called a defined sacral space. And that sacral Energy Center, they're here to be lit up by their work. And when they do that they're energetically aligned. They're bringing people into their space, they're bringing people in magnetically because they're doing what they love, and they're generating this energy. Their strategy is to respond. And that can mean different things. So one way I try to explain this, like you have an experience, and you go, do I want to do this again, do I now to do this again? And you lean back into your bond and go hmm, like, is this something that I want? And you say yes, of more of the things that you want, and you say no, of the things that aren't serving you.

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And as you go on, you start to say yes, to the things that are right for you, you find more alignment, you find more joy, you find your purpose, and you lean into that, because you're responding to what's coming to you, rather than just going and creating it and you're going to find resistance as a generator. If you're trying to go do go do go do, you can certainly look to partner up with someone like a manifester to just go create, but you're having this response of is this something that I want? Now, let me ask you a question about the response. Because I'd maybe didn't understand that before. I think you're explaining it a little bit more in detail than what I had maybe heard. So when you say in response, it's more like in response to your own, like what's coming up within you or in response to somebody else.

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So it can be both okay. And like I said, it's his experience, it's experiencing it experimenting and experiencing it, right? So you get to lean into what does a response meter look like for you? So for an example, you could see, there's a summit coming up, and you're like, ooh, do I want to experience this? And most often, there's a sacral connection and authority for generators and you're going to have this like yes or no response. Yes. And as you teach yourself to understand what does this yes or no mean, in my body? You can then say yes, if you're finding resistance, it's likely you know, default to a no and practice with it. So it could be you see an opportunity. It could be, Hey, do you want to be a podcast? Guest you know, there can be this different levels of what does the response meter look like? So it's not going to look the same every time. And you by practicing it will lead into what does the response mean to you? Go. Does that mean?

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Yeah, that makes sense? Yeah. Okay. So you're responding to kind of like almost like a stimulus, like in the sense of like, what's happening, and I'm responding to that. So whether it's in me in, you know, inviting me some, Okay, interesting. I'm a generator. So that that does make lessons I thought it sometimes I was like in response to what could be people experiences, opportunities, and you'll start to lean into what feels right and what does not feel right. Like an example, someone, I just use this PTA example, because I feel like the PTA PTO, people can understand that, you know, there could be this opportunity to help and you're like, I don't really want to help this way. However, I can help by baking or I can help them next time. And you're leaning into what's this response for you. Does that? Does that make sense? Yeah. So and you can also change the game up, you're allowed to say no, and give you a different terms. And that I think, you know, that comes to learning to use your voice and what feels right and going with your instinct and different parts of who we are. To be able to have these opportunities that feel right for us. Yeah. Because as a generator, not self theme as frustration. And here's where the cycle comes into play. So let's say you say yes to this opportunity, this person, this experiment, whatever, what have you, right? And it comes at time, you're like, I don't have time, I don't have energy, I don't want to do this, there comes a frustration. And there's a cycle, because you've now committed and said something that you now don't want to do. And you're now wasting your energy on something that's not right for you. And it's just not in alignment. So you're gonna feel this level of frustration, and that's natural. And that's a guy posing, let's look at this. Was this, was this right? For me? Why or why not? You know, did I feel not? Like I had enough time or enough or enough resources, or I wanted to spend my energy on something else. So it gives you this feedback? Yeah, naturally, through your body and through your emotions,

I find that so fascinating. Because I think growing up, you know, I always just defaulted to you do certain things because you commit to them, or it's expected. And so in order, you know, and even in business, even as an entrepreneur, or as a coach, when I first got into this space to is the same type of thing. It's like, well, if something you know, is presented to you, you do it, because it's just kind of an expectation. And that was, of course, because of my own what was my own upbringing and my own, you know, environment, right. But then when I started to understand human design, and I'm like, Oh, I get an opportunity to say no, and there, and I really woke up to this understanding that when I'm frustrated, or I'm feeling like this is not working, there's a reason for that. And it's something that I need to take a deeper look at, what did I say yes, to or no to that is not aligning for me, and if not, you know, really putting me in in a space to be able to make more impact. Now, in the mindset, mentor collective, which is a Facebook group that I host for entrepreneurs, and coaches, and if you're listening to the podcast, and you're not part of that yet, jump in, and definitely become part of that community. But it is, especially for entrepreneurs and coaches. And so I kind of want to just dial in for them, because I think this is a really important thing. So what about human design when it comes to understanding your human design? And being a coach? Maybe they're not a human design coach, but how will that impact their coaching, business or entrepreneurial life?

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So I think first and foremost, when you show up as your most authentic self, that's when you're the most magnetic. Okay, so understanding your design allows you to show up as the same person in your business and lean into what makes sense. So understanding how you make decisions in your human design is going to be the same way you use them in your business. So someone who let's say, has a splenic authority, spleen authority they're meant to make in the moment quick decisions, and if that's who and how you're designed to operate lean into doing more of that new business, does this launch feel right? Yes or no? Does this launch feel right? Right now? Yes or no? Does this does this make sense to add a team member does it make sense to you start to ask these questions, to practice leaning into what feels right in your decision making so decision making thinking about your launch thinking about what pride Check. So you saying yes to. And I just want to jump back real quick. So manifest manifesting generators are hybrid, they'll go last energy type. They're multi passionate. So if you're someone who's a manifesting generator, you're meant to have different things going on. And again, you have these components of a generator. So what are you saying yes to? Are you putting 10 different projects on your plate? Or should you really be putting four? Does this feel right, right now? Does this feel right? Later? You know, this, if you're thinking about let me think about launching a podcast. Okay, is this the right time yes or no. And it always comes back to bringing it back to the body. And I want to connect it to mindset too. So mindsets, incredibly important. But we also have the subconscious mind is 95% of what's in control, it's our body. So we think about we get back into our body, when we use our human design that leads us naturally, and we can get into our heads, we create these stories, and forget to lean into our bodies. And that's where the answers really lie. I love Oh, as an entrepreneur, give yourself this guidance through your intuition through your body to be able to serve your clients and your customers better. Because again, when you're energetically aligned, we're in, you're in an energetic, good space, people are going to naturally come to you, and you're not in resistance, you're actually in flow, and who doesn't want more flow. And their life is slow in their business. And you start to create, and I know you talk a little bit about manifesting, you start to manifest and create this life in this business that you love. And you enjoy. Yes, because you are authentically aligned.

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I love that that is so good. I was even talking to a client yesterday, who was making a decision and was having a hard time making a decision. And as soon as you were you're talking about that, I was immediately thought oh, I think maybe she needs to, to investigate human design. Because it could be that, like, you know, she's having a hard time making the decision, because she's not tuning in to her body and understanding her full design. And, and I think that yeah, we do get in our heads when it's like, oh, I should be doing this, like, kind of the, the topic was coming in that I'm sure so many people can relate to this, but it's like, I've spent so much money. And I would hate to not see anything come of it. So I don't want to just bail on this, you know, and you know, after spending all this money, and I was saying to her, I'm like, you know, this is a foundational piece to what you're doing. And look at this as an investment in you not an investment just in you know, the programs or the coaching or whatever that you've been in. But I'm kind of almost like hearing you say that when you're really in touch with an understanding how you are created, like from a from a human design standpoint. It's like you're able to go okay, yeah, listen, now I know, you know, when is it a right decision to move forward on a new program? Or should I sit back and take a little time, and you have this almost like a sense or awareness or keen awareness to like, I'm, that's okay. Yes, I can, and the worlds are gonna fall apart. Is that Is that right? Is that like, when you have an understanding of human design?

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Yeah. So I just had this aha that I want to share. So you know, you talked about being a generator, and this response, right? So if you're having messages coming through, hey, can you help me with this? Hey, can you help me with that, that is you then responding to people's needs. So if you're finding a theme with your clients and your customers, great, create a program, that's your response mechanism, I'm seeing this opportunity and responding to it. So again, when you know what, specifically right for you, you're going to show up energetically, right? So making decisions, how you communicate how you process information is going to be specific to you. So one way that I use it in my coaching, I love decision making cars. We spent how much time yeah, we make 35,000 decisions a day. So think about the rewiring of the subconscious, right? So when we know how to intuitively make decisions that are right for we're, we're breaking down the curve, we're doing what's right for us, and there's this conditioning process. So an example for me, I have an emotional authority, I'm not meant to make decisions that are quick, they're meant to have the dust settle. So not in a high not on the low and that also can be more time or space than other people are willing to. To be okay with. And part of my deconditioning process is setting those boundaries in a loving way of I need more time for this decision and you just know when there's clarity, you know, like He said like this, like, they're gonna be quick, emotional is not and it's leveraging those two. So especially, you know, as an entrepreneur when you're working with clients holding space for people that are different energetic blueprints to so.

25:12
So can I ask you a little bit about that like, so when you're for you like, it could be like a decision like, Okay, I invite you to be a guest on the podcast and you're like, Okay, I need to make, I need to, like sit on that decision, is this right for me? So it would take you a little bit of time? To know that answer, like that's,

25:31
so it can ebb and flow. So you know, when you think about a bigger decision, like buying a car, buying a house, and during a relationship, you want to be able to have that clarity before you just jump onto it. Because we all as humans, we get excited. We're like, Oh, this is shiny, this is great, this is fine. And then the dust settles, and then you're like, ooh, that's not really what I want. And if you've had a bath, yeah, though, you know, whether it's a large investments, like I actually had this with one of my, my clients, it was a large investment, she was super excited. She wanted to see this particular speaker, and she signed up. And then guess what one of the speakers, the one that she was looking to see, wasn't able to be be there anymore. So then it was like, gosh, like, how do I sit with this? Do I go do I not go and we went right back into how is the right way for her to make a decision. And it was to back out, the energetically did feel aligned anymore. So we didn't waste days or weeks sitting with it, we were able to sit down, reflect on it and take action. And everyone, again, they have different authorities, it's honoring what makes sense for you, and then also communicating that with the people that are in your life.

26:43
So it can be as far as much as like, you know, learning how to make decisions intuitively or a really like, you know, I love how you brought up the program thing. It was so funny that you did that. I was like that was really actually meant for me, thank you very much I will take you. And you didn't even know. But it was so funny that you said that. Because there there are so many times where you hear people talk about like, you should start a program like this. And you know, and for me, I find you know, as coaches, you know, you can pull the audience, you know, and I'm like, nobody responds to those polls very often. And I'm not getting any real.

27:21
Can I can I give you a little insight generators are going to be the most have to respond to those. Really? Yeah. And they're typically responding to like, yes, no answers, especially if they're saikal. So you understand your design, you can understand how to pull your audience and what kind of questions so someone who's emotional story, they're going to be leaning into more of that feel? Versus like, Yeah, so like, when you think about polling, you're only going to get an X amount of people because people if they're not generators, they may not lean into that respond. Does that make sense? Like totally

27:54
makes sense. Because I and as a generator, I sometimes don't even want to put I don't even want to put that out. Like to be honest with you, if you're feeling resistance, lean

28:03
into why are you really being resistant? Are you? And then again, like these stories? Are we saying nobody wants to respond to the is it? How are we presenting it is how we're sharing it? You know, we can then do an internal reflection of how are we showing up energetically? You know, when you think about, oh, gosh, no one's gonna listen to this, no one's gonna respond to this. That's the energy you're actually putting into that and think about people are not going to respond, because you've also created that story that is now being manifested. So they just told me, there's few different parts of that. Right.

28:39
I know, you're so right, because one of the the the new program that I'm launching, which is actually a revamped version of something I did last summer, and it was, again, in response to what my clients were saying that they needed. And there was a part of me that was like, Okay, well, I would never have probably done this particular program. It's, you know, but it is in response to, and I'm finding, even as I do through launch processes, and doing all of those things that some days, like lot yesterday was in the middle of launching for a workshop and massive resistance, again, like massive resistance. And I had to sit back and go, I close my laptop and was like, alright, you just need to go take a walk. You know, Where's this coming from? You know, what's going on? Are you still supposed to do this? And I was like, Yes, I really feel like this is what I'm supposed to do. But I was in my head, trying to think I needed to come up with all of the plan, which did not feel aligning to me. And you know, and so, you know, I was like I had to like let that go. But the part of me that used to show up as a coach this way, was always frustrated, because I'm being asked or told to do certain things. And then it wasn't working. And I'm like, I'm doing everything you tell me, I'm a very good student, I would do it to a tee. It is not generating the results that you're telling me it's going to generate an understanding a little bit more of my human side. And like I've mentioned, I'm only just like, you know, in the water, like barely, you know, walking in the water here. I'm already starting to understand more about okay, but I want to go, can we go deeper? Yeah. Can we go do Yeah, oh, bring it up. Because here's something. I'm sure people who are listening to this are going to be like, Oh, my gosh, there's so much to this. And this is why I definitely want you to actually to connect with Emily. Because I really do honestly believe that when you start down this road for yourself, it's going to open things up for you. So that's why I want to say that. Okay, Gates. And there's another word that you use before, and I can't remember what it was gates and channels. Don't understand that.

What is that all about? Yeah, okay. Yeah. So we have 64. We have 64 channels, 64 gates, rather? Sorry, 64 channels, 32 gates. So two channels make a gate? And when you have two channels, okay.

Okay, it's like two pathways making a gate.Yeah. So you have, I'm just, I use my head. So. So let's think about your sacral space, right. So let's say you have a gate that comes out of that. And let's say we have your solar plexus, there's a gate that comes out of that, if they're in the same line, the same space, they're now creating a channel, okay, and each gate has a specific characteristic message. And then also, when they're combined, there's this bigger message, this bigger characteristic that comes to it. And when you have this whole channel that's connected, that's when you have a definition and energy center. Okay. So if you have, let's say, your sacral, to your solar plexus, those now become both defined, and you have this energetic flow that is yours. Does that make sense?

Yeah, and I have seen the chart, and I've seen where mine does connect and where it does not connect. So I do understand that. So like, if you pull up your chart, you would be able to see like, where they actually do connect?

32:21
Yeah, so for me, I'm gonna give an example in some contexts, I have just a few different channels that connect for me, and one of them is the gate of correction. And this is where that when we get into the deeper parts of human design, gated correction, there are so many different ways that you can use it there is the shadow frequency. And there's higher frequencies of how to use these gates to so we can dig into those, and coaching. And so a shadow part of the gate of corrections that you see something that can be fixed that become better. And that's also why I think I've been on this journey of like, how do I fix How do I do this? How do I do that. But if you're using that energy in the wrong way, the shadow self can come out. And I can see that there's things wrong with other people, again, that's also a reflection of myself. So when I'm looking at this gate of correction, if I'm not using energetically in the right way, I'm like nitpicking it, people are seeing things and the shadows are coming through, rather than if you're using in your purpose, you're using energetically correctly, you are saying, okay, like, How can I fix and solve some of these things. And like the gate of correction can be a gift, it can be this beautiful thing, if you're using it in energetically right way. So like, for me, I see problems, I want to fix them, let's see how we can fix it like I am this resourceful. Let's look at the different angles. Let's do this. Let's do that, you know, as part of my coaching approaches, I can see this game of correction. And I can use that in a loving heart centered way of, you know, I'm seeing this as an opportunity or something that you want to work on, let's move you into the space that it's energetically you're using in the right way. So not more or less fixing someone, but you're finding more of a solution. So we each have these different characteristics and components of how we're to energize us ourselves. So for me, I'm here to help with that data correction. I'm also I have this gate of crisis. Okay, lightning of the dark, like I can be there for people in these moments. And it's also part of my design. And then you also will go a little deeper based on how these channels show up for you. There's what's called an incarnation cross, and there are four quarters and there's different expressions of them as well. So mine is the service is the incarnation of service. So I'm here to be of service to people, right? We're all here to serve others. However, how are we using that with other people? How are we stepping into our purpose and what feels right when I'm helping people i i I am excited Only with like, yeah. So knowing just some of your gates, some of your channels, knowing your purpose, it leads you into how are my power using this? And it's not, you know, not everyone's meant to be a coach. But that could be a really great way. But when you're looking at your incarnation cross, how am I using this as part of my coaching? How am I using this as an entrepreneur, so you can connect those two as well. So there's, again, there's this depth, and because it's very personalized, I want to you know, I want to be able to dig in and help you have this awareness of where am I using my gifts? And when you think about the gates and channels, there's different types of circuitry to so there's what's called collective so there's also tribal, you know, is your energy really connected on how you serve portal pro your community in your tribe, and there's give and take? So there's this energetic connections with each of these gates and channels, there's a signature, will you? Okay, so understanding that part as well, can be a really great thing, and how you show up for your community, how you show up for your clients? Because understanding that type of energetic circuit, you're able to lean into that more, does that make sense? Like, through a lot of information?

36:14
So good, so good. Yeah. It makes it makes a lot of sense. And I think that as coaches, entrepreneurs, you know, when we're working with clients, or we're doing certain things, and, you know, we're not only making an impact, but we're also kind of, you know, working out things in our own lives as we go and wanting to show up in a way that is truly authentic. And if you're not showing up in that way it can it can feel off putting or frustrating or like you want to quit, or, you know, I'm done with this. And maybe it's it's not that you need to be done as much as take a deeper look at maybe there's something you're missing, or you should be like pivoting in some way to do you know, more of what light does light you up, which, which I think is amazing. This okay, this is so okay. I love this.

37:08
I am loving, I am loving this conversation. And I hope you know if there are any questions, please reach out. Yeah, we dig, we dug into so much. So, you know, I just want to let them all know, certainly reach out with any questions, because I'm sure many have gone.

37:23
Well, and this is the thing, like I think it's so you know, like oftentimes, you know, we're going well, how do we, we continue to expand and grow ourselves and elevate. I noticed for myself, when I this year was probably Yeah, 2022 was when I was introduced to human design. And it was kind of like a slow, like a slow introduction for me into it. But I've had some really amazing conversations around it as the years gone on. And it continues to, you know, be a thread through my year so far. So that's been pretty cool. But I've also seen that, when I have an understanding of my human design and my purpose, you know, in a real sense of who I am, you know, personally, it has really helped me. And really, I've allowed myself and given myself permission to do things that I maybe wasn't doing before because I wasn't looking there, or I wasn't investigating that. And this gave me permission. I would love to know, when people do work with you. And they do have, you know, a better understanding of human design. What does that look like to actually work with you?

Yeah, so we I do one on one sessions, and we get to discover we unlock, we bring awareness and we shift. So I find it in a space that I default to where you're needing assistance, are you looking to grow? So, you know, is it the resistance in your business? Is it communicating in your relationships? Is it you know, going back to decision making, is it how are you leading into decision making, so I default to what feels right for, for you as a client, and almost no way focus on like that one thing approach, because if you do too many things at once, you're not going to be able to say sustain that lifestyle that shift that change. So a very layered approach of how we do that. So very much this uncovering, let's discover, let's create awareness, because you can't do any anything unless you have this level of awareness. So example tone when you think about communication, if you're not aware of your tone, you can't change it. Yeah. So something as simple as that is, I lean into what you're finding is an opportunity for you and we deconstruct that and we rewire we relearn we decondition When we give you permission to really step in that space and to love yourself a little bit more, and usually, with that, you release this guilt and this shame and this conditioning that you've had. And it may be, you know, 30 plus years, 20 plus years, 40 plus years, you know, it could be a limiting story that you've had from your family, it could be generational trauma that you're trying to break and tribal energy, and especially doesn't circuitry to, if you're stuck to this tribal energy, it's really challenging to break through because you're looking at your identity, you're looking at who you are, who you're becoming, and you separating from that. And that can be very difficult in the sense that you feel lonely, you're, you know, when you think about, and here's just an example. If you're someone that is being an entrepreneur for the first time, and you are not like the rest of your family, no one in your family understands entrepreneurship, what it means what it looks like, doesn't feel safe, no tribal energy safety and security, right. So that route safety and security. So if you're looking to break yourself through as an entrepreneur, and you're still stuck on this tribal energy in the identity of this tribe that you have with your family, you're actually you're getting stuck in this pattern to not be able to move yourself and propel yourself forward. So you're holding yourself back from success, if you're still stuck in this tribal energy of your family, if they don't understand what that means, or what that looks like. Does that make Yeah, as a question like, you know, when they are second tribal energy, or when they when they do identify that then what happens next?

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It's let's deconstruct that story. Okay, is this a story that's still serving you? One of my my greatest connections and friends, Kelly Brock, she talks about this principle a lot is this table is let's knock the table down, let's not build legs of the table down. And we get to deconstruct the story and really say, Is this really serving us? Is this something that is still true? You know, when you think about money, stories, money doesn't grow on trees, money, doesn't miss money doesn't matter, right? And we're able to say, right, like, is this does this make sense anymore? Is this really what we want to create? And have this becoming of who you want to be?

42:29
Yeah, that's amazing. Okay. So there's so much that that you can do like, you can look at it from a business perspective, personal decision making, relational, all sorts of different ways, which, if you're kind of feeling, you know, you like, as you said, you know, your transformational coach catalyst, you know, and really understanding how you can transform in, in the different areas through human design. That's, it's it is

42:57
it's limitless. There's so many different ways that you can use and experiment with it.

43:02
Awesome. That's amazing. Well, I really appreciate you joining me today. If so, Emily, thank you so much for being a guest on the courage cast today. I so appreciate you. Where can people connect with you, and learn more about what you do?

43:17
Yeah, so you can find me on pretty much every platform. So I'm on Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, so any of those platforms. And one of the things to do to get started on your journey is to pull up your human design chart. So just a few things that you need is your your time of birth, your date of birth and your location of birth. And just because you don't have that information, doesn't mean you can't work with me, I certainly can help transform how with other tools and modalities, so you can find me, like I said on Instagram, LinkedIn, and

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Facebook. Awesome. Thank you, Emily, for being with me. Thank you so much for having me.

Okay, wow, I am walking away with so much more insight into myself, but also into human design. And, quite frankly, quite excited to dive even deeper. You know, one takeaway that I'm going to really be applying in my own life is that there's no right or wrong when it comes to our human design type, that we just have to give ourselves permission to show up as ourselves. And for a long time, I think that I was looking for a prescribed way of doing things. And so this is just really shown me that there's no right or wrong way to do things that we just really have to know how we can show up when it comes to our own lives, and our businesses, our relationships and in every other way. I want to encourage you to connect with Emilee. I will put all of her links in the show notes. And I'm sure that she can help you when it comes to getting your human design chart as well as really having a transformation in your own life and in your business. Friend, thank you for hanging out with us today and, and if we're not already connected on Instagram you can find me at at Andrea crisp coach. Until next time remember you have everything you need to live briefly.

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221 | How Are You Showing Up As The Expert And Authority?

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
I think sometimes we’re overthinking everything, making it way too complex and way too difficult for people to actually get into our world
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

If you were given 20 minutes on any stage in the world what would you talk about and why? I bet that there is a topic that you are so passionate about that you could literally share about it for hours. So why are you not stepping up and acting as the expert and authority? Imagine for a moment that you were able to move past those fears and truly show up as the expert in your field.

Join The Confidence Accelerator — Doors are open now!

If you're ready to elevate your mindset book a FREE 20-minute Strategy Call with Andrea: www.andreacrisp.ca/schedule

Connect with Andrea on IG: @andreacrispcoach + @the.couragecast

 
 
 
 

Listen Here:

 
 
 

Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

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If you were given 20 minutes on any stage in the world, what would you talk about? And why? I bet that there is a topic that you're so passionate about, that you can literally share about it for hours on end, it's probably something you've talked about with your closest friends, people that you do, community and life with. So let me ask you this, why are you not stepping up and acting as the expert and authority on that particular topic?

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You're listening to the courage cast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and confidence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

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Hey there, welcome to The Couragecast. My name is Andrea Crisp, and I am so glad that you have joined me today we are talking about showing up as the expert and the authority. This is something that I truly believe each and every one of us has the capacity to do.

But so often, we find ourselves sitting back, and really allowing other people to take the lead. And I would bet that there is something that you are really, really passionate about in your life, in your business in your world that you're like I could talk about that for hours. And I know so much about that, or I'm just so fired up about that particular topic.

And yet, you're not talking about it, you don't tell anybody that you know anything about it, you are just in a constant state of learning, because you think that you need to know more and more and more and more and more. So here's the thing, when you are not acting as the authority and expert, you are actually missing out on opportunities, you're missing out on income, you're missing out on clients, and you're missing out on helping others get a transformation in their lives, which is why we are in this industry is to really help others shift their lives and get a transformation.

And really what it boils down to is a lack of courage, you are not stepping up to the plate, and you're not living bravely. And you are not acting and showing up as the expert and the authority in your particular field. Now, there's a lot of reasons why this may be the case, right? We're going to talk about a few of those. And just in case you're wondering, of course, I have done this myself.

There have been many, many times where I have sat back, and I have really differed to other people. I'm like, well, they're a better communicator, or they seem to know more, or people seem to listen to them, or they're the loudest in the room. I mean, whatever the circumstance is, really a boils down to what do you believe to be true?

Do you believe that you have the capacity to be the authority and expert in that particular subject topic? And can you share about that thing? Or do you find yourself deferring to others, letting other people take the lead? Now, I'm in a mastermind, currently, and I was talking to one of the people within the group. And I had this great conversation with this individual. And it was amazing. One of the things that she brought up was that, you know, she was always quiet, there were maybe a handful of people within the group that are consistently talking and sharing.

And I can guarantee you that those people truly have stepped into the belief that they are the authority, and that they are the expert in their field and they are willing to share. The people who are not sharing are the people who feel as though they are not. And there is a really marked difference between people who do show up in that way and people who don't. Now here is where it gets really interesting.

Just because somebody is showing up as the expert authority doesn't make them more knowledgeable, desperate and make them actually more of an expert. It makes them have they have more belief they have they have stepped into the identity of the authority and the expert, the other person has not. I mean, it's just that simple.

So if you find yourself deferring to others when you're in communities, masterminds group coaching programs, take a look at why you're not stepping up and sharing Because I would venture to say it's probably not because you're not the expert, it's probably because you don't have the identity of the authority an expert. Now, other ways that we, you know, just shrink back is thinking you need more qualifications. You know, maybe I need to have been in this industry longer, maybe I need more certifications. This was me prior to really doing NLP. And even though NLP has served me so well, as a coach, that's Neuro Linguistic Programming, with hypnosis, time techniques, all of those things, and I love it, and I use it in my business. However, the coach I was before that really is still existent. Now. I'm the same coach, and the transformation I was having with clients before, I'm still having now.

But for some reason, I felt as though I needed to have this certain certification to validate who I was what I had to offer. And really, at the end of the day, I didn't the reason I needed NLP was so that I could shift and have the subconscious transformations in my own life. And it gave me another tool to help my clients. But it definitely does not make me an expert. It's just something that I can use within my own business. Another way that you may not be showing up as the expert is, you're listening to the fears of other people, their lack, their negativity, their fear that things aren't going to happen for them. And they're never going to be able to grow their business and things are falling apart at the seams.

And why are they getting clients and all of a sudden, you feel as though it's the same for you and you take on that energy. And you shrink back and slowly slowly fade back into the woodwork. Instead of you know, kind of standing up and being like, you know what, I'm sorry, that that's how you feel is there any way that I can support you, I really want to help you. But I need you to know that I'm moving forward. And that I do feel as though I can help others. And I am going to take the positive approach. And I am going to believe that things are happening for me and not to me. And really moving past the fears that other people may be projecting another way, you might be finding yourself in that space where you're not really stepping up as an authority is your focus, you're not focusing on what you do best. So maybe you're like, really paying attention to all of the peripheral things that you do. But the thing you do best you're not highlighting, it's kind of like burying the lead, burying the lead, whatever, however you say it bury the lead.

I digress. Okay, back to my original thought. So if you're bearing the lead, you are actually not showcasing the very very thing that people come to you most, it's your superpower. It's like the thing that people love about you, it's the thing that you are gifted at doing. And for me in my life there, there are things I feel like I'm gifted at doing.

Number one, I'm a great singer. But apart from being a great singer, I'm also really, really good at helping other people have that ability as well. So I am a great voice coach. And I can help people really step into a whole new level when it comes to their voice. But if I don't talk about that, and I don't showcase that, then people think oh, well, she doesn't really know what she's talking about. Same comes to being coaching, when I can really, really see the potential and other people and I can see their blind spots very, very clearly, where maybe a lot of people can't, and I have like a maybe like a super intuition, where I'm able to see that and understand that and really be able to help somebody get to that place and shift it.

And that is not something that everybody can do. But it's something that I do really, really well. So it would behoove you to find the thing that you do really, really well. And focus on what you do best so that you can become the authority and the expert in that. Another way that you might not be showing up is you're doing too many things. Right? I am so guilty of this. I am talking to myself when I say this, I do all these things well, so I don't get help and support. And really, I'm actually dimming down the authority that I have in other ways because I'm just trying to do too many things at once and I'm gonna leave it at that because you Now I feel like I'm just talking to myself. But if that resonated with you, and you know that there's something that you do really well, and you're focusing on all the other things, because you do them kind of well, then you're not really showing up as the authority and the expert. Or, lastly, you may be feeling as though if you do, people are gonna look at you like, Who are you like, what do you have to offer? And who says you can do that?

Especially if you've had a transformation in your life, and you have friends and family who don't see you as that, and you haven't really started showing up in your life that way. And then all of a sudden, people are like, What the heck, like, that's not you. But here's the thing that really is our own subconscious perception of what we think other people are going to believe about us. And that's the work we need to do. It's not the responsibility of other people to like, say, oh, yeah, you're so great. Look at your transformation, you got this, go ahead. It's really about us. It's really about taking the ownership of your own transformation and saying, you know, what, yeah, I have this transformation. And it doesn't matter how other people perceive me, I am going to show up, I'm going to help people, I'm going to empower them. I'm going to be the expert and the authority in this particular industry that I'm in. And when you do that, when you step into that space, you're gonna find that things just like, automatically, doors open for you. People are like, Oh, my gosh, you're the expert in that. Awesome. I need you to talk to me about that. I remember when I started doing that, around podcasting, and I was like, forever. I was like, I had no idea what I'm doing on podcasting. But all of a sudden, I had been doing for a couple years, I had a top rated show. I had amazing guests, and people are like, you're like the go to person for podcasting. And I was like, What? No, not. But at the end of the day, I had to come to realize that well, yeah, I kind of am. And I do know what I'm talking about, because I've been doing this for a long time. And I feel very confident in what I do and what I'm producing when it comes to my podcast.

So I realized I am an expert and authority when it comes to podcasting. So there is something maybe many things that you can really start showcasing within your own life to really step into being the authority, and the expert in that particular industry. Now, we are really diving into this within the confidence accelerators an eight week. It's an eight week coaching program, where I work primarily with entrepreneurs, coaches, podcasters authors, speakers about really, truly identifying what is holding them back so that they can shift those subconscious beliefs and become the authority and take aligned action in their lives, and really share their message so that you can transform the lives of other people. And this eight week container starts July 14.

So there's still time if you're listening to this for July 14 to jump into the eight week program. If not, then make sure you join the waitlist for when it reopens. This program is so phenomenal. And honestly I can say the transformations that have happened within the group have just blown me away. So if this sounds like you, then I want to encourage you to jump in. And there still is time so make sure you go to the show notes and you can check out all the information about how you can sign up for this eight week program. Alright friend, I want to encourage you take a step today towards really showing up in your authority and acting as though you are the expert in your industry. Okay, friend. Love you. Until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live bravely.

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220 | What is holding you back from showing up confidently?

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
I think sometimes we’re overthinking everything, making it way too complex and way too difficult for people to actually get into our world
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

Do you often find yourself hiding or shrinking back from doing what you love the most in the world?

It honestly does not matter how old you are or what stage of life you are in when it comes to being confident.

We need to continually flex that muscle and lean into what may feel hard at times. This week on the podcast we are talking about what is really holding you back from showing up confidently and how you can shift those beliefs for good!

Join The Confidence Accelerator — Doors are open now!

If you're ready to elevate your mindset book a FREE 20-minute Strategy Call with Andrea: www.andreacrisp.ca/schedule

Connect with Andrea on IG: @andreacrispcoach + @the.couragecast

 
 
 
 

Listen Here:

 
 
 

Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

0:00
Do you often find yourself hiding or shrinking back from doing what you love to do most in the world? You know, it honestly doesn't matter how old we get or what stage of life we find ourselves in. When it comes to stepping out and being confident. We need to continually flex that muscle and lean into what may feel hard at times.

0:29
You're listening to The Couragecast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and confidence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

0:54
Hey there, welcome to the courage cast. My name is Andrea crisp, and I am your host. And I am so glad that you are joining me today. It was an amazing long weekend, I hope that you had such a great time celebrating whether you find yourself in Canada, celebrating Canada Day on July 1, or you're in the USA, and you are celebrating Independence Day on July 4. I just love this weekend, it's just a great time to you know, just set things aside and to really spend time with family. But it was also an opportunity for me to launch one of my signature programs, which I am so excited about the confidence accelerator is back and the doors are open. And we are actually going to be kicking off on July 14. And I have been waiting an entire year to bring this program back to you. And I am so excited to share a little bit today about the program but also to share with you about how you might be holding yourself back from showing up confidently in your life and in your business. Now the reason why I say in your life and in your business is because I believe that when you are showing up in your life one way, you are also going to show up in your business that way, and vice versa. So it is interconnected. Everything we do in life and business really impacts the other. And so if you are shrinking back when it comes to relationships in your life, then it's entirely possible that you're shrinking back from really calling in soul aligned clients in your business or people that you want to collaborate with, or just opportunities that feel really good for you. And there are a lot of reasons why we tend to hold ourselves back. And I want to talk about some of those reasons. And why it is so important that we begin to shift our subconscious beliefs around these things. Now, when I first started coaching, this was not the work I did, I actually started working with women on really discovering their purpose. And this was a great place for me to start because I was passionate about helping people really discover what they were lit up by, and helping them move towards it.

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But as I started moving in that direction, and I saw more and more women discover their purpose, I was seeing that so many of them, were not taking action. And they were just kind of allowing their purpose to kind of shrivel up and die, so to speak. And it was really hard to watch. And I started to feel a bit frustrated about it and think, you know, why are so many of these women that I'm coaching, not actually doing the things that they desire. And yet on the flip side, there were so many of my clients who were so I started to take a look at, well, what is actually the difference between the people who do and the people who don't. And this is really where it comes down to confidence. And confidence can encompass many, many different things. But really, it's all about shifting those subconscious beliefs, stories, narratives, things that you have believed to be true about your life. Now I talk a lot about this because I think it is so important. It's the mindset work.

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It's the inner work that will really take you to the next level and that is what we're doing in the competence accelerated are. So not only are we going to take action, and we're going to ignite the purpose and passion in your life, but we're also going to uncover what has been holding you back and shift that mindset. So we're going to first start off by talking about impostor syndrome. Right? Now, if you've been in this industry for any length of time, it is entirely possible that you have bumped up against feeling like a fraud, feeling like you do not belong here, right? Now, I remember when I first started speaking, and I was asked to speak at different events. There were times where I honestly would show up and I think, you know, what, I don't really belong here, like, do they really know who I am, and that I'm not qualified to do this. And there were so many times where I just disqualified myself from even taking the opportunity to speak in front of other people. Because I felt as though I was a fraud and imposter. And it wasn't until I really had this kind of like, come to Jesus moment, so to speak, where I really felt as though if I didn't start speaking on my own platforms and sharing what my message was, then how can I really expect to be asked to speak on other people's stages, podcasts events. So it was up to me to really set the stage for who I wanted to be. And to actually build the table and say, This is where I am. This is my platform, my stage, my table, and I want to invite you into this space. And once I did that, I realized that you know what, I belong here. And I have just as much right? To be here as anyone else.

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So if you're feeling a lot like that, I want to invite you to think about well, where are you sharing your message right now? Is it through your copy? Is it through a podcast, writing a book, maybe it is speaking live on stages, or going to retreats and doing work through that maybe it's actually through some sort of creative process. Maybe it's through coaching, and doing programs, whatever it looks like for you. I want to encourage you to speak up and actually hold space for yourself. Another way that we can really step back when it comes to confidence is the fear of failure. You know, that inevitable thing of like, well, what if right?

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We have so many of those scenarios that go over and over and our minds like, well, what if this happens, or what if that happens, and so often we're actually making all these assumptions in these things that are never actually going to happen. But when we focus on that, and we focus on the possibility of what could go wrong all the time, then we are actually inviting that into our lives. And so I want to encourage you to to kind of take a step back from that. And go ask yourself the question, what if I succeed? What if this becomes really something amazing that people want and love and want to jump into or what if people really want me to speak at their events, or be on their podcast or host an event, whatever it is, whatever it looks like for you start shifting the what ifs from failure to the possibilities. The third thing is the feeling of lack. And that feeling of lack. When we focus on what it is that we don't have? Well, we're going to attract more of that, we're going to attract more of what we don't have. So if we don't have clients, or we don't have money, or we don't have opportunity, and we focus on those things, well, it's probably going to be inevitable that you attract none of those things.

9:09
And so you're just going to find yourself in the same position over and over again. And this is something that I have really struggled with, and just only recently started to realize that I was focusing on the lack of things. And it was a monumental shift in my mindset to really start to focus on what it is that I desire, holding that emotion and really being in that space to hold for what it is that I truly want. Number four would be those feelings of not being enough. And that really stems from insecurity, right? It stems from possibly a subconscious belief somewhere along the way, maybe in childhood, maybe from your family of origin, perhaps even just something in yourself. That makes you

10:00
You really take a look inward and go, You know what, I'm just not good enough, what I do is not good enough, I'll never be important, or I'll never be enough of this. And when we are really, really focusing inward on self in this way, it actually keeps us from really making that transformation, and helping others in their lives. So I want to encourage you to shift that belief, that subconscious belief from feeling like you're not enough to really starting to say, How can I really be a catalyst of transformation in the lives of other people. Now, conversely, to not being enough or feeling like you're not enough, is the feeling of being too much.

10:48
Now, this subconscious belief can often stem from, you know, being told to shop or, you know, you're too much or you need to, you know, calm down or, and there's a lot of people who have big personalities, or they are bold, or they are, you know, always talking extroverted, maybe, you know, they were somebody in the class that was always speaking up for things, and people told them to be quiet. Maybe that's you, maybe you were in a position in your own life where people were like, trying to tell you to dial it down. And it created within you a subconscious belief that whenever you talk, whenever you share, whenever you offer something, people are gonna be like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, that is too much. Right. And so every time you feel as though you're doing something, you feel as though you need to pull back. Well, that is a subconscious belief that you can shift and you can really find what it is that you truly can learn from that, and shift that belief in your life, because you're not too much.

11:54
The next one is comparison. Now, it does not matter how successful you get when it comes to comparison, because there's always people that are doing bigger, better, and more amazing things than you are. And that's okay, because it just gives us something to look at, to strive for, and to say, You know what, that's possible when someone else is doing it, that means that I can do it as well. But when you're focusing too much on what somebody else is doing, or whether or not you know, they like you, or whether or not, you know, they want to be part of your world, and you're comparing yourself to like another person in the industry and other speaker and other podcasts or another coach, then you're finding that you're always looking at what they're doing. You're trying to assess, you know, should I do things differently? What if I show up this way, will people like me more. And that really actually moves you out of a place of confidence and into a place really as though you were acting as someone else. And people see right through that, they don't want it. And so I just encourage you stay in your own lane. Don't worry about what other people are doing. And the last one I want, the last one that I want to talk to you today about is really about boundaries, setting these really good parameters for yourself.

13:12
This came up for me today, I was actually asked to host someone on Instagram Live. And I've actually, you know,worked with this individual before. But for some reason, I was feeling as though it wasn't really aligning anymore. And the more I kind of like, felt into that, the more I realized that this person was really crossing some of my boundaries. And I wasn't really being upfront about those boundaries. And I was continually saying yes, even though I was feeling that pressure, I was feeling that it was not congruent with me anymore. I was feeling like it was out of alignment. And it was really draining my energy. Now when we are in a place where we don't have those boundaries, and we can't say no, or we can't say yes to the things we want to do, because we feel as though we have to appease someone or get their approval or validation for some reason. It really just detracts from us showing up as the most confident version of ourselves. So here's what happened in this. In this scenario. I ended up telling the person because they kept changing the time. I said this is the time available, and when they didn't like that time and still wanted a different one even though they needed my help. I said no. And when I said no, there was pushback.

14:52
So I created a boundary and that person then pushed back on my boundary, which then caused me to have to then create or enforce a stronger boundary. And the more I had to enforce that boundary, the more confident I became. Because I started to realize that no is an acceptable answer. And if I say, No, I don't have to have a reason for now. And oftentimes we find ourselves trying to appease everybody else, trying to do the things that they want us to do, or we think they want us to do, because we just want to be seen as someone who has it all together, who is likable, you know, all the things, right.

15:48
But when you have those boundaries, and you set those boundaries for yourself, you are actually stepping into the most confident version of yourself. So maybe you're struggling with any of those things impostor syndrome, fear of failure, feelings of lack not being enough, being too much, maybe you're comparing yourself, or maybe you feel like you don't have any boundaries. I feel like you're saying yes to everything.

16:14
I want to encourage you, that whatever it is, you can identify where that belief originated. And there is something to be learned from that belief. And when you do that, it will shift your belief system around what is possible, and you will really be able to step confidently into who you are becoming in your business and who you're becoming in your life. And in the confidence accelerator, that is one of the first things that we do. So not only are we going to challenge you to take aligned steps of action, and really move forward, but we're going to take the time to really hone in on what is actually holding you back from taking the steps confidently in your life, and in your business. So if this is something that you want to hear more about, I would encourage you to go to the link in my bio, and you can click on the confidence accelerator, and you'll be able to pull up all of the information. We kick off July 14. And so there is still space available for you.

17:30
And I would love to have you be a part of it. And if this is something that you're like, you know, I don't know, maybe this is the right fit, maybe it's not, then I also encourage you to set up a time to chat with me and I would love to talk with you to see if this is the right fit for you. So make sure you go to the show notes. Or you can go to my website. And you can check out the competence accelerator and I would love to talk more about it with you. Friend, thank you so much for being here today. I am so just like so honored that you do the journey with me every single week. And until next time. Remember, you have everything you need to live bravely.

18:12
If you like this episode of The Couragecast, we'd love to hear from you. Leave us a rating and review and while you're there, hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Original music and production by Steven Crilly.

EP 196 | Being Confident

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
But if you use your voice, if you share your story, your message, that can change someone else’s life because you’re authentically showing up as that version of yourself. And that’s really all that matters.”
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

Is there something that you are itching to get out into the world? This week on the podcast we're talking about taking those big steps to own your voice and your power by being confident in who you have been created to be.

In the third episode of the series Becoming Your Future Self, we are talking about how to own who you are by becoming more confident.

Connect with Andrea on IG: @andreacrispcoach @the.couragecast

Connect with Andrea via TEXT: Text the word COURAGE to 647-424-2429 CLICK HERE

To book a FREE 30 minute Strategy Call with Andrea: www.andreacrisp.ca/schedule

To enter the 200th Episode Giveaway, please send a screen shot you sharing the podcast, subscribing, rating and reviewing. Send the screenshot to Andrea at andreacrisp@me.com.

Connect with Niki Ferguson on IG: @wildly_worthy

Transcript

Andrea Crisp 0:01
Is something that you're itching to get out into the world? This week on the podcast, we're talking about taking those big steps to own your voice and your power by being confident in who you've been created to be.

Andrea Crisp 0:15
Hey, friend, are you ready to take courageous steps to create a life and business you love. Welcome to The Couragecast. I am Andrea Crisp, mindset coach, author, and a multi-passionate entrepreneur. For years, I was afraid to allow myself to shine. That was until I discovered that I could step into my own power, shift my mindset, and take ownership of my own destiny. Now I coach women across the globe who are ready to own their life and make a massive impact. Each week, I'll share conversations with amazing humans who've been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose. I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice to help you take brave steps in your own life and business.

Andrea Crisp 0:54
Hello, my friend, my name is Andrea, I'm your host. And I love that you've joined me today. We are the third week into January, and I bet you're already slaying 2022. Like I'm just believing it right now. But I know that usually in the third week of January, it is the hardest weeks. So they say and you know, although I always wonder who they is anyways, but we've decided this year, we're making the rules, right? So like, we don't have to like play by that rule anymore, and decide that everything's gonna be hard. We can decide right now, it's gonna be easy. And I've got some pretty exciting news, because next month, we're going to be celebrating our 200th episode of the podcast. And as we are preparing to reach that crazy milestone, I can't even believe that we're going to be at the 200th episode. I love your help, as we get a little bit closer to celebrating this monumental milestone. And if you've been a longtime listener, would you consider sharing one of your favorite episodes, maybe even this one, maybe this one's going to be your new favorite. And when you share it on social, tag me, so that I can repost it, and also screenshot it and send it to me through email or DM, I'll have both of those links located in the show notes. And then you're gonna be entered into a giveaway for the 200th episode. And who doesn't love prizes? Because I mean, I love a good prize, right? So another way that you can enter is by subscribing, rating, reviewing the podcast and screenshot that as well. And then send it directly to me. Again, those links will be in the show notes.

Andrea Crisp 2:32
Now, this month, we've been going deep into a series that I believe really will shift your life, and your vibration, as you start showing up being expansive, being magnetic, and being confident. This week, we're going to talk about a word that gets thrown around a lot, and can be very misunderstood. And I believe that's confidence. So let me ask you, how confident are you feeling right now? You know, often we look on the outside to feel confident, put on a pair of jeans and wonder how we look in those jeans. And you know, is my hair a certain way, and how my appearing on social media, and you know, that's what we feel like how we feel confident, but we're not limited to that. You can have confidence, and yet not be activating it in your life or your business, because you're not authentically showing up as yourself. And people can tell when you are showing up as yourself, and you are confident about who you are. But what if you could be so completely confident to be yourself, share your voice, your message with the world. That would be something right? I would call that really being able to accelerate your confidence. Now, I'm always attracted to people like that, you know, I see them. They walk into a room. It's like, oh my gosh, they totally know who they are. They're easy to spot because I give a rat's patootie about what anybody else thinks, and what anyone else is doing or how they're doing it. And then there's everybody else, who's like, so caught up in approval being judged, comparing themselves to one another. And quite frankly, that's kind of exhausting.

Andrea Crisp 4:13
So, back in December, I decided I needed a little social media hiatus. And as an online coach and communicator, that's kind of a scary thing. Because thinking about being offline for any length of time is always, "Oh my gosh, like what's gonna happen?" But I knew that it was more important that I took the time to hear my own voice and stop listening to the voices around me. So I made the decision to step away from all my social media platforms. Have you ever done anything like that? Yeah, like so it's both amazing and scary at the same time. But here's the thing, in order to know what it is you want to say, sometimes you have to get quiet enough to hear your own voice to go within and to get real about the transformation that has happened in your life, and step into your power and share that message.

Andrea Crisp 5:08
Because here's the thing, you've got a story to share, you've got a message to share with the world. But what might be holding you back is the fact that you don't feel like you can share it authentically, yourself. So being confident is not about how you look or how you walk into a room. In fact, you can walk into a room with like, what appears to be confidence, when it's really just arrogance. Being confident is standing in the truth of who you are, no matter what, no matter if you feel or don't feel the support of your family, no matter how certain you are of being received when you share your truth. No matter how popular or unpopular you become. At the end of the day, you're probably not going to have the full support of the people you truly care about your life. Maybe even the people that are closest to you. And you might not be that well liked or even that popular. I know I'm really painting picture well, am I not? Okay, but if you use your voice, if you share your story, your message that can change someone else's life because you're authentically showing up as that version of yourself. And that's really all that matters. And we're going to take a quick break and you're going to hear from my friend and money mindset coach, Niki Ferguson, all about being confident when it comes to your finances.

Niki Ferguson 6:35
Hello, it's Niki, your money and mindset coach back with another Money Minute. Today we're going to talk about money confidence, having confidence with our money can give us so much peace. How do we get there? When you think about being confident, what does that bring to mind for you? A quote I once heard said that "Confidence lies in keeping your promises to yourself." So you say you're going to do something, and you follow through to actually do it. With your money that can look like setting a financial goal, and taking the steps required to reach it. So let's say you want to max out your retirement, you would need to know what that number is, break it down to how much you can contribute each month to reach your max contribution level. On the other hand, maybe your financial goal is to get your debt below a certain amount, or to pay it off. If you want to feel confident that you're doing it, you can make an intentional plan with payment amounts set. Now, this doesn't mean that you lose all flexibility in your life, it actually gives you a feeling of freedom and peace, that you are taking inspired action on what you desire. What financial goal would make you feel competent with your money?

Andrea Crisp 7:47
Thanks, Niki for sharing with us. I'm going to put all of Niki's information, social and all that in the show notes so that you can make sure to connect with her. A competence is something that you can activate in every area of your life, your finances, your relationships, your business, and that confidence and ownership, and personal power will propel you to where you want to go in every area. Doesn't really matter which one. So imagine that this is the year that you finally take that step, to be the most confident version of yourself. Here are a couple of questions that you can ask yourself: Who will you impact? How will you impact them? Like what are your gifts and abilities that are just unique to you? And how will you feel when you're making a difference in the lives of others? Here's the thing, friend, confidence is something that has a ripple effect. Because when you're confident about who you are, that gives other people permission to be confident about who they are. And stepping more fully into who you are will help your clients it will help who you serve, your customers. And it's going to give you more of what you need to be successful in your life.

Andrea Crisp 9:19
And I just want to share a quick story with you before we wrap today. Not that long ago, I was talking to a good friend of mine and we were talking about standing up for really owning your worth and confidence when it comes to your income. And so often women hesitate to speak their truth to show up as the most authentic version of themselves. Because they feel like it's tied to dollar amount. And that dollar amount feels like it's their worth. And when I was talking to my friend, and I was you know saying to her, you know, you can start to own who you are and show up as who you are. And she's like, "Yeah, but what if they don't want me? And what if they're not willing to pay me?" Well, here's the thing, friend, your confidence cannot be based on how much you paid. When you decide who you are, and how you're going to start showing up, then you are starting to attract and invite what it is you truly desire, opportunities that will actually increase your income. Nobody is in charge of that, but you. But it means you have to step more fully into your power and be confident in that area of your life.

Andrea Crisp 10:42
Okay, so next week, as we wrap up this series of the podcast by talking about being courageous, we're going to talk about taking those big risks, stepping out, doing all the hard things. But you don't have to wait to live courageously I mean, I want you to go out there and do today, do what you need to do. But if you're still unsure of how that is going to work for you specifically, or how you can activate the confidence in your life to be more fully in your power. I love to chat with you, we can book a 30 minute free call. And we'll talk about how you can start activating that confidence. And the link is going to be in the show notes. And if you head over to andreacrisp.ca/schedule, you can book your time. Now don't forget about the giveaway that's happening next month. Make sure that you share an episode, rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast and screenshot and send it to me. And you're gonna be entered into the giveaway that will be happening on the day of the 200th episode. Friend, I am sending you so so so much love for your journey. Until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live bravely.

Andrea Crisp 11:59
If you like this episode of The Couragecast, we'd love to hear from you. Leave us a rating and review and while you're there, hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Original Music by Stephen Crilley. Production by Claudia Henock.

 
 
 

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

177 | Your Biggest Obstacles Can Be Your Biggest Opportunities

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
Are you co-creating your life or just letting it happen to you?
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

Do you feel like life is happening for you or to you? When we face obstacles in life it can be easy to find an excuse to run and hide or to throw in the towel altogether. In this episode, you will discover how to turn your obstacles into opportunities.

Connect With Andrea:

I’d love to connect and chat with you over on my socials. If you’re ready to dive a little deeper into understanding your purpose, grab a copy of my book Designed With Purpose.

Instagram + Facebook + Book

 
 
 

Listen Here:

 
 
 

Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

175 | Accelerate Your Confidence Part Three

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
Are you co-creating your life or just letting it happen to you?
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

Have you bought into the myth that you need to be like everyone else to succeed? In this three-part podcast series, we're going to dive into what it takes to truly stand in your authentic power.

In this third episode, we are going to be talking about the power of your story and how to share it authentically.

Learn more about The Confidence Accelerator

Connect With Andrea:

I’d love to connect and chat with you over on my socials. If you’re ready to dive a little deeper into understanding your purpose, grab a copy of my book Designed With Purpose.

Instagram + Facebook + Book

 
 
 

Listen Here:

 
 
 

Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

174 | Accelerate Your Confidence Part Two

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
Are you co-creating your life or just letting it happen to you?
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

Have you bought into the myth that you need to be like everyone else to succeed? In this three-part podcast series, we're going to dive into what it takes to truly stand in your authentic power.

In this second episode, we're talking about the real problem -- the fact that you are out of alignment with the vision for your life and what you can start doing RIGHT now to reconnect with that purpose.

Learn more about The Confidence Accelerator

Connect With Andrea:

I’d love to connect and chat with you over on my socials. If you’re ready to dive a little deeper into understanding your purpose, grab a copy of my book Designed With Purpose.

Instagram + Facebook + Book

 
 
 

Listen Here:

 
 
 

Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?