EP 253 | Your Transformational Moment

WITH COURTNEY ELKO

 
 
 
Life can be so fragile and so short. How are we living life? Now? How are we telling that story? How are we being and how are we are allowing?
— Andrea Crisp
 

Thinking about sharing your own personal story can feel very overwhelming whether it be online, at an event, on a networking call or even across the table from someone you really care about. For years I hesitated when it came to sharing my own story because I didn't feel like it was exciting enough. I would see all of these people who had come through these incredible odds and were now sharing their story with the world and I felt small and invisible. One thing I didn't know back then was that people want to hear the about the small shifts that take place in your life. It's not always about the big moments.

Today on the podcast we have a very special guest -- Courtney Elko a Business Coach who focuses on helping you share your transformational story. No matter where you find yourself in your story telling journey -- I believe this episode is going to help you share your transformational moments with your community.

Courtney was one of my first clients to go through the VIP LIMITLESS EXPERIENCE. In this episode she shares her personal takeaways and how it has shifted her into that next level in her business. Click HERE to learn more about the VIP Limitless Experience.

Courtney Elko, of Go Live Your Story, is a former journalist turned business coach. Courtney helps female entrepreneurs to get curious about their own story so they can share it in their messaging, content and marketing in order to expand their business.

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Are you ready to take courageous steps to create a life and business you love? Welcome to the Curagecast. I'm Andrea Crisp, and empowerment coach, author, and a multi passionate entrepreneur. For years, I was afraid to allow myself to shine. That was until I discovered that I could step into my own power, shift my mindset and take ownership of my destiny. Now I coach people across the globe, who are ready to own their life and make a massive impact with a blend of practical and spiritual advice. My desire is that courage cast empowers you to take brave steps in your own life, and business.

Thinking about sharing your own personal story can feel very overwhelming, whether it's online and event, or networking call, or even when you're across the table from somebody you really care about. In for years, I hesitated when it came to sharing my own story. Because honestly, I just felt like it wasn't interesting enough, I would hear all of these other people who would speak and share of these incredible stories where they overcame these insurmountable odds. And now they're sharing their story with the world. And I just felt small and insignificant. But one thing I didn't know back then, was that people actually want to hear about the small shifts that take place in your life. It's not always about the big moments. And friend, I am so glad that you are tuning in today to the courage cast. Because we have a very special guest, Courtney Alko, who is a business coach who focuses on helping you share your transformational story. And honestly, she has been so helpful, even helping me to share my own transformational story. So no matter where you find yourself in your storytelling journey, I believe this episode is going to help you share your transformational moments with your community, you're gonna make a bigger impact. And trust me when I say it is going to magnetize clients to you. And Courtney was also one of the very first clients to go through the VIP limitless experience. So in the episode, we're going to talk about her personal takeaways, and how it has shifted her into that next level in her business. So get ready. Make sure you have your notepad handy, because this is really going to help you take your story to the next level. Courtney, welcome to the courage cast. I am so glad that you're here today. I'm just really excited to talk with you. We always have so much fun. When we have conversations with each other. They last generally a very long time. Thank you. So I'm really excited that you're here on the show today.

Yeah, I'm excited to be here. And yeah, we and we tend to touch on all the things when we when we have conversations that I love that we really do. It's It's funny how when you meet somebody, virtually how you can feel as though you know them in real life. Yeah. And it's almost kind of like it's surprising that we don't live in the same play. Yeah, and that we're not like in real life friends. But it kind of feels that way. And we met through a mastermind that we were both in and 2022 sales and social with Gillian Murphy. And we became friends. And I got to know you. And we got to collaborate on some things together. But I always love having people introduce themselves. And tell the audience a little bit about yourself and what you're passionate about.

Yeah. So yeah, I am Courtney, Elko of Go live your story. And I'm a business coach with kind of a focus on storytelling and content creation. My, in my previous life pre pandemic, I have nearly 20 years experience as a journalist in news and travel websites. So after being laid off in the pandemic, I decided it was finally time to start my own business, which was something I've realized now that I've always wanted to do since I was a child. It took me a minute to figure out what type of business that a writer and editor could have. What kind of besides writing, what, what kind of skill can I have? I think it clicked for me that I always thought that everyone could tell a story and I think only recently did it clicked for me that not everyone is great at that or they maybe need some help with that too. Once I finally realized that my superpower was not everyone's superpower, I could help them. use storytelling to grow their business. I figured out, I figured out what my business was. And I'm a little over a year and a half into into being a business coach at this point, and I'm loving every second of it.

Now, you had some pretty fun jobs before.

Yes, you became a business coach.

Yeah.

And, you know, set you up very nicely for what you're doing now. But there's one in particular that I would love for you to share about and it's your travel job.

Yes, yes. That was an awesome job. That was a dream job. Honestly. I've had several layoffs in my career, and I was the one before that Job was a long one. It's when I got the travel job, sobbed with tears of gratitude. I was so excited that I finally got the job because it was I was transitioning from news into the travel space. And it wasn't easy to do. And it is a dream job. So to get it was great. But yeah, so I travel, I worked for a family travel website. And our parent company is a big brand travel company or website, I guess you could say. They specialize in hotels. They have they had a bunch of content websites. And mine was a family travel website. So I would maybe like once a month travel around and tour a ton of hotels, we we wrote a lot about hotels, with the perspective of a mom wanting to book that hotel. Where was the nearest bathroom from the pool, like that kind of stuff? Yeah, and then I would come back and write about it. It was very cool. We would write like, like a whole Destination Guide, because we would also go see, I've seen many a butterfly farm, many years do anything to get involved animals, that's usually where we were sent. And they were all great. And then hotels, and then we would write about the whole, like, if you were planning your trip, here's where you would stay what you would do, and like restaurants and all that kind of stuff. But then a lot of the work was also done sitting from my desk and Googling things. So why will travel was amazing. Like it wasn't all that there was there was downtime from the travel for sure.

And it was a way for you to write and to share. But what is the difference now between like what you were doing and how you're able to like, you know, share with your writing and your content and all that now? Yeah, yeah, difference.

I'm writing for myself now, which is until I my own story now, which is was a huge shift that I had to make. For sure. I had for almost 20 years been writing very well other people's stories and sharing other people's news world tragic events, business features, new opening of businesses, good, bad, ugly, and then in the news and in the news industry. But then in the travel space, I'm still telling other people's stories, I was promoting the zoo. And so when it was, it was a hard shift for me in the beginning, when I started my business that it was okay to use the word I and talk about myself, because that's like a huge nono in journalism, you don't insert yourself into the story. So that was that was a shift of that, um, I think I think I'm pretty good at it now. But it took some time for sure to just tell a story about me. And now I do it all the time. But that in business, you have to talk about you, you and your business and your offers and all the things.

Yeah, it is a different, you know, way of you know, communicating because you're you're doing it from first person, which makes a huge difference. And, and I think that the storytelling component of you know, business, I think is really important. Because in order to share who we are and share our transformation and share the things that are, you know, our own sphere, we have to be able to share those stories with people and share those opportunities to learn and opportunities for transformation. Yes, and which is why it's so important for people to understand how they can share their messaging and how does that how does that really tie in to business like what like, what does that mean when you when you say like that you help people share their story through their content as a business coach?

Yeah, yeah. Um, to me, there's a story in in everything, and I'm noticing noticing a lot now. That or maybe it's more of like a newer business owner thing. It's the they educate. It's, I can help this is how I help You do this better, here's a tip for this. And that's great the education and the tips and how to fix this or that is wonderful, but it's not telling me a story. It's telling me how to fix something, which is great. But I want to know about you more, I want to know about who you are. And I could find those same tips if I google or if I watched someone else's story. So getting to know you as a person and as a as a business owner. That gets me to know and like you, I already trust you because you're educating me, but I want to know and like you, and your story is what's going to get me to know it like you. And it shows me that you're human also, like I think it it humanizes the story, your story, it humanizes everything. And there's a story, your actual business story, how you came to be a business owner. But then there's a story and all of your offers also like you, there's a reason why you created the offer that you created. There's a story behind that. And if you can share the actual story behind it, and why you've created it. It's much more powerful than you get six calls and Voxer and all that kind of stuff.

Yeah. Because you see that a lot. Yes. And, you know, and it's funny, because, you know, you and I have had multiple conversations around this. And, you know, even still, there are times when I forget, you know, yeah, oh, yeah, I was saying, you telling a story. Or I don't find this interesting. No one else is gonna find, right. But you've always you've also told me many times that sometimes even the most supposedly uninteresting things, yeah, can be very interesting for other people. Absolutely. Why is that? Because it, I mean, we're all just plugging away, we all don't have these crazy, amazing experiences on the daily, like, they could be a little shift or a little story, I coach my clients to find their transformational moments. And a transformational moment, it sounds like it's so big. And a lot of times it can be for me, one of my big transformational moments was being laid off from my travel job. So I could then start my my business. But it could also be just reading a book, or you took a walk and had like an epiphany on this walk. A transformational moment can be small. And those small things are the stats, the story that people want. And if you want to share, oh, I was on this walk and a deer ran across the thing. And it made me think about this instead of Valley. That is a story right there. And it was a deer walking across a path. Like it wasn't a big that happens all the time or depending on where you live. But yeah, it can be something small that you absolutely can share. It's something I even I mean, your daily routine is nice to share. But sometimes something different out of your daily routine is a nice, just fun story to share. I went to the grocery store, and this happened. Like it's just something different to share. And it rounds you out as a person like, Oh, she goes to the grocery store, too.

Yeah, you know, and I think we forget that right? Like I think as Ben as business owners, we get lost in some of the other details and forget that to share the humaneness of us Yeah, of our lives of our story of our journey. And I was just recording another podcast with my friend Kristen, who you've met virtually. And she we were talking about storytelling in the context of you know, sharing it through music. So it's really interesting today that I'm like talking to different types of storytellers. Yes. And, and how our journey or like our life journey is such is a story. Yeah, is the transformation. And there's like, points along the way where we have learned something or we've had that transformational moment, and then sometimes we're going to be talking about those big markers. And then sometimes we're going to be talking about the deer in the road. Yeah. You know, for me, it's a bear. Oh, yes. You do have I found those very interesting stories when you were sharing them cuz I don't have bears in my daily life. So you're telling me what is cool for me.

I remember. I remember when I was walking was like 730 in the morning, I was talking to my friend Katie on the phone. I this is pre the dog, you know, so yeah, it wasn't here. And I'm walking and I'm coming back. There's a trail that leads down the road and then you have to come back the same way you came. Okay. So there's only one entrance in and out. Yeah. And so anyways, I'm walking back and I have to go through that, that place to go back out onto the road. And that's where I see the bearer across the swamp. Oh, geez now is far enough away that I was like it was probably not gonna get to me. But in my mind, I was like, yeah, it could get to me. And I remember I'm on the phone with her. And like, there's a bear. There's a bear. There's a bear. And she's like, what, what? And I was like, There's a bear. And I'm like, I stopped, like, actually having a conversation. Yeah, she's like, Well, what do you want me to hang up? I'm like, No, right? Yeah. She's probably thinking she gets attacked by a bear. I'm definitely hanging out.

I don't want to share the attack. Meanwhile, I said, just stay on the phone. And I just started running. Yeah, I just started running. Anyways. Needless to say, I didn't have there was no, you weren't attacked by a bear. Big incident yet the bear. But that summer, I think I saw a bear three times three or four times. And I finally did get the puppy that that year. And there was one time that we were in the car. And just the same, same trap. And so hold up. Yeah, I just pull up in the car. And as we were pulling up, the bear was going headed into the woods. And we did a U turn around. Yeah. And of course, coffee was so small. She was like she actually looked like a small bear.

Oh, yeah. Use the actual bears. Well, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And that's a that's a fun story to share and something different. And for people who don't have bears in their daily life, like that's, I remember what you shared something similar on Instagram stories, and I was enthralled like it, you gotta make it out. I hope she hope she gets to happen. Because bears are terrifying to me. They're one of the animals that have like that. But yeah, and that's different. A different thing. That was a small different thing. I'm sure in your in your daily life a small thing that was interesting and fun to share. And just it grounded you out? Oh, Andrea lives in a place where there are there's like it just it tells me more about you without just giving me a list of things about you.

Yeah, it's it's, it's really interesting to actually think about the things that you can share and the stories that you can tell. And I don't know, I probably need to do a better job at it. Which is why we have people like you to continually remind us of those things. Yeah. Now, we had an opportunity to work together not not long ago. And you did one of the VIP experiences. Yes, I was just really launching them. And really, like, we talked a lot about transformational moments. Yes, yes. During even the time that we were working together, and I would love for you to share like, what, what was that like for you when it comes to your own transformational moments?

What What was the experience? Like? Yeah, yeah. Um, I Well, I feel like I'm still transforming. There's that, but I can definitely I definitely feel a shift. I mean, just today getting ready for this podcast, like, I got ready for the day. Like, I was like, Oh, let me take a shower. And like actually put on a sweater and take off the sweatshirt that I've been wearing all weekend. So I think just like it worth, it's little shifts that I know are going to add up to bigger shifts eventually. And it's it's those little transformational moments, there was no like, I mean, the actual experience was amazing. And that was a big a big thing. But like afterwards, it's just these little things that I'm building on top of each other. Like, I'll just keep pushing the next one. Okay, there's one little thing notice I have another one. And I know all of that is going to be huge. Like I can definitely feel like, way more confident. And I thought I was pretty confident before the experience. So the level of confidence that I have now and like, oh, okay, like this, I this could be better. Like that's awesome. Now can can we talk a little bit about the mindset shift that you had? Yeah, around change?

Yes. Yeah.

Tell me a little bit about how you felt prior to doing the VA VIP experience when it came to change, and how you feel now? Well, see I didn't even realize I had an issue. I mean, I knew I had an issue with change, but I didn't realize like it was an issue until the rehab until you pointed it out. And I knew I was always like my thing like I just don't like change. But I thought that's just like who I was. So I going into our VIP experience, I No way thought that that's where we were going to be heading. So then when that was revealed, I was like, wow, and then seeing how not liking change affects all the other things was very eye opening to me and working through that.

Yeah.

Can you give me an example of like, what are one of those things that, you know, it was impacting?

I think, maybe just being open, just being open to it, like I'm set in my ways. And while I think with with loving travel, travel is a huge part of who I am. And I love to explore, and I'm curious and want to see new places. And but it didn't really occur to me that that equals change, like those. I was not letting that happen more for me, because I wasn't being open to possibilities and opportunities. Like, I think it was changing the word changing the word change, to possibilities and opportunities over change. I think that that was a shift for sure. Just the language being used was Yeah, yeah.

And now, you know, like, when you think about being a business owner, and somebody who is, you know, like, online all the time, and, you know, really walking other people through and experience themselves. Why is it important that you can embrace change or possibility?

Yeah. Because business changes, you need to have flexibility. And in business, that's for sure. That's definitely something I've learned. And I do think I was, I've been always able to do that, when it comes to content, and creating content that I can pivot with, with a posting of something because coming from a news background breaking news would happen, and you'd have to change shift, we were going to write this today. But now this happened to we have to change. So was good about having a plan with my content and being flexible, if it had to change. But with all the other things, I don't think I was as as flexible. And I'm still definitely learning to be more flexible. But things always come up. And pivots are always needed in business and being able to be okay with that and let it go and realize that it's for the greater good. This this change in a bet about something better is happening?

Because you were open to it. Yeah, I think people it's funny when they think about change to think that like, major life move. Yeah, like I'm changing one city to another, that's change, or I was in a relationship, and now I'm no longer in one, or vice versa, you know, not being in one. And then in one that's change, but often, like we forget about the little things that are even the way we do life. Yeah. Like there's, there's certain ways that we perceive life or perceive how we are living. And we get attached to that being the way it's done. That being the way it is that being the way my life is or who I am attaching to an identity attaching to this being me. And one of the things that, you know, we talked about was, you know, attaching to the identity of while I'm just, that's me, I don't like change. And it's like, okay, if you're going to step into that next level version of yourself, you know, when it comes to business, is that identity serving you, right, in the future, right? Can you have the level of success? And can you have a level of impact that you want to have, if you're attached to the identity that I don't like change? Or I'm, this is me, right? I just don't change. Yeah. Yeah, yeah.

And so you can't grow? There's no growth with that. Yes, grow for sure.

Right. And so it's, it's, you know, we think of it in the terms of like, okay, I'm just going to make a different decision and do something new. That's change. But it's not really just always that it's, it's oftentimes it's the way we view ourselves and if we, we have an attachment to something and I don't want to change it. I have no desire to be different. Yeah, because I am attached to the way I am I am attached to the person I've been Come, then, in order to, like, have the success that we want, it's really, really hard to get there because we're carrying around that old stuff. Yeah, those old stories, those old mindsets. How has shifting this helped you? How is it like giving you transformational moments? Now stepping into a new identity where you are embracing possibility? Yeah, um, I think so. My whole blog, part of the whole change thing was that I wanted to get to the destination faster. Yeah, it was all about the destination. Yeah. Right. And I think learning changing that thought and like, I literally have the T shirts and says, like, it's about the journey, not the destination, but like, I can't, it was, it was very hard to like, live that. So I think changing, that was a shift for me changing that. The journey is just as fun and just as cool. And that's what brings the opportunities and the change is the journey. The destination is like the end result is the goal or whatever. So I think learning that shift, having that shift, and I'm still working on that, but but I did actually recently had a bit of an aha moment of the whole embracing the journey thing. So I saw a friend over the weekend, and she's like, also, kinda sorta in business. And I knew she was going to ask me like, Hey, how's your business going? And I love talking about business with her like, it's safe place. I knew. Yeah, it was a good question that she would be asking. Excuse me, and, um, but I found myself like preparing my answer to her because I'm like, Ooh, what am I gonna say when she answers that? Because I am probably the most confident I've ever been in my business now. But my bank account is not overflowing with money. It's not reflecting that success that I feel I have, the two things are not connecting. And that is so weird to me. Like, I'm like, How can I be this confident and secure in my business, but also not have the dollar amounts in the bank accounts? Like it doesn't make sense to me. So I was trying to wrap my mind around that to be able to answer the question for her. And then it clicked. I'm like, This is what embracing the journey is about. Like, I'm like, Oh, my God, like this thing. That I'm doing it. But I'm, it just occurred to me that I'm like, I'm having fun and having confidence in the journey. And the bank account is the destination. And I haven't gotten there yet. But I'm cool with it. Like, that is a huge shift for me to be able to see to realize that like, I think because it was weird. Like it made me curious. I want to like think about that more, and then it clicked, then I'm like, Oh, this is the journey. Oh, yeah. I think that that right, there was was a shift. That was nice. Yes. That's amazing. You I was talking with Kristin today about surrender. And it reminds me a little bit of that, you know, that there is this, we have this point where we have almost surrender the outcome. And we have to just go okay, like, what we want in the in reality, like in the our bank account, like to see it has to first we have to believe it first, right? Before we can see it manifest. And I think so often we are we are looking to the lack of it, and envisioning the lack of the bank account or thinking it's in the lack. Yeah, versus being in the opposite, which is the belief. Yeah. And I liken it to like, even what you're talking about with the transformational moments, right. Like, there's always like the before and the after. Yep. So they're, you know, in order to have a transformational moment and to tell and to be a storyteller and to tell those moments. There was before it happened. And after it happened. Yeah. And when it comes to abundance, it's always about the belief in the after.

Yeah. Yeah.

And, you know, believe that there is going to be the transformational moment that the money is there, right or that, you know, the opportunity presents itself or that the clients come in, or, and part of the the journey is the lessons and the transformational moments that we had, that we shifted as people All Yeah. To almost move more into belief more into surrender more into all of those things that are going to make us who we are, yeah, that are going to have impact on other people. Yeah. To tell a story.

Right. Right. Yeah. Because I think that for, for me, that transformational moment is the is the teeny part of the story. It's the event that happened. It's the before and the after. That is the actual story that you're sharing. Yeah, like the pivot. The moment is the event and pivot. But the story is what happened before and what happened after. And I'm actually like, I feel like I'm already writing this, like, amazing story. But it's in I'm only at the before. So I'm like, okay, so I have all of these things that I'm ready, at some point will share and then just need that pivot arc to happen. And then so and then no, like, reality of what the actor is like, I'm envisioning the actor. But I need the reality of the actor. But yeah, it's going to be an awesome story, that's for sure.

Yeah, and I love I love hearing about things like what people are experiencing stuff like that. And it's like, you know, staying in that moment, and staying in the belief of it. Yeah. That the transformation is occurring. Yeah, you know, and, and sometimes we don't see it right away. And those things often look are almost like invisible things. Yeah. They're, they're known only to us. And then eventually, we do get to share them, which I think is really important. Like, it's funny how, like, in what I do, it's like, really working through those moments and like, actually talking about how do you have those shifts? And how do you? Like, what does that look like to shift your mindset? What does it look like to step more into confidence? And then your what you do is actually helping people tell that story? Yes. Yes. You know, when they had that moment, yeah.

The before and after? Yep. You get them to that. And then I'm like, Okay, now look back and see how that happened. Let's talk about that. Yeah, yes. Tell that story. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Because you're right. It's not just, you know, I mean, we like to say it's like the bear in the woods, right? Like, oh, my gosh, it's the bear in the woods. But I think it's it's not always just the bear in the woods story that you know, it you know, it's so funny. Like, I've had so many interesting moments in the woods. Beyond that there are moments when I'll be walking, and it's just really quiet, or I'm not listening to something. I'm not listening to music or podcast, and I'm just by myself, and I hear the birds or I hear something and it's just quiet, and it's silent. And there'll be a moment where I'll have just a thought. Yep. And it's just this like, knowing or this sense. And it's not a bear in the woods moment. But it is just as important. Yeah, as the bear in the woods, you know, like, I don't know, I mean, I don't really wanna know, I'm gonna say this, but I just today I was looking at Facebook. And I came across this girl's birthday. And I was like, I think she died. Oh, geez. And she did Oh, wow. years ago. Yeah. But her birthday came up on Facebook. And I forgot about it. And I was like, and she's young. Like, she's much younger than, than I am. And she passed away, probably, I don't know, maybe three years ago or something like that. Yeah. And Courtney, I was like, I was struck by it because I thought about that. And I was like, her. Her life is like, on the earth is over. Yeah. You know, Her story's not probably finished being told, you know, through her children, and through through different things, but it was interesting to me how it impacted. Even to me today.

Yeah. Yeah.

Because I was like, oh, yeah, like she was so young. Right. And I'm like, I have so much more of my life to live. How am I living it? Yeah. Yeah. How many more stories will I tell? Am I telling those stories? Am I having those moments? am I allowing myself to be in my own story? Yeah, like just like things like that, like I was. I was really struck by that and I and then it reminded me of another Yeah. A girl that I knew both of them from the same city even. And she also passed away a couple years ago. And both of them left behind a husband and three kids. And again, I was struck again, like, you know, wow, Life can be so fragile and so short. How are we living life? Now? How are we telling that story? How are we being and how are we are allowing? I didn't know we were gonna go this way. Oh, yeah. You don't I'm saying yes. And but and that was a simple thing on Facebook that popped up that gave you that that thought act? Yes. It was a it was a little thing that made you really think and share about it now. Absolutely.

Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. And I think those moments are very pivotal for for our ourselves. We're not only for having a shift in our mindset, but also being able to share that with our audience, share that with our clients share that with people who are, you know, going to have a transformation because of our story and sharing. Yeah, you know, those moments with them, I think are very important and, and things that we forgot it's in the it's in the little details as much as it is in the big detail.

Exactly. Those little Yeah, those little shares are so much more important to share. Because everyone thinks their life is boring, or mundane or average or it's routine. You were scrolling Facebook, and had a bit of a lightbulb moment. And yeah, scroll Facebook every day. So but it was a something different. You saw something different today and to be able to share about that thought is is that's the story to share today that that's your story today. Yeah, yeah. And that life is it is fragile, and there are you know, we're not guaranteed, right, we're not guaranteed things and getting stuck on some of the small things. Some of the small like, and I think that's it was interesting, because then I went for my walk today before I was recording some podcasts this morning. And on my walk, I just thought, you know, I really am so grateful for my life, you know, and just being able to have you know, these opportunities to share life right now. Yeah, so reminder that Facebook post was your reminder for that today? Yeah, sure. Yeah.

On that same trail I might have you then saw a bear in the middle of winter and that was a whole nother level. Trust me I'm like oh my god they were polar bears here. Oh, man dog out there on your you're up there. Man. I'm not that far up here. But yeah. I was I'd be like, I need to get out of here No, no, no. So tell me now like now that you have had some of these transformational moments in your own life and you've had made some shifts what's what's next for you? What what is next for you in your business? And how are you You know showing up in your in your life in business in 2023? Yeah, good question. I think it's important well yeah, it's probably going deeper for me in my in my stories, I know how to share the surface level stories the I saw random Facebook posts or saw bear type of stories, but I need to go to the next level like deeper in my stories and bigger I think insurance knows I've mastered Instagram. I mean, not one it's always changing but I know what I'm doing there. But I think taking it to the next level with podcasting and and speaking engagements. And yeah, just sharing bigger sharing bigger I think is more and helping my clients to share share bigger as well.

Yeah. Oh, that's exciting. Yeah. So there's a podcast in your future there is yes, I bought a mic but that's about as far as I've gotten. And I have a tentative launch date but I've literally done nothing yet. But yes there is I've been told for years that I not years, but a while now that I should have a podcast. And I know that like I I know I want to have a podcast but I was in it was like another thing for me. And I share that I express myself best through the written word. So being able to like speak a story is next level For me, so, but I, but I also know, people will listen to a podcast more than they will read a blog post. So, yeah, it's and I can give more of a tone. And in a podcast writing like funny isn't easy. So it's easier to use it in the inflection of my voice. So it should be good. And it will be some thing around storytelling, business related, but also just fun stories to share of myself and guests.

So it'll it'll be well, I won't be but we will be looking out for it. Yes, for sure. For sure that I actually before I started the courage cast, I was writing blogs. Yeah. And this is years ago now. But I remember thinking to myself, Oh, you know what? It must be it would be so much easier just to like have a podcast. Whoever gave me that idea. Easier. I'm not too sure about because really, at the beginning, I wrote out everything anyways. And so I was just writing everything. And then almost like script, yeah. And then sharing it other than when I had guests on, but it took me forever, because I had to like, basically write it. Yeah. Then I had to record it, then edit it, then do all the things and I was like, Oh, my gosh, this is a lot of work. It was definitely easier to write a blog.

Okay. Good to know. Yeah, I can see myself doing that exam, that exact same process, and I don't want to lose, it'll be easier. I'll just like, you know, press record. I even joke sometimes now and I, cuz I do occasionally press record on on the mic and just like, Okay, I'm gonna talk. Yeah, but it's rare that I will do it like that. And I won't have notes. It's more rare. Like one in? Like, 50. Yeah. Put it that way. Yeah. Yeah. Because you really do have to have your thoughts together of what you're going to talk about and know exactly what you're going to say. Yeah. Because you know, he's gonna keep talking. Right. So it's easier to have notes. Yes. Just saying. Just tell, you know, for anybody who's out there wanting to share their story. Yes. Thank you for the tips. Yeah. I'm so glad that we got to share your story here on the on the courage guest today. Where can people find you and connect with you?

Yeah, I'm on Instagram. I am. Go live your story. And I'm love having conversations in the DMS. I have genuine conversations in the DMS. I want to get to know you and your story on a more personal level. So I respond to your stories. And yes, I love chatting with DMS.

Awesome. Well, go connect with Courtney. And I will put all of her links in the show notes so that you can find her in case you're, I don't know in the car listening to this right now. And you can't remember, you can check the show notes afterwards and make sure that you connect with her. And thank you so much, Ben for being a guest today on the show. Appreciate it. Thank you for having me. This is awesome. I want to thank Courtney for being on the courage cast today for sharing her own personal transformation moments. If you want to learn how you can tell your story in a way that feels really authentic and aligned to your vision and your mission. Reach out to Courtney and friend.

Thank you for being here today. Until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live bravely. If you like this episode of The Courage cast, we'd love to hear from you. Leave us a rating and review and while you're there, hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Original music production by Stephen Crelly.

EP 252 | Choosing To Begin Again | Kristen Budde

WITH KRISTEN BUDDE

 
 
 
From an outside perspective, I think we can see people and we can go,” Oh, yeah, I totally see them as a singer, songwriter, speaker.” but when it’s us, it’s harder to because we have all of these old stories and narratives playing out in the in the background, which is what has kept us from doing it in the first place.
— Andrea Crisp
 

Have you ever sat on a dream for so long that you thought it would never happen? My guest today on the show has been a long time friend of mine and someone who is one of the most talented humans I know. For years, Kristen Budde had a desire to share her music with the world but fear of the unknown held her back from putting her music into the world. But in 2020 all of that changed when Kristen decided to make one of the biggest moves of her life. Today on the podcast we talk about how how she moved through her fear and is now sharing her both story and her original music.

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

Are you ready to take courageous steps to create a life and business you love? Welcome to the Couragecast. I'm Andrea crisp, an empowerment coach, author, and a multi passionate entrepreneur. For years, I was afraid to allow myself to shine. That was until I discovered that I could step into my own power, shift my mindset and take ownership of my destiny. Now I coach people across the globe, who are ready to own their life and make a massive impact with a blend of practical and spiritual advice. My desire is that courage cast empowers you to take brave steps in your own life and business.

Have you ever sat on a dream for so long that you thought it would never happen? My guest today on the show has been a longtime friend of mine, and someone who is one of the most talented humans I know. For years, Kristin buddy had a desire to share her music with the world. But fear of the unknown held her back from putting her music into the world. In 2020, all that changed when Kristin decided to make one of the biggest moves of her life. Today on the podcast, we talk about how she moved through her fear, and is now sharing both her story and her original music. Kristin was also one of my very first clients to go through the VIP limitless experience. And in this episode, she shares with me her personal takeaways of how it has helped her to show up more confidently as a performer and a speaker. Kristen Floyd buddy, you know, I know your name is Christian buddy. But I have to call you Chris and Floyd. I'm not gonna lie. Welcome to the Couragecast.

Thank you. I'm so happy to be here.

You know, it's so fun to have on somebody who you've known for a really long time. Because it's one of those things where it's like, you can't be like that professional version of yourself because the person knows you. All too. Yeah, so we've known each other a really, really long time since Evangel. College, also known as Evangel University. And so I'm just really, I'm really grateful to have you on the show.

Yeah, and we won't say how many years ago that was. That's a long time. I still remember your green corduroy pants and tie dye shirt getting ready to, you know, jump on the stage and wow, the world with your spectacular vocals.

That's hilarious.

Do you have those green pants? Still?

You know what I think I probably do somewhere in a box in the attic.

Is it funny? Like I look back at some of those times from Evangel. And think to myself like, that feels like a lifetime ago feels like a whole literally a whole lifetime ago. I was a whole other person. 100% It was forever ago.

Yeah. So for those of you who are maybe new to Kristin, Buddy, she is actually a singer, songwriter, and speaker, and she's going to share a little bit about herself. But from my perspective, knowing Kristin for many, many years, Kristin and I went to college together. Then we lived together for numerous years as what we termed a back then before it was like actually coined the term life partners. We were roommates. We call each other life partners. And we lived together for a really long time. And I got to bear witness to Kristen's life and just, I don't know her joy and the way she lives her life. And so, but Kristin, tell us a little bit about you.

Sure. So like you said, I'm a singer, songwriter, and speaker. And man, I mean, music has just been like my thing from the beginning of time. We were both music majors in college, which is how we met Yes. But also just love connecting with people, which led me to pursue a Master's in Counseling. So I taught music coming out of college and then became a school counselor. And I did that for 25 years, all by doing music and songwriting on the side, and sometimes not at all. It was one of those kind of passions that was kept on the backburner. But I'm so happy to say I'm now pursuing that full time and have added speaking to what I'm doing and so it's a really exciting time in life and yeah, it's a it's a beautiful been a beautiful season here this last, I don't know, couple of years.

You know, it's it's so interesting to have watched your journey along the way like having seen you sit in our living room in our duplex with your guitar or you know, the many hours you sat playing and writing songs and and covering songs and doing different things and how much I knew you loved what you were doing, and you wish you were pursuing it, I would watch you get up to go to work in the morning. Like, just, I don't know, like, I think the phrase is like, kill me now Crispy.

It was a struggle from like the get go, but I kept at it for a long 25 years.

Yeah, so let me ask you, what? How did you do that? Like, if you wanted to pursue music, like what was the reasoning behind staying 25 years?

Yeah,um, I think it's a few things. First of all, my understanding, and knowledge of what was possible in pursuing music as a career was a very narrow, like, we've talked about this before, like, I basically thought I could be a rockstar, or I could teach, like, those were the only options that I really was aware of. And really, not until the last, maybe two or three years, when I got connected with some new creative community and some mentors, I kind of had my eyes open to some new possibilities, which is really exciting and really neat. But, um, so that was one I just didn't know, what was possible, didn't know how I didn't know, just didn't know how could happen. And then the second was, I think a big one was security in that paycheck, and a very, had a very stable job. And, you know, my growing up, like my family really valued education valued stability, you know, and I, I still valued that really, you know, I want to know, I can pay my bills. So So I think that and then the probably the biggest one was fear. Fear has been a huge obstacle in my life, even since I was a kid. And really, as I started kind of on a journey, I don't know, maybe in 2017, with you started with that purpose, the purpose group that we did, I just really started to realize how much that has kept me stuck and kept me from doing things that I needed to do that I wanted to do. So yeah, I'd say those are the three big things.

And, you know, you said you did it for 25 years before you took the leap. And you were living in Cincinnati, before you moved to the Nashville area. And I'd love to talk about that time in life. Because I think that really was a turning point for you. So let's go to when you're in Cincinnati, you're, you're commuting to Kentucky, as a school counselor. You know, and you're, you're just tell me about what life was like?

Sure. And I have to say, like all that to say there were good parts about teaching, too, that I think kept me there too, you know, so it's just said that, but um, anyhow, so Cincinnati, so I lived in Springfield, Missouri, after college for I think, 12 years teaching. And then the last two years was a counselor. And then my husband and I met through a mutual friend and I ended up when we got married, moving to Cincinnati. And it was really, really a difficult transition for me, I had a really tight knit community in Springfield, some wonderful friends. I had been single for what felt like forever, but now looking back, you know, it wasn't but and so when I moved, it was really, I really struggled. I really miss my friends. I kind of really had an identity crisis like and then I felt like I didn't know how to be married. And you know, Larry knew everybody I didn't know anybody. I'm my first job there was in credibly challenging. So like, within a span of one month, I got married, moved to a new city and started a new job. And I didn't realize the stress of that and really kind of the trauma of that, how much it affected me until years later. And then that first year of being in Cincinnati, I ended up getting fired from my job with I was totally blindsided because they didn't really have grounds it was basically to give someone else an opportunity that was already in the school. And it was devastating. But again, I didn't realize I don't think the effects the of what that did to me and my confidence. I didn't realize that until years later. And then just the challenge of being married and we had dated long distance. And so, you know, I've gotten here I'm married, and finally living in the same city as my husband. And that presented a whole slew of challenges to Yeah, so I mean, it was it was tough. So I think my start in Cincinnati got off to on a very rough foot. Yeah. And then, you know, looking as I've looked back on, on all those years there, I just, I really think I got stuck. Like, all the things that happened that first year, and it was so difficult, I was depressed. I was dealing with extreme anxiety in my job, and well, it just in life, and all those disappointments failures kept me I mean, caused me to get stuck.

And then on top of that, you had sickness.

Yeah. So let's see, probably about seven, six years after we got married. I went camping, and I got bit by a tick, and ended up contracting Lyme disease. I was lucky in that I knew that I got it and was treated fairly quickly. However. I dealt with just weird health ailments for about three years. And I looked fine on the outlet. One of the hardest things about that, and and I don't think people always realize with Lyme disease is You look fine on the outside. But I was I was terrible. I was, at that point, having probably, I would say, almost debilitating anxiety. Some of which was over the health things I was experiencing. And I just, I was just miserable. Honestly, it was probably at an all time low. I would say, it was rough. It kind of felt like like, oh my gosh, this just nothing is working out for me here in this city. Like, what is the deal?

Yeah. And probably looking back, like, you know, if you would have had rewound the tape all the way back to college, would you have imagined that that's where you would have been?

Oh, no. I don't think so. Um, yeah, I mean, so that was I don't know how old I was, I was probably like, my late 30s. When, when they saw or maybe I think it would happen, they are I turned 40. Actually. Yeah, if you would have a few I said, Hey, Kristen, when you're 40 you're gonna live in in Cincinnati, you're gonna be sick, and you're gonna feel like crap, you're gonna be struggling with your direction in life. And yeah, yay. So much to look forward to. You know, I have to say, it's, it's one of those things that, you know, since doing this work myself, and, you know, really telling people's stories, and, you know, working with people myself, I think, I also struggled with my own things, and not feeling like, you know, my life turned out the way I wanted it to. And it was one of those things where people weren't really telling you the full story. So you, you'd have conversations with people, and they'd kind of gloss over, you know, what was really going on in their life to make it seem good. Because there's, there can be a lot of shame, you know, when you've thought your life was going to turn out a certain way. It really hasn't. And then you're like, you know, I had everything going for me. Absolutely everything in my favor. And this is where I'm, where I'm at. And we reconnected. I mean, we'd always kind of kept in touch. But we reconnected around that time. And, you know, you know, which I'm so grateful for me personally, you know, just in general, for me, personally, it was amazing. But I was starting this thing called the purpose groups and was based off of a book that I've written designed with purpose. And you were one of the first cohorts to go through virtually through the group and, you know, met some women. Then you participated in a mastermind that I ran, and you met, you know, again, some incredible women you came up to Canada's like multiple times, you know, really got involved virtually within a community. How did that shift you and almost like, create an atmosphere for you to consider changing things.

Yeah. I mean, that really, to me, that purpose group was the big Getting of transformation, I guess for me. So you are a huge part of my story. And so I think the purpose group is trying to think through this timeline in my head, I think it was in around 2017. So I was still dealing with Lyme disease really struggling. And I remember, I don't know, if you had advertised it on social media or how I found out about it. But I remember thinking, wow, I really want to do this, because I really felt like I was still struggling kind of with identity crisis, you know, like, I really want to do with more with music. But, you know, I have worked so hard on this master's degree, I don't really want to leave this job, like I said, was kind of just stuck since that first year. And I was like, isolated, really, I had wonderful people in my life, but was just struggling, I think, for me to be myself. So when I heard about this group, I was like, oh, purpose, you know, like, I was always so intrigued by that. And I felt like probably struggled to some degree with, you know, what am I what am I supposed to be doing here. And I was, I remember being wanting to do it, but I was nervous that I wouldn't have like the energy, you know, with dealing with illness. And also, it was so small, I think financial investment. And, you know, even that was really the first time I had invested in myself, you know, outside of school, really. So, but I decided, I was like, Okay, if I don't do this, like, nothing's gonna change, I gotta do something, something, something gotta change. And so I did it. And then it was so good. I don't even remember, everyone was in the group. But it was it was a fairly small group. And just remember, like, as we started getting into it, first of all, how it was just really cool to connect with people. And I guess I didn't expect that from something online. But to get at connect with people on a deep level, and it was kind of like, I started finding myself again, like, I always get emotional about this. But I'm like, it was like that little girl who loved to sing. And that little girl who loved music and had that passion. I was like, Oh, my gosh, she's still there. Yeah, you know, she got lost. Yeah, it was really, it was a really cool time. And I got to see something happen in you. And I got to watch you transform your life.

Yeah, and it took me a long time. Like, I think there are times I was like, you know, I want this to happen faster. But I guess I want you know, in a lot of ways, I wasn't ready. It just took a lot of work and a lot of time and you know, looking back now over the last, I don't know, six, seven years. You know, I'm more accepting of like, okay, like, this is happening in the right time. And that it's supposed to, but yeah, that was the beginning.

You know, you people often, you know, think, oh, it has to happen quickly, you know, why isn't it happened, you know, I really want to pursue this dream that I have for my life. And then, you know, years goes by five years. And sometimes it does take time, because there's all the emotional component that's going on, you know, in the back end of everything, you know, trying to process who am I? What do I really want? How do I make these changes, and then all of a sudden, the realization that oh, I've kept myself stuck. Like life didn't just, you know, like, I'm not here because, you know, it's just coincidence. It's like, I made these choices. This was something and here I am now. And then you were in a place in your life. I don't know if it was right before COVID Or right during COVID pandemic beginning of it. You made a decision and you had been talking with Larry about this for some time, but you made a decision to move to the Nashville area.

Yeah. Yeah. Tell me about that. Yeah. So so we did purpose group and I started you know, in that next mastermind after that started taking the small steps towards music, you know, performing more, starting to write more getting connected with some songwriter groups and and loved it like it was just life and so my dad had lived in Nashville for gosh, almost since after right after college and I had almost moved here. maybe like, around 2005. But ultimately it didn't pan out, didn't work out. And so I was always drawn to Nashville, of course, because of the music scene songwriters. As I remember the first event I went to it was with the Nashville Songwriters Association. And I was just like, oh my gosh, I found my people. And so as always, it was always kind of in the back of my mind. And actually, I had applied for jobs a couple of times while we were in Cincinnati. And just nothing. I mean, nothing crickets, like out of pi, nothing. And so in 2020 Yeah, it was right when COVID started. Larry had lost his job. And we were kind of just like, okay, like, what next? And, you know, I was still really wanting to do more music, I was wanting to potentially go part time and had an opportunity that I thought was a sure deal. And then it didn't pan out. And so when I remember one of my friends saying, Well, why don't you just see if what's, you know, what's happening in Nashville, apply for some jobs, see what happens. So I did and pretty quickly got several interviews, which was crazy. So ended up getting hired as a school counselor down here. And we were, we were like, Okay, let's do it. So that was in June, and school started here. And like beginning of August, so it was like, whew, it was a quick thing. And like we weren't because we weren't really planning on it. So I ended up living down here with my parents for a couple months. While Larry got everything ready to go, and Cincinnati, but yeah, here we here we are in the middle of pandemic moving to a new state.

Yeah. And you know, you had been thinking about it for some time, and it feels like forever, like that. You're thinking about it. And then all of a sudden, one day it happens and everything's like, quickly moving. Yeah. It's happening. It's like, oh, okay, here we are. And so you got down there. And then you had some really incredible opportunities open up for you. While you were there, and you're establishing yourself, why don't you tell us a little bit about the group that you got associated with and how you started down the road to becoming a speaker? Because you had always been doing singing? And all of a sudden, you got connected in which I was so thrilled that you found your people? Yeah, like, that's something we had been talking about for a really long time. And there you were, and so yeah, tell us about that.

Yeah. So it's funny you say that, because I remember being at one of your retreats in Canada. And, like, I just was really wanting to connect with creative community, like I had a friend that I performed with who I love, still love. We still do things musically together, but really was just longing for some creative community and a friend of mine. I think it was actually right before I move mentioned this group called artist stand. And so I ended up doing a virtual retreat in August, the year I moved down here, because you know, that was in the thick of COVID. So nothing was in person. And they did another one with them. A few months later, and they ended up doing a mastermind that year of songwriters. And so decided to go for it. And we're still working full time at this point, but was just like I just kept had like I just knew I had to do more music. I remember saying to my to Larry, like I am going to die if I don't do something like and you know, at the same time this clock is ticking. I'm like, okay, like, I'm not getting any younger. There may be a little like midlife crisis in there. But here. Yeah, yeah. So I got connected with them to this mastermind. And it really changed my life like so it was led by two professional songwriters here in Nashville who both have successful careers who are generous and wonderful people. And just having that accountability and like minded people was was amazing. And then that ended at the end of 2021. And I'm still very much connected with people in that community. And with my mentors there. And then, last April, I got connected with another mentor. I attended, like another online thing. And he talked about keynote concerts. And I was like, Oh, actually, I had heard the concept the year before and had bought a course I hadn't done anything with it by the same guy. And attending this. He was just talking about it. And I had thought about it over the last year and that could be really cool. Which is so funny. Like, if you would have said to me in college like Kristen, you're gonna push to a speaking certification someday I would have been like, whatever, Andrea. You're on crack. You mostly thought all my ideas were that were crazy anyway. So you might have a good voice of reason in my life. But I remember in college you I say one day at a time, Floyd one day at a time, because I get so stressed out about everything. Anyway, I still remember that. But back to the speaking. So I attended this thing. And he was doing a mastermind. And so it was just crazy. Like several things happened all within a short amount of time that I was like, Yeah, I think I'm supposed to do this. And I'm, I want to do this. And yeah, it was just really neat how it all came about. So I did that. And so I believe it was in in May, maybe that started of last year. And I'm still that's still going. So I've started speaking, and I've spoken at a few events. And so a keynote concert basically, is like giving a keynote, keynote speech. Like for a conference or seminar, whatever. And you weave in a few of your original songs, and even how that has come together, like sharing my story and the lessons I've learned and how that went along with songs that I was writing. But like how it came together, it was just feels very I don't know what the right word is, like serendipitous? Yeah, like,yeah, like the the timing is just so cool. How I feel like how God has brought it all together.

You know, it's, you know, when you were in, I guess, in Springfield, like, there were opportunities that you had to go and sing places. And I remember you doing like coffeehouse type events, and you always would share something before, like, you'd always have a little introduction to the song or, you know, some sort of a story that went along with it, and then you'd sing. And you're always really good at holding that space for people just to kind of be in the music and be like, in that space. Like, I don't know, too.

That sounds funny together. Yeah. Because I don't remember that. That's hilarious. But, you know, as a songwriter, you really are a storyteller. And yeah, so one thing that I've gotten into over the last couple years is house concerts, which I love so much. Because it's such a cool way to bring people together in an intimate setting, and you really share the stories of the songs, and then you share the songs. And so that's, in a way kind of what I'm doing with speaking. So. Yeah, so it really does naturally lend itself to that. But I needed someone to point that out to me. And to train me. So yeah, it's been really good. It's been scary. I remember the first one I did last year, I was so nervous. So nervous, but but all it was so good.

So now I'm just gonna, you know, go back just a little bit, because you were you were a school counselor. You're living in Nashville. And then you made a huge, huge leap. Yeah, just tell us about that. Because we now know, like, you were singing and doing these speaking engagements, but how, what else was going on at the same time?

Yeah, so, um, so I'm gonna have down here thick of COVID starting a new job was crazy, crazy. Just because of all the COVID things and being in a school setting. I mean, it was wild. And, but it was a the best little school, like, I loved it so much wonderful people, and I felt so blessed to be there. But I still, you know, just had this desire, like, I want to do more. And as I was in that, first mastermind with artists and, and doing more songwriting, and knew I wanted to record a project, like when would that ended? I was like, okay, that's got to be my next thing, because I just, it was something I wanted to do. And just for a lot of reasons, couldn't seem to make it happen over the last two decades, time, so much time. And so I knew I wanted to do that. And then the speaking opportunity came about last year, and I had been thinking, like I said, about going part time for a long time. And so I kind of looked into that again. And just things kind of didn't work out there. And so really, really, we talked about it, we prayed about it. We I overthought the heck out of it. Because I'm really good at that. You need someone to help you think Some through you call me anyway. And so you know, Larry, for honestly, the last few years, I was like, Kristen, I want you to quit and do this, but I couldn't give myself permission to do it. And I think just, I don't know, I just came to the place where I was like, I know, this is what I need to do. I've got to take this leap. I am terrified, like terrified, frozen, paralyzed with fear. Like I literally remember saying, Larry and crying when I said it, because I was so afraid. Like, I don't think I can do this. Like, I don't think I can quit my job. I had so much fear around it. But I think when you're called to do something, like it just wouldn't leave me alone. Like it just over the years just kept coming back. And the more more I did with it, the more I was, like, I know, this is what I'm supposed to do. But I just so scared to let go. So I finally did it. So school got out. And I, I still was just not sure. Just really took some time to get quiet. And I think I printed off the resignation letter and it sat there for like a week because I was just like, I just want if I can do this made me sick. And and I just, you know, part of it too, is I just loved so much the people I was working with. And it was just a really hard thing to give up. And so I finally made the decision. And I turned in my resignation. And wow, like, I think for probably a month after I did that I went between oh my gosh, I've just ruined my life. To oh my gosh, like, I'm really doing this like, okay. Oh my gosh, it's happening. Yeah, so it was exciting, but also terrifying. And, yeah, it's been an interesting, what's it been since then six, eight months.

That's, it's been amazing, though, to, to see how you know, the progression of your journey. And you know, what it's taken to, you know, for you to get to this point, you are, you know, going to be releasing your first EP, yeah, which is very exciting after many years, many decades. And which we'll get to talking about that in just a second. But, you know, so here, you've been, you know, this, this amazing progression of, you know, going from Springfield, and all that you went through, you know, when you moved to Cincinnati and kind of, you know, learning about yourself, and, you know, being in being really wanting to be more involved in community. And that community presented itself to you in ways probably you never would have expected. Yeah, and, you know, kind of went through this process to get all the way to Nashville to almost end your career in a moat and a beautiful way to then start the next phase of your journey to begin, again. And crazy how that works. Yeah, basically, Andrea.

And so here, you are getting ready to begin again, you know, in a whole new way to start something. So what was the catalyst for this album? And for, you know, what, what is the music about? In what are the stories about in this album?

Yeah, well, it's called begin again. And here's what's cool is I started writing the title track for that, when I was in Canada, we were in Toronto on one of our it may have been the last time I was up there. In 2019, and I, we had taken a break from our retreat, and I was walking into a coffee shop, and I got this little like Melody and I actually have like, the notes like the rhythm written out in my head or on paper. And, you know, even back then, I was like, I want to do more of this. I'd like to, you know, make a career change. But I don't know how and I remember I have it still recorded. You talking to me at that retreat. And I mean, it was almost like you you It's so good to have friends like this and mentors I mean, because I consider you that to like, that can believe things for you when you can't believe in for yourself. feeling the emotions again here, but I remember you saying like, I really believe like community, that creative community you're longing for. Like I can see that for you. And I still wasn't there yet. You know, I was like, Yeah, that would be great. But, um, so I started writing that song well I was there and just about wanting to start over and like lifting that heaviness off of like, I know, this is what I need to do, but I'm terrified. And I around that time I read a book too called Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist. And good book Oh, so good. And it was one of those deals where I'm sure that the timing of it was divine, like, it really was, like, she crawled in my head and wrote how I felt. And I remember there was some quote in there that said, you can set what was it, you can start again, right now rebuild, remake your life from inside from the inside out. And I remember when I read that was like, yeah, like, that's what I want to do. You know, there was a whole lot more to it. But, um, so that was the title track. And it's just funny. The songs kind of had a similar thing, which I think, you know, a lot of songwriters, it's a form of therapy for us, as well. And so it deals with a lot of the things I've dealt with in this transformation and learning to face my fears and get unstuck. So, you know, there seems of overcoming fear or facing fear, having a little talk with myself, like, Come on, girl, get with it. But it's just, it's just really cool how, like, when I met with my producer, last year, I think it was maybe I don't know, in May. And I had sent him several songs. And just the ones, they just came together, and they just fit. So and then I released my first single last summer, which will also be on this project. And like that was just even just doing that was so exciting. Though, I feel like you know, most people have been at a point in their life where they have to begin again, whether it's after a failed relationship, failed job, you know, some kind of loss or unforeseen circumstance. So I really hope that it will, like people will relate to it, it will encourage people, I just think how Healing Music has been for me in my life, and how it's just been kind of a constant comfort and companion.

So I'm hoping that the songs will be that for people,I imagine that they completely are going to be. And, you know, I mean, I've been able to hear your songs over the years. And I'm really excited for this new journey that you're about to embark on. And I'm proud of you for taking those steps and for allowing yourself, you know, to follow your dream and to pursue what you've always had in your hearts. And really, to create this, you know, like, as Shaniqua said, you know, you can always create your life, you know, start again, again, again, create what you you desire, I think we we fall, you know, victim to, you know, our circumstance and say, Oh, I guess is just the way life is versus saying, You know what, I want to do this, I want to create this, I want to live like this, and then taking the opportunity to do it. And actually, you know, putting yourself out there. And so you're not only going to be like singing, but you're going to be speaking. And so it was so interesting. So we we reconnected again, back at the end of 2022. And you went through a VIP experience. And we talked through and it was interesting how it worked, because here you are, you've already taken the steps now, like you've already done, you know, you know what your purpose is? You're in the throes of it you're you're actually pursuing it. It's all happening. It's not like you're, you know, going to make it happen. It's happening. What was coming up for you when it came to actually out working it. Yeah, what was what was that next kind of phase? Because that's where we kind of worked together in in the VIP experience.

Yeah, so you know, transitioning to basically a small business owner, because there's lots of different things I'm doing right now. And I eat I was so used to school structure, like I had a schedule, I knew what time to be there. It was so structured. So I was really struggling with like, how do I do this, but really even more than that, like identity again, like so I'm pursuing this speaker thing and yeah, I'm so excited. Did about it? And I know I can do it. I mean, I've done it. And it's been wonderful. I've had wonderful feedback from audiences. But it was kind of like I just was still struggling to really like say, Yeah, this is what I'm doing. And I think when you, when you do make a big change like this, like, kind of my experience has been with some people, like, they think I'm nuts, or they don't quite understand it. And you know, honestly, I think, a long time, for a long time, I felt like it was selfish to pursue this maybe are irresponsible somehow. But I'm telling you what, I'm working harder than I ever have. It's so true, right? Yes. People are like, you know, when you go into work, and you're like, you don't even know. Yeah, I'm even know.

24/7. Yeah. And I'm having to learn how to set boundaries with that. And, you know, I teach lessons two, which I love. And like I said, I'm performing doing lots of different things. And so it's just, it's just learning how to come into the identity. And so the VIP experience was super helpful, was just, I guess, kind of helping me transform my belief around what I'm doing and who I am in this new role.

It's, it's taking that next step, it's like, you know, saying, okay, you know, when we learn to embody the identity of who we are, is really when we see ourselves step into that new level, that new experience, that's when we magnetize things into our lives. That's when we see so many different things happen. And so it's exciting to watch you, you know, take that step. And from an outside perspective, you know, I think we can see people and we can go Oh, yeah, I, I totally see them as a singer, songwriter, speaker, you know, but when it's us, it's harder to because we have all of these old stories and narratives playing out in the in the background, you know, which is what has kept us from doing it in the first place.

Totally. And all of a sudden, we take the step and note we're doing it. And then it's, you know, thinking, Am I really this? Is this, who I am, is this my identity, and really stepping into that next level version. I know, for myself, Kristen, you know, it's the same thing. You know, I've had, I look back, and I love music. And I don't you know, I mean, I still love, love singing and playing. I love it, love it, love it. And I thought that that's what I would do for my whole career. And but there was a part of me. And when I look back in college, that was doing stuff like I'm doing now. And but I didn't have a name for it, there wasn't any kind of job that did it. I just naturally was inclined in this way to do these things. So when, when coaching came up for me many, many years later, I was like, Yeah, this is the right fit. But I don't have context for it. I don't really step into the identity of it. And so for me, it was the same thing, like learning how to find who I am. In this, to create this for myself. And to create it in a way that is me. And I'm showing up as myself and doing it when there is not a blueprint to follow. Yeah. And you know, similarly, you, you and I both have like the same educational background, we both have a music education degree from Evangel college, university. And we both have a master's in guidance counseling from Missouri State University. We have the same career trajectory. Yeah. And we lived together, and we were both music teachers. And then we both did counseling in schools. And then we both were like, I gotta follow my dream. And we both had these, like bumps along the way to get to where we are in, in, in life, and I'm sure that there are still going to be bumps, and things that are gonna happen. But I'm excited for you, that you are moving into this next stage of your life and how you get to now share the journey.

Yeah, that's, that's really cool to be able to share that. And it's, it's neat to see the times that I have spoken. Just the impact that that's on people and how it's inspired them or encouraged them, and in totally different ways. You know, not everybody has to quit their job or not everybody. No, it's not always a huge thing. I mean, I really do believe that music is my calling. And I think I knew that for a long time. I just was afraid to really admit it and, you know, do what I needed to do to pursue that. But like when you're talking about being who you are, like, that's really vulnerable. And that's something you and I talked a lot about in the VIP experience. Because I've struggled in sharing this with people, I think, you know, it's again, it's fear of rejection or fear of people thinking, you're crazy. So as that experience really helped me to be like, No, this is who I am. And this is what I'm doing. And and it's okay.

Yeah, yeah, it is. And I hope that people hearing your story take away, you know, some take away a lot from this number one, your your journey, even, you know, started in, you know, pursuing your own dream, you know, figuring out how you could do that, taking a vulnerable step to join something virtually. And, you know, create community that way, and then doing it again, and doing it again, and doing it again, and finding people in those spaces who were going to point you in the direction that you needed to go and allowing yourself number one, to financially invest, but also to take the time to invest. Because, you know, even when, when we were doing the purpose group together in the mastermind, you were traveling to Canada multiple times. And, you know, that was not only an investment of time, but money. And, you know, but looking back on that, you know, it was setting the stage for the next part of your journey totally is going to be the next thing you were going to do. And and I look at, you know, I want to talk to clients, or even looking at my own life, there's, there are markers along the way where I did something that allowed me to do the next thing that allowed me to do the next thing. And I think sometimes we think if I just do one thing I'm gonna get there. Yeah. But oftentimes, it is one thing that leads to the next open door that leads to the next open door, and you have to continue to walk through the door.

Yeah, and I mean, every still doing that, right. 100% Yeah, like, there are many times where it's like, oh, can I stop here? And then you're like, Oh, no.

I think it's easy to look at somebody and feel like, you know, they went from this to this overnight. And, you know, like, this has been a year like years, you know, journey of journeying. And for me, and just I really feel like at the beginning. And you're right, it's like one, one small step, one small, little brave step. And then, you know, the steps sometimes get bigger and scarier, but you can take those if you hadn't started with that first small step. Yeah. Now, if you were going to, you know, share with the listener today, and they are thinking to themselves, Oh, I have a dream, I have something that I want to do. And I'm in a place where it doesn't look like this is possible. What would you say to them? I mean, kind of what I just said like it it, it is possible. And you just what's one small step you can take? You know, is it connecting with community, either in person or virtually, or finding a mentor, someone that has done that before you that can encourage you that can, like you said, point you in the right direction. Those have been like the biggest game changers for me, I would say in this journey. But it is possible, and I totally get feeling like it's not. But I think you've got to, you've got to surround yourself with people that believe in you that are like minded. Yeah, you just got to have people helping you out. Can't do it on your own.

And I know that you've had such a beautiful supportive community, your your family, Larry, your friends. We're all very excited for the release of your album. And so tell us when is it coming out? How can people get a hold of the music and get a hold of you and connect.

So the first thing all is already out that was released a few months ago, come sit down at my table. So you can find it on any streaming platform, Spotify, YouTube, Apple Music, and lots of others. So the full of the release date is still not completely determined. There's still a lot of back work going in. But I did do a Kickstarter back in the fall. And so those folks will be will be getting it hopefully, beginning of March and I plan to release the first single, hopefully end of March beginning of April. So and then I will have the full so it's a six song EP that will be available on my website, probably around that time. So I would love to connect with anybody that would like to connect with me and maybe has been inspired or encouraged by my story. Um, so my website is Christian buddy music.com. And buddy is not like the word buddy. It's buddy like a friend but with an E at the end. So BDD II. And also I'm on Instagram, Kristin, buddy music, also on Facebook, but I'm probably on Instagram more.

Okay, well, we'll link all of these to the show notes. So if you're interested in connecting with Kristen, you can find her on Instagram right away. You can just look over there right now as you're listening to the podcast. But all the links for her music and how to connect with her will be available on the show notes. Kristen, thank you so much. I am so excited that we got to have this conversation. Like just to think about, you're here. It's happening.

I know. It's crazy. That's happening. Like I don't like I'm sure it sometimes you're like Kristen Boyd. Get it together. We did it. We had a lot of talks. Yeah. But you know what? I? I did see you here. Yeah, I did see you here. And just and to actually, you know, you being here. And then this is just the starting point to the next chapter is just amazing for me to even, you know, as your friend to witness to. And also I just think about the people who are going to hear your story and hear your album and and then take the next step for themselves. Yeah, however, that looks. Yeah, gonna inspire them. So that's just kind of the thing that just keeps on giving. So anyways, I'm so grateful. And thank you for being on the courage cast.

Oh, thanks for having me. This has been great. Well, friend, maybe you found yourself in parts of Kristen story, where you're ready to take that leap into the unknown and really pursue your passion. It is never too late to begin again. And I want to thank Kristin for being on the show for sharing her story with us. And if you are interested in connecting with her or you are wanting to know more about the release of her EP this spring, I encourage you to go to the show notes where all of her links will be provided for you. Reach out, connect with her and let her know what part of her story resonated with you, friend. Until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live bravely. If you like this episode of The Courage cast, we'd love to hear from you. Leave us a rating and review and while you're there, hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Original music and production by Stephen Crelly.

EP 251 | Stepping Into Your Divine Purpose | Andrea Crisp

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
The moment you try and figure out how to surrender, you’re still trying to have control, you’re still wanting to make sure that the outcome you have is going to be in your favor.
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Today I'm going to talk to you about what it takes for you to step into a new level of surrender so that you can be in the fullness of your divine purpose.

And there is no coincidence that you happen upon this podcast.So I want you to grab a coffee, a tea, glass of water, a notepad.And friend, I truly believe that there is something in store for you here in this episode today.

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

Hey friends, it's me, Andrea. Usually I never start a podcast like this. But I feel compelled to really share from my heart rate from the onset of this podcast episode. Today I'm going to talk to you about what it takes for you to step into a new level of surrender. So that you can be in the fullness of your divine purpose. And there is no coincidence that you happen upon this podcast. So I want you to grab a coffee, a tea, glass of water, a notepad. And friend, I truly believe that there is something in store for you here in this episode today. Are you ready to take courageous steps to create a life and business you love?

Welcome to the Couragecast. I'm Andrea Crisp, an empowerment coach, author, and a multi passionate entrepreneur. For years, I was afraid to allow myself to shine. That was until I discovered that I could step into my own power, shift my mindset and take ownership of my destiny. Now I coach people across the globe, who are ready to own their life and make a massive impact. With a blend of practical and spiritual advice. My desire is that the courage cast empowers you to take brave steps in your own life in business.

Hello, friend, welcome to the Couragecast. I'm so glad that you're here hanging out with me today. You know, it's a Friday night when I'm recording this podcast. So right now I'm all alone with coffee. She's sitting here by big sigh, probably thinking to yourself, are you ever going to get done working today? It has been one of those days. But honestly, I have to say, you know, when the creativity just strikes, you gotta go with it. So I'm here later into a Friday evening, just feeling like you know what, I want to just press record and talk today and just really share what is on my heart. So last week on the podcast, I talked about surrender. Pretty candidly and my dad, so I wanted to follow up this week with an episode talking about what happens after we surrender. When you have like, finally waved the white flag and said to yourself, Okay, I'm ready. I'm ready to allow God the universe to take over what happens then. But if you've not already listened to last week's episode, I want to encourage you to press pause, go back, listen to that one. And then come back here.

As I mentioned, I have been on this journey to understand what surrender looks like in my life. And if I've heard him once I've heard it like a bazillion times, Andrea. The key to your success is to surrender. Andrea, the next step for you lies in surrender. And he was like, if you talk to me one more time about surrender, I am literally going to scream. Because quite honestly, I was like, I have no idea what the eff you're talking about. For real. I was like, I do not know what Surrender means I do not know how to do it. And I was like all up in my like, frustration around this notion that I needed to surrender. It didn't matter how many times people tried to tell me, I just couldn't get it. So wants to talk to you about that. Here's the thing about surrender, you have to let go of the need to know or have control over the outcome. There it is. The moment you try and figure out how to surrender, you're still trying to have control, you're still wanting to make sure that the outcome you have is going to be in your favor. Surrender means that you don't know what happens. You don't know how you're going to get there. You don't even know if you're going to get there. You're just basically going to trust that you're going to put one step in front of the other one foot in front of the other rather and hope for the best. Like literally, that's it and until you're ready to do that.

Surrender is just a word. It's just a concept. So as I'm sitting here today On this very cold, very blustery Friday, winter evening, I want to share with you what comes after surrender. Because, you know, I really believe that this is the key to you moving forward in your life. And I have this kind of like a little bit of hesitation, because I'm a bit afraid to share the next part. Because I'm wondering if I'm actually really there yet. Like, do I really have figured out? Why No, I don't have it figured out. But have I fully surrendered yet? Like, there's part of me that wonders that right. But even in the vast uncertainty of it all, which there is so much uncertainty, I am going to go ahead with telling you and share what's on my heart. Because I really believe that this is the next step for me in my journey, and also for you as well. So I titled this podcast episode stepping into your divine purpose. Because I know that there are just times when we pick up our desires and run with them. And then there are other times when we feel completely compelled to do something.

And I truly believe that there is a big difference between the two of those things. Because I've done both of them. And you can be successful doing either. But I know that in my heart of hearts, when you feel called to do something, when your heart is leading you towards something that is your Higher Self source, the divine God nudging you to move in that direction. And when that happens, that's a place of surrender. When you're just walking in your own desires, you're still in a place of controlling the outcome. Just even saying that. I don't know, just kind of like, hit me. There's a big difference. So I wanted to share a story with you today. And you may have heard this story before. I hope I can tell in a different way that you can get something completely different out of it than maybe you've gotten before. But I want to talk to you about what happened in my life many years ago, when I was a teacher at New Covenant Academy, which was in Springfield, Missouri, and I had graduated from Evangel university or Evangel college back then. And I wanted to be a singer songwriter so bad. Like, I could taste it. I was in college, I used to sing at different events. And man, I just loved it so much I would be in bands and I had a friend My friend Shane and I we sang together all the time. But the moment I graduated college, I had this like, I don't know fear set in. A lot of it had to do with just even you know, my parents wanting me to have this stable job. And of course, me feeling like I needed to have a stable job.

So I looked for teaching positions. And for the first couple of years, it was just up and down, up and down. Like I could not land a job to save my life. I ended up going back to teach it I'm actually not teaching but working at Evangel University in one of their learning labs, and I worked there for a year. And then I felt like I wanted to pursue my master's degree I felt compelled I felt called actually to pursue my master's degree at that time. And it was a three year program. And it was guidance and counseling. And I had already I had already taught for like maybe three quarters of the year at that point.

And then I was now working at Evangel. And as I was pursuing my master's degree, there was an opportunity that opened up at New Covenant Academy to be a part time music teacher. And it ended up fitting me perfectly. So the first year I worked there part time still pursuing my schooling. And the second year they hired me full time and it was probably either within my second or third year that this incident happened. Now I have to say, I loved working there, I loved my elementary principal who is my boss, I love my students, I still to this day, have friends from that time in my life. It shaped me in ways I could not fully explain to you. And I was at this point, teaching kindergarten through 12th grade music. And I had a high school choir, and a junior high choir. And I had several students within the high school choir who were extremely talented. One of which came into my room to ask me if he could play his guitar and practice for a bit. And I said, Yeah, that's no problem. So I sat at my desk and was working away. And he was practicing.

And I just like, had this thought come over me, like, I don't know, it was like maybe this feeling of jealousy, I guess, of like, how good he was, and how much opportunity was before him. And I kind of felt stuck. I was just finishing my master's, I was locked into this teaching position. Not really pursuing what I wanted to be doing, which was being a singer songwriter. And so I let this feeling come over me. And it felt really bad. Like it just I don't know, to my core, I just felt discouraged and just really like defeated. So after he left, I sat at the piano in my classroom.

And I started to play. And that is the way even to this day that I process. The moment my fingers hit those keys. It's like something magical happens in my life. And I don't know, it's like I transcend to like another dimension. And the moment that I did that, the moment I started playing and singing, I just really felt like this. I don't know, peace, but also this voice like a whisper and unknowing. And it was just this like, I guess the only way to tell you is like Andrea, if you will. If you create a platform for those people in your life, you will have a bigger platform than if you ever did it on your own. And I'm kind of paraphrasing exactly what was said. But I really felt in that moment that my mission was to come alongside the people in my life at the time were students. And I honestly can tell you like I cried my eyes out that day. I cried because there was a grief and the loss of my dream.

I cried because I was like, Oh my gosh, I feel like God, like just literally spoke to me. And I have no idea how to do this. And I cried because it was like the first time in my life where I felt absolutely compelled and called to do something greater than myself. And I say that to you because it was a part of my life. The first time I really truly understood what it meant to be called to a divine purpose. And as the years unfolded, I taught in several more schools after that. Then I ended up transitioning into full time church ministry. I led the worship for various churches and events and camps and conferences and spoke and preached and did all those things.

And it wasn't until 2010 that I started pursuing a certification and coaching. And the only reason I did was because I had a pastor at the time who really just you know, he saw me his name was Don noble. And I think that was kind of like one of the the next times in my life where I honestly felt a divine calling into something was in that moment was something I didn't really understand. But it led me on a path that has been completely uncertain at times overwhelming. And I never in my wildest imagination would have imagined I would be here at this point today. Now, the reason why I'm sharing this with you is because lately, I have felt that same nudge. Now, there was a time that I don't know maybe for, I guess, like, I would, I don't know, if it's five years, it just seems like a really fucking long time. That I feel like I've been in the wilderness. Like, I just really do, like,

What in the world, right, like, excuse my language, but I can say it no other way than that. And in the past a little bit, I have felt that nudge again, I have felt that divine calling that divine nudge to step into the unknown to a greater degree. And I probably felt it before, but just not done anything about it, because I was too afraid. And honestly, I just wanted to control the outcome. Like, that's really what it boils down to. And the feeling or the fear, or both of not being in control is the scariest thing. Because when you don't have control, when you can't control the outcome, it's like you've no idea what is coming. And I know that there are moments where I literally, I think to myself, like Oh, Andrew, you're losing it like you are literally losing it. But then I remind myself that I've been here before, in different cases, like in different instances, my life, this is not the first time that I was asked or nudged into something. And that feeling is something that is really just hard to explain.

But I know that the wilderness the time that I have spent over the past, however many years it's been, has been my healing journey has been the transformation, the breakthrough moments that I needed to evolve and to become and to and become all the things that I thought I was supposed to be, and to really step into my divine purpose, who I was graded to be. And as scary as that is, it is also so exciting. Now you may be thinking to yourself, Okay, Andrea, I just happened upon this podcast. Like I did not hear of you before this. You're going really deep. Mom. Okay. Yeah, true enough. That is definitely me. But you are here for a reason. If you happen upon this podcast today, if you are listening to this podcast, there's a nudge for you. A whisper if you listen, the divine God source, the universe is calling you into a deeper understanding of who you are. A deeper understanding of how you can live your life of how you can impact others.

And I want to encourage you today that, that whisper that nudges for you to trust it to take that next step of faith for you into the unknown into your divine purpose because you're being called to a place where you're going to be held by something much, much bigger than you. And as I have been on this journey myself, kind of unpacking it and thinking about okay, what are those next steps for me? Well, I really felt as though I wanted to offer a series. So I'm calling it the purposeful CEO. And it is a three day series where we're gonna dive deep. Like I mean, deep like this is no surface bullshit. This is lit really diving in to reconnect with your divine purpose. So if you're like, okay, yeah, I feel this, but I have no idea what to do. This is for you.

We're going to reconnect, or connect, depending on if you've never done it before, with your divine purpose. So that you can step into new level identity and embrace the abundance that is your birthright because it is part of your divine purpose. And that is going to show you how you can take aligned action. How you can do it from a different space in your life. Not out of the way you've done it before, which is just strategy, knowing, control all the things, but out of a deeper connectedness. And you may be wondering, okay, is this really for me, maybe you're new to business, maybe you're like, I don't have a business. This is, you know, I'm not a CEO, I may never be a CEO. My friend, if you are listening to this podcast today, you're here for a reason. And there is going to be something that you need to hear and implement into your life. And conversely, you might be someone who is very successful in your business, because you've done all the right things. You've taken all the action, you have somehow managed to just really blow your business up.

There's something for you here as well. There is a nudge, a whisper, a calling for you to come back to reconnect to your divine purpose. And I know that's scary, because you're like what if that changes things, my friend, if you are listening to this, this is for you. This is where you need to be. I am trusting that who needs to be in this series will be there and it is free. So you have absolutely nothing to lose, and absolutely everything to gain. Now all the information is in the show notes. So make sure that you go to the show notes and grab the link and you register for the purposeful CEO.

Friend. Thanks for hanging out with me today. I absolutely love you. And until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live bravely. If you like this episode of The Couragecast, we'd love to hear from you. Leave us a rating and review and while you're there, hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. original musical production by Steven Crelly

EP 250 | It All Starts With Surrender | Andrea Crisp

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
Surrender to the idea that you don’t have to figure out everything in advance.
— Andrea Crisp
 

The road to your future success is not paved with glitter and gold. I hate to break it to you. It's really all about releasing control, and allowing yourself to truly be seen and known for who you are.

In today's episode of The Courage cast, I'm going to talk to you about what has been happening in my personal life when it comes to surrender, and how that looks, and why I feel it is probably one of the most important things that you will have to do in order to move to the next level.

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

The road to your future success is not paved with glitter and gold. I hate to break it to you. It's really all about releasing control, and allowing yourself to truly be seen and known for who you are. In today's episode of The Couragecast, I'm going to talk to you about what has been happening in my personal life when it comes to surrender, and how that looks, and why I feel it is probably one of the most important things that you will have to do in order to move to the next level.

Are you ready to take courageous steps to create a life and business you love? Welcome to the Couragecast. I'm Andrea Crisp, mindset coach, author and a multi passionate entrepreneur. For years, I was afraid to allow myself to shine. That was until I discovered that I could step into my own power, shift my mindset and take ownership of my destiny. Now I coach women across the globe who are ready to own their life and make a massive impact. With a blend of practical and spiritual advice. My hope is that the courage cast empowers you to take brave steps in your own life and business.

Hey there, welcome to the Couragecast. My name is Andrea, I am really glad that you're here today. You know, it is a Friday when I am sitting down to record this podcast episode. And honestly, it has been the most, I don't know. productive, crazy. Couple of days, I have had so many things happen in my life in the past couple of days and just felt like this flow. And normally on Fridays, I end my day and I shut down. But I have felt like there's just something that needs to come out of me. So I decided that I'm going to take the evening and I am going to allow what needs to come out to come out. And so as I was preparing for this podcast episode, I kept asking my higher self, what am I suppose to share. And I have this sense that there is something much bigger at play here. And when that happens, I need to move over and allow myself to be a channel for what God is sharing. So here is the crazy thing. You may have heard my story if you've listened to the podcast for any length of time. But when I first started the courage cast, I was still in full time ministry. So that meant I was a pastor. I was you know, working in music in the church, I was speaking I was really involved in the Christian faith. And I guess around I don't know, 2017 2018 I guess, things started to really shift in my life. And I started to evolve. And as I evolved, so did my faith, there actually came a point where I questioned absolutely everything I had ever known or ever been taught. So I called it my faith, deconstruction. Now you can listen to different podcast episodes about that process in my life. But over the past few months, something has been awakening in me. And it's this deeper connection or a reconnection to spirit. And it's, it's kind of hard to really put it into words because I'm still really trying to understand it myself. But it's as if the old part of me, the old Andrea, the old thoughts, ways of being old paradigms are fading from my purview. Like imagine like, I'm in a car, I'm driving, and I can see in the rearview mirror, my old life, just disappearing. And in this new light. Strangely, what I see is something that is familiar, something that I've always known. And it's the part of me that is so deeply connected to the divine. Now I say divine. In my context, I call that God. Maybe for you that looks different. Maybe you call it universe or source. Maybe you prefer a different way of referring to through your higher self, or what you refer to as the collective consciousness.

But for me, I call it the divine or God. And I feel this awakening my soul and a longing to be more connected to God, not in a religious way. And really not in like a super woowoo way either. Although I have to say, I've been allowing myself to experience a lot of different things that I would have never experienced before. And you'll probably hear about that more on some upcoming podcast episodes. Like for real, some crazy shit like, but very, very cool nonetheless. So here's the thing, I have spent the majority of my life trying to please those around me. And now if you'd asked me, if I was doing that, I would have said, Absolutely not like I'm not doing that. But what I really get honest, and I peel back the layers, I was always looking for validation, and acceptance from the people I really cared about people that were closest to me. Now, of course, this stems from a childhood wound, as it usually does. And my inner child, my little Andrea was looking for validation, and really looking for a sense of acceptance and belonging. And although I have an amazing family, like I really, really truly do, my parents are wonderful, I have a great brother, I've always felt loved and cared for. I never really felt as though I was completely seen or known for who I am.

Now, maybe you can relate to that maybe there is a part of you, that is in your family of origin or surrounded by people and you're like, you know what, I just really don't feel seen. Now, I attribute this to the fact that I was really not showing up as most authentic version of myself, I was hiding. And for years, I was trying to be what my family, my friends, my peers, expected of me or expected me to be. And in doing so I really dimmed the brightest parts of me. I kept them hidden. And I had this fear that if people really knew me, they would not accept me. And this fear kept me from truly showing up for myself, showing up for my life and showing up in my business. And some of the closest people to me, still only get the version of me that I allow them to see, like, Isn't that crazy. And I feel like I can say this, because there's no one sitting in front of me, except for my dog. She is sitting in front of me, and she gets to see the good, bad and the ugly. But it's really harder to express when you're really trying to be transparent or vulnerable. And you think to yourself, I really don't want everyone to know this. But I feel like I need to share this. Now. Because I was doing this because I was allowing my fear to hold me back. I was really afraid that my Christian friends, which I had many of and I still have many of they would think that I had like literally gone off the deep end, like, oh my gosh, she is into all of the whoo and the new age.

And, you know, basically she's going to hell. And I really had this fear that I would be judged for really taking a step into something that I had never stepped into before. And for allowing myself to experience things that I had never experienced. And yet on the other hand, I had this fear that the people I was meeting that were more spiritual, and maybe in this other lane would think that I am too religious, and that I am maybe to square I don't know, I can't I really didn't know the word but anyways. And then of course, there's my family. And I've always been afraid that my family just doesn't understand me, they don't understand what I do. And I've spent the greater part of the past few years dumbing down and hiding the truth of who I really am to those around me. To make it easier form out more palatable for them. And I have to say, all of this is fucking exhausting. Like, let's just be real, I am tired. I am tired of trying to navigate how others may perceive me because really, it's none of my business. So not that long ago, I came to this realization that in order for me to truly step into my divine purpose, that I need to allow myself to be seen and heard for who I am, even if I am still trying to figure that out myself, right. So, here I am, I'm like,

Okay, I'm in this place where I know I need to take this step forward, I really don't know what that looks like, oh, my gosh, I feel completely out of control. But at the end of the day, I had this sense, like, if I really want to have a successful business, if I really want to be in my purpose, then I have to allow myself to take this next step. And you may have heard this before. But because it's been said, like by many, many people, the entrepreneurial journey is probably the quickest path to self development and self actualization or self realization. If you want to have a business, then get ready for your life to be upended, including your relationships, your finances, and everything you ever thought to be true about yourself, your relationships, your really your connection to God source, the universe, all the things right. And quite frankly, I don't know that we talk about it enough, I don't think that this part of the journey is really shared all that much, because who really wants to let in everyone that knows them into like, kinda like the dark corner, right. But as coaches, entrepreneurs, or people in the creative space, you know, it's easy for us to talk about strategy are get excited about the wins or showcase the transformation after it's happened.

But we're doing a disservice to people when we don't talk about what happens in the middle, in the midst of the evolution or the transformation. Because we're not letting people in on the moments of the frustration, the fear, maybe some of the unbelief that you're having, letting go of self release, releasing the old ways of being. And I know for myself, like talking about those things has been really difficult, especially when it comes to the pain or loss of relationships, and the uncertainty of this journey. And the fear is, and this is, from my perspective, is that it's going to make us look weak. But the truth of it is, is that our lives are meant to be a reflection of the evolution that we're having every area of our life and business. And that can be messy, and complicated. Now, I'm not gonna lie, my own transformation, my own evolution, nicely transformation, like it's already happened. But let's say evolution, it has been really hard at times.

Starting with the loss of who I thought I was, right? This is the person who I had presented myself as who I had become over the years, because I had carefully constructed her over many, many years. And honestly, a thought of people seeing the real me scared the shit out of me, because if they did, they would see all the things I didn't want them to see, they would see the fear that I had around. Like just things in my life, the uncertainty of my future, the anxiety that I feel on a day to day basis, or rejection. And one of my greatest fears, which I really don't talk about that often was really just being alone, isolated. And yet, in my isolation, I was the one keeping myself alone and in the dark, and hidden. Which is like quite the dichotomy if you really, really think about it, right? I was afraid of being alone, and yet I'm keeping myself alone. So maybe you're wondering, okay, Andrea, why are you sharing this? Like, what? What is the point of sharing all of this with us? Okay, so my dear friend, I want you to know that it's okay to be you. That it's okay to be fully seen, that it's okay to be fully known. And that you don't have to put on airs or show up a certain way. In order to be approved of or validated. You can come man See an undone and unbecoming.

Because that's entirely what is going to be necessary for you to step into that next season of your life and business. If you come in picture perfect, needing to have all your eyes dotted and your T's crossed, and really, like, just feeling so amazing, and, you know, I'm so sure of myself, I would really, I would really second guess whether or not you're going to move to the next season of your life. I mean, it's one thing to have certainty. And it's another to just really think that you have it all together. And the moment we think we have it all together, and we have it all figured out, is a moment thing start to come on done. In the moment, we're called into the next level of surrender. And the reason why I want to share this with you is because behind the scenes, when you see someone moving into that next level for themselves, that next season of life, there is something going on behind the scenes that you don't see that you are not privy to. And you might be wondering, why are they moving into that? What is happening there? In the end? Really, the answer is, you don't know.

We don't know what's happening behind the scenes, when it comes to watching people's lives, and success. Unfold. And the truth is that people are not going to know what goes on behind the scenes in your life, either. And even with me recording this podcast episode, and sharing that this is happening, you really don't have that understanding of really what's happening in my life, right? Like, I can talk about it, I can share about it, I can tell you, but you don't really know. And so in those moments, when we get caught up in wanting to compare ourselves, or judge someone for where we think they're at, our perception of where we think they're at, or how they got there, or what's going on, or how much money they're making or any of those things. First of all, a it's none of our business. But B it's really actually keeping us from moving forward ourselves. It's really only when we allow ourselves to release control, that we can step into that moment of surrender.

Surrender to the possibility that you really don't know everything. I mean, come on now, right? Surrender to the idea that you don't have to figure out everything in advance. That one is a hard one for me. Because let me tell ya, I want to know, I want to know what's coming. I want to be prepared. I want to have a spreadsheet. I want to have some sort of structure or routine. I want to know all the things. Surrender to just being seen as you are, even when you're evolving. Even when you're a hot mess. Even when things don't look pretty surrender to just being seen and known. Surrender to being misunderstood by the people you love and who love you and know that's okay. They don't have to get it. They don't have to know. They don't have to understand and surrender to the fear and the insecurities that you have in your life right now. At this present time, so that you can move through them. Because it's okay, when the fear comes up.

And it's okay when the insecurities are there. They are just a way for you to see what you need to work through in your life. What is coming up for you. And in order for you to really step into that next season that next level you're going Need to have to release control and surrender. I really almost hesitated to say this, but I've just felt it like so much to say it. But like die to self, and allow God to do in and through you what you could not ever possibly do for yourself knowing that you are held and supported by the universe, that what is happening is for you. And I know that sometimes it's so hard. And this is the part of the transformation that takes place in our lives that we really don't want to talk about. Because this is the place where we're coming undone. This is the place where we fear people won't want to be around us or to know us or to work with us. Because what if they possibly knew all of these things about me, they could never trust me or so we think. But the more you lean into this work, the more you are honest and real and upfront with yourself. More so than anyone else is how you are going to have that transformation in your life by truly releasing control, and surrendering to what could be for your life. Now, friend, next week, I want to continue this conversation. I guess it's conversation but monologue. I don't know.

Continue what I'm talking about by sharing what it's like when you step into your divine purpose. Knowing that you have been called to something greater than what you could do on your own. So make sure that you catch next week's episode, because it's going to be a good one. And if this has resonated with you today, I want you to let me know. And please share it with someone. Tag me. Let me know what your takeaways are. One of the best ways for me to really receive from you in the energy exchange when it comes to what I'm putting out here on the podcast is for you to reciprocate by other communicating back to me sharing the episode and just letting me know that you got it. And then I know Okay, yeah.

All right, keep going on this path. And friend, trust that you are being led, you're being guided, that God universe source is working everything out for your benefit. And I'm going to be hosting a brand new series called the purposeful CEO and is coming up. The information is in the show notes so you can access it there. We're gonna be talking about how to reconnect your purpose, your divine purpose, with your CEO energy. really leaning into having that mindset, that abundance is your birthright. And having that self trust to know how you can take aligned action, all from the place of your divine purpose. Now, this is a series that I truly believe, no matter what stage of business you're at, it is going to be beneficial for you, whether you're starting out, or whether you're uber successful. I really believe that there are going to be some things in there that are going to help you get to the next level and really unpack where you are now and how you can move forward and how you can reconnect to your divine purpose. So if you're interested in that, make sure you check the show notes for the link to sign up. And I I honestly just cannot wait I cannot wait to run this series.

So friend, thank you for hanging out with me today. I love you. Until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live briefly. If you like this episode of The Courage cast, we'd love to hear from you. Leave us a rating review and while you're there, hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Original music and production by Stephen Crelly.

EP 249| Are You In Energy Of What You Desire | Andrea Crisp

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
Be in the present, be mindful, have clear intentions around what you desire, and really set that emotional setpoint to be able to receive it, and then take aligned action out of the new beliefs that you have for yourself and for your life.
— Andrea Crisp
 

Are you in the energy of what you desire? Or are you going back and forth between being committed to what you want and really not sure that you expect it all that much?

Today on the podcast, I'm going to talk to you about staying committed and being in the energy of your desired outcome.

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

Achieving the success that you want and desire in your life and business is going to require that you have a new level of awareness and expanded level of consciousness in order to hold space for what is coming in for you to truly show up as the person who can hold space for that. Today on the podcast, I want to talk to you about my own journey and how I have personally started to awaken to my own expanded level of consciousness. Are you ready to take courageous steps to create a life and business you love?

Welcome to the Couragecast. I'm Andrea Crisp, mindset coach, author and a multi passionate entrepreneur. For years, I was afraid to allow myself to shine. That was until I discovered that I could step into my own power, shift my mindset and take ownership of my destiny. Now I coach women across the globe who are ready to own their life and make a massive impact. With a blend of practical and spiritual advice. My hope is that the courage cast empowers you to take brave steps in your own life and business.

Hey there, welcome to the Couragecast. I'm Andrea, I am so glad that you are joining me today. You know, I have been thinking a lot about the topic that I'm going to talk about today. And it's really all about expanding our level of awareness, or expanding our level of consciousness, which is a word that only, and the past few years that I've really began to understand. And if you have ever, you know, done any mindset work, you have probably really worked in the subconscious and really integrating that into the conscious mind. And so we're going to talk about what does it look like when you expand your level of consciousness. But before we do that, I want to start by telling you a quick story. In high school, I really struggled with math. In fact, I was so bad at math that I needed a friend to tutor me. And it actually took me taking grade 10 math three times to even pass the class.

Now, some of you may have heard this story. So I'm not going to go way into depth on it. But literally after the third time of taking the class, I barely passed, the only reason I did was because I had switched from taking math and French two times to an English class the third time, and I'm pretty sure that my teacher took pity on me and passed me just to get me out of the class and to graduate me because I was literally a year from graduating from high school. And the entire class that I was in at the time was filled with 10th graders, so pretty sure that the teacher took pity on me. But for years, I held this belief that I was not good at math, and for obvious reasons. But here's the thing, that really wasn't true. I just did not have the awareness, I needed to be good at math. And my dad had also failed his math classes in high school as well. And so I already had this, you know, idea that I wasn't that great. Anyways. So when it came to college, I had to take math courses to, you know, take some regular core classes. And as soon as I found out that I needed to take these math classes, I was like, Oh my gosh, this is the worst. Now I'm going to take math classes again, and likely fail them because I assumed that I was going to struggle again, with math.

But the most amazing thing happened. I passed both of those math classes. Yeah, I mean, even I'm surprised. And quite easily, in fact, and it wasn't, you know, I'm not really sure if it was the environment that I was in, if it was the professor of my math class really doesn't matter. The point is, is that I was open to learning. And when I was open to learning and when I was open to this new way of being in college, suddenly everything I needed was there. The answers were there. The capacity to understand the concepts were there. Everything had expanded to allow me to take in the Use new learnings. Now, how many times have you found yourself in a position where you are basically writing yourself off before you even start something before you even begin? On a project, you take a leap in your business, because you are afraid that you will not have capacity for that, maybe you feel like you're not gonna be able to learn it, maybe you feel like you're too old to start something new, maybe you just feel like, there's just no way that you're gonna be able to figure it out, especially when it comes to tech.

And let's be real here, since I live around seniors with my parents who are both in their 70s. And I spend quite a considerable amount of time with my aunts and uncles who are in their late 60s and early 70s. I see that quite a bit where it's almost as though when there's something new to be learned, they want absolutely nothing to do with it. And even more so than just learning something new, especially when it comes to tech. It's really all about like, how the world is changing, and how there's new concepts and new ways of being in the world. And, you know, I can see, you know, especially from my parents vantage point, how difficult it is to, you know, integrate new concepts and new things that they're learning because the capacity that they have been operating at is at one level. But what is required for us to get to the next level is a new level of awareness, it is expanding our level of consciousness.

And here's the thing, we all may struggle with this to some degree. Because on the other side of that is like the fear of the unknown, maybe there's some uncertainty around what could possibly happen or not happen. And that can be scary that can, you know, feel like you know, a little bit intimidating to think about, well, I don't really know what might happen. When I take this next step, I don't know, you know, what's on the other side of, you know, growth in my business, I don't know what's on the other side of when I become successful in my business. So I don't want to get to that point. But in order for us to truly get to that next level in our lives, both personally and professionally, we have to expand our level of consciousness. And that means and includes the fact that we have to learn new things, we have to be open to growth, we have to be open to really allowing ourselves to experience something very new. And this only came to my awareness, when I started down the journey to heal myself, body, soul, and spirit. And I've talked at length about my own personal story that I had struggled with anxiety and depression. And when I decided that it was time to really deal with it, and to actually start moving myself into that healing journey, that is when I had to expand my own level of awareness, because there were many, many things that I tried along the way. And that I did that prior to really making that leap, I would have been like, there is absolutely no way I'm doing that. I am not going to believe in that. I'm not going to, you know, participate in that. And because my level of awareness was very, very small and very limited. And that came out of living out of a very small paradigm.

And a lot of that was self imposed. It came right directly from my own perceived religious beliefs. And I'm saying that in that context, because not every religious belief, you know, has this context. But for me, specifically, it did. And I found myself being one of those types of people who really liked to do the right thing. I wanted to get everything perfectly, I wanted to always kind of be validated in what I did. And I felt as though if I could meet the expectation of God, by doing the right thing, then I was going to find favor with God. And so anything that felt like a departure from my faith was definitely not something that I was going to even consider. So when it came to things like manifestation or you know, really looking in the subconscious, I was, like, just really scared about I was scared of it.

I was like, you know, I don't know what this means. I don't know what this is. I have no idea. You know what is going to happen if I kind of dive into this? This is Black Magic like these things. And just even recently, I had my first experience with Akashic records. And if you don't know anything about that you might want to take, you might want to look that up. But it was really going into past life. And for a long time, I had this belief around the fact that I've only had one life, and I never would have had multiple lives and been reincarnated or all those things. So really expanding my own level of consciousness has been a journey.

And if you're listening to this right now, and you're like, oh, my gosh, what the heck is she talking about? How in the world could I possibly venture down this? I just wanted to take a deep breath. It's okay. It's all right. I'm not going into that any further. But I remember, specifically, my mom saying to me, when I was this is years ago, when I was really, really strong in my faith journey, my Christian faith journey, my mom would say to me, be careful, Andrea, your halo just may come around and strangle you. So I have to laugh. Because, you know, there was I was like, the quote that they would use is like, you're so heavenly minded, you're no earthly good. And that was basically me, which also meant that my level of consciousness was not expanded. So needless to say, things have definitely shifted in my life. And I'm really, really trying to expose myself to new things, and I'm learning new things and realizing that I just don't know everything.

And there's no way for me to possibly be, you know, on top of all of this stuff, like I have to learn as I go, and I have to expand myself. And so I encourage you, when you are trying to get to the next level in your own life, that you are also going to have to expand your level of awareness and your level of consciousness. So I have four thoughts for different areas that I believe will help to do this. Okay? Because I don't want to just leave you with this thought and be like, Okay, well, how do I even do that? How would I possibly expand my level of consciousness, to go to the next level in my life and in my business, so the first one is awaken. And what awaken is, is really asking yourself, what do you truly desire, and really getting clear about what it is that you want in your life, because in order for you to really awaken to new possibilities, you have to be clear about what it is that you desire. Because when you become I guess awakened to the possibilities, that is when the possibilities will be presented to you. And you have, at that point, the option of whether or not you're ready to shift into that new paradigm into those new thoughts, to create a new reality.

Or you can stay in the reality you are in now. My friend recently sent me this meme, I guess it was like a recording of Fox News. And it was talking about all of these different correspondents saying different things about being woke. And I laughed so hard, because I was thinking to myself, how, you know, they were trying to persuade people to not be woke. And when you think about that, I'm like, really? Do you not want people to have a expanded level of awareness of life and things around them? And the possibilities and apparently not. And so like that example, right, there is you know, sometimes society wants to keep us in this tunnel vision. In this one version of the way we should be living this one version of the way we can do things this one way, so that it does not challenge anybody else to have to change or to be different in any way because that's scary.

So, when you are really expanding your level of consciousness, the first step is awakening to it. Awakening to the desire, awakening to the possibility and allowing your Self to call in those different possibilities that will turn into a new reality. The second one is live mindfully. And when I say live mindfully, what I really mean is, is so important for us to be in the here and now. And to really be in the present moment, because oftentimes, we can be stuck in the past, we can be stuck in the limiting beliefs, we can be stuck in the old loops and the old narratives. And that could cause us to not take action, or to be in fear or to, you know, really just think that there's no way that we could possibly ever have what we desire. Or you might be conversely, on the other side, in the future, so afraid of what you don't know or the unknown, that you're like, there's no way I fear the unknown, or the uncertainty or the change, and I don't want anything to do with it. So in order for you to expand your level of consciousness or awareness, you have to live mindfully, be in the present, become aware of those subconscious beliefs that are running the show, that are keeping you where you are now, so that you can shift them, and you can start living consciously in a new way that will allow you to move forward within your life.

The third one is intentions. And this is really all about knowing exactly what you want to see manifest within your life, and then changing your emotional setpoint that you can call it in. Because oftentimes, when we have an intention for what we desire, we may be operating out of an old emotional setpoint, where we could not possibly call him what we want, because we are in a completely different mindset. And we might be even operating out of that old mindset and operating out of those old emotions, and maybe they're stuck emotions. And so in order for you to truly move forward, you have to set your intentions on what you desire, and then change your emotional setpoint. And really get clear on what it is that you want to call in. So that you can move into that new way of being. Because in order for you to manifest into your life, into your business, what you desire, you have to have a different emotional setpoint different vibe, if you know that makes it easier for you to understand different level of frequency different vibration level.

So you know, lots of people say hi vibe, basically, you have to be that, okay. And the fourth one is action. So the conscious can change. But you have to give the subconscious direct commands, in order for you to be able to shift your paradigm. So if your subconscious, which is running the show, is, you know, working on these old beliefs and these old patterns, you have to first of all, give it a new command, you have to shift those beliefs, and then integrate it into your conscious decision making, which is really where you're taking action in your life. So when you are trying to consciously change things, without doing the subconscious work, you're going to constantly be bumping up against those old stories and those old paradigms because they have not been shifted and changed. And you're trying to do these new things with an old default setting.

So you really want to shift the subconscious. And then allow yourself to consciously make these new decisions and take aligned actions in order to get the results that you want. When it comes to expanding your level of consciousness, and awareness, in order for you to really achieve your results and the things that you desire in your life, you have to expand, you have to allow your whole being to expand to hold space for what is new and what is coming. Because the reason you don't have it is because you haven't expanded to receive it yet. And in order for you to receive you have to make those shifts and those changes To hold space.

Now, you may have seen that people, you know, celebrities, sometimes famous people influencers, they might get a lot of fame, or notoriety or influence or money, celebrity status really, really quickly, and then they will fizzle out, or they won't be able to hold capacity for it, maybe they'll have some sort of a breakdown or something will happen. And generally speaking, why that would happen is because they don't have the level of awareness and the level of consciousness to hold what came for them. So even though they had the desire for it, and it came, they couldn't hold it. And so they immediately revert back to their old ways of being, which do not support the new desires that they had for their lives. So in order for you to really have the success you want, you have to shift your level of consciousness, your level of awareness around what is possible for you, so that you can hold space for what is coming, and be able to operate out of that new way of being so waken to the possibilities.

Be in the present, be mindful, have clear intentions around what you desire, and really set that emotional setpoint to be able to receive it, and then take aligned action out of the new beliefs that you have for yourself and for your life. Okay, friend, I hope that is super helpful. I want to know, how are you going to take action to really expand your level of awareness? I would love to know. I want you to go over to Instagram. Find me at Andrea Crisp Coach, and let me know what action steps you're gonna take today, this week, to really expand your level of consciousness.

Friend love hanging out with you. Until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live bravely. If you liked this episode of The Couragecast, we'd love to hear from you. Leave us a rating review. And while you're there, hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Original music and production by Steven Crelly

EP 248 | Are You In Energy Of What You Desire | Andrea Crisp

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
It is not necessarily just about what the outcome is, it is about being in the energy of what you desire, it’s about really embodying a whole new version, a whole new identity of yourself within your business of yourself within your relationships of yourself within every context of creativity, of you know, opportunity in your life in absolutely every way.
— Andrea Crisp
 

Are you in the energy of what you desire? Or are you going back and forth between being committed to what you want and really not sure that you expect it all that much?

Today on the podcast, I'm going to talk to you about staying committed and being in the energy of your desired outcome.

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Are you in the energy of what you desire? Or are you going back and forth between being committed to what you want, and really not sure that you expect it all that much? Today on the podcast, I'm going to talk to you about staying committed, and being in the energy of your desired outcome.

Are you ready to take courageous steps to create a life and business you love? Welcome to the Couragecast. I'm Andrea Crisp, Mindset Coach, Author and a multi passionate entrepreneur. For years, I was afraid to allow myself to shine. That was until I discovered that I could step into my own power, shift my mindset and take ownership of my destiny. Now I coach women across the globe who are ready to own their life and make a massive impact with a blend of practical and spiritual advice. My hope is that the Couragecast empowers you to take brave steps in your own life and business.

Hello, friends, welcome to the Couragecast. I am so glad that you are joining me today. You know, I have to say that today, it was one of those days where I decided that I wanted to jump on to my GarageBand where I record my podcasts and just talk to you about an experience that I just had. That was so phenomenal, that I knew I needed to talk about it right away. So with no notes, with no real forethought into how this podcast episode is truly going to go, I decided that I wanted to share it with you.

Now you know that I have been talking over the past few months about a program that I man called unblock your business. And this is a program that my friend and coach Vanessa. Now it was just I was gonna say her name or last name, Vanessa Bowen, and it literally escaped me as I went to go see it. Vanessa Bowen, who goes by at MIT, where the she has been running both a program called unblock abundance, and now she runs unblock your business. And so I am in this program. And it is absolutely phenomenal. It is changing the way I think about my business about how I'm approaching my business, how I am showing up in my business, and being in the energy of what I desire. And so I wanted to share that with you today.

Because one of the challenges that she had for us was to spend money. For many of you, you might think to yourself, oh my gosh, like that's like the easiest challenge ever. You want me to actually spend money on myself and in my business. But here's the caveat, she wanted us and encouraged us to spend money on something in our business that made us feel like a boss, like a CEO. And so for myself, I was thinking like, I'm not really sure what that is, or several things that maybe I would want. My first inclination was to think about getting a new desk. And it's something that I wanted for a while. And it was a very practical investment that I would have been making. And I was thinking yeah, that that's good, let's be practical, let's do something practical. And as I thought about it more, and as I was listening to some of the things that the women in our group were spending their money on, I was like, just that's not it. Something is not sitting with me. And I don't feel like buying a desk is going to be like total CEO vibes for myself.

And so I sat back and I was still thinking about what it is that I really wanted to spend money on. And then it came to me a new haircut. Actually not a new haircut, but actually a new hair color. And I was like really, like that's the thing, getting my hair colored like how am I going to be in my CEO energy and my CEO vibes by getting a new hair color. And so I kind of sat on that for a bit and I did not take the action. And we got to the call where everyone was talking about what they had spent their money on. And I had to admittedly tell the entire group that I had not done it. And here's the thing I was, you know, in my head about whether or not that was what I was supposed to spend my money on. I was really wanting to be a bit more practical in how I was going to spend the money and really, you know, just yeah, if I'm going to make, you know, a good big purchase, then I really want to know that I'm spending it on something that makes a difference.

And, you know, I've gone for so long now without worrying really about my hair, and whether or not it's growing in gray or not. And all of these things like had like a whole list a whole litany of things, and reasons and excuses why it really didn't matter whether or not I had spent this money. And if I'm really honest with you, there were a lot of things going through my mind when it came to what I was going to encounter, when I told my family members, how much money I had spent on my hair. Okay. I don't know, if you resonate with that. Or if you've ever experienced something that, you know, you're supposed to take that next level, that next step in your business, and making an investment, really putting yourself out there.

And your first thought is, what is somebody gonna think? What is my parents gonna think? What is my partner going to think? What is my spouse going to think, and then not taking action, because of the fear that they're not going to approve. And here's where I found myself, and why I had really not taken action on this decision. So, you know, with the whole group cheering me on, even though I had not done what I had supposed what I had committed to do, I decided that week that I was going to find a salon that I could go to, and I was going to have this up leveled version, new CEO vibe, I don't know, basically, I was going to get my hair done at a salon, and I was going to feel good about it.

And so I found a salon I called they put me in on Monday morning, which was this morning. And I was headed in today for that appointment. And I had a picture of what I wanted my hair to look like I was I knew exactly what I wanted. And I knew I was probably going to end up having to spend a good penny on this. So when I got to the salon, and I showed up at the salon, I really honestly told myself that I I really want to be in the energy of what I desire. And I really want to experience this to its fullness and have an expectation and a belief for something more to manifest in my life because I'm taking this action.

Now I know that seems a bit silly when you think about like what could possibly happen. But here's the thing friend, like, I came home, and I banged out like I don't know, 10 videos, alive two lives, actually. And some Instagram stories all within the first hour of being home from the salon, which is absolutely crazy. So here's the thing. So I got to the salon today, I was treated like a queen, I felt so good at and did my hair, he did a fantastic job. And I walked out of there feeling like a boss feeling like a million dollars.

And I feel like as I came home today, I am showing up in a whole new energy. I am showing up for myself in a whole new way. And what I didn't realize was is by you know, just staying in this old version of myself that you know, was kind of like little bit lackluster. I was showing up in that energy I was showing up in that lack luster energy. And I can already feel and I'm experiencing a whole new difference when it comes to being in this CEO energy just by getting my hair done.

So I want to encourage you that maybe you are in a place in your life right now. And you're like I don't know if I should make a decision to uplevel in some way. I'm not sure that I should spend the money on coaching. Maybe you have Thinking for some time now you're like, you know what I would love to, you know, get a VIP day and experience for myself and really start shifting that belief in my life. But I don't know if I can really afford it. Or if, if I really think that it's going to make a huge difference for myself, I have to tell you, friend, when you commit to what you truly desire, in showing up for yourself, and put the money forward for it and make the investment, you cannot go wrong.

It is not necessarily just about what the outcome is, it is about being in the energy of what you desire, it's about really embodying a whole new version, a whole new identity of yourself within your business of yourself within your relationships of yourself within every context of creativity, of you know, opportunity in your life in absolutely every way. It is not just about putting down some money for something that you feel is going to uplevel you it is about showing up in that energy. And the moment you make the exchange, the moment you decide that you want to be in that energy, and that you're going to invest in yourself in that way, things 100% shift, which is why Vanessa was right. She told me she's like, Andrea, you're going to experience something, just by going and getting getting your hair done. And I was like, really like just that. But that actually is a reinforcement of the belief that I had this past summer.

And you may have heard me talk about on the podcast before, when I had my own VIP day with Vanessa. And we talked about my business. And we talked about that uplevel and that upgrade for myself. And I started showing up in a whole new way in my business, I started being just even more passionate about what I really wanted to do. And then came my own VIP days, which I was so excited about offering other people.

So friend, I want to encourage you that when you are moving to that next level, when you are taking that step of growth and expansion in your life, it is going to cost you commitment, it is going to cost you an investment, and is going to really cause you to step into a whole new level for yourself, for your business, and for every area of your life. And if you've been considering if you've been sitting on the fence thinking you know what I don't know whether or not this is really going to make a difference in my life by really seeing what is holding me back. When it comes to my mindset.

Friend, I encourage you just to jump on a call with me. And let's talk about where you're at, and what might be holding you back right now. And then you can make the decision whether or not it's right for you right now, to jump into a VIP experience. And to take that next step and really start showing up in a whole new way. Now I'm really excited to tell you how things manifest in my life after this. Like honestly, like I said, I did not script this out there are no notes whether or not I just add something to this later, or I just post this podcast the way it is. You never know. But I did want to record it while I was in this energy because I really felt like it would translate to you that you would really feel it you would experience it and you would know that no matter what you feel like you are being called to invest in for yourself right now. When you do that, things are going to shift you're gonna see a change, and you're going to embody a whole new version of yourself.

Alright, friend, love you. Thanks for hanging out with me today. Until next time, remember you have everything you need to live briefly. If you like this episode of The Couragecast, we'd love to hear from you. Leave us a rating and review. And while you're there, hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Original music and production by Stephen Crelly

247 | Give Yourself Permission To Be Successful

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
When you are consistently looking outside of yourself, you are reinforcing this belief that you need permission to succeed, that you need permission to make decisions, that you need someone else’s approval and you have to consistently go outside of yourself.
— Andrea Crisp
 

Imagine you took the next seven days to really get still, and listen to your own intuition. What would be possible for your life? So often, we are looking for the approval of others or someone else's permission to succeed. But my encouragement for you today is what is possible when you give yourself permission to be successful.

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

Imagine you took the next seven days to really get still, and listen to your own intuition. What would be possible for your life. So often we are looking for the approval of others or someone else's permission to succeed. But my encouragement for you today is what is possible when you give yourself permission to be successful.

Are you ready to take courageous steps to create a life and business you love? Welcome to the Couragecast. I'm Andrea Crisp, mindset coach, author and a multi passionate entrepreneur. For years, I was afraid to allow myself to shine. That was until I discovered that I could step into my own power, shift my mindset and take ownership of my destiny. Now I coach women across the globe who are ready to own their life and make a massive impact with a blend of practical and spiritual advice. My hope is that the courage cast empowers you to take brave steps in your own life and business.

Well, hello, friend, welcome to the Couragecast, I am so glad that you are joining me today. You know, I can't believe that we're already into 2023. And I've just been thinking about the fact that we're a week in, and all the things that come with a new year, feeling like you're starting fresh starting over you have this redo, and it can feel like a lot of pressure. And you may be wanting to succeed, and you might be wanting to accomplish things in your life. Maybe you have goals for this quarter or for this year. And it maybe even feels a little bit daunting.

Today on the episode, I'm going to talk to you about giving yourself permission to succeed. And what does that really even look like. But before we get into that, I want to invite you to join me every Wednesday, for the mindset mentor circle. Now this is a group of incredible humans who meet on Wednesdays. And it's really a supportive community to share what we're going through maybe some of the struggles, some of the wins that we're having, and really encouraging one another. Now I have found really doing this journey like being online all the time, how important it really is to have that network and that community that can support you, especially when things feel really hard, which is often. I mean, let's be real here. Entrepreneurship is not for the faint of heart. So this is a free community. And I want you just to join us. It's Wednesdays at 12pm. Eastern Standard Time. And there will be a zoom link for you sent to you through email, just go to the link in the show notes. And you can register to come. And I hope that I will see you there.

So today's episode was actually inspired by a conversation that I had with one of my VIP clients just this past week. So it's something that has been on my heart and on my mind, and I knew that I wanted to share it with you here. So just a little bit of a backstory. Some of you may know this, but I spent a good part of my career in full time ministry. And I grew up in the church. And so when I was going to college, I decided that I wanted to go to a Christian university, and I got a music degree and I was a high school music teacher. And I spent a lot of time teaching in the Christian education sector. And then when I left teaching, I went into full time music ministry, pastoral ministry, both in the US and in Canada. And so I have spent several decades in the church growing up with the Christian faith and Christian doctrine.

And when I decided to leave ministry full time in 2014, I was still involved in a church and I actually had an experience that really, really shifted my beliefs. And it really changed me now it was a combination of things up until that point that really had been informing who I was becoming through the process. But when I when I was part of this particular church, I had a lot of like thought Thoughts come up about, you know, is all of this really real. And I started questioning everything. I call it my faith, deconstruction. And now looking back on it, it kind of feels a little bit more like an awakening. But as with anything in life, sometimes we can swing from one side to the other. So for many, many years, I was really, really caught up in the Christian faith and doctrine. And I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing. But when I left the church, I completely swung the other direction.

And so kind of now I feel like I'm, you know, allowing myself to come back into some sort of middle ground. I don't really know what that looks like, I can't really describe it. But it is definitely a journey. And so it's something that I have really been thinking about my own spiritual journey and connection to the divine. But having said that, because I was raised in the church, and because I was listening to a lot of people that were leaders over me, in the church culture, I really started to develop these beliefs that I needed to do everything for the glory of God, everything that I was going to do in my life, needed to bring Jesus the fame, if you're familiar with Christian circles, you've probably heard that statement before. But more aptly, what I really wanted was I wanted to be in the will of God, I wanted to be in the center of what God's plan for me was. And for many, many years, I felt as though it was one thing and if I deviated from that plan, then things were not going to work out for me.

And I might as well just, you know, say, throw up my hands and be like, well, you know, I fell off Plan A, so I guess I have to do Plan B. And so when I saw people in the church, have things happen in their lives that you know, looked a little bit messy, I was like, oh, man, they definitely fell off of the plan A and now are looking at Plan B and Plan C, and I did not want to be one of those people. I felt as though I had to do everything, right, and get the approval of God, get God's permission. And so oftentimes, I'd be asked to do things. And if I didn't even say it necessarily, I thought, well, you know, I better know that this is the will of God before I make this decision. So first, taking your job, moving anything, I was always looking for the will of God. Now, where this started to kind of come on done for me was when I started to really expand my spiritual journey, and I started to have more of an awakening, I started to realize that there was an undercurrent for me, and that was that I needed permission, I needed permission to do anything. And so that permission, you know, ultimately came from God.

But oftentimes in my life, it had also come from people who I trusted leaders, people who I felt were stronger in the faith than I was. And I was always looking outside of myself for permission to do anything. So when it came time to growing my business, and it came time to really wanting to be successful in my business, I was always looking outside of myself for permission to do anything in my life. So I would hire coaches, I would, you know, get in masterminds, I'd be in programs. And even though I didn't really understand that I was doing this, per se, I had a subconscious belief that I needed someone else's permission or approval to succeed or to make a decision in anything. Now, that's my story. That is something that has happened to me in my life, but maybe you are struggling with or have struggled with something similar in the sense where you are always looking outside of yourself to make decisions. You want to know that the decision you're making is the right one.

So you're going to you know, someone you trust, you're going to your partner, you're going to your family members, you're going to a coach or a mentor and asking them what should I do? What do you think is the best possible option for myself? And when you do that, when you are consistently looking outside of yourself, you are reinforcing this belief that you need per Mission to succeed, you need permission to make decisions, you need someone else's approval and that you have to consistently go outside of yourself. Now I want to, you know, really pose a question for you. What if you took an entire week or maybe even a month? And absolutely everything you did was? Because you made the decision that you did not go outside of yourself for any reason at all. I wonder what would happen? What would be the outcome? Well, you might think, well, first of all, I would be, you know, confused, I would like clarity. And some of those things might happen, because your subconscious is used to getting information from other sources.

And so really getting clear on things would be probably a first for you. But as you did it, and as you started to stay in that, as you started to want, make one decision and then make another decision and then make another decision, you would find that eventually, you were starting to source your own permission and approval for things in your life. And I've been thinking about that, you know, just even for me lately, because last year, I talked a lot about really looking outside of myself. And when I was talking to my client this week, and she said, You know, it's really, you know, this, this fear that I have, that I need someone's permission really stems back from my Christian faith. And here's the thing from anything that you believe in should be supportive of, really you co creating with God, with source with universe, because this whole notion of one entity telling you what to do, is is really going to take you out of the driver's seat now in many interpretations in the Christian faith, that might be seen as a sin. And for many years, I felt as though when I did anything outside of what God wanted me to do that it was sinful.

And so I had to really release myself from that. And then further to that I had to release myself from you know, what my parents thought. And then I had to release myself from what my leaders thought, and then I had to release myself from what my friends thought or what my coaches thought, or, I mean, on and on and on it went. Because once there was an opening, I was filling it with someone else and wanting someone else's opinion. But what if you spent one week or maybe even 30 days, really just sourcing your own permission? Now, having said that, I do remember one time being with some friends, and we were on a trip, and one of the girls was actually talking to her husband, and they were interested in buying property. And I mean, it was really hard to not overhear this conversation. But they were talking about the fact that the husband had in fact gone to their lead pastor and asked what his opinion was on whether or not they should purchase this property. And his opinion was that they should not, but they really wanted to buy the property. And I could hear the angst in her voice when she was trying to figure out whether or not they should do this, because they wanted to be submissive, they wanted to be, you know, really listening to their leadership. And yet, at the end of the day, they knew that this was a really sound, financial investment. And spoiler alert, they did end up buying the property. And they did end up having a sound investment with the property.

But here's the thing, just even the fact that they were asking someone else's opinion, and not really listening to their own intuition, was something that was a red flag. And I noticed it right away. And so in my life, I have been kind of looking for those little red flags along the way because they will present themselves in different scenarios within my life and for you, they will probably present themselves in different ways to you as well. So when you're looking to source your own success, you will be sitting back listening to your own intuition and thinking about what is going to work best for you. So whether you're looking to be in a relationship to move to build your business, to really make a sound financial investment from And I want to encourage you what ever it is that you are doing.

Listen to that still small voice trust that you are co creating with God and that everything is working out on your behalf. And further to that, even if it doesn't work out exactly as you had planned, there is going to be a lesson for growth and expansion along the way. So nothing is lost doesn't matter if you have a plan B, C, D, E, F G does not matter. Just listen to your own intuition and let it lead the way.

So friend that is my encouragement for you as you begin the year. Give yourself permission to be successful. And thanks for joining me. Until next time, remember you have everything you need to live bravely. If you liked this episode of The Couragecast, we'd love to hear from you. Leave us a rating review and while you're there, hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Original music and production by Stephen Crelly.

246 | What Are You Expecting This Year

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
What I have realized in my own life, and what I am leading out of from here on out, is the understanding that I am guided by my own intuitive authority.
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You will only manifest into your reality what you expect to receive. So what are you truly expecting to manifest into your life and business?

Over the years I have set intentions for what I desired, I have chosen a word of the year -- I've pretty much done it all. And I have to say that I've had success doing that. But when I started to align my expectations with my desires absolutely everything changed for me.

Bob Proctor says this, "Develop a clear image of what you really want and get emotionally involved with that image. Then you can use your will power and persistence to get the results you truly want."

Today on 'The Couragecast', I'm going to share with you the magic of creating Intentions and setting your Expectations to receive what you truly desire.

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You will only manifest into your reality what you expect to receive. So let me ask you, what are you truly expecting to manifest into your life in business in 2023. Over the years, I have set expectations and intentions for what I desired. We've been chosen over the year, and I've pretty much done it all. And I have to say that I've had some success doing it. But when I started to align my expectations with my desires, absolutely, everything changed for me, Bob Proctor says this, develop a clear image of what you really want, and get emotionally involved with that image. Then you can use your willpower and persistence to get the results you truly want. Today on the courage cast, I'm going to share with you the magic of creating intentions, and then aligning them with your expectations to receive what you truly desire.

Are you ready to take courageous steps to create a life and business you love? Welcome to the Courage Cast. I'm Andrea Crisp, mindset coach, author and a multi passionate entrepreneur. For years, I was afraid to allow myself to shine. That was until I discovered that I could step into my own power, shift my mindset and take ownership of my destiny. Now I coach women across the globe who are ready to own their life and make a massive impact with a blend of practical and spiritual advice. My hope is that the courage cast empowers you to take brave steps in your own life and business.

Hello there, welcome to the Courage Cast and Happy New Year. It is when you're listening to this 2023. But today, as I'm recording this episode, it is actually December 30 2022. But you know what I have been alone for the past few days, just reflecting, just taking some time out for myself. And really, you know, just looking back at the year, and slowing things right down. Because I know how I finish the year is going to be how I start a new one. And I would encourage you that how you begin this new year is really going to set the tone for how it plays out in your life. And so today on the podcast, I'm going to talk to you about expectations. And I want to talk to you about setting intentions and aligning them with your expectations. And then I'm going to share with you some of the values that I am going to be focusing on personally in my life and in my business. And I hope that this really helps you to set the tone for your new year. So I hope you're excited. Grab a journal and a pen. And you might want to take some notes, you might just want to write your own reflections. And then I'm gonna leave you with a takeaway at the end of the podcast today so that you can implement this into your life.

So at the beginning of the podcast today, I shared with you a Bob Proctor, quote, I love Bob Proctor. I really do. It is such, it's so sad that he is no longer with us. If you have never heard of Bob Proctor, I would highly suggest that you google him, YouTube his videos is all the things that he does. Because quite honestly, I have learned more about mindset and your paradigm over the past year from Bob Proctor than I probably have, in pretty much all of my life. He is just so amazing. So one of the quotes that I shared the beginning is develop a clear image of what you really want, and get emotionally involved with that image. Then you can use your willpower and persistence to get the results you truly want. And when I first heard this quote, I didn't really understand it. I mean, I knew you know that I needed to have some sort of a visualization of what I want. I knew that I had to have some sort of a feeling to add to that.

But I wasn't really sure how all of that worked together. And that's really like the magic sauce. It really truly is and over the past year as I have been really diving into manifestation and under Standing what it means, and really kind of taking out the, you know, woowoo weirdness of the whole thing and understanding how it works scientifically how it works, with your subconscious mind, all of those things, I have really begun to understand how you can put these principles together. And the reason why I want to share this with you is because it is a game changer. It has changed my life, it has given me a clearer understanding to really call into my life, what I desire, and not only call into my life, but call into my business. And here's the thing, when I took a look back at the things I had manifested, or things that I had called into my reality, I noticed that what I was focusing on what I was placing my attention on, I called in actually came into being.

But what I did not realize was that I was actually using these principles in a way that I didn't want to be using them. So I had to actually take a look at how could I use them for good instead of using them in a way that was not really serving me. So I want to start the podcast today by asking you a question. What are you expecting this new year. So as I've been scrolling through social media, which is always always not a good idea, I have been reading that there's so many people who poopoo the idea of setting intentions or making goals for the year. And here's the thing, friend, I say to each his own, like really honestly, like you do your thing. But when it comes to expecting something to happen in your life, I want to be crystal clear in my own life, and in my own business, about what I desire, and then hold the expectation to receive that. So when I think about not setting expectations and intentions, and having no idea what I want, or aligning my expectations with that, that sounds completely ridiculous to me. Because if I don't have anything, then I should basically expect to receive a whole lot of nothing.

And so if you are listening to people who are like, you know, don't set an expectation, and bla bla bla bla bla, bla, honestly, friend, what are they receiving in their life, and here's, here's the thing, you're going to receive no matter what, but you're going to receive what you are focusing on, and what you're putting your attention towards. So I encourage you to be clear about that, to know exactly what it is that you desire, and what you are expecting to manifest into your life. And this year on the podcast in 2022, I talk a lot about setting intentions. And I talked about how that worked in my life and in my business. But this year, I want to focus a little bit differently. And I want to just really share with you how you can set intentions and also align them with your expectations. And this means for me personally, how I want to show up for myself, how I want to show up for my loved ones for my community, my clients, my business. And the importance for me of setting intentions for what I desire is really going to be what brings forth what I desire. And the expectations I have are going to be how that manifests into my life. So think of it this way. setting intentions for what you desire is really the important part of really getting crystal clear. But then you have to be in a posture of expectation.

Because if you don't really believe that it can happen for you, then it doesn't matter if you set an intention, because you have to have the expectation as well. So does this mean that everything is going to go the way you want it to go? And I've asked myself that question over and over again. Is this mean that when I set my intentions, and I align my expectations with my intentions, that I'm going to get everything I want exactly how I want Well, I am going to say probably an not. But here's the thing. It's not about the outcome. Now, I know that sounds very counterproductive to what I'm talking about. But it's really about the response that we are having to what happens in our lives. And knowing that the universe at God, source Divine is working on your behalf, to unfold what you desire into your life, and the way that it comes, the how that it manifests, is really not up to you. But you can set your desired intentions and your expectation to call that in. And so I encourage you, so whatever that looks like for you, when you're thinking about an intention for your life, maybe it's to make a certain amount of money to share. Or maybe it's to, you know, call in a love relationship into your life, perhaps it is just to show up in the world in a whole new way, or to experience healing and transformation in your life.

If that's your intention, be really clear about the intention, and then hold expectation for that to manifest. The how it gets there, when it gets there, the method it arrives, is really not up to you, you have to release that part of it, release that outcome, and just be available and open and responsive to it. Okay, so it's really all about your energy. And one of my clients I was talking to not long ago, we were talking about, you know, the energy of being frantic, or allowing, and you see this all of the time in the lives of people who you're around, maybe you're feeling yourself feels like, everything is just like, go, go, go. Like it's just like, all this energy is like bombarding you. I call that frantic energy. And when you're in this place of frantic energy, and you're just trying to make things happen, you're doing doing doing doing doing, it's not the posture of allowing, it's not the posture of receiving, it's not the posture of being available to what source desires to manifest into your life.

So if you find yourself in this place, where you feeling frantic, you're feeling like oh, my gosh, I just gotta get this done. versus kind of being chill and relaxed and be like, You know what, I am going to make room, I'm going to create space to allow this to happen in my life, then you're going to see a huge difference in calling in your intentions and expecting to receive them into your life. So that brings me to what I am focusing on in 2023. And so I told you that I would share with you what I am going to be focusing on. And over the past few months, in the end of 2022, I really started to focus on my values, and my identity in how I wanted to show up in my life and in my business. And what we often don't really take a look at is that we are showing up a certain way. And we do have certain values that we are committed to whether we know it or not. And those things may be working for us or they may be working against us. So I wanted to get really clear about my values, and being so crystal clear to call them in to action them in my life, and I wanted to share them with you. So that maybe this can also help you. And you might find that what you have been valuing is really not working for you. And is really not going to support what you want to call in this year. So I am actually going to leave out what I desire. I'm how they actually can even share that with you today. I know that's crazy, right?

Like you're not going to tell us what you really want out of 2023 I feel like that's for me right now. That is something that I need to really embody for myself before I go out and share that with you. But what I will share with you is the values that are going to get me to where I want to go. So the first one is all about, get ready for this because I love it. soulful structure. Right? sounds sexy, just even saying it. soulful structure. When I think about having soulful structure, it's almost like I lower my tone of voice to say it. It really means having a plan and a strategy that serves me. And my business and my desires really where I want to go. And being aware of the energy that I'm in and the energy that I'm carrying, and the energy that I'm around and creating a system that serves that. So just in full disclosure, in the past, I've often tried to do things out of my masculine energy. And this is like, if you want to think about his masculine energy, you can think of it more as doing energy.

But when I would do things, to do them, just because I felt like I needed to be productive, and like, knock things off the list. I actually felt really exhausted from that. And there were many, many times in my life, even before I was coaching, where I found myself really burnt out, in in a place where I was trying to do so many things, often to win the approval of others, often to you know, move forward in my life in some way to you know, gain attention for some reason. But needless to say, when I was in that doing energy, it was no, no, it was not good. So, then what I did was, I swung the pendulum all the way to the other side to my feminine energy, which is like, more of like that being energy. But what I ended up doing, there was a lot of sitting and waiting, because I really didn't know what to do in the feminine energy. I knew what to do in the masculine energy, the doing energy, because I knew how to be productive, I knew how to get shit done. But I had no idea what to do in my feminine energy, in my being energy. So that resulted in a lot of just sitting around and being frustrated. Because things were not happening. I was hoping to manifest things and they were not manifesting into my life. Because I had no idea what I was doing. I was just being in the feminine, or so I thought, which is probably not what I was actually doing anyways. So for me, looking at this new value, for me of having soulful structure means that I need to listen to my inner guidance, and then take aligned action from that every single day, every day of the year, always be listening, and then taking action.

And when I look at my business, when I look at the structure of my day, I really went into this industry, not only to make an impact in the lives of others, which I really wanted to do, but also because I knew I needed a sense of freedom in my own life, and autonomy in my own life. I didn't want to be told what to do anymore. I didn't want a boss. I didn't want the confines of a nine to five and having to show up somewhere all the time, I felt restricted by that. I felt like I wasn't myself like I couldn't be creative in that environment. And so for me, it was all about having freedom. But freedom wasn't really even serving me, even though that's what will they value us. Freedom was actually having me focus on this nebulous thing, having all this empty time and space. But when I think about taking aligned action in my life, when I think about really listening into my inner guidance to guide me to lead me to help me make decisions, and then when I know that a decision needs to be made to take action on it immediately.

Honestly, I feel like that is exactly what I need. I don't need freedom. I need soulful structure. I need a little bit of routine. I need a little bit of structure in my life, I need to take action, but I also need to do it from an intuitive guided place. So the very first value that I'm going to be focusing on this year to call in my intentions is going to be having so full structure. The second one which is equally as sexy, I will say, is intuitive authority. Okay. So it's a little bit like the other one in the sense that it's listening to my own inner guidance. But I spent the better part of this past year 2022, beginning to understand a little bit more of my human design. Now I am a generator to four sacral if you are a human design person, you will completely understand that, if you've never heard about human design your life you're like, Well, what the eff is that?

Okay, so go look it up human design generator to for sacral. So for me, learning that one of my highest really, ways of functioning in the world is listening, and being led by my intuition. And I could have probably told you that long before I knew about human design, however, was I living my life out of that? Absolutely not. I was like, I have intuition about certain things. But I really was not letting that being be a guiding principle in my life, or in my business. Nor was I showing up in that authority, and showing up in that understanding that my intuition is consistently leading and driving me forward. And what I was doing a hate even to admit, it was that I spent an ordinate amount of time looking outside of myself for the answers. Like that is a for real thing for me. I can literally tell you, I could list off examples of the amount of times where I looked to someone else for the answer for me, only to come to realize that my number one guiding principle in my life was my intuitive authority.

What I realized that I like literally shook me to my core, do you know how much I have invested in coaches and mentors to tell me what to do. And it wasn't that I didn't need the guidance, or didn't need to learn from them. Or it didn't even need to be in their energy, because I needed all of those things. But you know, what I didn't need, I did not need to look for them, or look to them for the answer, which is what I was doing. Oftentimes, I would hire a coach or a mentor or jump into a program, thinking that it was going to solve a problem for me, which is excellent marketing, by the way. Because that is exactly what coaches are doing. They're showing you the problem, and the solution that they have to your problem. And what I have realized in my own life, and what I am leading out of from here on out, is the understanding that I am guided by my own intuitive authority. And leaning into that self trust for me, is really about helping and empowering others to lead out of that for themselves. Can you even imagine what is possible for your life? When you trust yourself? Like when you legitimately make decisions, and know that you are in fucking control of them? Like, you know that you know that, you know, like there is no other.

I mean, like, honestly, I'm at a loss for words, when I think about it. Like we are looking so often to have someone tell us what to do. And yet, inside, we know what to do. Are we acting on that? Well, hello, we're not acting on that. We're waiting for someone to give us permission to give us the approval to anoint us and say go for it. You know, but imagine what is possible for your life for your business. If you trusted yourself. Okay, full stop. That value for me leaning into my intuitive authority, I can honestly say even just by, like talking about right now, it is going to propel me forward this year, it is going to be something that just literally launches me forward. And I can even feel it by talking about it. So I'm going to be focusing on my own intuitive authority, can I get an A man? Okay, number three, this one is probably going to be the hardest one for me to talk about. Because we're going to be talking about money, honey, we are going to be talking about money. And, you know, if you've listened to this podcast, for any length of time, that I talk about money, and I talk about my own struggles, financially, and how I have been on a journey, really, to shift my mindset around money, like I really have.

And I'll tell you, the ebbs and flows of this journey for me, have illuminated so many things in my life, and illuminated the stories I've believed, illuminated, what I have made things mean about myself and about my business. And I take a look back at this year. And I look at some of the things I heard people talk about in the coaching industry, and just in general, relating everything to money and to success being about money. And when I wasn't making the money that I really wanted to be making, I assumed I just was not successful. That was that. I was like, Well, I guess I'm a big fat failure. Because apparently, you got to be making a shit ton of money to be successful. And when I started to peel back those layers, and I started to really take a deeper look. And one of my mentors, Vanessa, who really helps me with money mindset, she really helped me see this. She was She basically said to me, she's like, Andrea, if you were making the kind of money you wanted, would you be doing what you're doing now? And I was like, Yeah, hell yeah, I would be doing exactly what I'm doing. Now.

I love what I'm doing now. She said, Well, then why do you feel as though you're not her now? Like, you're not successful now? And I was like, Well, I guess because I don't have the bank account to prove it. And quite honestly, that shook me to my core. And when when I was coming up with my value for this year, I wasn't really sure that this is what I wanted to choose, because it just felt so not me. So it is creating money in abundance. even say it didn't seem nearly as sexy as the other two things, right? Creating money, and abundance, like being a massive generator of money and abundance in my life. And when I first started thinking about that, like my first thought my first gut instinct feeling reaction was like, oh, no, I'm going to be one of those people. And then I had to, like, pull it back and be like, No, Andrea, when you really truly understand being in the energy of abundance, it is like being wrapped in a giant hug. It's intimate, it is real. And yet, we have kind of perverted the idea of money based on our perceptions, and based on the stories we've been told, and based on what we see.

And the thought of being someone who can create money in abundance, at first was like, whoa, whoa, whoa, definitely don't want to be that person. Because I don't want to be aligned with that. But what I didn't realize was that I didn't understand it. The truth of being the energy of money and abundance is generosity. This is this big, beautiful energy, where I become a channel where you become a channel to give and receive money and abundance, the value exchange for things that we're doing and how we are operating in the world. But even just out of generosity out of gifts, and my heart, like my deepest desire, is to be someone who creates abundance for other people in every way, in your purpose, in your relationships, in your business, in your life, in your mindset. That's exactly what I want to do. So what does that mean to me? How am I going to focus on creating money and abundance in my life? Wow. Okay, I had to get specific about my money goal for this year, which I have to say, full disclosure, I have never done because going back to the beginning of the podcast, if I was not expecting to receive it, then I was not going to call it into my life. So I was very nebulous about my money goals.

I was just like, I'm not even going to talk about him. But my friend, that is all changing here now. Now, even though I am not going to tell you what my money goal is. There are people who do know what my money goal is, and I am going to be honest and upfront with those individuals, to hold me in accountability to what I have put forth. Okay, so yes, I have a money goal for this year. But here's the thing and get ready. I'm not attaching to that money goal. Even though it's a goal, even though it's an intention, and even though I am in expectation of it. Instead, I am attaching to the feeling that I am manifesting that abundance and receiving all that comes with that it's not about a number. I mean, we say a number because we need to be specific about it. And if you're into human design, sometimes you manifest in different ways generators, especially to for generator manifest specifically. So for me, it really is important that I get specific about it, but not to the extent that I am thinking about it nonstop. And that I am so like crazy focused on it. Instead I am focused on what it brings me manifesting that into my life creating money and abundance in my life to the degree I desire is going to allow for me to experience and be generous in my life in a way that I have always, always dreamed of being and so I can honestly say to you my friend that you know here I am December 30 2022.

When you listen to it, it'll be the beginning of 2023 January. And I honestly can say I want to look back from a year from now and be in this exact place rejoicing like being like Holy fucking shit I manifested this i co created with source of the universe God has shown up in my life baby, and it has happened. And why do I know that? Because I really truly believe setting these values for me setting soulful structure really being so intuitively led to take action and really outworking what my gifts and abilities are. Standing in my intuitive authority Knowing that I show up as who I was created to be, and creating money and abundance in a way that not only lifts me, but lifts every person that I come in contact with. So when I think about what I am expecting, in 2023, you better believe I am expecting, bake. So I want to ask you, what are you expecting in this new year?

What are you going to value in your life? What are the three things that are going to propel you further than you have ever been? And my friend, do not listen to the people who are telling you to not lean into this. Because if you don't lean into what you truly what your soul is calling you towards, you may be standing here a year from now, thinking to yourself. If only I had done this, if only I had leaned into this more. So I want to encourage you take some time set aside some time to get so crystal clear on what that looks like for you. Now have say, I'm so excited because I am actually going to be walking my clients through this process this year. This is something I'm adding into my coaching, I am super, super excited about it. And if this sounds like something that you are ready to embrace in your life, like you are like, yes, Andrea, I want to move into expectation not only do I want to lift out of the limiting beliefs, and shift those beliefs and stand in a new story, and be the person I was created to be. But I want to shift my expectations. I want to call in and manifest what I desire in my life and in my business. I want it all to be an out flow of who I am. If that is you, then I encourage you to jump on a call with me. And let's get started creating what you desire in 2023. To really blow apart this year, to change it radically.

From now until basically into eternity because this is going to leave a legacy for you and for those you love. I'm going to leave the link in the show notes. But you can jump on a call with me andreacrisp.ca/schedule. And I would love to partner with you and really help you move this forward into the new year. Friend I'm excited about 2023 I am excited. I am jazzed up you can tell I have never been more excited about something in my whole entire life. So until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live bravely.

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