WITH ANDREA CRISP
“If you are focused on who you are right now (the identity of your old behaviours) then you will stay there.”
Your desires and goals are important. So important (in fact) that once you have thought about them they are in the creation process. But that is where most people get stuck. We allow ourselves to dream but then place our attention back on what we lack when really we need to be focusing on what we desire. Today on the podcast I'm going to share with you how I have changed my perspective when it comes to manifestation and how I personally move towards my desires and goals.
Journal Prompts:
Is this serving me (these thoughts)?
What are you trying to get away from?
Are you trying to justify your old circumstances?
Do you believe that you deserve or are worthy of your goals /desires?
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Your desires and goals are important. So important, in fact, that once you've thought about them, they are in the creation process. But that is where most people get stuck, allowing ourselves to dream, but then placing our attention back on what we lack, when really, we need to be focusing on what we desire. Today on the podcast, I'm going to share with you how I've changed my perspective, when it comes to manifestation, and how I personally move towards my desires and goals.
Hey, friend, are you ready to take courageous steps to create a life and business you love? Welcome to the Courage Cast. I'm Andrea Crisp, mindset coach, author, and a multi passionate entrepreneur. For years, I was afraid to allow myself to shine that was until I discovered that I could step into my own power, shift my mindset and take ownership of my own destiny. Now I coach women across the globe who are ready to own their life and make a massive impact. Each week, I'll share conversations with amazing humans who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose. I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice to help you take brave steps in your own life and business.
Hey, friend, welcome to the courage cast. This is Andrea, I am your host, and I'm excited to be with you today. Oh my gosh, we are nearing the holidays, we have just had American Thanksgiving, which you know, of course, I did not celebrate because I'm Canadian. But you know, the whole world basically stops for American Thanksgiving. And of course, all the Black Friday stuff. And this year as Christmas kind of edges closer and closer. There are a lot of things that are different for me. And I am feeling this sense of anticipation and excitement. But here's the thing. This is the very first year, like in my whole adult life, oh, probably also in my whole life in general, that I will be spending Christmas without my immediate family. I know crazy, right? So I am in love with Christmas, I love the holidays. So it does feel a bit strange that I will not be with my family. But I have decided that I am still going to be very intentional about keeping my focus on what I choose to create around the holidays, even though I will be on my own.
So that brings me to a question that I wanted to open today's podcast episode on. Are you someone who is moving towards your desires and goals? Or are you someone who is trying to move away from your current circumstances? Now, you may not think there's much of a difference between those two questions. But there really is and how you approach your own growth and expansion will determine the results that you get when you are creating a goal in your life or when you are being clear about your desires. And I spent the majority of my adulthood, moving away from my circumstances, trying to escape whatever it was that I wanted to move away from. And instead of looking at how I could move towards what I desired, I was always running from the lack in my life. And I thought that I was doing the right thing. It felt like what I was supposed to be doing. But it was really a futile attempt at trying to change my life. And even when I thought about the Christmas holidays and how you know, it's quickly approaching. At first I was like, Oh, well what if I'm really sad and feeling alone and you know, all of these things, right? And I was thinking, what if I feel bad. And that would be me trying to move away from circumstances.
And instead what I decided to do was to focus on creating intentionally what I desire in my life around the holidays. And that really boils down to peace and joy and contentment and fun. And I bring all of those things. So I can have all of that even if I'm not around my immediate family. This was a huge reality check for me, because I started to see that when I am trying to run on things, I'm actually staying in the vibration and the frequency of what I'm trying to run from, versus when I am moving towards what I desire, and allowing myself to already feel that way, then it's almost as though it has already happened. So I want to talk to you about what it looks like to move towards your goals, and how that works when it comes to manifestation. And, you know, maybe you're in a place where you're thinking, you know, I want to grow my business, or I want to earn more income, or I want to work with different kinds of clientele. Or maybe you want to get fit and healthy and lose weight. And all of those things have been different desires, and goals in my own life. And I have to honestly say that many times probably all of the times that I've tried to accomplish those goals, I maybe got to the goal, but then like, totally went backwards, and gained all the way back or found myself yo yoing in my finances, or found myself not really moving forward with my goals. And so I wanted to share with you what I have found that is working for me, so that you can apply this to your life as well. Here are a few examples. First of all, when I wanted to lose weight and get healthy, you would usually put my attention on how much weight I wanted to lose, right, because I was creating a goal.
And I would say if I wanted to lose this many pounds this many inches, and almost becomes you know, moving away from this weight, you're at the current weight, you're at the current state you're in to get to where you want to go. But I would find that I always hung on to those pounds, like they never left me, no matter what I did, I could be eating all the right foods I could be working out, I could be drinking water. And I never truly truly lost the weight. The only time that have ever been successful when it comes to weight management in any way, is when I wanted to train for a 10k. And I've talked about this before in another podcast, and really, you know, planning on actually achieving something and focusing on the achievement of that thing, which was running 10 kilometers, the byproduct of which was losing weight, because I had to train for it. And in training for it, I actually lost I think probably over 30 pounds at the time. Now here's the thing, I was focused on what I desired, not focused on the weight I was at, or the current situation I found myself in when it came to earning more money and my business, it was the same thing. My attention was on what I was currently doing how much money I was currently making, not on the amount of money I wanted to create not on moving towards that and what that would look like to move towards that amount.
And then thirdly, the the last example I'm gonna share with you, when it comes to this is building new connections and having deeper relationships. Now, this one has been a little easier for me. But in the past, when I would focus on, you know, what I didn't have, I didn't have friends, I didn't have people in my life, I didn't have, you know, the right kind of connections to you know, grow or to expand. Then I stayed exactly where I was. And I that was exactly what has happened to me over the past few years. I'm not gonna lie. Being in a small town, I had it in my mind that there was no way that I was going to build relationships. And I had to shift my perspective and think about what I do desire and start relating it to other times in my life where I have been able to make friends. And it's been so easy to make friends. Because I was focusing on what I desired.
So maybe you find yourself in a position in your life right now where you're like, Yeah, I do have desires. I have goals, like maybe you're trying to finish things off for the year, but maybe you're trying to think about what do you want to build next year and 2023 As I've said many many times before, where your attention goes is exactly where you will end up. So let me spell it out for you. Okay, where your attention is placed, is going to be what you attract into your life. So if you're looking to move away from something, and you're focused on moving away from it, versus on really attracting what you desire, you will attract more of the thing you don't want. And when I say the word attract what I actually mean is that you'll be so focused on What you don't want that it will consume your thoughts. I don't know if you've ever had this happen, where it's like, literally, your mind is being bombarded by thought after thought after thought. And you'll end up taking action from a place of lack versus taking action towards what you desire, which is from your desire, it's like taking action from it already being accomplished.
Like, if you knew already, how you were going to accomplish something, how you were going to achieve a certain goal, how you were going to get there, then you would know how to take action from that place. So I want to invite you to think about a current goal you have in your life right? Now, you may want to pause the podcast, take a moment to write it out. Really get specific about what you want the outcome to be. And when you're doing that, take a moment to write a how you're going to feel when you've accomplished this goal, or you've achieved this particular thing, or you've manifested something into your life. Visualize yourself having accomplished the goal, or receiving the desire, see yourself in that place, feel what you're gonna feel, hear what you might hear someone say to you, make it so real for you, as if it has all already happened.
Okay. And as you're doing that, how do you feel thinking about that goal, like, if you're already there, and you've already achieved something doesn't feel amazing, because you're already there. Now, if you've never done this before, in full disclosure, it may seem a little strange, because you're like, Well, I've never done this, and I don't know how I'm going to feel. So I would say, start with something small. And start with something that you can actually have that feeling, you can understand how you're going to feel you know how you would feel, maybe you're going to even equate it to something else in your life that you have had a result in. So let's use this as an example. Maybe you want to make a certain amount of money in your business. But you have never done that before. So you're like, I have no idea how I'd feel if I did that. But you do know what it takes to run a 10k or half marathon or marathon even you understand that feeling will then replace that feeling with the one that you desire, so that you know how you would feel you'd be like, well, if I crossed the finish line, I would feel amazing will imagine yourself crossing the finish line. But being making the money you desire.
And allow yourself to truly feel that. In my own personal life. One of the goals that I've had over the past few months is to be more present in my real life and make more connections in real life. Okay, so I've already kind of mentioned this. But when I was first thinking about this school, I was focusing on the fact that I didn't know how I was going to make friends here in the small town that I live in. Because I've lived here for three years, I have not really made any friends. I mean, no, that sounds really sad and pathetic. But in my life, I have lived a lot of places and I have made friends super easy. But then the pandemic, all things right. So I was like, how am I going to do this. And when I was focusing on what I was not able to do on the fact that I've already been through here three years, on the fact that there was a pandemic, on the fact that people really don't kind of have the same kind of interests that I do. Then I was like, Oh, I'm gonna stay stuck in this rut. So I needed a new approach.
In the past, I might have approached things much differently, I might have approached it from the fact that I've been, you know, alone for so long. I'm in a small town, all the things, but I knew that was not working. So I had to focus on what I desired and moving towards the outcome and the result. You see how it works. Now, it was so interesting, because as I was writing this podcast today, I actually came across this quote, when you are enjoying your own desire, that means you're in the vibrational vicinity of it, you are cooperating with it. And that's an Abraham Hicks quote. I love that when you're enjoying your own desire you're in the vibrational vicinity of it means you're closer to so when you are thinking about what you desire. When you are in the energy of what you desire, you're closer to the desire. The more you are in the lack. The more you are focused on what you don't have, the more you're going to be out of vibrational frequency of what it is. means there's going to be more resistance, more blocks, more things that are going to keep you from what it is that you desire. And I cannot stress to you how as many places as has come up for me in my life, I wouldn't even have enough time to tell you on a podcast, how often this has manifested in my life, because I was always constantly, I was consistently focused on what I didn't have.
So, here's some fun things to think about. When you think about it, you have the fun, you get to enjoy witnessing your desires coming into reality. Like think about that, like it's a process, it's a journey, you actually get to be witness bear witness to the creation of your desires. And when you think about that, it's like, Oh, my goodness, this is gonna be so fun. Like, this is the thing I desire. And I wonder how it's gonna happen? How I don't know. But I'm excited. And I'm anticipating it happening, and knowing that you can turn your thoughts into things. So when you're thinking about your own circumstances, and your own desires, the things that you do want, here are some things that you can be taking a look at it, do you think to yourself, well, I need this because my circumstances aren't good. Because if you're using that, as you know, kind of like the plumb line for yourself, then you're probably going to be looking at the lack, right? I need this because my circumstances aren't good. Versus I desire this, because of how much it's going to benefit me or how it's going to make my life better. See the difference?
Because I know that part of you wants the goal. But the other part of you is really holding on to the lack. Because if you're gonna stay in a position where you're justifying defending your current circumstances, like, oh, it's never gonna happen. These are the reasons these are the circumstances, oh, poor, me, I'm the victim in this, you are going to stay in that vibration, you're going to stay contrary to what your desire truly is, which is the result, the goal that you want. And that's going to keep you in resistance, and keep you from moving towards what you desire and receiving what you desire. So here are four questions that you can actually journal on to really ask yourself whether or not you are moving towards what you desire. Or you're focusing on what you lack.
Number one, is this thought serving me? Wow, okay. Just even that right there? Is this thought serving me?
Number two, what am I trying to get away from? Am I trying to justify my old circumstances?
Am I trying to defend them?
And then the fourth question is, do I believe that I am worthy of deserving these goals and desires, these four questions are going to help you to know whether or not you're in the energy of lack, or you're the in the energy of receiving or of abundance. Because if you're focused on where you are right now, the identity of your old behaviors, the old limitations, the old ways of being, you're going to stay there, and you're going to keep attracting more of the same. But when you step into the identity of what you desire, that is when you are going to attract what you desire.
And then it's easy to take aligned action because you already know you're worthy of achieving that you're worthy of having that because you can already feel as though you have created it because it has come into being even though it has not come into reality. And then look for the evidence, look for things signs to show up to indicate to you that you're on the right path that you are moving towards it that you are getting there. Allow yourself to have more expectation of receiving it than doubt of not receiving it. Okay? Now, all of this is really to help you to move towards your goals in a way that just is an alignment with who you are right? And I titled it faster, but I mean, really, to move towards your goals is just generally what we desire, and what we want and moving towards becoming that version of ourselves that has those things.
Now, moving forward into the new year, I am going to be opening up spots for the VIP experience. And I've called it the limitless VIP experience for a reason. Because I truly believe that we are all meant to be limitless and that we can be in the energy of what we desire, whether it be in our personal lives or Whether that be in our business, and so often we get stuck in the old mindsets, the old behaviors, the old identities of who we believe ourselves to be. And we know we want to move forward, we know we want to get there.
But we're not really entirely sure how to do that, or how to move past it, or how to integrate these new thoughts. Like, you know, maybe you think you're never going to get there, you're never going to achieve the success you desire, you're never going to have the clients to have a sustainable business. The limitless VIP experience is all about you, stepping in, you taking that opportunity for you to move towards your future self. And really embodying that in a way that truly allows you to attract what you desire. So if you're interested in that, I invite you to check out the website, Andrew chris.ca, forward slash VIP and I will put that in a link here so that you can see it, and invite you to just think about whether or not this is something for you. There is a in person experience as well as a virtual experience. So you can have either or, and whatever works for you is what we will do. But I trust me when I say this to you. This will be the experience that will radically shift your life and your business.
So if you have any questions, you can book a time to chat with me. Go to the website Andrea Crisp, dossier forward slash VIP. And until next time, remember you have everything you need to live bravely.
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