WITH ANDREA CRISP
“It’s really when we start creating room for what we truly desire that God and the Universe open up to bring us opportunities that we might never have seen before. ”
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Are you struggling with the need to control everything in your life and feel as though if you let go everything is going to fall apart at the seams? It could be that your need to control the outcome is actually causing more of what you really don't want in your life. Today on the podcast I am sharing three ways for you to start creating more room for abundance in your life and business.
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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?
Are you struggling with the need to control everything in your life and feel as though if you let go, everything is going to fall apart at the seams. It could be that your need to control the outcome is actually causing more of what you really don't want in your life. Today on the courage cast, I'm sharing three ways for you to start creating more room for abundance in your life and business. Hey, friend, are you ready to take courageous steps to create a life and business you love?
Welcome to the Courage Cast. I'm Andrea Crisp, mindset coach, author, and a multi passionate entrepreneur. For years, I was afraid to allow myself to shine that was until I discovered that I could step into my own power, shift my mindset and take ownership of my own destiny. Now I coach women across the globe who are ready to own their life and make a massive impact. Each week I'll share conversations with amazing humans who've been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose. I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice to help you take brave steps in your own life and business.
Hey there, welcome to the Courage Cast, I am so glad that you are joining me today. My name is Andrea, I am your host. And today we're going to talk about something and honestly, I hope that this challenges you to step out of the way you are normally doing things and embrace something brand new. And so today I want to talk to you about creating more space in your life for abundance. And when we're talking about abundance, that can mean anything, it can mean better health, more income, wealth, better relationships, healthier relationships, however you define abundance. That is what I would love you to listen to this podcast through that lens. How do you create more space in your life for abundance? Now this has been coming up over and over and over again, in my life. And of course, you know, I always talk about things that are happening currently, things that I'm going through.
And usually it's not that far beyond when I'm actually recording the podcast. But this has been coming up with a client and we've been talking about it. And so it's something top of mind for me, because, you know, I struggle with wanting to control things, I struggle with wanting to have things a certain way to have an outcome that is what I anticipate that it should be. And just like everyone else, I'm in the process of also creating more space in my life. So if you are someone who struggles with control, or wants things to be a certain way, then this is an episode that I really encourage you to listen to with an open mind. Now, I want to ask you a question, because we always start with some questions. Are you currently in a place in your life where you feel like you're holding really, really, really tightly to the need of something happening by certain date? Like you have a timeframe or a time limit on something?
Maybe you've set goals in your business? Maybe it's something that you really want to achieve? Or you have a certain timeframe that you want something to manifest within? Are you currently holding on to the need for something to happen by certain time? Or are you finding yourself wanting to make an exact dollar amount, like you have it down to the dollars and cents, you know exactly when it's supposed to happen. And you have like that number on lock. Or maybe you find yourself in a relationship quandary. Maybe you are calling in a partner you're calling in someone to share your life with but you have these really, really strict qualifications or standards this person needs to meet or requirements. And you are just like, you've got it all written down. You know exactly what you want. You're like, Okay, I'm going to manifest this, I'm going to tell the universe exactly what I want. And this is what I want. No more, no less.
Now, if that is you if you find yourself in one of those three positions, and trust me when I say there are many, many, many more. You might actually be keeping yourself from calling in abundance in that area. Mm hmm. Right now but when I first started learning about manifestation, and I was doing mindset work myself, I was learning all sorts of things about like, what is manifestation? And how does it work in my life. And you know that I have had many different podcast episodes on manifestation here on the courage cast. But, you know, as I have moved, I've been moving through it in my own life, one of the things that I have been recognizing, when it comes to creating a life that I truly desire, and that I want to live, is that the more specific I am, and the more control I am trying to have over the outcome of something, the more I call in what I don't want, the very thing that I don't want, I'm actually calling in, or I'm repelling what it is that I truly do desire.
And this has happened to me in so many areas of my life, I can honestly like, I can pretty much say probably every area, it's happened to me when it comes to my financial life, my relationships, my business, you name it, because I've always been somebody who has been pretty specific in what I want, like, I know what I want, and I want what I want, if you're like that type of person, but like, ever since I was even a kid, like for my birthday, I know exactly the gift that I want. And if somebody's gonna give me something that's not going to be what it is, and I'm kind of like, wow, you know, thanks. but no thanks. I just know exactly what I want.
Like, if I want to buy a certain kind of makeup, I want that kind of makeup or face creams, I want that thing. If it's like a color or have something of clothing that I want or a pair of shoes, I only want the certain thing that I know that I want. And I feel like it's a trait in me that is very decisive. And I know exactly what it is that I like and what it is that I don't like. But in some instances, that actually is working against me. And the reason why is because we all have a limited, limited scope of what we think is possible. Even if we feel like oh, anything's possible for our lives. And, you know, I'm so open minded. And I truly, truly believe anything's possible, really, you probably don't, you probably have a cap somewhere on what you feel like is possible for you, and what is possible for your life because we all have what is called an upper limit. And so when you hit that upper limit, you think that is as far as I can go. And that is as far as I can see. And everything else has to happen, you know, within that, basically within that confines. So in order for you to truly move and transcend through that upper limit, and start calling in what it is that you truly desire, you're going to have to let go of a little bit of what you think is required for you to get there, or required for the universe to deliver, or the exact timing on things on how things are going to transpire in your life.
And I wanted to share with you three reasons why you actually may be creating more lack in your life right now. So when I say lack, again, this can be when you think about abundance, it can be it's the thing you don't want when it comes to like your health, your relationships, your finances, your business, all of those things, right? So here's top three reasons why you actually may be creating more lack in your life. Number one, your fixation is actually telling the universe that you want more of the same. So when you're fixated on something, you are fixated, generally speaking on what it is that you want. But when it's not happening, then our attention goes to what it is that we are not getting, right, the lack of it. And you end up fixating on the fact that you haven't gotten it. And the more you fixate on it. The more you think about it, the more you put your attention on it, the more you call in the lack of it. So you might be thinking, oh my gosh, like I'm totally thinking that I'm fixating on what it is that I want. But if you're really honest with yourself, think about really what you're thinking about. Are you thinking about the design and how you gonna feel when you have it? Or are you thinking about, Oh, I haven't had it yet. I wonder when it's going to come? Oh, no, like, it just hasn't happened yet it hasn't manifested. And yet the feeling is a very, very different, right between that, and the feeling of like, oh, this is gonna be amazing.
And I feel so good. It's almost like a habit already. And it's so exciting to very different places, very different emotions. And when you are in the lack of something, you are creating a frequency of vibration, which is calling in more of the same more lack. However, when you're in the frequency of abundance, and feeling what it's going to feel like when you have it, you're actually position yourself to receive it.
The second reason, your attachment to the outcome is actually not allowing for things to unfold organically, or in a way that the universe God source can surprise and delight you. So, this, my friend, is me to a tee when it comes to gifts. Okay, so I told you, I want what I want, right? And so if I don't get what I want, it's like, it's almost like I just don't enjoy it. Like it's like, Oh, right. And I've actually been thinking about this quite a bit in my own life, about how, when I am too attached to what I think the outcome should be, I'm actually not creating space for miracles, I'm not creating space for magic, I'm not creating space for these really incredible spontaneous events to happen, because I'm so attached to how things should go, that I'm not making room, I'm not creating room for there to be something that would come in and be like, Wow, this is even better than what I thought.
Because, again, back to our limited scope. When you have only your own purview, you're only seeing what you can see, you can't see beyond what you know. And so if the universe gods or desires to give you something greater, even more expansive, and you're like, oh, I can only see within this like scope, then you're actually limiting yourself to what is possible in your own mind, not what is possible when it comes to the universe. And so your attachment to that is keeping you from being open to the possibility of what God universe source desires to delight you with. And the third thing is your need for control is actually pushing away what you desire. For years, I've been a complete control freak. I like to control how things happen when things happen, or how things look in my business.
Like down to the typography down to the fonts, like little little crazy details, almost of the probably to the fact that it's like, oh my gosh, this is like being neurotic. And when I think about how many things I've probably not been able to receive into my life, because of my need to control something, it actually blows my mind. And the more I relinquish the control, the more I let go of my need to have everything a certain way all the time, I am finding that there is more beauty, there is more ebb and flow there is, you know, definitely a higher awareness to what is possible in the world, and how I can step into that. But my own need to control how things are happening is an indication that, you know, I don't trust that God, the universe, desire to give me anything good.
And so it's really been something that I've had to work on for myself to let go of my own need to control like, I'm the only one who can dictate how this is going to happen, when it's going to happen. And all of those things. And let me tell you, it's one of those things that when you start doing it is not easy. It's it's actually a little bit sobering when you think about how you have to let go of your own need to control absolutely everything in your own life. And so instead of like being fixated on, you know what you want or being attached to the outcome or really trying to control all of it. I want to encourage you to start focusing on creating more room more space, okay in your life. So that can look like creating a more time for things you enjoy. Like it could be taking walks in nature could be taking up a hobby, going to show like some something you really enjoy traveling more,creating more room for time with your family. However that looks for you people that you love, like just inviting them into that space, creating more space, more quiet, more stillness, whatever that looks like for you start focusing on creating more of that.
And the reason why that is so important is because the more space you create, it's almost like you're saying to the universe, alright, I'm open. I'm open to receiving through any way. I'm open to receiving. When I'm in, in a conversation with someone I love, I'm open to receiving when I'm out in nature, I'm open to receiving. When I'm, you know, driving somewhere, or taking a road trip, you create this expansiveness within your life, because you are focusing on creating more room to receive what it is that you want, versus being like so fixated on getting things done, and making things making shit happen. I think that's really what I wanted to say making should happen. So really, it's like this huge shift, huge paradigm shift. Now, I'm not saying that you don't work. And I'm not saying that you don't do things. And I'm not saying that you don't have goals.
I mean, all those things are awesome and are going to help you move your business forward. But to the extent where you are not allowing for things to manifest and happen in your life, it really has to have some sort of a balance. So creating room allows for you to be able to then get like the flow, and have ideas and downloads, so that you can take action that is aligned to where you really want to go and expedite those things, versus hustling it out, grinding it out, making it happen. The next thing is start envisioning yourself with your desires, and be in the emotion be in the feeling of it as though they are currently happening. This is something that I've been doing a lot when I go skating.
I love skating, I go to the rain on Fridays, and I put my music on. And because of like just be gliding around the eyes, it just feels so freeing, and there's just such such a joy that happens. So that's a really great time for me to be visioning things that I really desire in my life because I'm in the energy of what I love. I'm doing something I already love. And I'm already good at and and I'm already having this joy. And so when I am also visioning for things in my life, I'm in that energy already. And now I'm thinking about the thing that I desire, versus being in the lack energy, where it's like, oh, that hasn't happened, and why isn't it happened and I'm so discouraged and frustrated. And then you're in this like energy that goes down, down, down, down, down until finally, you're like, I'm never gonna call this in. I was will just give it up. You know, and you just get so discouraged that you completely give up anyways. And of course, what happens is you call in more of that, right? And the third thing is be okay with things transpiring out side of your comfort zone.
We all have a comfort zone, an area in which we're like, yep, things can happen in and around this. Yeah, I'm good with that. I'm okay, up until this point, and everything that's within that comfort zone that range that area, you're like, I welcome that. I love that. But anything outside of it, you're like, Nope, don't want anything to do with it.
Because when things are outside of our comfort zone, we can control everything, every single detail, we are not the person who is in charge, we are not totally aware of what can happen next, right. So in order to create that room to call in more abundance within your life, you are going to have to be okay with things happening outside of your comfort zone. So, if you find yourself currently right now within your life and your business, feeling like you're stuck and stagnant in some area and you know exactly what you want, you could tell me, like, this is exactly what I'm calling in, this is exactly what I need, this is exactly what I want, I'm super, super clear on that, I want to, I want to encourage you, that you might be holding on too tightly. And that you might want to revisit the timing, you might want to revisit the number you want, you might want to revisit the requirements, and start creating more room, more space, more breath, for God universe to co create with you something that is so magnificent, that is so wonderful, that is actually going to be even better than what you could have imagined what you could have jumped up, and so far beyond maybe even what you feel like you're capable of currently, right.
And I want to encourage you to do that this is something that I am putting in place in my own life, I am encouraging my clients to do the same thing. And I encourage you to do that. So maybe there's one area right now that you're like, okay, yeah, that's where I want to, I want to start looking at creating more room when it comes to like time or money or requirements, and really just creating that space in your life. Friend, if you are struggling with this, and you're like oh my gosh, Andrea, you are talking to me when it comes to being fixated. And you know that you really do have some subconscious beliefs that are holding you back, it could be that all you need is one shift, something that is really going to take you from where you are right now fixated on something specific on an outcome in order to release that, and start to live out of a whole new mindset, a whole new paradigm.
And I'm offering power hours, it's a one hour session, it's actually just a little bit over an hour, 75 minutes, in which we will work on identifying what is the limiting belief that you have, where is rooted, and actually release that belief, so that you can start living out of a new mindset. And then if you are really, really wanting to take it to the next level, I'll invite you to join me for a 30 day Voxer support. And we'll integrate that new belief together. This is literally transforming my clients lives. Right now. This is something new that I've started to offer. And honestly, it is a huge game changer because I'll walk you through the process. And we will see the shifts happen within 30 days in your life.
So this sounds like something you're interested in. I encourage you to go to my website, Andrea crisp.ca forward slash schedule, and the link will be in the show notes. And you can jump on a call with me ask me questions, or you can just book your session right away either one. But let's create room. Let's create space for magnificence for something so incredibly powerful and special to happen in your life. Or a friend. Thanks for hanging out with me. Love you so much. And until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live bravely.
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