WITH ANDREA CRISP
“YOU are the creator of your experience. What you want to experience, and how you feel about that experience is entirely up to you. ”
As we embark on another holiday season I want to remind you that you are the sole creator of your experience. The holiday season can be both magical and also one of the hardest times of the year but it all depends on your perception and on how you decide to show up for yourself.
On the podcast I want to share with you how I have learned to keep my peace in the midst of unmet expectations, being single during the holidays and why I believe it is important to set an intention for what you want to manifest.
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As we embark on another holiday season, I want to remind you that you are the sole creator of your experience. The holiday season can be both magical and also one of the hardest times of the year. But it all depends on your perception and how you decide to show up for yourself. So today on the podcast, I want to share with you how I have learned to keep my peace in the midst of unmet expectations being single during the holidays, and why I believe it's important to set an intention for what you desire to manifest even during the holidays.
Hey, friend, are you ready to take courageous steps to create a life and business you love? Welcome to the Courage Cast. I'm Andrea Crisp, mindset coach, author, and a multi passionate entrepreneur. For years, I was afraid to allow myself to shine that was until I discovered that I could step into my own power, shift my mindset and take ownership of my own destiny. Now I coach women across the globe who are ready to own their life and make a massive impact. Each week I'll share conversations with amazing humans who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose. I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice to help you take brave steps in your own life and business.
Hey there, welcome to the Courage Cast. My name is Andrea and I am so excited. And not just because it's podcast day, but because we are merely weeks away from Christmas. And I feel like I have honestly been celebrating the holidays. Probably for I don't know since the beginning of November. That's what I put my Christmas tree up. I absolutely love Christmas. It is I don't know, it's just one of my favorites. But I used to not have that kind of love for it, even though I wanted to I really didn't. And a lot of the reason for that was because there were a lot of an unmet expectations. I don't know about you. But that seems to be the case.
So often, when we have big holidays, big family gatherings, when we're really, you know, expected to do a certain thing, show up a certain way, follow certain traditions. And you know, maybe we're living in a different way than our family. Or perhaps we're not going to be with family. And a lot of those things just kind of leave us feeling a little bit less than Mary. So today, what I wanted to talk about is I want to share with you how you are the creator of your own experience. And this is the holiday edition. So I want to start by asking you, How are you planning on spending the holidays? Are you gonna be with family? Are you someone who prefers to take a vacation to a sandy beach? Or do you just love like the whole cabin Christmas winter thing? What is something that you're going to be doing over the holidays?
Now, I definitely love having Christmas at home. But a few years ago, I spent two Christmases back to back in Florida, on the beach and not gonna lie. I loved it. It was awesome. I didn't think I was gonna like it at all it you know, it was really unfamiliar. I come from Northern Ontario. It's always generally snowing around Christmas time. And I thought to myself, am I even going to feel like Christmas like is even going to feel like the holidays. And I absolutely loved it. But this year, I'm going to be up in Cape Town where I live and this is the first year that I'm going to be spending Christmas. The holidays without my immediate family. What I know, can you believe it? I'm 48 years old never spent the Christmas holidays apart from my parents. Now I say that. And my family was supposed to have left about two weeks ago for Florida. They have still yet to leave and it is now December 9.
So at the date of recording, I am planning on spending the holidays by myself. So one of the reasons why I am not going to Florida is because of my dog coffee. And she's a year and a half old and she is a bit of a hurricane. And honestly, she's just not ready for that kind of travel and to be away and to do all the things and so it would just be a bit of a nightmare to try and navigate all of that. So I decided that I am staying put and I am going to be here over the holidays. But back I don't know about six weeks ago maybe I had a conversation with my friend Wendy and we We had this huge conversation around holidays. And this is actually was the catalyst, leading me to record this podcast episode for you.
So as with anything in life, if we have expectations around certain things in our lives, circumstances, events, holidays, or expectations really on what we believe is supposed to happen, what we think is supposed to happen, it's entirely possible that those expectations will not be met. And we will end up disappointed. So I wanted to share with you how can you really be the creator of your own experience. And this applies to anything in your life, but it can certainly apply to the holidays. So when I found out that my family, my parents, were going to be in Florida for the month of December, like I said, they still haven't left yet. Then I was like, Oh my gosh, I might be so lonely. And I started down this like whole rabbit trail of how possibly awful it was going to be okay. Like, it was like literally, one of those moments where I'm like, you know, worst case scenario, this that next, and I thought, oh, my gosh, Andrew, this is crazy. So I decided I was gonna get really clear create an intention, and how I wanted to feel over the holidays. So I was not really in control of what was going to happen, where I was going to be, who was going to be with me. But I really wanted to create an intention for myself so that I would have a great holiday, even if I was alone. Now, the beauty of this is that it's really not about what happens, it's not about whether or not I'm invited somewhere, or I'm spending a certain day with someone, or really what happens over the Christmas holidays or Christmas Day, Christmas Eve.
It's really about how I feel about the situation, how I allow myself to be within those few days. And so creating an intention for myself felt like the best thing to do. And we are the creator of our experience. So we can create what we desire. And it's all about being at cause and knowing that you are at cause for your life, you are responsible. You are in the driver's seat, you are taking ownership over how you want to be, and not being at effect not being at the mercy of what happens. Because, honestly, so often things happen that are out of our control that we just don't anticipate. And it could totally turn everything on its head. But if you already know exactly what you want to feel, during a certain period of time, especially during the holidays, then you're gonna be like, You know what, doesn't really matter. Because I'm going to experience the joy and the peace of Christmas, no matter what.
But for years, it was not like this for me, because I was someone who had really high expectations when it came to the holidays. And there were often Christmases, Thanksgivings, like just many, many different holidays, that I was disappointed, because I wanted things to be a certain way I wanted the circumstances to be a certain way. And he didn't realize that it's really not about the circumstances, it's really about our perception or attitude around what is going on. And when I really started learning about how we are deliberately creating our lives, and we can create with intention, then I started to see that no matter what the circumstance, I could decide how I was going to feel and how I was going to be no matter what happened. So I want to just share with you how you can do that. So perhaps your holidays are often filled with toxic family members or situations where you would just rather avoid maybe you have a propensity to want everything to be just so you want things to be perfect.
So you want everything decorated a certain way. You want everything to be a certain way you want people to show up a certain way. Or maybe you're in a position right now where you're like, oh my gosh, I'm going to be alone like no one's going to be around. Case in point myself. Maybe you are someone who has experienced trauma in your life, you know, it could be serious trauma, it could be small t trauma doesn't really matter. But maybe there are some fears of how you're going to be over the holidays. Maybe you're just thinking to yourself, you know, I don't fit in with my family, like they don't get me, you know, they don't understand what I'm about, or there's just a lot of complexity in the family dynamics, whatever you are going to be facing over the holidays, I want to let you know that when you create how you want to show up for yourself, and for the people in your life, and how you want to feel, then you can create that experience, no matter what happens. And really, when you think about manifestation, we attract what we think about.
So if we're going into a situation concerned or worried that something's going to happen, oh, my goodness, I'm going to be alone, how am I going to feel it's going to be awful, then it's entirely likely that I would feel all of those things. And I would have the worst Christmas, I don't know, maybe I'd be crying my eyes out all day, Christmas Day, who knows. So what I want to suggest to you today, is get really clear on how you want to feel over the holidays, maybe it's over a course of a few days a week, maybe it's just a day, maybe it's just, you know, saying to yourself, I really want to be at peace over the holidays, well, I don't want you to just stop there. And just say that, you know, I really want you to take a little bit of time and write it out. You know, put on some Christmas music, visualize yourself, enjoying yourself, and feel in to that emotion, feel into that peace and that joy, and allow yourself to compulsively create what it is that you desire.
Because I can almost guarantee you that when you really are intentional about visualizing and creating what it is that you desire over the holidays, you will feel so much better than what you might think you're going to feel like now. And the circumstances may even align for you in ways that you would have never imagined. Now, as I mentioned, it's December 9 Today, as I'm recording this podcast episode, so we're just a couple weeks shy of Christmas. And, you know, as I said, my parents were supposed to have left already at the beginning of December. So they ended up having some van trouble and then they both got sick. And so it's been delayed, delayed delayed. And you know, it was really interesting was when I first wrote out what I wanted to say on the podcast was weeks ago, it was well before they were supposed to leave. And now looking back, I'm like, Oh my gosh, this is so funny, because we've had so much more time together through the beginning of December to do different things, drive around, see Christmas lights, go to some parties together, do some things like I mean, it's just it's it's so funny because I create an intention about how I wanted to feel. Not saying I attracted them staying here. But you never know.
And,even I think I had said in a previous podcast about how I thought I was buying tickets to stars on ice. And then I didn't buy them accidentally. And so I was left without a ticket. And I just waited on it. I just decided I would get it at the last minute. And as it turns out, my mom's gonna be here. And she's going with me. So we bought tickets. And we're going to be headed tomorrow to see the stars nice holiday show. So I say all of this to say sometimes, it's really all about creating how you want to feel and how you want to be not how are the circumstances going to play out for you. Because you're not in control of the circumstances, how things are going to work, who's going to do what how people are going to respond, how people are going to act. But what you are in control of is how you are and how you can experience something because you are the creator of your own experience.
So I would encourage you if you're in a position in your life where you're thinking to yourself, you know what, Andrea, this is totally me. I might be triggered over the holidays, things might happen. Set aside some time to visualize how you are going to be over the holidays and really allow yourself to be in that zone, just be in that frequency be in that energy. It'll be what it will be. And that will be okay. But you don't have to be reactive to what is going on, you can set the tone for what you desire, and allow the universe to bring you what it is that you need, and allow the universe to bring you what you've created. So having said that, and we're since we're so close to Christmas, I want to wish you, your family a very merry Christmas. I just feel so grateful that we have been on this journey together. And we have one more podcast for 2022 which is going to come up next week. And then we'll be well into 2023. And I'm excited about that. So friend, I love ya. You're the creator of your own experience. You can do this.
Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays. And until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live briefly. If you like this episode of The Courage cast, we'd love to hear from you. Leave us a rating review. And while you're there, hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Original music and production by Stephen Crelly.
